Bangaki kini, lapho nje izwe selimenyezelwe ukuthi libomvu ngokuphelele, selinabo faka ubuqili ekhabetheni yokugezela futhi, ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbili, sebenakho ngokuphelele kwasusa ubukhona bazo? Kujwayelekile impela ukuthi usebenzise imali izinsuku zonke ekhaya, mhlawumbe ku solitudine, lesi senzo so ejwayelekile (kwabanye, kunjalo) bekunjalo kukhishwe ngokuphelele esimisweni esisha. Futhi, noma ngabe kungabonakala kuwe okungenangqondo, kukhona abanye "Budedengu" ezigcinwe zigcinwa ngokwethembeka okungenamkhawulo kulo mkhuba. Ngempela, ngokuhlukaniswa, okwabo sekuyinto isidingo sangempela. Kodwa uyazi ukuthi, mhlawumbe mhlawumbe, awona wonke amaphutha? Ake sithole ukuthi kungani!
Ukucabanga okuncane kuyadingeka: kufanele kugcizelelwe, empeleni, ukuthi wonke umuntu unakho indlela yomuntu siqu yokuthola ukuthula kulesi "sihogo" e akufanele yahlulelwe kwalokhu. Sihlala sishumayela inani lenkululeko, kumele kube yimalini lokhu ilungelo elingenakuphikiswa okwethu sonke, ngakho-ke wonke umuntu makabe ukhululekile ukuzizwa kahle njengoba ebona kufanelekile futhi - ngaphezu kwakho konke - uyaphumelela, noma ngabe ufuna ukuqhubeka nokugcoba noma cha, noma ngabe uyakujabulela ukuxova ama-pizza ngaphandle kokuma, noma ngabe umzamo wakhe omkhulu wokupheka ukufaka ukudla okufriziwe ukufudumeze ngemicrowave. Ekuphetheni, Phila uphile!
1. Ukuzethemba
Owesifazane futhi okhangayo, le yindlela abanye abantu abafuna ukuzizwa ngayo yize behlukanisiwe ngenkani. Ugqhozu lwakho iphakathi kwe- izithako ezisemqoka ukubhekana nomzuzwana wobunzima ngqo. I- trucco, kulokhu, kunendima ebalulekile, kepha akusetshenziswanga kuphela lapho kukhona abanye. Kukholwe noma ungakukholwa, ungahle uthande ukubukeka umuhle kakhulu ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuthi othile ajabulele futhi afakaze ngobuhle bethu. Masikhumbule, empeleni, lokho asikulangazeleli ukwaziswa, kwesinye isikhathi, sidinga nje ukuzwa omunye nomunye ngokukhululeka phambi kwesibuko.
2. Umuzwa wokujwayelekile
Awusazi ukuthi usuku luni, iyiphi inyanga nenkathi esikuyo, namanje awusalikhumbuli igama lakho? Yebo, konke kujwayelekile. Isimo esibhekene naso sifaka okuthile umthamo wokuhlukaniswa futhi i imiphumela okuvela kuyo kungahle kube nakho umthelela omkhulu kwi-psyche yethu. Lolu bhubhane lune kuyicasule kakhulu inqubo yethu futhi akulula ukudala okusha kungenalutho. Ake sizame, ke, uku ukulungiselela okungenani lokho ukusetshenziswa namasiko esingazinikezela kukho ngisho nangaphakathi kwezindonga zendlu. Ukuzenzela kungenye yalezi. Ukuthi bekuyinto eyodwa uthando noma, kancane, eyodwa inkambiso, masingayishiyi eshalofini elinothuli. Phinda konke lokho ukushukuma komzimba benza ingxenye yokuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke kuzosisiza uku ungalahli ulwazi lwamaqiniso futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, a sikhumbuze ukuthi singobani.
3. Ezokuzijabulisa
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukugxila esenzweni uqobo, ngakho-ke kuzo zonke izinyathelo ezibandakanya inqubo yobuhle, kwenza okwethu ingqondo si phazamisa okwesikhashana emicabangweni ekhathazayo uphinde uthole kabusha umuzwa wokuthula.
4. Ukuzinakekela
Ake sizame shintsha umbono esibheka ngazo izinto: isikhathi esithathiwe ngesikhathi sokwakheka ngu isikhathi esisinikezela kithina, impela hhayi ukuchitha. Ikakhulukazi manje, lapho imizwa yethu ishintshashintsha nsuku zonke, ingeyethu i-sacrosanct kwesokudla usitotose, usinikeze lezo ukunakwa esivame ukuzincisha zona futhi esivame ukukuqinisekisa kuphela kwabanye.
5. Ithemba
Gcoba izimonyo kungukuthi isiko lobuhle… .Ngukuthi esimweni esihle. Izimonyo empeleni ziphuma ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene imiphumela ezuzisayo hhayi kuphela ezingeni lobuhle, kodwa futhi ezingeni lezengqondo. Ukukhetha kokugcoba izimonyo njalo ekuseni ngemuva kwesidlo sasekuseni esimnandi kusinikeza inkokhelo edingekayo ukubhekana kangcono nosuku lwethu, ngisho naphakathi nobhadane. Ngaphandle kwalokho sibuyisele ukukhanya silahlekile phakathi kokukhathazeka nezindaba ezicindezelayo, lokhu kuziphatha kungaba kithi umthombo osheshayo wethemba. Ukusho ukuthi kunjalo Umphumela We-Lipstick, isifundo esenziwa ngo-2017 eHarvard, ngokusho kwaso, abantu abafaka izimonyo banesimo sengqondo esingcono inhlonipho ngempilo nezwe elibazungezile. Kungaba yingakho, idatha isesandleni, ngezikhathi zenhlekelele izindebe zomlomo ezibomvu ziphakathi kwemikhiqizo edayiswa kakhului? Ngamafuphi, ukwakheka okuhle kwakudala kuvela ukuthi kube ally ebalulekile ukuthola futhi ukusiqhenya futhi, ngenxa yalokho, emandleni esikhathi esizayo.
