Zimbalwa izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kangangokuthi silahlekelwa ubuthongo ngazo. Kodwa-ke, njengoba simatasatasa nokuphithizela kwempilo yansuku zonke, siguqula okungabalulekile kube ukukhathazeka okukhulu. Siphambanisa okuphuthumayo nokubalulekile. Sicasulwa yizinto ezingasho lutho esizozikhohlwa ngenyanga ezayo. Sithukuthela kalula. Siyacasuka ngokumangala okuncane futhi sicindezeleke ngengcindezi encane.
Ngokwengxenye enkulu, lokhu kuphinda kusebenze kabusha ngokomzwelo okuyihaba kungenxa yokuthi sithatha izinto ngokungathi sína kakhulu. Asikwazi ukunakekela i- ibanga ngokwengqondo okudingekayo ukuze sikubone ngombono okwenzekayo kithi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, esinye sezifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu esizosilethela ukuthula kwengqondo okwengeziwe, ukuthatha izinto kalula, ngaphandle kokubheka phezulu.
Phila kalula
Sonke sinokuthambekela okungokwemvelo kokufuna ukulawula okwenzeka endaweni yethu yokwenza. Ngokulawula sizama ukwanelisa isidingo sethu sokuvikeleka. Kodwa-ke, njengoba isikhathi esidlule singenakushintshwa futhi ikusasa linzima, lesi simo sengqondo sokulawula sibangela ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kuphela, okwenezela ekuphileni okuyisicefe okukhulu kakade.
Ngempela, kuleli zwe eliya liba mnyama, elingcoliswe izinhlekelele nobunzima, elibhekene nokusakazwa njalo kwezindaba eziphazamisayo, ukungabi nathemba okunobuthi nentukuthelo engalawuliwe, sidinga ngokuphuthumayo ukufunda ukugeleza nokudedela i-ballast ukuze silinganisele emhlabeni wethu wangaphakathi.
U-Italo Calvino wayenekhambi: ukuphila kalula. Uphakamise: "Thatha ukuphila kalula, ukuthi ukukhanya akukhona okukha phezulu, kodwa ukutshuza phezu kwezinto ezivela phezulu, ungabi namatshe enhliziyweni yakho".
Ukukhanya kuqukethe "ukususa isisindo" ekuboniseni iqiniso. Ukufunda ukunikeza yonke into indawo yayo efanele ezimpilweni zethu kodwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ihlanganisa ukungaqongeleli ukukhungatheka, izinkathazo kanye nezibopho zabanye.
Ukuthatha izinto kalula akusho ukukha phezulu, kodwa kunalokho yeka ukuthatha yonke into ngokungathi sína kakhulu. Yeka ukwenza iziphepho enkomishini yetiye. Khohlwa amadrama. Cabanga ukuthi akuyona yonke into yomuntu siqu. Vumela ukuthukuthela, ukudabuka, noma ukukhungatheka kugeleze kuze kube yilapho ziyancipha.
Ukuphila kalula kusho ukwenza ukuthula nawe. Yeka ukuba yijaji lethu elinokhahlo futhi siqale ukuziphatha ngomusa. Kubandakanya ukuzithethelela. Sizikhulule ekuqineni kwemizwelo esiziphoqa ngezinye izikhathi ukuthi siyithwale. Ukukhanya kuyimpumuzo kanye nokuzinakekela ezweni elisiphoqa ukuthi sihlale sinokucindezeleka futhi sitholakale kwabanye.
Ukuphila kalula kusho ukwazi ukunweba isikhathi. Ukuphazamisa ukuhamba kwempilo okusishiya siphefumula. Buyisa isikhathi esithatha ubukhulu obungaphakathi, usiguqule sibe ukudla komphefumulo nenhliziyo. Sizinake kakhulu, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzithatha ngokungathi sína kakhulu, sithatha indawo yokudlala kanye nelukuluku ngathi.
Ukuphila kalula kusho futhi ukuphinda sibe “nokuzazisa” kwethu ukuze sindizele phezulu, nalelo qembu elinempilo elisivumela ukuba sidlule ebunzimeni ngaphandle kokulinyazwa. Kuyikhono lokuqaphela okucashile nokubalulekile ngisho nalapho ubhekene nobuhlungu ukuze uzibeke kabusha kokubalulekile. Ithola kabusha ukunambitheka kokumangala nokumomotheka, kokulula kanye ne-banal.
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Okulandelayo, singabhala uhlu ngokuhlukanisa okungokwethu kulokho esingakubuyisela, njenge okulindele kwabanye, izimfuno ezeqisayo zezwe langaphandle nezingcindezi zomphakathi.
Sizokwazi kanjalo ukuzikhulula umthwalo wemizwa okuyinto, kude nokuba usizo, iyasivimbela futhi isilahlekisele. Singase singabi yizimpaphe, kodwa singaphila kakhudlwana. Futhi ukususa leso sisindo esiningi kungaba nempilo emzimbeni nasengqondweni kuphela.
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