Sijwayele ukuzwa ngodlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane, mayelana nokuthi kumele sibike futhi sicele usizo esikhundleni salokho sizwa kangaki ngokuzivikela, okungukuthi, ukuthi ungazivikela kanjani?
Udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane luyimbangela ehamba phambili yokufa nokukhubazeka kwabesifazane abaneminyaka engu-16 kuya kwengama-44, ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe eHarvard University.
Khumbula ukuthi ukucela usizo kubalulekile, kepha kufanele kube nguwe othatha isinyathelo sokuqala ukuzisindisa. Ushintsho luhlala luqala ngaphakathi.
Ukubhalisela izifundo zokuzivikela kuyisinqumo esiwusizo kakhulu. Ngokufunda izindlela zokuzivikela, abesifazane bangathola ukuzethemba kanye nogqozi oluzobenza bahlonishwe futhi baziqhelelanise nalabo abafuna ukubalimaza.
Ukuzivikela kukusiza ukuthi wazi amandla akho nobuthakathaka bakho bese ukubusebenzisela inzuzo yakho uma unolaka. Okuguqukayo ukucabanga komuntu ngezimo eziyingozi nakubantu abahlukumezayo.
Abantu baqala ukukholelwa emakhono abo futhi abasasabi ukwaliwa. Lokhu kuzethemba kunika nemiphumela emsebenzini nasebudlelwaneni nabanye: isimo siyathuthuka, iphimbo lezwi liyaqina futhi lithembele ngenhlonipho elandelayo kubo bonke.
Kubudlelwano bezothando umphumela uyafana, ekugcineni uthola isibindi sokukwazi ukuveza umbono wakho, utshele omunye ukuthi ukhona futhi unezidingo zakho, futhi ikakhulukazi uma kunodlame lomzimba, kungasindisa impilo yakho!
Udlame lwengqondo:
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthatha uhambo lwangaphakathi ngesikhathi esifanayo nokuzivikela ngosizo lwe-psychologist noma i-psychotherapist ozohlinzeka ngokusekelwa okulungile ukuze kuzuzwe ushintsho oluhlala njalo,ukuzethemba, ukuzethemba nelungelo lokuba khona.
Udlame luyanda, ngaphambi kokuthola udlame lwasemzimbeni luqala njalo ngodlame lwengqondo futhi ngungoti kuphela ongakusiza.
Ukuhlaselwa kokuqala kwengqondo kuphathelene nokuthi ungubani umuntu: isisulu sichazwa kabusha ngumbulali waso ngokuthi "ngamagama ayiziphukuphuku, ayiziphukuphuku, ahlanya futhi ahlukahlukene kabi"; elinye iqhinga ukunxenxa isisulu ukuba singabe sisayethemba imiqondo nemizwa yabo "ubukucabanga, akukaze kwenzeke lokho".
Ukuqagela kuyalandela, okungukuthi, ukunikezwa kwezimpawu zomuntu obulala umuntu kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe, isibonelo umqambimanga uzotshela isisulu sakhe ukuthi ungumqambimanga.
Ukusetshenziswa kwemizwa yecala, izinsongo, ukuthukwa kanye nokubekwa phansi kwamakhono omunye ukuze ukhansele. Bahlambalaza futhi bahlukanise isisulu nabangane nomndeni. Zilawula isisulu ngokumenza azizwe enamahloni ngezinkolelo nezinkanuko zaso, zisibukela phansi futhi sizibeke phansi.
Zonke lezi zinto zokuziphatha ziholela isisulu ekulahlekelweni ukuzethemba, hhayi ukubika noma ukudlubulunda futhi sikholwe ukuthi asikwazi, inhlekelele yangempela ekhona!
Kulokhu kubalulekile ukutshela izimo ezihlangabezane nodokotela wezengqondo ukuze uphinde uxhumane neqiniso uphinde uthole ukuthi ungubani.
Ukunciphisa ukuhlaselwa ngokwengqondo kwalolu hlobo kubaluleke kakhulu ukukholelwa kuwe nokubambelela eqinisweni lakho.
Khumbula ukuthi ukufunda ukuzivikela kuyisidingo!
Labo abayizisulu zodlame ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba imvamisa nabo bayizisulu zodlame lwezomnotho, okungukuthi, abanayo imali etholakalayo yokubalekela isimo abazithola bekuso, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi kukhona nokuzimela mahhala- izifundo zokuzivikela (thola ngalabo abasedolobheni lakho!) kanye nokusekelwa kwamahhala kwengqondo kuma-counters nasezikhungweni zokulalela abesifazane!
I-athikili enhle Ilaria, siyakuhalalisela!
Ngiyabonga Angie!