Shintsha inkambo yokuba khona kwakho nge-Family Constellations. Yini izi?
Imilaza yomndeni iyindlela yokwelapha ehlose ukuletha nokuqedwa kwamabhulokhi namandla asetshenzisiwe afihlwe kokuqulekile. Amabhulokhi esiwazuze ngokungazi emndenini wethu kubandakanya amadlozi.
Lezi zimo ngokuphelele ziyimpilo ngokuvimba ngendlela engaguquguquki futhi ephindaphindwayo, intando yokujabula ngokugcwele, ukuba nobudlelwano obufezayo, noma ukuhlala engcebweni naphezu kwakho konke ukuzibophezela nemizamo ebekiwe ngakithi.
Lezi zindlela zidluliswa zisuka kwesinye isizukulwane ziye kwesinye futhi zingaba imbangela yezifo, izehlakalo ezingathandeki, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo nemizimba.
Kunezifundo eziningi esezenziwe ngalolu daba kulandela imibono yesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseJalimane UBert Hellinger.
U-Hellinger ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yokufunda, wafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi lowo muntu, ukuze abone futhi "ancibilike" lezi zibopho abanye abangazibiza ngokuthi i-karmic, akasoze athathwa njengezinto ezihlukanisiwe: ufakwa endaweni ethile ubudlelwano., okuholela ekuhlonzweni kobudlelwano noma "izinkinga ezingasonjululwanga" kumalungu omndeni, noma ngabe engakhunjulwa ngokungazi noma angaziwa.
Lezi zimo ngenxa yalokho zibangelwa uhlobo lwememori "engazi lutho" edluliselwa kusuka kwesinye isizukulwane iye kwesinye, futhi okuthi ngandlela thile ithonye ukukhetha kwethu, ubudlelwano, futhi ngenxa yalokho impilo yethu yonke.
Sizithola siphila njengakwifilimu esivele sibonile, izinsuku zokuphila kwethu ezilandelana, lapho "izifundo zomlando nezindlela" zibonakala zenzeka, ezithinta yonke imikhakha ehlukahlukene kakhulu yempilo yethu, ebonakala ingukuphila izimo amakhophi ayesephila phambilini, noma abephila nangokhokho bethu.
Kunjengokungathi size emhlabeni sesivele sinomthwalo ohleliwe wemishini esizoyifeza.
Njengoba sekuchaziwe vele lokhu kubonakala ngezindlela ezingafani kakhulu nasezingxenyeni zempilo yethu, kumuntu osenkingeni yokujabulela impilo yezomnotho eyenelisayo, ngaphandle kwemizamo ephindaphindwayo ezoholela ekukhungathekeni nasekulahlekelweni okukhulu kokuzethemba namandla, ngoba abanye ekungeneni empilweni, othandweni, ezinkingeni zengqondo, abanye ekuqhubekeni beya "emaphethelweni afile" futhi bahlala bekhetha, ngendlela engachazeki, indlela engafanele.
Kukhona leyo mikhuba eholela "ekufeni" okuthinta kakhulu indlela yokuphila, imvamisa ngendlela engeyinhle futhi ivimbela ukufezeka kwezifiso zakho.
Futhi eminye imicimbi yokukhetha abalingani abangafanelekile noma ukuhlangana ngokungapheli, nanoma yimuphi umuntu abaya ekujuliseni ulwazi, izinkinga ezifanayo zobudlelwano esezivele zibonwe ebudlelwaneni obudlule.
Futhi okuningi, okuningi.
Uma nawe uhlangabezane nobunye bobunzima obuchazwe ngenhla noma obunye obungabikwanga lapha empilweni yakho, khona-ke uzoba nentshisekelo yokwazi ukuthi lezi kungenzeka zingabi ukushona nje futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uye emhlanganweni lapho izinkanyezi zomndeni zimelwe khona.
Ukusebenza kwale ndlela kutholwa yizinkulungwane zabantu emhlabeni jikelele, asebeke babhekana nakho, ngemuva nje kokuhlolwa komlaza womndeni wabo, umuzwa ojwayelekile "inkululeko".
Njengezibonelo ezingezansi:
- Izinkinga esezinesikhathi eside ngomsebenzi noma ngemali ziyaxazululwa
- Izinqubo zangempela zokuziphilisa zibangelwa
- Uqala ukuphila impilo ephelele neyanelisa kakhulu
- Ukuqondana okuhle okuphindaphindiwe kuyenzeka
Abameli abaningi emhlabeni jikelele bathi le ndlela ekugcineni ibonakala ithola izixazululo zokwephula lawo mabhulokhi abekade emi endleleni yezifiso zabo ngemuva kokuzama isikhathi eside.
Kepha ubheke kuphi?
Kunezikhungo e-Italy ezinikeza le ndlela ngendlela yokuthola inkambo yendlela, enye yezinto ezidume kakhulu IMusatalent Academy ongathintana nayo ukuze ubambe iqhaza emihlanganweni ehlelwe emadolobheni kulo lonke elase-Italy nakwamanye amazwe.
Kulezi zifundo ngeke uqondiswe ukuthola kuphela inkolelo yokuthi isisekelo sezinkanyezi zikaHellinger, kepha futhi kuzobonisa ngesibonelo ukuthi iqoqo lomndeni empeleni lisebenza kanjani.
Kepha hhayi lokho kuphela: uzophinda uthole ukuthi ungazisebenza kanjani ngokuzimela, kumlaza wakho womndeni, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokubandakanya abanye abantu: inhloso ukuba namathuluzi wokuhlonza nokuxazulula amafindo abaluleke kakhulu angavimbela ukugeleza okufanele impilo yakho eya enjabulweni, empilweni nasenhlalakahleni.
NB Ama-Constellations Omndeni, anoma yiluphi uhlobo, awazona izindlela zokwelashwa futhi awathinti izingqikithi ze-esoteric noma izihloko ezifanayo. Abakwazi ukubuyisela ukungenelela kodokotela bengqondo, abelapha ngokusebenza kwengqondo, izazi zengqondo, odokotela bengqondo, njll. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwe-Family Constellations, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungasekela ngokuphelele noma iyiphi indlela yokwelapha.
Ngokusebenzisa indlela yamaKhansela Omndeni empeleni singakwazi ukubona ukungabi nabulungisa, ukukhishwa inyumbazane, ukuswela okwenziwa okhokho bethu abankumbulo yabo ebuhlungu ibingasifinyelela futhi ithinte impilo yethu ngandlela thile.
Ngokuvumela isenzo sokumelwa okuhle, singaqonda ngokuphelele umsuka wenqubo esibhekene nayo, siphinde sihlanganise imininingwane elahlekile ohlelweni ukuze lungisa uhlelo.
Kusetshenziswa indlela ye- Imilaza Yomndeni sisebenza ukwakha kabusha uhlu lwethu lozalo futhi siqaphele noma yikuphi ukuhlukumezeka (ukufa, ukugula, impi, ukuqothuka), ukungabi nabulungisa, ukukhishwa, ukuswela kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho emndenini, kwezenhlalo nakwezamasiko: lonke lolu lwazi empeleni ludluliselwa kusuka kokhokho kuya enzalweni .
Akuqiniseki ukuthi konke lokhu kulula: imvamisa empeleni okuvelayo ekumeleleni izinkanyezi isimo esingaziwa ngokuphelele nesingakaze sibonwe kulabo abalungiselela ukubhekana namabhulokhi abo okuphila okungazi lutho. Futhi lokhu kuyisiginali yokuthi sisendleleni efanele, njengoba umlaza awusikhombisi kuphela lokho esivele sikwazi ngomndeni wethu (esikubona ngokumangala izimo ezithile zengqondo nokuziphatha okubikwe ngokunembile ngabamele); umnikelo wangempela we-constellation uqukethe ukusembulela lokho esingakwazi ngomndeni wethu, yilokho kanye okutholakele okubangela inqubo yokuziphilisa.
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