Amandla abelokhu ebhekwa njengobuhle. Ukuqina empilweni kuhlotshaniswa nokuqina, ukuqina nokulinganisela ngokomzwelo. Ngokungangabazeki, sonke sifuna ukuba namandla. Eqinisweni, ukuphila ngokwako kusifundisa ukuba yikho futhi kuyikhono okumelwe silithuthukise. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi sizithola sibambeke kakhulu endimeni yokuba “namandla” kangangokuthi sigcina siziphushela ngaphezu kwemingcele yethu. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuba namandla kuyasiphula. Kulokhu kufanele sifunde ukuqina empilweni, kodwa futhi kufanele sifunde ukuma, ukudonsa umoya noma ukumane siphumule.
Kukhona isikhathi sokubambelela nesikhathi sokudedela
Ngo-2020, umpetha womhlaba ongumpetha womhlaba u-Simone Biles wamangala wonke umuntu ngemuva kokuhoxa emqhudelwaneni wama-Olympics e-Tokyo. Yize ephumelele ukungena kwabane bokugcina, uthe akasazethembi kangako futhi "Ubengafuni ukuphumela lapho enze into ewubuphukuphuku futhi alimale." Uphinde wathi kumele abeke phambili impilo yakhe yengqondo. "Kudingeka sivikele izingqondo nemizimba yethu hhayi nje ukwenza lokho izwe elifuna sikwenze," Uthe.
UJacinda Ardern, uNdunankulu waseNew Zealand, naye wesule izolo. Esinqumweni esingajwayelekile enkundleni yezepolitiki, uvumile: “Ngiyesula ngoba indima ebaluleke kangaka ihlanganisa izibopho. Isibopho sokwazi ukuthi ungumuntu ofanele ukubusa nini nalapho ungeyena. Ngiyazi ukuthi lo msebenzi uhlanganisani. Futhi ngiyazi ukuthi anginawo amandla anele okuqhubeka nokumenzela ubulungiswa. Yilokho kuphela!"
Izibonelo zabo ziseyivelakancane emhlabeni wabantu abahlonishwayo emphakathini futhi abashodi abagxekayo uma behlehla, kodwa iqiniso lithi kwesinye isikhathi kudinga isibindi esikhulu ukudedela kunokubambelela. Ngezinye izikhathi akufanele nje sifunde ukuba namandla, kodwa futhi sibonise ubuthakathaka bethu. Ngoba ukuhlakanipha kweqiniso nokulinganisela kuhlanganisa ukwazi ukuthi kunesikhathi sokumelana nesikhathi sokudedela.
Isisindo sokuba namandla ngokomzwelo
Ukuqina empilweni kungaba ilebula esizikhomba ngalo, isiqu esinikezwe sona, noma "isifihla-buso" esisigqokayo esihlobana ngaso nabanye kanye nathi. Lapho sesifunde ukuqina ngokomzwelo, umqondo wokuyeka noma ukwehluleka awufiki ngisho nasezingqondweni zethu, ngakho-ke singalindela okukhulu kakhulu kithi, kuze kube yilapho siphelelwa amandla namandla, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Ukuqina empilweni ngokuvamile kusho ukuzenza amandla ongasenawo noma ongakwazi ukuveza ubuhlungu ngendlela esingathanda ngayo. Izikhathi eziningi kuhlanganisa nokuvikela abanye, ngisho nasekwesabeni kwakho nokungazethembi.
Eqinisweni, ngokuvamile abantu abanamandla ngokomzwelo baba yinsika yomndeni wabo, iqembu labasebenzi noma abangani. Abanye bayakubona ukuqina kwabo futhi babanikeze leyo ndima, ngokuvamile ngaphandle kwemvume ecacile.
Kuvamile ukuthi lapho umuntu enamandla futhi eqinile, uzimisele kakhulu ukuxazulula izimo eziyinkinga futhi aphumelele kakhulu ekubhekaneni nezingqinamba. Sebekushilo lokho, abanye baqala ukuphathisa ukuphatha izinkinga zabo kuye. Bacabanga, njengokungathi kuyinto engokwemvelo, ukuthi kulungile ukuthwala umthwalo wezinkinga nobunzima babo phezu kwabo.
Ngenxa yalokho, abantu abanamandla ngokomzwelo bagcina bethwele umthwalo osindayo kakhulu emahlombe abo, ngoba izinkinga zabo nokungazethembi kuhlanganiswe nokwabanye.
Yebo, akukho lutho olungalungile ngalawo mandla asenza insika yabanye, inqobo nje uma singayibamba leyo ndima. Abanye abantu banekhono elikhudlwana lokunqoba ubunzima nokubhekana nobunzima, okubabeka ethubeni elihle kunabanye.
Nokho, ngisho nabantu abanamandla bayakhathala. Ngezinye izikhathi bangase bangakwazi ukuyifeza leyo ndima, kodwa noma kunjalo, abanye balindele ukuba baqhubeke benza kanjalo, ngisho nalapho belahlekelwa impilo yabo engokwengqondo noma engokomzimba. Ngaleso sikhathi, amandla kuba inkinga.
Isimo siba nzima nakakhulu lapho umgcini wezinkinga - ezinkulu noma ezincane - egcina ebizwa ukuthi abambe iqhaza lakhe, okumenza azizwe enecala uma enqaba noma enqaba ukwenza lokho. Phakathi naleso sikhathi abanye baqeda ngokuthatha isikhundla esinethezekile, cishe esobungane, belahla ingxenye yokuzimela kanye nesibopho sabo.
Uma lowo muntu engenawo amandla okuhoxa endimeni yakhe athi "sekwanele!", kungenzeka ukuthi uzogcina eshile.
Ukuphula isikhunta
Ebudlelwaneni nomuntu onamandla ngokomzwelo, kuvame ukuba nezakhi zokukhohlisa. Lokho “kuqinile” kungagcina sekuyithuluzi leningi - ngokuvamile ngokungazi. Kanjalo kukhiqizwa umbuthano ononya. Amandla ashintsha kuphela lapho umuntu engasakwazi ukukuthatha futhi ebhekana nomonakalo othile omenza angasebenzi emehlweni abanye ukuze angakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthatha leyo ndima.
Kodwa-ke, ukuze ugweme ukufika endaweni yokuphuka, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungamisa kanjani ngaphambili. Kumele uqaphele ukuthi wonke umuntu, ngisho nabanamandla kakhulu ngokomzwelo, unelungelo lokuphumula, ukuzwa ukwesaba futhi engazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, ukuveza imizwa yakho, ukuba namawala, ukuwa, ukuphefumula nokuphumula. Ngoba, ekugcineni, wonke umuntu kufanele abe nesibopho ngenjabulo yakhe. Futhi uma sinamandla kakhulu, leyo ndima izogcina isenze buthaka, ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
Umnyango Ukuba namandla empilweni, "i-contraindications" okungekho muntu okutshela yona yashicilelwa okokuqala ngo Ikhona lePsychology.
