Indlela yokukhala lapho sizizwa sinesidingo, kepha izinyembezi zilwela ukuphuma emehlweni ethu? Ukukhala okuhle ingaba wusizo ku- baveze okwabo emozioni, okuvamise ukuthi kube ngathi "kuvinjelwe": uma ukhala, ukhululiwe ukucindezeleka e uzizwa ungcono ngokushesha! Masithole ndawonye ukuthi kungani futhi kufanele ukhale kanjani, Igxathu emvakwe gxathu. Okwamanje, hlola ividiyo yethu ekukhumbuza ukuthi ikhala ngobani davvero più forte:
Ungakhala kanjani: kungani ukukhala okuhle kukufanele?
Ukukhala akuyona uphawu lokuba buthakathaka, kunalokho! Ukukhala okuhle kungasiza umzimba wethu ukuthi unciphise ukucindezeleka, kukhethe okwethu Impilo yengqondo-ngokomzimba. Ukugcina imizwa ngaphakathi kuwe akukuhle neze, futhi labo abakuthola kunzima ukuveza imizwa yabo bazibeka engcupheni yokuzihlukanisa: kuthinta impilo yabo, umzimba nengqondo!
Labo abakhalayo kababuthakathaka nakancane: Umuntu okhalayo angenza ngokuzethemba ukukhetha noma athathe izinyathelo zesibindi. Ngokuqinisekile akuzona izinyembezi eze emehlweni akhe ezichaza umuntu! Ukukhala okuhleimpela, kungasiza kuphela: kanye umuzwa we ubuhlungu, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, ukulahla ithemba, uzozizwa ungcono ngokushesha, ukulungele ngokwengeziwe ukuqhubekela phambili futhi ubhekane nalokho okuzayo.
Ukukhala kunezinzuzo eziningi: kuyasiza ukukhulula ukungezwani, ukukhipha imizwa okusenza sizizwe kabi noma esisazizwa ngathi "sinamandla" Ukukhipha leyo mizwa kukufanele! Ukukhala kuqeda ingcindezi, kwehlisa ukushaya kwegazi, isiza ukuqeda ubuthi i- i-rabi kusenza sinqwabelane ngaphakathi.
Kungabonakala sengathi ukukhala kunjalo i-panacea yangempela yezempilo, futhi ukusho ukuthi yisayensi! Kodwa-ke, uma uzizwa uvinjelwe, uma ujwayele ukunqanda izinyembezi ngoba uqiniseka ngephutha ukuthi lokhu kukwenza uqine futhi awazi ukukhala, ungakhathazeki: qhubeka ufunda futhi sizothola ndawonye izinyathelo ezahlukahlukene ezinconyiwe ezingeni lezengqondo ukuze ekugcineni uphumelele kuzo vumela umusi ngokukhala okuhle kukhulula!
Ungakhala kanjani ukukhipha imizwa yakho: izinyathelo zokuqala
Indlela yokukhala lapho sizwa isidingo, kepha asikwazi ukuphuma izinyembezi emehlweni? Isinyathelo sokuqala uku thola indawo efanele ukwazi ukukhala ngokuthula. Imvamisa kunzima ngathi ukukhala ngoba sesaba ukuthi othile uzosilalela: zibaze indawo ethule, konke okwakhe, ukuze akwazi ukukhipha imizwa yakhe ngaphandle kokuphendula kunoma ngubani kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni ukwazi ukukhala!
Ekhaya, ungakhetha ukuzivalela endlini yangasese (mhlawumbe eshaweni!), noma ekamelweni lokulala. Uma indlu yakho igcwele, noma kunjalo, thatha imoto bese ufinyelela indawo ethule, konke okwenu. Okubalulekile ukuthi uzizwe uzolile futhi uzolile ongakwenza khipha imizwa yakho ngaphandle kokuzwa ukwahlulelwa noma ukukhathazeka ngokuthi abanye abantu bazocabangani.
Isinyathelo sesibili uku gxila kokukwenza uzizwe ungalungile: gxila kumzwelo omubi ozizwa unesidingo sokuveza hhayi "ukuwenqaba", wamukele! Imvamisa labo abangakhali isikhathi eside abakwazi ukuzikhulula ngoba bazama ngayo yonke indlela ukukwenza ziphazamise ngezinye izinhlobo zemicabango. Ukukhala nokuzikhulula, noma kunjalo, kuyadingeka "Hlala" kulowo muzwa, noma ngabe ayinhle, yamukele njengengxenye yakho, yalokho okuhlangabezanayo. Noma yiluphi uhlobo lobuhlungu kufanele ludlule. Ukuyilahla akusizi ukuyinqoba, kepha kubandakanya kuphela ingozi yokuzihlukanisa noma ukusenza sithuke kakhulu noma sibe nolaka.
Vumela imizwa yakho ivele: ngemuva kokukhala nokukhala okuhle uzozizwa ungcono!
Uma uhlala igxile emizweni engemihle ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, ngalokho okukwenza uzizwe ungalungile, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzama ukukuphazamisa e uxoshe imicabango emibi kakhulu, lapho-ke uzozwa izinyembezi zicindezela ngemuva kwamehlo akho. Uma kukhona okwenzekile okukwenza ube lusizi ngokukhethekile, gxila ekutheni kubi kangakanani, ukuthi ufisa sengathi ngabe akukaze kwenzeke kangakanani, nokuthi impilo yakho izoshintsha kanjani manje… Dlula kule mizwa emibi uzobona ukuthi izinyembezi zizofika! Imizwelo kufanele ibe nakho konke, noma ngabe ingemihle ... kuyingxenye yempilo!
Vele asikhali kanjalo, khona lapho, sicabanga nje ngalokho okusenza siphatheke kabi: udinga ukuzinika isikhathi esithile ngoba imizwa engemihle "iyakhuphuka" ngaphakathi kuwe, ikuhlasele, kuze kufike ezingeni lokukhipha izinyembezi. Vumela le mizwa ukuhudulela phansi nabo, ize ithinte ezansi: ukuphela kwendlela, lapho-ke ukuze ukwazi ukubuyela emuva uphinde umomotheke futhi! Uma ugxila futhi Ngempela "phila" le mizwa ukukhala okuhle okukhululayo kuzofika kungekudala futhi uzokwazi ukudedela intuthu. Khala, ukhale ungesabi, zize ziyeke izinyembezi zodwa. Ungazami ukuzivimba ngokwakho, kodwa zilahle konke: ubuhlungu buzophuma emehlweni akho kanye nezinyembezi futhi uzozizwa ulula ngokushesha!
Kwesokudla, ukukhala okukhululayo ngeke ixazulule inkinga yakho, kepha ngokuqinisekile izokwenza uzizwe ukhululekile. Ukukhala ngeke kukujabulise, kodwa kuzokujabulisa ukukhathazeka kancane, bese uzilungiselela isinyathelo esilandelayo: ukubhekana nenkinga ngokwakhayo, zisabela ngendlela efanele.
Indlela yokukhala: amaqhinga amancane wokuvula izinyembezi
Ngabe usazibuza ukuthi uzokhala kanjani, ukukwenza kanjani ngokwenza? Kukhona amaqhinga amancane angenza ukuthi ukukhala kube lula. Izinyembezi, empeleni, zingaba njalo "Siza" ukushiya amehlo akho kokunye kusho ukuthi ukhipha imizwa yosizi noma usizi kuwe. Ungathola usizo, ngokwesibonelo, ezinye izithombe ezindala: uma ushonelwe umuntu omthandayo futhi ungakwazi ukukhala, bheka izithombe ezithathwe naye ngomzuzu wenjabulo kungakusiza ukukhala ulahle kanjalo bonke ubuhlungu bakho.
Futhi umculo ungenza umsebenzi ofanayo we-cathartic: kungahle kube ukulalela iculo elidabukisayo, elifana nomoya wakho, noma elikhumbula izinkumbulo ezithile, ezihlobene nokuthi yini ekugulisayo. Ekugcineni, zama ukubheka ifilimu elibuhlungu noma elihambayo: ingavusa imizwa ngaphakathi kuwe engakuholela ekukhaleni okuhle okukhululayo. Uzocabanga ukuthi ukhalela i-movie kuphela, kodwa empeleni khalazela ulwazi lwakho nemizwa yakho leyo filimu ikwazile ukuzwakala ngayo.
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