Lapho behlukaniswa ngabodwa babhekana no "I" wabo.
Ngubani umuntu olungileyo ozophuma aqine futhi athuthukiswe, esikhundleni sakhe oyisihloko esinobuntu obubi nobuyingozi okwamanje uletha umuzwa ojulile wokungakhululeki okuhambisana nosizi nokungabi namandla okusizakala okubangelwa ukulahleka kwamandla amakhulu okwenziwa ngokuhlelekile ezisisulu zabo.
Kungumzuzu odambisayo kubabhali bama-narcissist njengoba umlingani wabo "ama-harem" eshiywe ngenkani, ubudlelwano obudlulayo nobuziphethe kabi buvinjwe ngamandla amakhulu.
Intukuthelo yakhe iyingozi futhi ikhula njalo kulo mzuzu futhi inanela ngaphakathi kwezindonga zendlu yakhe ezibonakala kuye njengemigoqo esehokweni.
I-narcissist isetshenziselwa ukuhamba njalo isuka komunye umlingani iye komunye ukukhipha izinhlungu, ukukhohlisa, amasu kanye nenjabulo ngokunikeza nokuthatha ucansi nemizwa enamandla ebangela lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ukuncika ngokomzwelo" kuzisulu ezakha "i-harem" yakhe leyo kudale iminyaka eminingi neminyaka yokuzibophezela.
Ngesikhathi esifushane kakhulu uyakwazi ukwenza ngokushesha okukhulu nangendlela ecindezelayo yezinzwa ukuze azinikeze amandla amakhulu namandla abalulekile awakwazi ukuwasusa emithonjeni yakhe, imithombo engokomzwelo engaba eyokuqala neyesibili, I-narcissist ine-periodical eyodwa ekhethiwe lapho igxila khona futhi ijikeleze leyo ekhethiwe izungeze (ngendlela efihliwe) eminye imithombo eminingi ebizwa nge-secondary engabalingani be-satellite lapho ithola khona futhi ivela kuyo yomibili imizwa engemihle futhi emihle uhlobo lokuhlangana okwedlula ngesikhashana okwenziwe ngocansi olungamanyala noma ukuhlangana lapho ungathola khona noma yiluphi uhlobo lwenzuzo esivuna bona.
Ngakho-ke, njengoba usususe le nkululeko ebalulekile ukuze uzinikeze la mandla okuyisondlo esiyisisekelo sokwenza umuntu "abe ngamanga uma ngabe mkhulu" aphile, kusho ukuthi uzincisha indlela yokusebenza edingekayo ukondla ukuzethemba kwakhe, ukuzethemba lokho empeleni akukho ebuntwini obuthokozisayo futhi kungenxa yalesi sizathu ukuthi ama-narcissists ahlala efuna abalingani abasha (izisulu) "abazisebenzisayo" ukuzihlinzeka ngemizwa ebalulekile.
Akunandaba ukuthi hlobo luni lwemizwa, olubi noma oluhle kumuntu obhala izinto ezifanayo luyafana, ngoba siyakhumbula ukuthi abantu bezenhlalo abakwazi ukuzwa uthando kepha bayakwazi ukuba ngabalingisi abanekhono kakhulu.
Bayazi ukulingisa uthando, bayazi ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani ngenxa yeminyaka neminyaka yesipiliyoni nokuzijabulisa abahlala futhi badla ngemuva kwesisulu sabo esingalindelekile.
Kusukela besebancane banendlala engajwayelekile yemizwelo enamandla abayidingayo, bahlala befuna eminye emisha futhi njalo uma beyithola, bayayikhama, bayihluphe futhi bayishise ngesikhathi esifushane (imvamisa isikhathi sesayensi esivivinywayo siyahamba kusuka ezinyangeni eziyi-18 kuya kwezingama-24 ubuningi bobudlelwano obunye) ngendlela yokuhaha ne-bulimic, ukungenisa okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka bese uphonsa konke ngokulahla okujule nokwedelela ngesikhathi esifanele, okungukuthi, umzuzu oseduze kokuhlelekile nokuhamba kwesikhathi ushintsho lozakwethu olwenzeka ngesikhathi kuphela lapho sekuvele kukhona okusha okulungele ukumiselela!
I-Narcissist-ehlanekezelwe-yokukhohlisa 
Kepha qaphela, i narcissists njengoba sekuchaziwe kwezinye izindatshana ezedlule, abaze balahle izisulu zabo kodwa banikezwe isikhathi esingasho ngaso ngokuphepha ukuthi basebenzisa uhlelo lwabo lokuzihlukanisa ngokubeka izisulu zabo esikhathini esifushane, esiphakathi noma ngisho eside kakhulu sokuhlukaniswa, ababhekwa njengabangempela futhi izinto ezizosetshenziswa kabusha ngesikhathi esifanele.
Ukusetshenziswa kabusha kwenzeka nalokho okubizwa ngokuthi yi-cu-cu ye-narcissist ekhombisa ukuvela kwayo empilweni yalowo owayeyisisulu noma ngabe sekuphele iminyaka eminingi. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokuhlelekile futhi kufakazelwa yibo bonke ababhekane nalaba bantu abaphazamisekile.
Isisulu ngokuzumayo phakathi nokuphila kwayo ngisho nangemva kweminyaka, sithola umyalezo wokubingelela "onobuqili" ongenabungozi ku-whatsapp noma okunye okuvelayo futhi kukhona isicupho salokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ukubuya kwe-narcissist" okufanele siqaphele kakhulu ukusebenzisa izinqubo zokuzivikela ngenombolo yokuvimba njalonjalo.
Yini le nkathi ye-coronavirus eletha ku-narcissist ye-pathological?
Kuletha ukungavikeleki okujulile, kuletha ukubona amaphupho akhe amabi kakhulu ebusweni akwazi ukuwabalekela ngenxa yokwenziwa kwansuku zonke nokuqhubekayo kokuziphatha kwakhe "okujwayelekile" kokumvumela ukuthi angacabangi ngokuguga akwesaba, ngaphezu kwalokho, ukulahlekelwa ubuhle bayo buyinikeza umuzwa ongenakuphela wokuphelelwa yithemba, ubuhle obusengozini, ubuhle obuvame ukwakhiwa ngokusebenzisa izindlela zokuhlinza zokulungisa ezivame ukumela uphawu olwehlukanisa ngomfanekiso wama-narcissists.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, isikhathi simholela ekucabangeni ngokunye ukwesaba okufihliwe nokwejwayelekile kumuntu obanga izinto ngokufa, okungukufa, okumbuyisela ezinhluphekweni zokuqala ezihlala zisebumnyameni bomuntu.
I-coronavirus iphoqa ngenkani umlobi wezinambuzane ukuthi azibuze yena futhi acindezele ukucabanga, lapho ebhekene nokwesaba kwakhe kwakudala ukuthi manje usephoqelekile ukuthi abheke emehlweni, ukwesaba ukuthi ngengqondo enempilo sekunzima ukubhekana nakho kodwa kumuntu obheka izinto ezingekho emthethweni ukubhujiswa okukhona nokuyingozi okukhona kwazo zonke lezozisekelo okuthi kusukela ebuntwaneni wakha ngokunakisisa futhi okuyizisekelo zobuntu bakhe obuphazamisekile.
Ukuzihlukanisa kuyamphoqa ngokumelene nentando yakhe ngeke akwazi ukusizakala ngokuhlangana okwexeshana nemithombo yakhe yokuqala engokomzwelo futhi naleyo yesibili ebaluleke kakhulu ekubalekeni ezinkingeni zakhe, ekucindezelekeni nasekulayisheni ubuze bakhe obukhona okujwayelekile kowe-narcissist ungubani uzizwa ehlala yedwa futhi engajabule naphezu kokubonakala okunekhono azakhele lona ngokuhamba kwesikhathi njengomfanekiso wakhe.
Ukuzethemba kwakhe kuyize uma ehluleka ukondla ukuhlanekezela kwakhe kwemvelo, uma engawasebenzisi amandla avela kwizenzo zakhe zokubusa izisulu, uma ehluleka ukwenza ukuhlukunyezwa kwakhe okujwayelekile kubalulekile ukuze abe nezinsizakusebenza zamandla eziyigugu!
Ngoba uma umbulali we-narcissist elahlekelwa yikho konke okuchaza ukuthi unjalo, uphucwa wonke amandla akhe amabi futhi awele ekucindezelekeni okukhulu nokujulile, ngokwesaba ukuthi kungenzeka aphikiswe futhi abhekane nezisulu zakhe okwathi ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa okufana nalokhu, kude nokuhlukunyezwa kwabo, kunethemba lokuthi kwabanye babo umuzwa wokuvuka uvuthwa ohlangothini lokuzisindisa, indlela enzima kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu yokuyisebenzisa futhi esebenza ukuzitholela amandla akho namandla.
Ngakho-ke kungenxa yalezi zizathu ukuthi ukubonakala kwe-vampire ye-narcissistic kuzoba kuncane kakhulu futhi kuvame kakhulu njengoba bengeke bafune ukulahlekelwa amandla okugcina ayigugu okuthi ngethemba lokuthi ukuphela okuzosondela kwalokhu kuhlukaniswa okuphoqelelwe, bazofuna ukugcina buyela ukuhlwanyela amandla abo kwimithombo yabo.
Sikulungele izisulu, thatha ithuba lokuzisindisa!
Kwababuthakathaka ababuthakathaka kakhulu futhi ababuthakathaka ubungozi bokubuyela emuva kodwa buhlala kulesi sikhathi sokuhlukaniswa ne-covid-19.
Ukuhlaziya lo mzuzu onzima obangelwe yilolu bhubhane ngokombono wezisulu zababulali, ake sithi labo abasesigabeni esiphakathi ubuhlobo nge-vampire futhi abazithola behamba phakathi kwesiphepho esingokomzwelo esidalwe yi-narcissist yabo ye-pathological, umzuzu onzima uyeza kubo lapho baphoqelelwa kakhulu ukufuna umhlukumezi wabo njengoba kwenzeka ukuzithiba okuqinile kubo okuvame ukuthi kuyiphutha "uthando" kepha oku (njengoba kuchazwe kaningi kwezinye izindatshana ezedlule kule kholamu) kuphela ukuluthwa kwamakhemikhali kwe-neural ekushodeni kokuhlupheka okubangelwa yi-narcissism enesihluku esetshenziswe ngecebo lokuqapha yilezi zihloko ezincane ezinomqondo nezikhohlakele.
Esikhundleni salokho, qinani futhi niqine ezinhlosweni zenu ezinhle, izisulu kumele zikholelwe kanye ezimpilweni zazo emakhonweni azo futhi zisizakale ngalesi sikhathi ezingasenzi ukuzinikezela ekuzindleni nasekuzihlaziyeni ngokwenza izivivinyo eziwusizo ezitholakala kalula ku inetha elingezansi ifomu lomsindo nevidiyo elihlelwe ngongoti emkhakheni futhi okukhombisa ukuthi liwusizo olukhulu ekuqiniseni ukuzethemba komuntu okuwukuphela kwento enganqanda ubuthi bokulunywa yi-vampire.
Ukuhlala uphapheme futhi unolwazi kubalulekile ukuze ungabambeleli ekukhohlisweni kothando olungamanga, lokhu kuhlukaniswa yisikhathi esihle 'sokuvuka' kwanoma yimuphi umuntu ophilile kepha futhi nethuba lokuba ngcono kulabo asebephilile kude bekuncane noma kungenalutho.
Ukuvuswa okuyisimangaliso kwezisulu ze-narcissism yezifo okufanele kuveze kuzo isifiso sokugcina sihlangane nabantu abasha, abantu abaphilile nabangaphazanyiswa!
Ngokunqamula ngokuqinisekile ubudlelwano obukhona nabantu abanobungozi abaphila ngokumunca amandla abalulekile kubantu abazwelayo nasekufuneni "uthando lweqiniso", isigaba esisha sokuphila komuntu sizongeniswa, sinikeze umbono weqiniso futhi ocacile ngobudlelwano umuntu abenabo ngesihloko se-pathological nokuthi ngubani osele ngemuva.
Lokhu kuhlukaniswa kungumzuzu oyingqayizivele wokuthi wonke umuntu asizakale ukuze aguqule izimpilo zakhe.
Lezi yizikhathi ezinzima kakhulu futhi kufanele uqine ukuzikhulula kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obunobuthi, kuyithuba elihle futhi elihlukile kunethuba elingandile lokususa i-vampire yamandla namathonya alo alimazayo, ukuyivuselela futhi uthathe isimo.
Ukucatshangelwa okushicilelwe kuthathwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami kwempilo nobungcweti okunginike ithuba eminyakeni eyisikhombisa yokukwazi ukutadisha ngokujulile lobu buntu obuyingozi kakhulu emphakathini.
Ngichaza ukuthi angisona isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma umelaphi kodwa ukuxhumana okuseduze nalaba bantu abaphazamisekile kungiholele ekujuliseni ulwazi lwami ngale ndaba ngokuqhathanisa neminyaka edlule nodokotela bezengqondo nabelaphi abanolwazi, engibahloniphayo futhi ngiyabonga ngokusebenzisana nabo kuthuthukiswa ucwaningo olubikiwe.
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