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Lokaci ya yi da za a faɗi shi kuma ba a cikin raɗaɗi ba ...
Amma shin kun san cewa mata ma suna kallon batsa?
Nazarin da aka gudanar da kuma sakamakon da aka samo daga karatun da aka gudanar a kan mashigai na musamman a cikin shekaru ashirin da suka gabata, sun buɗe sabon fahimta game da dandano, canje-canje a cikin ɗabi'a da 'yancin kai na jima'i da ya faru a cikin duniyar mata.
Ba sauran duniyar karkashin ruwa da keɓaɓɓiyar maza "amfani". Abin mamaki ne, kawai sai a cikin yearsan shekarun da suka gabata wani yanki wanda, duk da cewa yana da girma kuma ta fuskar sauyawar tattalin arziki, (wanda daga ƙididdigar baya-bayan nan da ya gabata zuwa 2019 wanda zai kai shi ga sauƙaƙa ya wuce dala biliyan 100 a Amurka kawai) ya fusata mata kuma suka yanke hukunci daidai.
Katon ƙattai kuma wannan shine rukunin yanar gizon Pornhub Shafin da yafi kowane yanki kwarjini a wannan fannin, wanda bayan ya gama hada dukkan shafuka a wannan fannin tuni ya kammala shekaru 14 na farko a rayuwa, ya kawo mana cikakken bayani da kuma taka tsantsan game da cigaban al'adu da ya gudana tsakanin al'ummu gaba daya. duniya ta hanyar yada bayanai da darajoji mafi dacewa fiye da duk wani binciken zamantakewar al'umma kan jigogin jima'i da mata.
Wadannan bayanan suna nuni ne ga abubuwan dandano da suke bayyana yayin da muke son daga yanayin zafi a wasu lokuta kuma ra'ayin da ya dace na faruwa ne ta hanyar binciken bidiyon batsa wanda a kalla yana biya wa mutum buri.
Yana bayyana abin da muke so, tsawon lokacin da muka sadaukar da shi, kuma sama da duk bambance-bambance tsakanin dandano na jima'i tsakanin mata da maza.
Bayanai sun nuna cewa yawan matan da suke kallon bidiyon batsa ya tashi matuka a cikin shekaru 10 da suka gabata kuma har zuwa yau sun kai kuma sun zarce 35% na yawan masu amfani da batsa na duniya da hasashe sun ce an ƙaddara wannan adadi a cikin shekaru masu zuwa. yayi girma sosai.
Har ila yau akwai wani karin gaskiyar da za a yi la'akari da shi; a zahiri ya bayyana cewa wannan sauƙi daga bangaren mata zuwa batsa yana da ƙarfi sosai daidai lokacin da aka kulle da keɓewa a cikin gidajensu sanadiyyar matsalar gaggawa ta coronavirus.
Tabbas wannan lokacin ya taimaka wajan buɗe katangar ƙarshe a cikin mata waɗanda suka hana samun damar zuwa duniyar batsa ta hanyar yawan ziyartar shafukan batsa amma ba tare da mamakin hakan ba; wannan karin ya kuma tafi kafada da kafada da niyyar sayar da kayan wasa na jima'i wanda ba a taba samun irinsa ba da shekara mai albarka ta fuskar juya kamar 2020.
Maiyuwa bazai ba da ra'ayin da ya dace ba game da juyin halittar jima'i da ya faru a cikin yanayin jima'in mata amma muna tunatar da ku hakan Pornhub a yau yana kirga baƙi miliyan 75 a kowace rana, yana mai da shi ɗayan manyan rukunin yanar gizo a duniya mafi kyau, yana ba da nau'ikan ɗari-ɗari waɗanda suke iya cika cikakkiyar gamsar da kowane ɗanɗano da rudu ga maza da mata.
Amma menene mata ke nema a batsa?
Dangane da ɗayan bincike na baya-bayan nan da sanannen sanannen Mujallar Amurka ta gudanar, ya bayyana cewa mata suna da dandano, son sani da kuma kwatankwacin da maza za su ayyana (daga ra'ayinsu a matsayin tsofaffin masanan) sun fi kyau.
Kamar yadda manazarta da martabar Pornhub suka bayyana, mata yawanci suna neman bidiyon jima'i tsakanin mata, tsakanin mata da yawa da kuma miji, kuma tare da mamaki tsakanin maza biyu ko da kuwa wanda ke yin binciken yana da namiji.
Bugu da ƙari, bincike da buƙata don kayan bidiyo waɗanda ke nuna abubuwan batsa na masseurs masu ƙwarewa waɗanda, ta hanyar (a bayyane) kyamarorin ɓoye da aka keɓance musamman a cikin ɗaki na musamman da aka shirya da kuma sauyin da ba zato ba tsammani (koyaushe muna maimaita abin da ba zato ba tsammani) na yanayin jima'i tsakanin masu aiki da macen da ba ta sani ba, wacce ta ba da kanta cikin dabarun "motsawa" na masanin masan, suna samun babban rabo ta hanyar kara yawan neman irin wannan bidiyon na jima'i ta hanyar mata zalla mata bisa ga kalmomi da labarai na Maureen O'Connor ya ruwaito a kan New York Mag.
Duniyar wasanni da jin daɗin rayuwa waɗanda ke da daɗaɗawa a cikin tunanin mata, wanda ke nuna a sarari yadda gano ainihin halayensu na jima'i a ƙarshe ya kayar da duk tsofaffin hanyoyin rashin da'a da musun abubuwan da suka gabata. Wata hujja mara tabbaci cewa jima'i yana da rikitarwa fiye da abin da aka gano har zuwa yau ta hanyar masana ilimin jima'i da bincike.
Mun fahimci cewa libido baya zama kuma ba'a iyakance shi ne kawai a cikin sha'awar yin ko kallon yin jima'i ba, amma wani muhimmin ɓangare na ƙyamar sha'awarmu ta jima'i sune kuma suna zaune cikin sha'awarmu kuma a cikin sha'awar canza su da wuri ko daga baya ya zama na musamman kuma daga cikin kwarewar jima'i na yau da kullun.
Anan matar da gaske ta sake gano kanta cikin damarta na bayyana ba tare da wata fargaba ba game da yanke mata hukunci koda da abokin tarayya ne, saboda dandano na jima'i kamar wani iko ne wanda a da ya kasance mallakar namiji ne.
Kuma idan ma'aurata suna son kallon batsa tare?
Ba asiri bane cewa maza koyaushe suna son batsa kuma, kamar yadda aka riga aka rubuta, bayanan koyaushe sun tabbatar da shi kuma, kamar yadda aka tabbatar, mata suna nemanta. Don haka me zai hana kuyi shi tare kuma ku canza ƙwarewar zuwa zurfin zurfin zumunci, gano mafarkin ɗayan ku bar shi ba tare da cutarwa ba, danniya da rashin kishi mara dalili?
Dangane da binciken da aka bayyana a sama, jerin manyan dalilai don kallon batsa yayin ma'aurata za'a iya harhada su.
Muna so mu jaddada cewa ba ma son ba da kwarin gwiwa don yin wani abu wanda ba a yarda da shi ba daga daya daga cikin abokan ma'auratan ko kuma duk biyun, idan har akwai wata mata ko wani na daban da hakan ke haifar da haifar da kishi da kuma fito da boye tsoro.wannan yana haifar da jayayya idan har yanzu ba a tabbatar da madaidaiciyar amana, balaga da zurfin ilimin abokiyar zama a cikin ma'aurata ba kuma wannan na iya haifar da rashin fahimta, fashewa ba tare da dawowa cikin dangantakar ma'aurata ba ko, mafi sauƙi, tuhuma na tunanin da bai dace ba a cikin abokin tarayya kuma ya fada cikin shakku game da ikonsa na gamsar da jima'i ko a'a, bukatun abokin tarayya ta hanyar ƙirƙirar yiwuwar (amma ba cikakken tabbaci ba) yanayin sujada da girman kai, namiji ko mace, zai ji bai dace ba ko ma datti sai ta ji an ci amanar ta.
Idan muka yi tunani game da shi wadannan sakamakon tabbaci ne cewa kowannenmu yana da zato na al'ada da na al'ada a cikinmu kuma an danne su saboda gazawar halayyar mutum, ta ɗabi'a da tsari. Ka fi so ka ɓoye halayenka da kuma 'yancin tunani daga abokin rayuwarka har abada, kana yin hakan ne bisa sani da rashin sani saboda dalilai daban-daban, saboda tsoron kada abokin zamanka ya yanke maka hukunci tare da yiwuwar ƙirƙirar yanayin da aka bayyana a sama.
Anan, an ɗauke su ta hanyar da ta dace, masana sun bayyana cewa a ƙirƙirar kusanci yana yiwuwa a samar da haɗin kai sosai a tsakanin ma'aurata, haɓaka sha'awar duka biyu da rage haɗarin faɗawa cikin al'amuran yau da kullun wanda tabbas ke da iko cikin dogon lokaci don haifar da lalacewar da ba za a iya kawar da ita ba a cikin dangantakar ma'aurata.
Ta hanyar yarda da yarda duka biyun su kalli batsa, an kirkiro hanyar amintuwa zuwa ga ɗayan abokin, tsoratar da fargaba sun ƙare wanda tabbas zai zama da fa'ida cikin walda dangantakar ma'auratan har ma da ƙari.
Amma akwai wasu abubuwan da zakuyi la'akari dasu game da dalilin da yasa zaku iya kallon batsa a matsayin ma'aurata:
Don gwada kerawar ku.
Yanke shawara don sanya rayuwar ku a matsayin ma'aurata ta zama shimfidar shimfiɗar ɗimbin ɗabi'a da al'adar yau da kullun shine babban kuskuren da waɗanda suka yi imani kuma suke tunanin cewa soyayya a cikin ma'aurata shine komai! Tabbas tushe ne mai mahimmanci amma rayuwa a matsayin ma'aurata tana da nuances da yawa kuma tabbas 50 bai isa ba.
Don tunani da kuma ilmantarwa.
Me ya sa? Mu ba duka ƙwararrun yan koyo bane bane, wani lokacin bamu da cikakken tabbaci idan yana yin kyau ko mara kyau, idan yana jin daɗin hakan ko a'a! Idan muna da ƙwarewa wajen fahimtar kanmu ko dole ne mu tambayi abokin mu ba tare da tsoro ba amma tare da jin daɗin da muke so mu yi kuma mu ba da mafi kyawunmu don ƙirƙirar gamsuwa duka.
Idan jima'i yana da yarda kuma yana da lafiya a gare ku duka, kallon batsa a cikin biyu na iya zama wani lokacin mai gamsarwa da gamsarwa na kusancin jima'i, tare zaku iya nutsar da kanku cikin wasan da kuka zama yan fim masu son batsa. Wasan zai iya kulla sabuwar ƙawance tsakanin ma'aurata wanda ya zama sirri mai daɗin gaske mai daɗi ga duka wanda ya rage tsakanin shi, ita da jima'i. Ruhun ma'aurata hakika yana fitowa yana sabuntawa kuma yana ƙarfafawa.
Don sha'awar ƙirƙirar ji daban tare da abokin tarayya.
Yin tunani game da tilastawa matar ku kallon batsa akan ta, ko ba jima ko ba jima zai fasa dangantakar. Idan kallon batsa yana wakiltar mahimmancin motsawa don samun damar yin jima'i tare da abokin tarayya, wannan tabbas matsala ce da dole ne a magance ta ta hanyar magana da abokin tarayya kuma idan ya cancanta yana da kyau a nemi gwani.
Idan, a gefe guda, zaku iya ƙirƙirar damar da ta dace don sanya ta wasa to kun kasance akan madaidaiciyar hanya! Kowannenmu yana buƙatar kowane lokaci sannan sha'awar sha'awar haramtacciyar hanya, kuma fita daga hanyar da muka saba koyaushe muna ɗauka na iya zama abin ƙarfafa don ƙarfafa jituwa tsakanin ma'aurata.
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