Uthando Lobuthi: Izisulu noma Ababulali?

Esinye sezici esibuhlungu kakhulu ebudlelwaneni nabantu abathandanayo yizinsolo kanye "namalebula" abawabeka kuwe.

Ngesikhathi sobudlelwano bakho narcissist, kungenzeka ukuthi usolwe ngokwenza nokuthi ube yizo zonke izinto ozazi kahle ukuthi awukwazanga ukuzenza nokuba yizo.

Isibonelo:

Ukungathembeki, ukuqamba amanga, ukungathembeki, ukungathembeki, ukuba ngamathuba, ukungazinzi ngokwengqondo, ukuthanda ukukhanya, abazali ababi, abanukubezi bezingane, abantu abesabekayo, abanganaki, abazithandayo ("Le nto imayelana nawe, hhayi mina", "Ungangiphathi sengathi ngiyafana nawe" noma "Nguwena umbalisi!", Njll.)

Mhlawumbe wawunomzali othanda ukukhuluma kabi futhi watshelwa ukuthi awulungile ngokwanele, nokuthi ungabantu abazithandayo nababi.

Namuhla ngifuna ukuchaza ukuthi, uma umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi ekubeka icala ngalezi zenzo zonya, empeleni ukhuluma yedwa, njengeMIRROR.

Ngiyethemba ukuthi ngokuchaza ukuthi bakukhipha kanjani ukuziphatha kwabo okubi kuwe, ungayiyeka imizwa yokungafaneleki okukuhlaselayo futhi abakufake kuwe.

UMSEBENZI OWENZIWA ESIGabeni SOKUZIBONAKALISA

Uma kukhulunywa ngezindaba zothando, imvamisa lapho sihlangana nabantu abathandanayo, ubukeka njengabantu abajabule kakhulu emhlabeni lapho besibona. Ngiyazi, wabekwa ezincwadini futhi bachaza zonke izizathu zokuthi kungani wehluke kangaka kwabanye.

AmaNarcissist "athande" yonke into ngawe, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bakholelwa ukuthi wawumiselwe ngaphambili ukuba ubasindise; labo abanqunyelwe kusengaphambili ukuthi bazondle ngokwabo ngomlingo ngokuzidla okufanele; nokuthi uzoba nesibopho sokuzigcina zihlukene nezingaphakathi zazo ezilimele kakhulu.

Umuntu wangaphakathi owonakele obengazi noma ongafuni ukukholelwa ukuthi kungenzeka abekhona.

Kusobala ukuthi beningebona abasindisi babo, ngoba akekho ongaba.

I-narcissist (njengawo wonke umuntu) ayinakuhlonishwa ngokweqiniso, iqinisekiswe, ivunyelwe futhi ithandwe kakhulu ngabantu kunaye, ngoba imizwa eyiqiniso "yomuntu" kumele ivele "kuye uqobo", hhayi ngaphandle.

UKUVALWA KWESIGABA ESIBHALWA NGOKUBHALA

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umuntu ongamanga we-narcissist uyabona ukuthi abondliwe ngokwanele. Umuntu osebenzisa izihibe uzobona "okuthile" okwenze "okungalungile" - okusho ukuthi awuzizwa uvunyelwe ngokwanele, ukuthi 'ugxekwe', 'wabuzwa' noma ukuthi "awuvumelananga" naye (noma her) ngandlela thile.

Ngemuva kwalokho, imaski (i-False Self) iyaqhekeka bese kuvela amanxeba amabi angapholi we-narcissist, ozokujezisa ngokungawuhloniphi umbhalo owakhiwe yi-False Self yakhe.

Kuleli qophelo umuntu "okhulekayo" obucabanga ukuthi ukuthandana nawe uba yisitha sakho esibi kakhulu, esho noma enze cishe konke okusemandleni ukukuzwisa ngobuqili.

Kuyaqondakala ukuthi ungashaqeka, ucasuke, futhi uphatheke kabi ngoba isimilo sombulali sikhombisa ukungakholeki, ukugula, unonya, ukuzisola, ukungaziswa ngaphandle kwegama elithi INHUMAN.

Uzoyibiza ngokuthi "lokho" bese ubhekana nomqaphi ngenkulumo enjalo “Yini kanti le oyenzile nje? UNGAKWAZI kanjani ukwenza lokhu kimi? ”.

Uyacelwa ukuthi wazi ukuthi abantu abanemithombo eyanele YANGAPHAKATHI bazoshiya i-narcissist kuleli qophelo futhi kungakhathalekile ukuthi bona ngokwabo bangahlupheka kangakanani ngemuva kokumshiya.

Ngifuna ukhumbule leli phuzu: kubalulekile, ngizobuyela kulo.

IZITOLO ZOBUDLALI ZABABALI

Kungakhathalekile konke "okuyimfihlo" kanye "nokuhalalisela" komuntu obhala ngezidakamizwa, kanye nokudumisa kwakhe "inani elengeziwe" eliphathelene nakho konke akwenzayo noma akwenzela yena uqobo, kufanele kuthiwe okungaphakathi kwabo kubi. Kuchaziwe, ukuhlala uhlushwa imizwa yokungafaneleki futhi wesaba ukungalungeki ngokwanele.

AbakwaNarcissist ngakho-ke bazama ukuba "abaphelele", "abakhethekile" "abacebile", "abakhangayo", "abathandi abangakholeki", "abahle" noma yini edingekayo ukuthola ukuvunyelwa kwakho (ukukhulisa nokugcina i-False Self) yakho, kepha, bayaphela baziphathe kabi kakhulu futhi bengaphelele lapho bengawutholi umvuzo oyifunayo wokwehluleka ukugcina le mfanelo 'yokuphelela', 'okukhethekile', 'ingcebo', 'ubuhle' noma 'isimangaliso' (ngoba wena, njengezibuko ezilula, awubeki ngaphandle kwesithombe abacabanga ukuthi sihle).

Kungokufanayo okufanayo kwamanga (Ego) okufuna ukwamukelwa ukuthi, lapho ingaxhaswa njalo ngaphandle (isidingo sangempela, ngoba ayizeneli), ukuze babe ngezifo, baphindisele futhi baziphathe kabi.

Nakhu u-Ego omubi akunika kona: ubuhlungu, ukwesaba, umuzwa wokuthile.

Ngokukhudlwana i-Ego, kuzoshaya ngamandla ukushaywa okuphansi.

Ukuziphatha okwesabisayo komdidiyeli, lapho kubonakala, kusobala ukuthi akuhambelani nokwakhiwa kwe- "False Self" ayidala ngakuye, umqondo wokuthi "ukuphelela" wakunikeza ekuqaleni.

Izingxenye ezingaphelele (ezingavuliwe) zomuntu obhalisile ziye zalahlwa nguye, ngakho-ke kufanele zabelwe kwenye indawo - futhi ngokushesha! - ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akudingeki babhekane nokwesaba kwabo okubi kakhulu: "Kukhona okungahambi kahle ngami" e "Angiyena 'umuntu omangalisayo' engizenza yena".

LOKHU NGUMXHUMO OKUQHUBEKA NGAYO IZINHLELO.

OKWENGEZIWE UKUZAMA KWAKHO UKWENZA I-NARCIST YIBOPHEZELE UKUZIPHATHA KWAKHE KWEZOKUTHOLA, KUNIKEZWA NGOKWENGEZIWE IZIVIVINYO.

YINI ISIVIVINYO SOMBALI?

Bonke abakwa-narcissist baveza izingxenye zabo ezingakaze zivezwe ngoba bamane nje ABANGAKWAZI futhi bazibophezele kuzo.

AbakwaNarcissists abathandi ukwazi ukuthi abanalutho, badinga ukuvunywa, banomona ngokweqile futhi banemicabango emibi ngabo kanye nabanye. Bayayizonda imizwa yabo yokuba sengozini, amahloni ajulile nokungafaneleki.

Lapho "isifihla-buso" (i-False Self) sehluleka ukubamba, sigcina le mizwa ifihliwe (ngoba akukho okubambelele ngokungapheli) lezi zingxenye eziphukile zithululela ekuqapheliseni komlweli, kumethuse.

Isilonda sokubhuqa sibukeka njengokuqothulwa ngokomzwelo kubo, ukuze bagweme ukucabanga ngakho, bezwe njengomthwalo ongabekezeleleki okufanele ugwenywe ngazo zonke izindlela.

Abantu abangenakho ukuphazamiseka kobuntu abanayo le nkinga. Bayakwazi ukwamukela ukuthi "abalungile" futhi "abaphelele", bayaqonda ukuthi konke lokhu kuyingxenye yesipiliyoni somuntu esijwayelekile. Abantu "abajwayelekile" kungenzeka bangazithandi ngendlela abangathanda ngayo, kepha bangayemukela futhi babhekane nakho.

Vele, uma ubhekana nomuntu obiza ngama-narcissist ngokuziphatha kwakhe okunengekayo, uyamtshela, "Nazi izingxenye zakho ezilahliwe nezaphukile."

Ukuzikhohlisa komuntu we-narcissist bese kudlulela ekuphambukeni nasekuqageleni okuzenzakalelayo. Ngenxa yokuzenyanya kwezingxenye zakhe ezingavaliwe / ezingaziwa, le ndlela yokusinda ngokomzwelo iba mqoka ekugcineni ibhalansi yakhe, ukuze nakanjani abele konke okungalungile kuye.

Lokhu kuqinisekisa izinto ezimbili:

1) ISIJEZISO sakho sokuphonsela inselelo i-False Self yabo, futhi;

2) Uba ngabantu abanonya abenze zonke izinto ezingamukeleki (noma okungenani uyimbangela yokuziphatha kwabo okungamukeleki).

Abazali be-Narcissistic bafaka izingxenye ezingavundile ezinganeni zabo, abaphathi be-narcissistic bazenza kubasebenzi babo, futhi abakwa-narcissists njengoba umbhangqwana ubathululela kubalingani babo.

Akudingeki nokuthi "ugxeke" umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa ukuze kwenzeke lokhu. Angamane abe "nesikhathi sangaphakathi esibuhlungu" - okuwumjikelezo impela kuzo - ukuze izingxenye ezingavaliwe nezingagadiwe zikhale kabuhlungu ukunakwa… futhi yilokho abakwenzayo.

I-narcissist izosebenzisa noma iyiphi indlela etholakalayo yokuqagela. Lokhu kusho ukuqamba amanga, ukuhlanekezela, ukunikeza incazelo ehlukile noma ukwenza ihaba okushilo noma okwenze "njengobufakazi" kanye / noma ukuqamba ababambisene nabo, abantu besithathu ababasekelayo, nakho okungabhalwa ukukuhlasela.

Kungakho ngemuva kokuphoqa umlobi wezempi ukuba angene empini enkulu yokuvuma "iqiniso" ngamanga akhe, uzomangala - ngemuva kokuveza amaqiniso nokuthola uhlobo oluthile lokulinganisela - lapho kamuva ephika konke, ebuyela endaweni yakhe ejwayelekile. , kunguqulo ekhiqizwayo esetshenziswe ekubonisweni.

Uyomangala futhi ukuthi umbulali we-narcissist uqamba amanga kanjani "ngomcimbi" obukade ukhona ngawo, awuvikele njengeqiniso eliphelele, noma ngabe ubukhona!

KUBALULEKILE UKWAZI UKUTHI: AbakwaNarcissist bakholelwa ngempela kuzinguqulo zabo ezenziwe. Kufanele ukuqonde lokho ukucabanga kanye nokuxhunywa kocingo kungumgoqo kangangokuthi lapho esebenzisa indlela ejikayo ukugwema izingxenye ezilahliwe ze-Self, lokho abakusungulayo kuba ngokoqobo kubo.

Uma ukuqonde konke lokhu, uzokwazi ukubona kahle ukuthi abakwa-narcissist, uma bekuhlasela, bakhuluma nezibuko.

Izinsolo zama-narcissist ngomlingiswa wakho nalokho "okwenzayo" yilokho abazizwa ngaphakathi kubo nangabo. modus operandi emhlabeni.

KWENZEKANI UMA LEZO ZINGOZI ZAMUKELWA?

Ngokuqondene nawe nokuthi usabela kanjani, nansi ingxenye ebaluleke ngempela.

Noma ngubani owake wezwa ukuqagela komuntu we-narcissist uyazi isiphithiphithi, ubuhlanya, umzabalazo omkhulu wokuzama ukukhombisa ukuthi umsulwa, ukujikajika okumangazayo okuzokwenziwa ngumqaphi ukuvikela umthwalo wemfanelo nokuthi noma ngubani uzithathela umthwalo wemfanelo, kanye "ukuphepha" okutholwe ngamaqiniso ahlanganisiwe kungandiza ngefasitela ngokuphazima kweso ukubuyela kuzinguqulo zezifo.

Uzophuma umangele, uphuke inhliziyo futhi udumazeke, ungakholelwa ukuthi lezi zinguqulo ezakhiwe zibaluleke kakhulu kuma-narcissists kunomuntu wakho kanye nesifiso sokuba nobudlelwano obuhle nawe. Ukuvikela izinhlobo zabo, bafaka noma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano engcupheni nawe.

Uzomangala futhi uphatheke kabi ngokuthi umbulali uzowashiya kanjani wonke "amaphupho" abiwe ngokuzayo, konke ukuphepha okwenziwe ndawonye (kufaka phakathi umndeni), futhi uyakwazi ngokuphelele ukuthola eminye imithombo yokuhlinzekwa kwezidakamizwa ngokushesha - KUPHELA angabi nesibopho ngalutho futhi uqhubeke ukusola.

Uzizwa sengathi "uyahlanya" uzama ukwenza lo muntu ukuthi aziphathe njengomuntu ohloniphekile futhi "ojwayelekile".

Kuwe akubonakali kunzima kangako!

Inkinga yilokhu: uyakholelwa ukuthi umbulali angaba 'ojwayelekile' nokuthi wenziwa njengomuntu 'ojwayelekile'.

Kodwa-ke, kufanele ukwamukele ukuthi lokhu akunjalo.

Lapho isimilo sabo sesifikile ezingeni lamanga okugula, ngezenzo ezinonya zokuziphindisela, ukwehlisa isithunzi nokuntuleka kokuziphendulela (okusobala ukuthi kufaka phakathi ukuqagela), ubhekene nabaphenyi be-pathological UNCURABLE.

Bangabantu abangenakho ukuxhumana okubalulekile ebuchosheni ukuze basebenze "ngokujwayelekile", ngakho-ke ngeke bashintshe.

"UTHANDO" OWAKUCABANGA UKUTHI LUKHONA NOMA LUNGENZEKA ALUKHO, ALUKHO BEKE LUNGEKHO. Okwenzeka egameni "lothando" yilokhu: ubuyimoto yokuphakela i-False Self yomlobi wezobuciko ukuze aphunyuke ezingxenyeni zakhe zangaphakathi ezilimele.

UBUDLELWANO NGEKE BUBE NEMPILO KANYE NGEKE BUSEBENZE.

Kwakungubudlelwano obungakaze bube ngawe, kepha lokho kuhlale kuboshwe ngokuqinile kumuntu obuka izinto ngokungakhathalekile ukuthi ubukholelwa kangakanani kumuntu onothando nonakekelayo abemelela ukuba abe ngezinye izikhathi.

Sidinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani samukele lezi zinhlelo ngaphandle kokubona ukuthi bekungezona izinto zethu, kepha ukuthi bekuyizingxenye ezilimele zomphikisi eziphonswa kithi.

YAMUKELA IZIKHWAMA ZABAZALI

Lapho sinomzali othanda ukukhuluma kabi, sikhuliswa singakwazi ukuzivikela njengezingane futhi ngokuqinisekile ngaphandle kokuzakhela umuzwa wokuzimela. Ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ngathi ukuthi sichaze imikhawulo futhi simemezele "le nto lapha akuyona eyami, kodwa eyakho".

Zonke izingane zizizwa zinecala lapho abazali zisebenzisa ukubakhombisa.

Ukuqinisekiswa kohlobo “Umubi, uyisiphukuphuku, uyazicabangela, awenele ngokwanele, njll.”Zithathwa kalula izingane njengeqiniso eliphelele. Izingane ezinomusa / ezizwelayo zivame ukufaka la manxeba ngaphakathi futhi zizizwe zinamahloni ngokujulile. Bathi 'Ngizozama ukukwenza ungithande futhi ungamukele”, Sinethemba lokungaze ngenze into engafanele. (bamukela ukwazi okuphezulu).

LESI ISIMODO SOKUTHEMBELA KOKUXHUMANA.

Izingane ezinomqondo omncane ziyabulahla ubuhlungu bazo namahloni ajulile, ziklabalasa emhlabeni zimemeza zithi "Ngeke ngiphinde ngivumele ukuba sengcupheni, ngilimale noma ngithembe umuntu futhi", ngakha i-False Self abadlula kuyo empilweni yabo ngokwamukela isimilo sokuziphatha. .

LESI SISIBONELO SOMBALI WENKANSI.

Siyaqonda ukuthi izingane azinaso isiqu esisungulwe kusukela zisencane nokuthi zincike kakhulu futhi zisengozini, ngoba ingane ayikwazi ukusho "Mama / Baba, uyisidlwangudlwangu, awuphilile futhi angisafuni kuhlanganisa lutho nalezi zinto - sengiyahamba!".

YAMUKELA ISIKHUNGO SENKANSI EMSEBENZI

Ngaphakathi emsebenzini, isisebenzi singesabela ukuphepha kanye nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa isikhundla saso.

Lokhu kungamenza abe sengozini enkulu kumholi we-narcissistic.

Isisebenzi kungenzeka futhi sazi ngempindiselo engenzeka uma siphikisana nomphathi noma sibika isiphathimandla esiphakeme. Angabona futhi ukuthi lo muntu unekhono lokuqamba imininingwane ukuze amjezise futhi abeke icala kuye.

Ngaphandle kokuthi lo msebenzi akazikholelwa ngokuqinile kuye, unele ukubeka imingcele futhi aqhubekele phambili ngenkathi eqinile ezinkolelweni zakhe, (ngoba uneqiniso lakhe ephaketheni lakhe) ngaphandle kokuzizwa esaba, noma azi ukuthi usengathembela kwamanye amathuba okuhola kwenye indawo, angazibeka engcupheni yokuhlukunyezwa ngumqashi ngokweqile.

Umuzwa wokuzimela kulezi zimo uyehliswa.

UKWAMUKELA IZINHLELO ZOKUPHILA KWEZOKUXHUMANA

Uma kukhulunywa ngezindaba zothando, umlingani we-narcissistic uqinisekisa ukudala umlutha wakho. Uzokhipha umqondo we-Self ongahle ube nawo (futhi lokho akuzange kusungulwe ngokweqiniso, ngaphandle kwalokho i-narcissist kungenzeka ingangeni ngisho nasempilweni yakho!), Ekubangela ukuba uthembele kuye ngangokunokwenzeka - ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba kanye / noma ngokwezezimali.

I-narcissist ngokuphuthumayo idinga ukuba isikhungo sendawo yonke yakho. Udala ukubambeka ukuze akhiphe ukunikezwa kwe-narcissistic kuwe, aqiniseke ukuthi ukuxhume ngokwanele ukukufaka ezicathulweni zabaphethe izingxenye zakhe ezingaziwa (ukuqagela).

Isigaba sokulinganisa senza lokhu kube namandla.

Yazi ukuthi ukwamukele ukuqagela (ukuphikisana nakho kusho ukuthi "ukuwamukela"), lapho usuqinisekisile futhi wacela ubulungiswa nokuziphendulela, uzithethelela futhi uhudulelwa ezingxoxweni ezisanganisayo nasezingxabanweni ngomphumela owodwa wokuzizwa ungenamandla, ukhungathekile futhi kuyingozi ngisho.

Iqiniso ukuthi: uzizwe ungenalusizo futhi usengozini njengezingane. Kungenzeka ukuthi kulezi zikhathi uthole ukuhlehla kobuntwana, okusho ukuthi ubusaba ukushiywa nokwaliwa uze wenze ngokuvumelana nalokhu kwesabisa. YINGAKHO KE UKUTHI UTHUKUTHELE NAPHEZU KWAMAZINGA ASEBENZEKA OKUHLUKUNYEZWA.

AbakwaNarcissist badlala leli khadi ukukulawula: basongela ukwenqatshwa, ukulahlwa, kanye / noma ukufaka esikhundleni sakho ngokushesha.

I-narcissist iyakudambisa ukuthi ungahambisani ne-False Self yabo ngenxa yalezi zisongo. Amaqhinga we-narcissistic ajwayelekile.

UMuzwa WAKHO OBALULEKILE WOKUZIZA

Manje ake sibuyele emuva ephuzwini engilibhale phambilini.

Uyacelwa ukuthi wazi ukuthi abantu abane-SELF RESOURCES eyanele bazoshiya i-narcissist ngokushesha lapho kuqhuma isimilo esibi, sokuziphatha okuhle, nokuziphindiselela - noma ngabe bazizwa kabi kangakanani ngalesi sinqumo.

Kuyiqiniso - ngokwami ​​ngiyazi abantu abaningi ababenamandla angaphakathi okuhamba lapho kwenzeka.

Ngisanda kuba nengxoxo nomeluleki waphesheya ohlonishwa kakhulu. Umbono wakhe wawuthi: yiphesenti elincane kuphela labesilisa noma abesifazane abahlala bengenakuzisiza lapho bebhekene nokuziphatha okunonya nokulimazayo.

Ukuze uqale ukuphulukiswa kwakho, ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi uthathe umthwalo wokuhlala, ngoba uqhubeke nokuhlushwa amazinga aphezulu okuhlukunyezwa kunokuba ushiye i-narcissist ukuze izihloniphe thina.

Labo kini abebehambele i-  Izinsuku ezingama-30 Ukuzinika Amandla. futhi benze uhlu lwemibuzo ngeviki 2, baqonda ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi zokulahla amandla ethu, ngaphandle kokuzitholela umthombo oqinile wamandla.

Incazelo yami yokuncika ngokubambisana yile: zama "ukubona ukubaluleka kwakho ngokubuka kwangaphandle", ukulahla umthombo wamandla weqiniso ongaphakathi kuwe.

Ngikholwa ukuthi wonke umuntu, emazingeni ehlukene, unenkinga yokuncika ngokubambisana - umhlaba wethu wonke ubunjwe kanjena - futhi, uma izinga lakho lokuncika ngokubambisana liphezulu ngokwanele, likuguqula ube ngabantu abasengozini yokuheha nokuzala ukuhlukunyezwa ngokweqile.

Lapho singakholelwa ngokwanele emqondweni wethu, nakanjani sinikeza omunye umuntu 'umthombo' esintulayo.

AmaNarcissist, ngoba ubusengozini, akwazi ukuhlanganisa ngamabomu lo mlutha kuwe.

Lapho singenakho ukuzethemba okwanele, sincike ekwamukelweni abanye.

Sidinga ukujabulisa umuntu esimkhombe "njengomthombo wethu Wobuntu", simdinga ukuthi akholelwe kithi. Futhi yilesi sizathu esenza sizizwe sibhujisiwe, kube sengathi ukusinda kwethu konke kusongelwa lapho bengakholelwa ukuthi singumuntu olungile, lapho besimangalela ngokuziphatha okubi nezimpawu zobuntu esicabanga ukuthi asinazo noma izinto esingakaze sizenze kucatshangelwe ukukwenza. Umphumela: sinamathela ekuthembekeni nasebulungiseni kwalabo abasilimazile ukunqoba ukuhlukumezeka.

Sikholwa ukuthi uma silahlekelwa yilo muntu empilweni yethu ngeke sikwazi ukusinda emoyeni, ngokwengqondo kanye / noma ngokomzimba.

Uma nje sikholelwa ukuthi "ubuhle" bethu, ukubaluleka kwethu, ukufaneleka kwethu, inhlalakahle yethu noma impilo yethu incike komunye umuntu, sizohlala sithambekele.

Uma sinakho lokhu kushiyeka kwangaphakathi, lapho-ke sizokulingisa ngokunembile ukungabi nalutho kwezinsizakusebenza zangaphakathi "uqobo".

Iqiniso ukuthi: asidlale umdlalo wakhe (okungenani size sakhe "ukuzethemba" okuqinile ukubambelela ezikhathini ezinzima, esisisekelayo futhi esisivumelayo, ukuze sikwazi ukubona isimo esihlukumezayo futhi sishiye sazi ukuthi "LESI SINTO AKUSIYO OKWAMI, NGOKWAKHO KONKE. AKUSIYIMI KANYE AKUSIYO IMPELA YAMI ").

Ukuze sibe no "Mina" onempilo, sizwe uthando nenhlalakahle empilweni, kufanele sakhe lokhu kuqina kwangaphakathi, futhi kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho singabelana ngakho ngendlela enempilo nomunye umuntu.

Lapho sikudedela futhi ekugcineni silulame - siyabona futhi siqonde ukuthi okwakwenzeka kithi bekungumdlalo ngempela, hhayi ubuhlobo.

Siyabona ukuthi "i-narcissist enamandla onke" empeleni, "ingumuntu ongenalutho", "ongeyena", ongenamandla futhi mbumbulu, manje ongathandeki empilweni yethu naseqinisweni lethu.