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Kepha bewazi ukuthi abesifazane nabo babuka izithombe ezingcolile?
Ukuhlaziywa okwenziwe nemiphumela eyavela ezifundweni ezenziwa ezingxenyeni ezikhethekile eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule, kuvula ukuqonda okusha ngokuthanda, izinguquko ekuziphatheni nasekukhululekeni ngokocansi okwenzekile endaweni yonke yabesifazane.
Akuseyona umhlaba ongaphansi kwamanzi wokusetshenziswa okukhethekile kwabesilisa. Kuyamangalisa kuze kube yiminyaka embalwa edlule umkhakha, yize ubumkhulu kakhulu futhi ngokubuka kwenzuzo yezomnotho, (okusuka ekulinganisweni kwakamuva okusukela ku-2019 okuholela ekutheni weqe kalula ama-dollar ayizigidi eziyizinkulungwane eziyi-100 e-United States kuphela) futhi ahlulelwe ngokunembile ngabesifazane.
Imidondoshiya yemidondoshiya futhi leso yisayithi I-Pornhub indawo ebabazekayo kulo mkhakha, okuthi ngemuva kokufaka wonke amasayithi emkhakheni usuqedile iminyaka yawo yokuqala eyi-14 yempilo, isitshele ukuhlaziywa okuqondile nokunakekela kokuvela kwamasiko okwenzekile phakathi kwabantu bebonke iplanethi ngokusabalalisa idatha kanye namazinga ngqo kunanoma yiluphi ucwaningo lwezenhlalo ezingqikithini zobulili besilisa nabesifazane.
Le mininingwane ibhekisa kokuthandwayo okuvela lapho sifuna ukukhuphula amazinga okushisa ngezikhathi ezithile nomqondo ofanele uvela ngokufuna ividiyo ye-porn okungenani eyanelisa iphupho lomuntu.
Kuvela lokho esikuthandayo, sinikela isikhathi esingakanani kukho, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke umehluko phakathi kokuthandwayo kwezocansi kowesilisa nowesifazane.
Imininingwane iveza ukuthi iphesenti labesifazane ababuka amavidiyo we-porn likhuphuke kakhulu kule minyaka eyi-10 edlule futhi kuze kube manje bafinyelela futhi badlule ama-35% wabasebenzisi bezithombe zocansi emhlabeni jikelele kanye nezibikezelo bathi leli nani limiselwe eminyakeni ezayo. Ukukhula ngokwandayo.
Kukhona nelinye iqiniso okumele licatshangwe; empeleni kwavela ukuthi lokhu kukhululeka kwabesifazane ekubhekaneni nezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwaba nenani eliphakeme kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuvalwa kanye nokuhlukaniswa emakhaya abo okubangelwe yisimo esiphuthumayo se-coronavirus.
Ngokuqinisekile lesi sikhathi sisize ukuvula izithiyo zokugcina kwabesifazane ezivimbele ukufinyelela emhlabeni we-porn ngokwandisa ukuhambela amasayithi we-porn kepha ngaphandle kokumangala kakhulu; lokhu kukhuphuka kuhambisane nokuthengiswa kwamathoyizi ocansi, okwakungakaze kube nonyaka othela izithelo ezinhle futhi onenhlanhla maqondana nenzuzo efana no-2020.
Kungenzeka kunganikezi umbono ofanele maqondana nokuziphendukela kwezocansi okwenzeka emkhakheni wezocansi wabesifazane kepha siyakukhumbuza lokho I-Pornhub namuhla kubalwa izivakashi eziyizigidi ezingama-75 nsuku zonke, okwenza kube ngesinye sezingosi ezichofozwe kakhulu emhlabeni ngokwenza kahle, okunikela ngezigaba ezahlukahlukene ezikwazi ukwanelisa ngokugcwele noma ikuphi ukunambitheka namaphupho kwabesilisa nabesifazane.
Kepha yini abesifazane abayifunayo ezithombeni ezingcolile?
Ngokusho kolunye locwaningo lwakamuva olwenziwe yi-US Magazine eyaziwayo, kwavela ukuthi abantu besifazane banokuthanda, izifiso kanye namaphupho amadoda angawachaza (ngokombono wawo njengongqondongqondo abadala) okungajwayelekile.
Njengoba kuvezwe ngabahlaziyi kanye nezikhundla ze-Pornhub ezavela, abesifazane bavame ukufuna amavidiyo ocansi phakathi kwabesifazane, phakathi kwabesifazane abaningi nendoda, futhi ngokumangala phakathi kwamadoda amabili noma ngabe lowo owenza ukusesha engowobulili obuhlukile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuseshwa kanye nesicelo sezinto zevidiyo ezibonisa ukuzidela kocansi kwama-masseurs anekhono, ((ngokusobala) amakhamera afihliwe abekwe ngokukhethekile egumbini lokulungiselela elilungiselelwe ngokukhethekile kanye nokuziphendukela kwemvelo okungalindelekile (sihlala siphindaphinda ngokusobala okungalindelekile) kwezimo zocansi phakathi opharetha kanye nowesifazane ongalindele lutho, ozivumela ukuthi ahlanganyele kumasu "avuselelayo" kasolwazi ongumasseur, bathola impumelelo enkulu ngokwandisa ngokusobala ukufuna lolu hlobo lwamavidiyo ocansi ngababukeli besifazane kuphela ngokusho kwamagama nezindaba ze UMaureen O'Connor kubikiwe ENew York Mag.
Izwe lezemidlalo nenhlalakahle elishukumisa kakhulu emcabangweni wabesifazane, okukhombisa ngokusobala ukuthi ukutholakala kobunikazi babo besimanje kwezocansi kugcine kwehlule kanjani zonke izindlela zakudala zokuphikwa nokwenqaba okwedlule. Obunye ubufakazi obungenakuphikwa bokuthi ucansi bunzima kakhulu kunalokho osekufundwe kuze kube manje ngososayensi nabacwaningi abasunguliwe.
Siyaqonda ukuthi i-libido ayihlali futhi ayikhawulelwanga kuphela esifisweni sokwenza noma sokubuka ukuya ocansini, kepha ingxenye ebalulekile nebalulekile yokushiswa kwezifiso zethu zobulili futhi ihlala ezinkanukweni zethu nasesifiso sokuyiguqula ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ibe yinto ehlukile futhi engaphandle kocansi olujwayelekile.
Lapha owesifazane uzithola kabusha empeleni egxilise ilungelo lakhe lokuveza ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa ngisho ngumlingani, ngoba ukuthanda kwakhe ucansi njengamandla abelokhu eyimpahla ephelele yowesilisa.
Futhi kuthiwani uma lo mbhangqwana ufuna ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ndawonye?
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi abesilisa bebelokhu bezithanda izithombe zobulili ezingcolile futhi, njengoba sekubhaliwe, idatha ibihlala ikuqinisekisa futhi, njengoba kufakazelwe, abesifazane bayayifuna. Ngakho-ke kungani ungakwenzi ndawonye futhi uguqule isipiliyoni sibe ukusondelana okujulile nokuvuthiwe ngokwengeziwe, uthole amaphupho omunye futhi uyeke ukuhamba ngaphandle komhawu oyingozi, ocindezelayo nongafanele.
Ngokuya ngocwaningo oluchazwe ngenhla, uhlu lwezizathu ezinhle zokubuka i-porn njengombhangqwana lungahlanganiswa.
Sifuna ukugcizelela ukuthi asifuni ukunikeza izikhuthazo zokwenza okuthile okungamukeleki komunye wabalingani balo mbhangqwana noma kubo bobabili, uma kukhona omunye wesifazane noma enye indoda ethintekayo, lokhu kuphusha ukuzala umona kanye khipha ukwesaba okufihliwe.okuholela ezingxabanweni uma izinga elifanele lokwethembana, ukuvuthwa kanye nolwazi olujulile ngomlingani womuntu lingakasungulwa kulezi zithandani futhi lokhu kungadala ukungezwani, ukuqhekeka kungabuyi ebudlelwaneni bezithandani noma, ngaphezulu ngokumane, ukusola amaphupho angavunywanga kumlingani womuntu bese uwela ekungabazeni mayelana nekhono lomuntu lokwanelisa ngokocansi noma cha, izidingo zomlingani wakho ngokwakha isimo esingahle (kodwa esingaqinisekile nakancane) sokukhothama nokuzethemba, owesilisa noma owesifazane, yena uyozizwa engafaneleki noma engcolile futhi uzozizwa ekhashelwe.
Uma sicabanga ngakho le miphumela iyisiqinisekiso sokuthi ngamunye wethu unamaphupho emvelo najwayelekile ngaphakathi kithi nokuthi ayacindezelwa ngenxa yokungaxazululeki ngokwengqondo, kokuziphatha kanye nokwakheka noma izimo. Uncamela ukufihla ubuntu bakho nokucabanga okukhululekile kumlingani wakho unomphela, ukwenze lokho ukwazi nangokungazi ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene, ngokwesaba ukwahlulelwa ngumlingani wakho nethuba lokudala izimo ezichazwe ngenhla.
Lapha, kuthathwe ngendlela eyiyo, ochwepheshe bachaza ukuthi ekwakheni ukusondelana kungenzeka kusungulwe inkinga ejulile kulo mbhangqwana, kukhulise isifiso sabo bobabili futhi kunciphise ubungozi bokuwela esimisweni esinekhono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukudala umonakalo ongalungiseki ebudlelwaneni bezithandani.
Ngokuzimisela kwabo bobabili ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile, kuqalelwa indlela yokwethembana eya komunye umlingani, ukwesaba namathebhu kuyaxoshwa okuzoba wusizo olukhulu ekuhlanganiseni ubuhlobo balaba abashadikazi nangaphezulu.
Kepha kunezinye izinto okufanele uzicabangele ukuthi kungani ungabuka i-porn njengombhangqwana:
Ukuhlola ubuhlakani bakho.
Ukuthatha isinqumo sokwenza impilo yakho njengabashadikazi ukuzalwa kwamakhosi nokuziphatha okuyiphutha kuyiphutha elikhulu kakhulu kulabo abakholwa futhi bacabange ukuthi uthando kwabashadayo luyikho konke! Impela kuyisisekelo esiyisisekelo kepha impilo njengombhangqwana yakhiwe ngama-nuances amaningi futhi ngokuqinisekile ama-50 ngokuqinisekile akwanele.
Okomcabango nokufunda.
Kungani kungenjalo? Akuzona zonke izifundiswa ezinamakhono, kwesinye isikhathi asiqiniseki ngokuphelele ukuthi wenza kahle noma kabi, uma ethanda noma cha! Uma sikwazi ukuziqonda kahle noma kufanele sibuze umlingani wethu ngaphandle kokwesaba kepha ngenjabulo ukuthi sifuna ukukwenza futhi sinikele ngakho konke okusemandleni ethu ukudala ukwaneliseka kwabo bobabili.
Uma ucansi luvumelana futhi lunempilo kini nobabili, ukubukela izithombe ezingcolile kobabili kungaba ngumzuzu oshubile futhi owenelisayo wokusondelana ngokocansi, ngokubambisana ungazicwilisa emdlalweni eningabalingisi be-porn be-amateur. Umdlalo ungavala ukusondelana okusha kulo mbhangqwana okuba yimfihlo ebabayo emnandi kakhulu kubo bobabili okusele phakathi kwakhe, yena nobulili babo. Umoya walezi zithandani ngokuqinisekile uphuma uvuselelwe futhi uqiniswe.
Ngesifiso sokwakha umuzwa ohlukile nomlingani wakho.
Ukucabanga ngokuphoqa owesifazane wakho ukuthi abuke izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ngokumelene naye kuzosheshe kuphule ubuhlobo. Uma ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kubonisa isisusa esibalulekile sokukwazi ukuba nobudlelwano bezocansi nomlingani wakho, lokhu kuyinkinga okufanele ilungiswe ngokukhuluma nomlingani wakho futhi uma kunesidingo kuyalulekwa ukuxhumana nesazi.
Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungakha ithuba elilungile lokukwenza umdlalo bese usendleleni efanele! Ngamunye wethu udinga njalo ngezikhathi ezithile isifiso sokungavunyelwe, futhi ukuphuma emgwaqweni ojwayelekile esihlala sihamba kuwo kungaba yisisusa sokuqinisa ukuzwana kwalaba abashadayo.
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