Wake wezwa yini ukuthi i ingqondo kuthinta ukuphila kwethu nezinto ezenzeka kithi? Lapha, kulo musho olula kukhonaingqikithi i-del ukuqala ezansi kwe umthetho wokuheha.
Ngokwalo mbono, empeleni, owethu pensieri izoba namandla oku ukuthonya kwenzekani kithi, ukuheha esikufisayo nokusisiza siphile impilo esiyifunayo. Kanjani? Ukuxhaphaza amandla wendawo yonke kanye nohlelo oluyinkimbinkimbi lokudlidliza nobuningi okulawulwa ngalo.
Njenge-naïve futhi elula njengoba kungabonakala ekuqaleni nje, ukucatshangelwa okunomsuka wayo iziqiniseko zesayensi ezigxilile, kakhulu ukuthola isiqinisekiso ekubhekweni kwe Albert Einstein, okwathi ngalo musho, wabhekisa ekuqaleni ku isimiso somzimba, ngokungazi kuzala inkolelo yomthetho wokuheha njengoba siwazi namuhla: “Konke kungamandla futhi yilokhu kuphela okukhona. Vumela imvamisa yeqiniso olifunayo futhi awukwazi ukuzibamba ukuthola lelo qiniso ”.
Kulokhu kucatshangelwa kokuqala kuvela ngokusobala njengokwethu isimo sengqondo kungokwethu intando kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakhiweni kwesiphetho sethu nokuthi kungakanani lokhu okusemandleni ethu, yize sivame ukukukhohlwa. Njengoba sizobona maduzane, i ukuthambekela kwengqondo kuyisinyathelo esisemqoka ekusebenziseni umthetho wokuheha nokuphumelela ebhizinisini le- phila impilo esiyifunayo.
Ukuze lokhu kwenzeke noma kunjalo, udinga ukusungula ukuxhumana nawe, ngamagama alula: zithande futhi uzethembe ngokungenamibandela. Ngezansi siphakamisa ezinye izivivinyo ezincane ze ukwandisa ukuzethemba komuntu futhi uzithande ngokwengeziwe.
Uyini umthetho wokuheha nokuthi usebenza kanjani
Njengoba bekulindelwe, i-indawo yonke uhlelo olunyakaziswayo nolulawulwa ngamandla alo siyingxenye yethu. Imithetho ehambisa okwedlule empeleni yiyo eqondisa izimpilo zethu, futhi kuzo zombili izimo, igama eliyisihluthulelo yile: ukukhanga.
Eqinisweni, amandla azibonakalisa ngokusebenzisa ukudlidlizela ezikhishwa ngokuqinisekile amaza. Le yindlela izinto ezihamba ngayo, ngendlela yokuheha, ngakho-ke futhi kwenzeka nakumadoda: uma silungisa izingqondo zethu ziye ku- imvamisa yesokudla, singakwazi kuphela ukuheha ncamashi esikufunayo. Kuzoba amandla uqobo, ngokudlidliza esikukhipha, okuzoletha into enesifiso sethu kithi.
Kuhunyushwe ngamagama alula, okumele sikwenze nje buka ngokucacile engqondweni yethu lokho esikufunayo, cabanga ukuthi usendleleni eza kuyo bese ulinda nge ukwethemba nokubonga umsebenzi wendawo yonke.
Kuhle ukwazi ukuthi akusona nje isiqephu okufanele sisetshenziselwe ukuthola isifiso esinikeziwe, kepha kunalokho indlela entsha yokucabanga, ihlonipheke kakhulu futhi iyazi, ethanda ngaphezu kwakho konke Ukucabanga okuhle nobuciko be ukubonga.
Imfihlo, incwadi ye-manifesto emthethweni wokuheha
"Imfihlo" incwadi yama-manifesto ivuliwe Ukukhangwa komthetho. Ibhalwe ngu URhonda Byrne futhi yashicilelwa ngo-2006, yasheshe yaba yi- ethengiswa kakhulu eMelika, ethola ukuthandwa abaningi abadumile, owayexhasa imibono yawo futhi esiza ekusakazeni umyalezo emhlabeni wonke. Phakathi kwalokhu sikhumbula isibonelo -Oprah Winfrey, ULady Gaga, uSteve Jobs, uDenzel Washington noJim Carrey.
Waduma kakhulu waze wakhulunywa esiqeshini se- Ezocansi & TheCity, ngaleso sikhathi eyayiloluchungechunge olulandelwa kakhulu nolwaziswa kakhulu, olwalwenza njengebhodi elengeziwe lokuzwakala emhlabeni wonke.
Okunye izibalo ze-auterovoli endabeni kukhona U-Esther noJerry Hicks, abashadikazi ababili, ababhali bezincwadi eziningana ngale ndaba, kufaka phakathi "Cela uzokunikezwa", ekwethulweni kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika UWayne Walter Dyer, ifingqa ngomusho owodwa umqondo obalulekile ngemuva kokubona kwabo: "Uma ushintsha indlela yakho yokubuka izinto, izinto ozibukayo ziyashintsha".
Futhi USonia Ricotti uthathwa njengomkhulu weqiniso kulendaba ayitshele ngezindlela eziningi ezincwadini zakhe ezidumile emhlabeni wonke; imvamisa eyisivakashi sika-Oprah Winfrey, wayefundisa umbono wakhe ku incwadi yokuzisiza "Uwenza kanjani ngokugcwele umthetho wokuheha" ukuhlinzeka ngezeluleko ezisebenzisekayo zokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani kangcono empilweni yansuku zonke e shintsha impilo yakho ngezinyathelo ezimbalwa ezilula.
Ungawusebenzisa kanjani umthetho wokuheha ngezinyathelo ezi-3 bese uthole okufunayo empilweni yakho
Ukuthola yonke into oyifunayo, akwanele ukucabanga ngakho: udinga ukusebenzisa uchungechunge lwe izimo zengqondo ezinhle okungafingqwa ngokuyisisekelo kulezi zinyathelo ezintathu ezingezansi.
1. Cabanga ngalokho okufunayo
Okokuqala, cabanga ngento eyodwa ongathanda ukuthi igcwaliseke bese uzama ukuhumushela leso sifiso entweni eyodwa ibinzana, ukugcina engqondweni njalo njengokuthokozisayo ingemuva kuyakhuthaza.
Kufanele yenziwe nge Indlela efanelekile, kumele babe gwema ukuphika namagama afana nokuthi "Angifuni", "Angikwazi".
Isibonelo, uma isifiso sakho kungukuthi thola umsebenzi, akudingeki ukuthi uthi: "Angifuni ukuthola umsebenzi engingawuthandi" noma "Angisafuni ukungasebenzi", kodwa kunalokho: "Ngifuna ukuthola umsebenzi engiwuthandayo", "Ngizosheshe ngithole umsebenzi kunalokhu okucabangayo", "Ngizokwenza umsebenzi wami wephupho".
Njengoba ukwazi ukubona, le misho yokugcina bonisa ukucabanga okuhle lokho kukhipha ukudlidliza nemizwa emnandi nenhle. Kuphelele amandla amahle yini ezokusiza ukuheha okufunayo.
Ungenza futhi eyodwa uhlu lwezifiso ezinde obakhathalelayo kakhulu, bese ugxila kokubaluleke kakhulu. Zama njalo ziguqule zibe yimicabango nemisho emihle okukuqondisa nsuku zonke, ulinde ukuthi kugcwaliseke ngempela.
2. Yenza isicelo endaweni yonke
Ngesikhathi esifanayo uhlela futhi uzwe lowo musho ngaphakathi kuwe, awukho ngokuphelele okwenza isicelo endaweni yonke.
Kungakho kubalulekile khetha amagama nezithombe zakho ngokucophelela, ngoba uzokwenza ngqo okucabangayo nokucelile, kanye nezikhathi nezindlela abona zikufanele.
Kuzohlangana nezikhathi zakho futhi kuziphendule, esebenza njengesibuko futhi ngikubuyisele isithombe ngqo onaso engqondweni yakho: uma ucabanga izinto ezingezinhle, ungaheha kuphela izimo ezingezinhle ngokulinganayo, uma, ngokuphambene nalokho, imicabango yakho izoba mihle futhi izethembe, kungekudala noma nini izoba ngokoqobo.
La ukubona ngeso kuwumkhuba oyisisekelo walesi sigaba: ukunikeza ifomu likakhonkolo kumcabango ongakacabangi, ukuwucabanga ngemininingwane emincane kakhulu ukuze ukwenze kube yinto yangempela futhi ethambekisayo kungasiza kuphela ukusondela eduze nenhloso ngomoya ofanele nesimo sengqondo.
Zinikele kulokhu ukuzivocavoca umzimba noma nini lapho ufuna, ikakhulukazi uma uzithola usesikhathini sokuphelelwa yithemba noma uzizwa udumele: cabanga kahle isimo ongasithanda, ilayishe ngayo yonke imininingwane engaba khona futhi uyinothise ngokwengeziwe, cishe ukuze ukwazi ukuyibona, ikugcine engqondweni umbono bese ubuyela kuyo noma kunini lapho uzwa isidingo. Ngale ndlela usiza indawo yonke ukuthi iqondise ngokwengeziwe kuwe okufisayo.
3. Linda ngokuzethemba futhi wenze sengathi sekungokwakho vele
Uma usuqedile, ngalesi sikhathi okusele ukulinda ngokuzethemba, uziphathe sengathi isipho osilindile besivele sisezandleni zakho. Kusho ukuthini lokhu ngokwenza? Mane uphile ngokuxhumana inala, ingcebo kanye felicità, ngoba konke okuvelayo kuzobuyela kuwe ngamagagasi amakhulu nangendlela yezifiso zakho.
Ngakho-ke gxila ku- izinto onazo futhi uzibonakalise GRATA kwalokhu kunokugxila kokulahlekile futhi kukwenze ungajabuli: ingqondo yakho ingumazibuthe futhi ngenxa yalokho, ingaletha konke okucabangayo kuwe.
Lo mqondo uhunyushwe ngokuphelele ngamazwi omlandeli odumile womthetho wokuheha, -Oprah Winfrey: "Bonga onakho; uzogcina usunokuningi. Uma ugxila kokungenakho, awusoze waba nokwanele. Ngiphila esikhaleni sokubonga - futhi sengiklonyelisiwe amahlandla ayisigidi ngakho. Ngaqala ukubonga ngezinto ezincane, futhi lapho ngibonga ngokwengeziwe, kwaba nezizathu eziningi zokukhula. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi okugxile kukho kuyanda futhi lapho ugxila ebuhleni bempilo yakho, wakha okuningi kwakho. Amathuba, ubudlelwano, ngisho nemali kwakugeleza ngendlela yami njengoba ngangifunda ukubonga, noma yini eyenzeka empilweni yami. Lapho uzincoma ngokwengeziwe futhi ubungaza impilo yakho, kulapho kukhona khona empilweni okufanele ukugubhe. Thola empilweni lokho onesibindi sokukucela ”.
Ngakho-ke funda i-ubuciko bokubonga futhi usebenzise lo mkhuba omuhle ngangokunokwenzeka, okufana nokubona, okuzoba namandla okuletha okuhle nokunotha okwengeziwe empilweni yakho. Ukuyihlakulela kahle, ungazinikezela kulokhu ukuzivocavoca okuncane nsuku zonke: ekuseni, ngokushesha nje lapho uvuka, noma ngaphambi kokulala, cabanga noma ubhale kudayari okungenani izinto ezi-3 ozibongayo, uzobona ngokushesha umuzwa omuhle wenhlalakahle oyokwenza ubonakale useduze nendawo oyifunayo.
Khumbula, nokho, ukuthi ungalindeli umphumela owufunayo ngokushesha, awusebenzi ngokungathi yinto ezenzekelayo, eyenziwe ngomshini futhi esheshayo; ube nethemba nokubekezela futhi ukholwe wedwa ukuthi lokho okufunayo kuzokwenzeka. Ungathathi indawo yendawo yonke: izonquma ukuthi kuzokwenzeka kanjani futhi nini, umsebenzi wakho kuphela ukuzethemba ngokugcwele futhi wazi ukuthi kuzokwenzeka.
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