Ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kwenkinga nokungqubuzana kubalulekile ekutholeni amasu angokwengqondo asebenza kahle kakhulu ukubhekana nezimo zombili. Ukwazi izimo zethu zangaphakathi, ukuzinikeza igama nokuqonda amandla azo kuzosivumela ukuthi sibhekane nazo ngendlela engcono kakhulu futhi senze izinqumo okungeke kudingeke sizisole ngokuzayo, sigcine izifunda ezithintekayo zilawulwa ukuze sigweme. hit phansi ngokomzwelo.
Yini inkinga futhi yini engekho?
Igama elithi inkinga livame ukusetshenziselwa ukubhekisela ezimweni ezehlukene. Inkinga, isibonelo, kungaba umbuzo esingenayo impendulo yawo, kodwa futhi kungaba isimo esisenza singakhululeki futhi asazi ukuthi singaphuma kanjani kuyo.
Inkinga engokwengqondo yenzeka lapho sizama ukufinyelela isiphetho, kodwa sithola uchungechunge lwezimo ezisivimbela ekwenzeni kanjalo. Uma kunjalo, iba yisithiyo endleleni yethu ngoba asazi ukuthi siyisuse noma siyigweme kanjani.
Eqinisweni, kufanele kucaciswe ukuthi sivame ukubiza izimo eziwubunzima obulula noma izithiyo ngokuthi "inkinga". Isibonelo, uma indlela ehamba ngaphansi noma ibhasi liphuzile, kuyiphutha. Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, uhambo lukhanseliwe futhi asazi ukuthi sizofika kanjani lapho siya khona, kuyinkinga.
Ngakho-ke, izinkinga yizo zonke lezo zimo esingenaso isixazululo esisheshayo, izimo esingakwazi ukuzixazulula ngesikhathi esifanele, kangangokuthi zisiphoqa ukuba sicabange isu lokuxazulula izinkinga.
Kuyini ngempela ukungqubuzana?
Ukungqubuzana kwenzeka lapho kunezithakazelo ezimbili eziphikisanayo. Ezingxabanweni phakathi kwabantu, isibonelo, kunesimo esidinga ukuxazululwa, kodwa abantu abathintekayo abavumelani ngoba banezintshisekelo ezahlukene, abakulindele noma imibono.
Ekungqubuzaneni phakathi kwabantu, ukungezwani kwenzeka ngaphakathi kwethu. Lapho sibhekene nesimo esithile, ingxenye yethu ifuna okuthile kanti enye ifuna okuphambene. Singase siqaphele, isibonelo, ukuthi 'kufanele' senze okuthile, kodwa empeleni 'sifuna' ukwenza enye into. Noma singase sibe nemizwa ehlukene ngesikhathi esifanayo, njengokukhangwa kusiqhubela esenzweni kanye nokwesaba okusibambezelayo. Lawo mandla aphusha ezinhlangothini ezahlukene adala ukungqubuzana.
Njengezinkinga, sivame ukuchaza "izingxabano" njengezimo ezingaxabani noma izingxabano-mbumbulu. Ukuba nokungezwani noma ngisho nokuveza ukungaboni ngaso linye, ngokwesibonelo, akusho ukuba khona kokungqubuzana ngomzuzwana ngamunye. Ukuze kwenzeke ukungqubuzana, amandla amabili adinga ukumiswa esunduzana ezinhlangothini eziphambene ngaso leso sikhathi lapho la mandla kudingeka ahlangane futhi ahlangane ukuze enze isinqumo noma enze okuthile.
Ngakho-ke, izimo zokungqubuzana zibandakanya okubili okunzima ukukubalekela.
Uyini umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwenkinga nokungqubuzana?
Ngokwencazelo, ukungqubuzana kuwukungavumelani, ukungqubuzana okuvela ekungavumelani kwezahlulelo, izinjongo, izithakazelo, okucatshangwayo, iziphetho noma imibono ngezici ezithile. Kunalokho, inkinga yisimo noma isimo esibhekwa njengesingemnandi noma esilimazayo, kodwa esingeke sikwazi ukusinqoba ngokushesha ngoba sintula izinto ezibonakalayo, ingqondo, imizwa, noma ezinye izinsiza zokuthola isisombululo.
Ngakho-ke, umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwenkinga nokungqubuzana usemlingiswa wayo. Nakuba ukungqubuzana kunohlamvu oluhlukene ngenxa yokuthi kuhlala kuhilela okungenani izikhundla ezimbili eziphikisanayo noma amandla, ngisho noma kuwukungqubuzana phakathi kwabantu, izinkinga zihlushwa yilokhu kuhlukana ngoba zisho kuphela ubunzima, ukungabaza noma ukungaqiniseki okufanele sikuxazulule.
Njengoba lezi kungamaqiniso ahlukene angokwengqondo, indlela yokubhekana nazo nayo ihlukile. Akukhona nje ukuqondana, ukuthi kukhona kokubili amasu namasu okuxazulula izingxabano ukuxazululwa kwenkinga.
Izindlela zokuxazulula izingxabano zigxile ekuhlanganiseni amandla ahlukene ukuze kuxazululwe ukungqubuzana. Kokubili ngokomuntu siqu kanye nangaphakathi komuntu, umuntu usebenza ukuze aqonde okuhle nokubi kwesikhundla ngasinye, athole indawo efanayo, azibekele umgomo, acacise ukuyekethisa okudingeka kwenziwe, futhi ekugcineni azibophezele ekushintsheni.
Kunalokho, amasu we ukuxazululwa kwenkinga ziyizinqubo ezigxile ekutholeni izixazululo. Nakuba bebona kusengaphambili ukuhlaziya isimo futhi bacabangele inhloso esifuna ukuyifinyelela, umsebenzi ugxile kakhulu ekukhuthazeni ukucabanga okuhlukene okuveza imibono yokusungula neyokuqala ukususa isithiyo noma ukuphendula ukungabaza.
Ngakho-ke, nakuba izindlela zokuxazulula izingxabano zithuthukisa ukuhlangana, amasu okuxazulula izinkinga akhuthaza ukuhlukana. Umehluko endleleni yokubhekana nenkinga nokungqubuzana kungenxa yokuthi nakuba kokubili ngokuvamile kuholela ekukhubazekeni, izindlela zabo zengqondo eziyisisekelo zihlukile.
Ekungqubuzaneni, ukukhubazeka kungenxa yamandla ahlukene aphushela ezinhlangothini eziphambene, okudala ukungazinqumeli kanye nokusigcina siboshelwe esimweni. Kunalokho, izikhathi eziningi izinkinga ziyasivimba ngenxa yethu ukuqina kwengqondo; okusho ukuthi, eqinisweni asikwazi ukubona ngale kwalokho okwenzekayo ukuze sithole izixazululo.
Izinkinga nezingxabano: amaqiniso amabili angewona akhethekile
Empilweni yethu yansuku zonke sibhekana nezinkinga eziningi nezingxabano. Ngokuvamile lezi yizimo ezingabalulekile esingazixazulula ngokushesha futhi sizikhohlwe. Kodwa kwezinye izimo izinkinga nezingxabano zingaqondana, zibangele ubuhlungu obukhulu obungokomzwelo obuholela ekukhubazekeni.
Ngokwesibonelo, singase sibhekane nezinkinga ezibalulekile okungase kube nezixazululo ezidala izingxabano zangaphakathi. Kulezi zimo, izixazululo esizibonayo ziyangqubuzana, kangangokuthi asikwazi ukunquma. Ngaleyo ndlela udweshu lugcina lubhebhethekisa futhi lwandise inkinga.
Nokho, okuphambene nakho kungenzeka: i izingxabano ezifihliwe bangadala izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bethu nabanye abantu noma emhlabeni wethu wangaphakathi. Kulezi zimo inkinga ingagcina isibhebhethekisa udweshu, isilahlekisele ekukhubazekeni nasekukhathazekeni.
Ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kwenkinga nokungqubuzana, kanye nezindlela ezingokwengqondo eziwumgogodla wayo, kuzosisiza ukuba sikhanyise ngokwenzekayo ukuze sithole indlela engcono kakhulu noma, okungenani, kusinikeze umnyakazo wokuphuma kuyo. isimo sokukhubazeka esikhathazayo ngokomzwelo.
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Umnyango Umehluko phakathi kwenkinga nokungqubuzana kufanele wazi yashicilelwa okokuqala ngo Ikhona lePsychology.
