Indaba esiyibikayo iyiqiniso futhi sayinikwa ngumfundi ofuna ukungaziwa. Ifuna ukusenza sizindle ngamakhono amahle wokukhohlisa laba bantu abakwazi ukuwasebenzisa ngaphandle kwanoma yiziphi iziga noma ukwesaba ukuze bazuze inhloso abayifisayo, noma ngabe yini.
Esinye sezikhali zabo ezinamandla kakhulu futhi eziyingozi sisetshenziswa ngocansi lwabo oluqinile nolungokwemvelo olungaqale lubonakale lwanelisa kepha oluzogcina selunenhlekisa ludala "njalo" uhlobo lokulutha oluholela ekukhohlisweni ngokomqondo nangokomzimba kulabo ishwa lokuhlangana nalo narcissists abesilisa noma abesifazane abanjalo.
Ngalesi sikhathi isihloko esivelele ngowesifazane othanda ukucasula kanti isisulu siyindoda eyisisulu.
Uma kungowesilisa othintekayo kusengumbiko ngoba abesilisa abavamile ukuziveza uma behlangana nowesifazane oyisichaka.
Nakhu okwenzekile:
》 Njalo ntambama cishe ngo-14,30 ntambama, wayeza kimi.
Isikhathi esifanele sokufisa kwakho:
"Ngemuva kwesidlo sasemini manje usuyazi ukuthi ngiyahlanya futhi ngibe nolunye uhlobo lokudla, kumele ngibe nawe, ngikufuna kakhulu"
wathi kimi ngendlela encokolayo nenenhlekelele:
Njalo ntambama, ngaphandle kweMigqibelo namaSonto ngoba kwakuyithuba labanye abathandana naye, wayeza kimi iminyaka emibili.
Kwakunguye, umgcini wami wejele, umgcini wami wezincwadi.
Akukho okwashiywa kwenzeka ngengozi, isibonelo, amakha. .. ngengozi "uNarciso" kaRodriguez, amakha engingasoze ngakwazi ukuwakhohlwa, ngisho nalesi sithelo sokulungiselela okuyenga okuyisidina, sangitshela:
"Awushintshi amakha, ngabe ungashintsha ubunjalo bakho obusondelene?"
Kuzwakale kukhala insimbi yomnyango, ngavula umnyango futhi ukuxubana okujwayelekile kwekilasi nobungqabavu kwakuphambi kwami.
Izingubo ezihlanzwe kahle njalo futhi ezingalokothi zibe nenhlamba, izinwele ezinde ezi-wavy, umbala onsundu onsundu okhiye ezindaweni ezikhanyayo, ezinoboya, ne-tuft evela kolunye uhlangothi lobuso iwele phansi incike emahlombe bese yehla ize ifike ekuphumuleni amabele amakhulu ngobufakazi obuvela entanyeni ehlukile kepha ungalokothi weqise.
Amabele azibambile futhi abambeke ngokulambisa ngamahembe obomvu noma amnyama kasilika.
Uthandile lolo hlobo lwamachashazi we-polka noma iphethini enemigqa, amahembe acishe acishe angashiyi ndawo yomcabango.
Amehlo anqunywe kancane futhi abafundi be-hazel amnyama abakwazi ukunikeza ukubheka okujulile, okuphikelelayo ngaphandle kokushaya iso, ukubheka kuwe emphefumulweni, ukukhohlisa hhayi kuphela kimi kodwa nanoma ubani, babeyingxenye yakhe ephazamisayo futhi ejabulisayo, eyingozi amehlo, okwazi ukukhohlisa nokunikeza umqondo wobunzima.
Umzimba obumele yonke into enikeza incazelo egameni elithi "ucansi", ukhalo oluqinile ngohlobo olumangalisayo lwe-mandolin.
Wayevame ukugqoka ibhulukwe elenzelwe elengela phezu kwe-décolleté yakhe engenakugwemeka ngezithende eziphakeme.
Ngemuva kokusebenza ekuseni ekuseni emakilasini ezomthetho nangemuva kokuphatha ngokucophelela "izibopho zomndeni" wakhe ubelungiselela ukuqoqa imivuzo yakhe ayifanelekile kimi ngesikhathi socansi, ukwephula umthetho, ukubukisa, ukuphambanisa.
Ngaleso sikhathi, ukuzwa umsindo wensimbi kwakuyisiginali yokuqala kwaleyo midlalo eya ngokuya iqagela futhi yenqatshelwe.
Ngeke ngiye kude kakhulu ekutsheleni indlela engangizizwa ngayo ngaye nokuthi angifuni ukuba nje ithoyizi locansi kodwa ukuthi ngangifuna okuningi kuze kube yilapho sengibona ukuthi hlobo luni lobuntu obuphazamisekile ebengidlala nalo.
Yebo ngiyazi ... kuyamangaza ukuthi indoda ibhala lokhu kepha kukhona nezindaba ezinabalingisi ababuyiselwe emuva, ngikholwe!
Ngalesi sikhathi bekuyithuba lowesilisa lokulunywa ngumuntu ongumuntu othanda izidakamizwa futhi awele ezinhlelweni ezinonya nezimnyama ezihaqe ezami kanye nezindaba zalabo okuye kwadingeka babhekane nalezi zibalo eziyingozi nezilimazayo.
Ukuya ocansini kwakuyisisekelo kuye njengokuphefumula, ukukwenza ngendlela yakhe ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukubusa, ukunquma, ukuguqula nokuhlehlisa, uku-oda, bekungukuphela kwezimpawu zakhe ezicacile.
Kuyena, ukwenza uthando kwaba nomqondo odabukisayo njengoba ukwenza uthando kungabandakanyi ukushintshana nokuhlangana phakathi kwabaphikisi ababili nabakwa-narcissists empeleni benza uthando nabo kuphela kanye nocansi nomuntu ababamba.
Kuma-narcissist kunesifiso sokuzanelisa kuphela, ukumangaza, ukushaqeka nokunconywa.
Ngaso sonke isikhathi bekufana nokufaka umbukiso omuhle futhi ongenakulibaleka.
Angikaze ngazi ukuthi wakwazi kanjani ukuba naleyo micabango emangalisayo, leyo ndlela yokusebenza kanzima ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Wayekuzonda ukungathandi izinto, ubudlabha, iziphazamiso ekunakekeleni imininingwane, kuyena imininingwane yayiyikho konke.
Ukuheha waba ngumuntu futhi waba mnandi kakhulu ngokwazi ukuthi wayenguye!
Ngaphambi kokuba eze kimi ngangifundiswe kahle ukuthi ngiyilungisa kanjani imicikilisho eyahlukahlukene ngaphambi kokuba afike.
Amakamelo endlu yami wonke bekufanele abe nephunga elihle elinezinto ezahlukahlukene, amakhandlela anemibala asakazeke ikakhulu azungeze umbhede namalambu athambile, ukuntuleka noma ukukhohlwa okukodwa kwalokhu kulungiselela kwakusho ukubuyela emuva okubandayo futhi okubandakanya ukujeziswa okwenziwe ukungabikho okungenani kweviki, ngakho-ke kwakungafanele ukwenza iphutha ukuze ungadluli esikhathini sokuzila okwakwenze kwangicasula.
Vele, ukukhethwa kwezindawo nezikhathi nakho kwakubalulekile ukwanelisa imicabango yakhe kanye neyami, ebaluleke ngaphezu kwakho konke ngentokozo yakhe okwakufanele ifike endaweni efanele lapho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngafunda ukuyibona isifikile.
Ukweqa okuhlanganiswe nengozi engaba khona kwamenza wahlanya ngokoqobo, njengokuya ocansini endaweni esesidlangalaleni ngokwesaba ukutholakala noma njengalobo busuku lapho ebuya esidlweni sakusihlwa endaweni yokudlela, emgwaqweni omkhulu ayefuna ukukwenza ngenkathi eshayela ngaphandle nginciphisa ijubane ngokuphelele futhi yangicela ukuba ngiphushe imoto ize ifike ku-150 km ngehora.
Isigcawu sonke bekufanele sihlale siphelele futhi sikulungele ukusebenza kwakhe ngokocansi namaphupho amabi kakhulu azalwe ngobusuku obudlule.
Njalo lapho kwakuwumhlangano wokuqala, umhlangano nomuntu omuhle engingamazi, i-adventure entsha, angikaze ngazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani.
Njalo ntambama kwakuyisiqalo esenziwa ukutholwa kancane komzimba wakhe ozilungise kahle, umzimba ayewusebenzisa kahle futhi owawukhonjiswa kancane kancane ngokuhlubula inkanuko okwaholela ekutholeni kancane izingubo zangaphansi ezimnandi, ezinesibindi nezokweqisa ukhethe.
Kuthiwani ngezikhathi lapho afika khona ngokungalindelekile endlini yami ngaphandle kwesixwayiso futhi egqoke kuphela ijazi lomsele namabhuzu amnyama e-stiletto, wayegqoka kuphela lezo ...
Ukuya ocansini okokuqala kwakusho ukungiguqula ngendlela yalo, ukuqala umdlalo ocashile wokuyenga nokuhlukunyezwa okuncane okwenziwe ngokulinda nokulwisana namahloni bese kungimangaza ngemidlalo emide noma emincane eholele isikhathi ngasinye ukuhanjiswa kuyo yonke into indoda enothando angahle afune ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, wayekwazi kahle lokho, wayazi indlela yokuphatha abantu besilisa nokuthi yini abangayithola kubo kusukela esemusha.
Wayazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi yimiphi imicabango nezifiso ezingachazeki kakhulu kumuntu.
Wayekwazi okuthandwa ngumuntu ukuzwa, yini amakha okumenza anuke, yini okufanele ayikhombise ngaye nokuthi angayibonisa kanjani ngezikhathi ezilungile nezehlakalo zomhlangano.
Ukulawulwa kokunyakaza komzimba wakhe kwakungezinye zezikhali zakhe ezinhle, ukuzibona zisebenza kwakubonakala kungabalingisi bamafilimu thina bantu besilisa esithanda ukuwabona.
Wayekwazi ukusebenzisa wonke lawa masu ngendlela esezingeni eliphezulu ngaphezu kokuthanda kwakhe ukulawula indawo yesehlakalo, njengoba umdidiyeli onobuqili nomqondisi omuhle azi ukuthi angakusebenzisa kanjani lapho eqondisa abalingisi bakhe.
Ukulawulwa kwami kwakuyinjabulo yakhe yangempela futhi intokozo yami kwakuyinduku ayilinganisa ukuze aqonde futhi adumise ikhono lakhe, nguyena owanikeza noma ongazange anikeze imvume yobumnandi.
Ngiwuqonda kahle umona womfana othile ofunda njengamanje, nami bengingaba njalo ukube bengingazi konke okukhona ngaphandle kwale ngxenye yendaba.
Ngemuva kokusebenzelana nobuntu obukwazi ukukwenza ukhokhe kabuhlungu ngazo zonke izinjabulo ayenginike zona ezangiholela ekulahlekelweni yikho konke.
Labo abazi ama-narcissist bazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi konke abakwenzayo kuholelwa ekutheni kubekwe umsebenzi omkhulu futhi onakekelayo ohlose ukuzithiba izithombe ukondla ngokwengeziwe ukuzazisa kwabo okukhulu!
Inhloso yakhe bekuwukushiya umaki wakhe, asayine indwangu ayepende kuyo ubuciko bakhe:
"Awusoze wamthola umuntu onjengami!",
wayehlala engitshela, ngolunye usuku ngagcina ngiba nesibindi sokumphendula:
"Ngithemba kanjalo ngoba lokho kuyinjongo yami!"
Khumbula ukuthi ama-narcissist adla kuphela amandla abanye futhi njengama-vampires ahlambalazayo omunye wemithombo yabo eyigugu uvela ocansini ukuze uqede amandla omzimba wabo.
Ubulili obukhohlisayo, obukhohlisayo, obubulalayo, obusekelwe kuphela ekuvuseleleni ukulawula nasekukhohliseni.
Uma ungabesabi laba bantu singakufisela kuphela: inhlanhla!
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