“Kuthiwa umthengisi osemusha waseBoston ubanjwe ukushisa kwegolide laseCalifornia. Emagange ukuceba, wadayisa yonke impahla yakhe waqonda emifuleni okuthiwa yayigcwele izigaxa zegolide ezinkulu kangangokuthi indoda yayingakwazi ukuyithwala.
Ngolunye usuku, ngemva kosuku olunzima nolungapheli, insizwa yafaka isisefo sayo emfuleni yaphuma ingenalutho. Umvuzo wakhe wawuwukuphela kwenqwaba yamatshe.
Edangele ngokujulile ngemva kwamasonto amaningi ethungatha kungenazithelo, wayesekulungele ukuzinikela, kodwa ngaleso sikhathi kwafika umgebi wegolide ongumakadebona wakhomba inqwaba yamatshe ayewaqongelele.
Insizwa yaphendula ngokucasuka: 'Yinqwaba yamatshe nje, akukho golide lapha. Bangikhohlisile. ngiya ekhaya.'
Ikhehla lasondela kule nqwaba yamatshe lamamatheka lathi: 'Kunegolide eliningi lapha, udinga nje ukwazi ukuthi uzolitholaphi.' Waqoshama wacosha amatshe amabili wawaphihliza. Enye yavuleka ukuze iveze amachashaza ambalwa egolide ngaphakathi.
Insizwa yabuka isikhwama sesikhumba esasivuvukele esasisiphethe ikhehla yasho kabuhlungu yathi: 'Ngifuna amagundwane amakhulu njengalawo asesikhwameni sakho, hhayi amachashaza.'
Liphinde limamatheke ikhehla, lavula isikhwama salo lakhombisa insizwa. Lapho ebheka ngaphakathi, akazange abone amanoveli amakhulu kodwa izinkulungwane zamachashaza egolide.
'Ndodana, kubonakala kimi ukuthi umatasa ufuna ama-nuggets amakhulu, kangangokuthi awuzange uqaphele ukuthi usungakwazi ukugcwalisa isikhwama sakho ngalezi zinhlamvu eziyigugu zegolide' - wayesehamba.
Ugibe lokwehlisa injabulo emiphumeleni emihle
Empilweni, izikhathi eziningi siziphatha njengentsha yegolide. Sigxila kakhulu ekuguquguqukeni kokugcina, impumelelo enkulu, noma ushintsho oluphazamisayo kangangokuthi sishaya indiva izinto ezincane ekuphileni, leyo mininingwane eyisisekelo esiqinile sokwakha injabulo.
Eqinisweni, izikhathi eziningi sibeka injabulo "ekumisweni". Sicabanga ukuthi sizojabula uma sifinyelela iphromoshini esiyifunayo, umsebenzi wethu wamaphupho, sibe nozakwethu ophelele noma ikhaya elikahle. Lokhu kufana nokubeka injabulo yethu njengesibambiso njengoba siyibeka ngaphansi kwamaphupho angenzeka - noma cha.
Sivame ukubeka isikhathi esiningi nomzamo ekuhleleni nasekusebenzeleni ukufeza izinjongo ezinkulu kangangokuthi siyakhohlwa ukuthi injabulo ilele ezintweni ezincane endleleni. Uma sihluleka ukujabulela uhambo, cishe lapho sifika lapho siya khona futhi sifinyelela lokho esikusebenzele kanzima, siyoba nenjabulo yesikhashana elandelwa umuzwa wobuze osishukumisela ukuba siqale kabusha umgwaqo oya khona. sifinyelele umgomo omusha - esikholelwa ukuthi kulokhu kuzoba njalo - ozosenza sijabule.
Inkinga ukuthi lo mqondo usivalela obishini olubi. Kanjalo siguqula injabulo ibe uhlobo lodaka; ibonakala ingokoqobo, kodwa uma sisondela futhi sicabanga ukuthi sesifikile kuyo, iba yisikhashana futhi inyamalale. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, esikhundleni sokujaha lolo daka ngengxenye enhle yokuphila, kungcono ukuqala ukugxila emininingwaneni emincane. Lokhu akusho ukuthi akufanele sibe nemigomo namaphupho, kodwa kufanele siqinisekise ukuthi sizama ukujabula njengoba sizama ukuwafeza.
Mayelana nalokhu, ucwaningo olwenziwa e- I-California State University waphetha ngokuthi nakuba "Ukuphishekela izinhloso kwanelisa isidingo sethu sokugcwalisa thina njengabantu", kunoku "Ukuze sigxile kakhulu emiphumeleni esiyilandelayo, kuzuzisa kakhulu ukuthuthukisa ukunaka okugcwele nokuqwashisa ngalesi sikhathi samanje, sigxile enqubweni yokufeza leyo migomo." Ngamanye amazwi, akumelwe sikhohlwe ukujabulela isikhathi samanje.
Izihluthulelo ezi-3 zokuthola injabulo ezintweni ezincane empilweni
Ingxenye enkulu yokuphila kwethu igcwele izenzakalo ezilula ezinganakwa, kungaba ngenxa yendlela yazo yansuku zonke noma ngenxa yokuthi, sizithatha kalula, sikholelwa ukuthi ziyoba khona phakade, okusivimbela ekuboneni ukubaluleka kwazo. Indlela yokuthola kabusha injabulo ezintweni ezincane ekuphileni?
1. Zizwe futhi uqonde umhlaba ngamehlo engane
Ngemuva kwamashumi eminyaka esimo senhlalo kanye neminyaka yokuphila egxile ekufinyeleleni izinjongo zethu, kunzima ukuthola kabusha injabulo emininingwaneni emincane. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, indawo enhle yokuqala ukuthatha isibonelo ezinganeni ngoba zinekhono elikhethekile lokuthola injabulo ezintweni ezilula.
Kubalulekile ukuthi sizinike imvume yokuphinda siphile njengangesikhathi siseyizingane, sivumele isimangaliso kanye nelukuluku kubuye kugcwele yonke into endleleni yabo. Ngokwesibonelo, singazama ukwenza okuthile esasingathanda ukukwenza lapho sisebancane.
2. Nqamula ukuze uxhumane nalokho okubalulekile
Siphila ngokushesha okukhulu. Njengoba singene shí kulobu buphithiphithi, asibi naso isikhathi sokuqalaza. Nokho, ukuze sazise izinto ezincane ekuphileni kufanele sifunde ukucindezela inkinobho ethi "phumuza". Kudingeka sime futhi sivume ukuba khona kwalesi sikhathi, lapha futhi manje.
Ngokwesibonelo, lapho sisebenza, singama ukuze sijabulele ilanga, indawo ephambi kwamehlo ethu, noma iphunga lekhofi elishisayo noma letiye. Lokhu kusisiza ukuthi sigcwalise amandla futhi kusigcwalise nge-positivity. Ngokufanayo, kubalulekile ukunqamula kancane kubuchwepheshe ukuze uxhumane nomhlaba osizungezile kanye nathi. Bese kwenzeka "isimangaliso": lapho sinqamula kakhulu, yilapho singakwazi khona ukuxhumana nalokho okusijabulisayo.
3. Gcina ijenali yokubonga
Ukubonga kungenye yemizwa evula umnyango wenjabulo. Ngalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuthi ungathathi lutho kalula futhi uzinike isikhathi sokubheka nxazonke futhi uzizwe ubonga. Imiphumela ye ukubonga zingashintsha kakhulu ukuphila kwethu, zisisize sibone konke esikufezile noma zonke lezo zimangaliso ezincane esizijabulela nsuku zonke.
Ziningi izinto okumele ubonge ngazo, kusukela ekuphefumuleni uwedwa ukuya ekukwazi ukuhamba, ukubona, ukuzwa, noma ukuvuka nsuku zonke. Ukwazi ukudala izikhathi ezikhumbulekayo nabangani nomndeni, ukuthanda nokuthandwa, ujabulele usuku olunelanga futhi ujabulele ubusuku obukhanya inyanga; lezi yizinto zansuku zonke, nokho, ezisivumela ukuba sizikhulule ekunganeliseki nasekuphelelweni ithemba, ezisisiza ukuba sondle isimo sethu sengqondo futhi sibhekane nempilo ngesimo sengqondo esinethemba kakhudlwana.
Njengoba sijwayela ukwazisa izinto ezincane empilweni, sisebenza ngokungazi ukuze sithuthukise umkhuba wokuthola injabulo ngemininingwane, futhi lokho kuwushintsho oluwusizo.
umthombo:
Teranishi, C. et. Al. (2020) Ukuphishekela Izinjongo Ekufuneni Injabulo: I-Mixed-Method Multidimensional Study of Well-being. I-Psi Chi Journal of Psychological Research; 25:245-259.
Umnyango Le ndaba isifundisa ukuthi injabulo isezintweni ezincane yashicilelwa okokuqala ngo Ikhona lePsychology.
