Ngokwezibalo zocwaningo lwabasebenzisi be-intanethi, i-candaulism iya ngokuya yanda kakhulu phakathi kwabo bobabili imibhangqwana engabobulili obuhlukile kunalezo ongqingili. Lo mkhuba wezocansi uqukethe ukubuka umlingani wakho enobudlelwano nomunye umuntu. Ngokwenza njalo, iziveza ngokuphelele nqunu nokusondelana nomuntu ongeyena umlingani wakho ojwayelekile. Kepha yini ngempela ebangela lo mkhuba wezocansi? Bangobani ama-candaulists?
Jabulela ukubuka umuntu wakho enza ucansi… nomunye umuntu
Il candaulism kungumkhuba wezocansi oqukethe uzizwe ujabulile ngenkathi uyabona umaqondana wakho - noma umlingani wakho - ukuya ocansini nomuntu wesithathu. Eqinisweni, i-candaulism ihlobene kakhulu nokuvusa lokho lo mbono inikeza. Ngokuyisisekelo, i-candaulism ingaba maphakathi ngokwengeziwe futhi ibe yisithelo sesifiso esivele lapho othile ebeka umbono wakhe kumlingani wakhe.
Kaningi, kunjalo indoda ethambekele kakhulu kulokhu kuziphatha kocansi, njengoba enesifiso sokubona othandekayo wakhe ebabazeka abanye noma lapho enobudlelwano nenye indoda.
ICandaulism inomsuka ongokomlando obuyela emuvaVIII leminyaka BC. Konke kuqala nge AmaCandaule, inkosi yaseLydia, eyathola ukuthi unkosikazi wayo muhle kakhulu wayemfuna yabelana ngentelezi yalo namanye amadoda ebamema ukuthi bazobuka. Ngemuva kwalokho wacela unogada wakhe, uGyges, ukuthi qaphela ngasese indlovukazi emakamelweni ayo, nangezikhathi zakhe ezibizwa kakhulu. Owesifazane, nokho, wakubona lokhu, wehliswa umyalo owanikezwa ngumyeni wakhe, wacela uGyges ukuthi ambulale ukuze athathe isikhundla sakhe esihlalweni sobukhosi sikaLydia.
Le ndaba ichaza yona kanye le ncazelo yalo mkhuba: omunye wabalingani balezi zithandani uyakujabulela ukwenza umuntu angamazi ababaze omunye. Kwabe sekuguqukela ekubeni nentshisekelo yokubona umuntu wesifazane noma owesilisa ukuba nobudlelwano ngokomzimba nomuntu wesithathu.
Ngempela zikhona izindlela ezahlukene ukuqhuba i-candaulism:
- Owesifazane uya ocansini nesithandwa sakhe phambi komlingani;
- Le ndoda kungahle kungabikho ngezikhathi zangaphandle komshado futhi umane uzizwe uvusa inkanuko lapho umkakhe umtshela ngothando lwakhe noma umbonise izithombe namavidiyo;
- Ngendlela eyeqisayo ye-candaulism, owesifazane nesithandwa sakhe bangaba nakho isikhundla esiphakeme maqondana nomuntu. Ibizwa ngokuthi i-triolagnia noma ikhukhamba, eyodwa umkhuba we-sadomasochistic equkethe i-hlazisa umuntu onamagama abuhlungu noma imikhuba. Lo mkhuba wenziwa ngemvume yomuntu ophethe, ngenhloso eyodwa yokwanelisa injabulo yakhe.
Kwezinye izimo, indoda ingabamba iqhaza ebudlelwaneni bezocansi umfazi wayo anabo nomunye. Lokhu akuvamile, ngoba kufana ne- jika noma ukuzimisela ukuya ocansini nabantu abaningi, njenge ubuhlobo bezindlela ezintathu.
I-Candaulist: uyini umehluko ne-voyeurist, umbukiso noma iswinger?
Il i-voyeurism kuwumkhuba lapho umuntu, i Voyeur, qaphela abantu ngaphandle kolwazi lwabo. Kukweqisa okuphambene ne-candaulism, ngoba kumayelana nokujabula ukubona umlingani wakho enza ucansi, ngemvume yakho.
Theumbukiso isenzo se khombisa izitho zakho zobulili esidlangalaleni e akubandakanyi umlingani nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mkhuba awuvunyelwe njengezingozi zombukiso unyaka owodwa ejele e inhlawulo yama-euro ayi-15.000. Kwi-candaulism akukho lapho kukhulunywa khona ngendawo yomphakathi futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, iphupho lisuselwa ekuboneni umlingani womunye nomunye futhi hhayi nje ukuvela.
Lo ukujuluka o jika kuwumkhuba ohilela bobabili abalingani balo mbhangqwana, njengoba bobabili benquma ukuthandana nabanye abantu ababili vele behlangene kwezothando. Kulomkhuba, isasasa lokubona umlingani wakho enza ucansi nenye indoda kungaba yisici. KuCandaulism, Ubumnandi abuhlobene neze nesenzo socansi, kusukelaekubukeni kuphela Komunye umuntu obabazayo nabazisa umlingani wabo kungenzeka anele ukukhulisa isifiso sobulili.
Yini eholela kulo mkhuba wobulili?
Uma lo mkhuba wezocansi ungakwenzi kulimaza lezi zithandani, ukuba yi-candaulist akuyona hhayi i-pathological noma inkomba yenkinga phakathi kwabalingani bobabili.
Empeleni, kufihla isidingo sokuqinisa ukuzazisa komuntu, ngezizathu ezimbili:
- Noma umuntu unaye ukungazethembi neqiniso lokukhombisa umlingani wakhe emehlweni abanye, lokubabona benomona futhi befuna umlingani wakhe kumnika umuzwa wamandla okuzomsiza ukuba avuse eyakhe isifiso sobulili nokumjabulisa.
- O akakwazi ukwanelisa umlingani wakhe futhi ukumvumela ukuba enze uthando komunye umuntu kuyindlela yokuba ezwe injabulo nokuthokozela, phambi kwamehlo akhe. Kungaba njalo uhlobo lokwaneliseka kwezocansi.
Kunoma ikuphi, khetha ukwenza i-candaulism kuyisinqumo okufanele sande kubantu abashadile, ikakhulukazi ukuyilondoloza.
Ingabe i-candaulism ingabhubhisa ubudlelwano bomshado?
Noma yimuphi umkhuba wezocansi ngaphandle "kokujwayelekile" (okuquketheukuya ocansini kuphela nomlingani noma intombi yakho, noma okuthiwa ubulili kuphela) kungabonisa ubungozi bokubeka impilo yomuntu engozini njengombhangqwana.
Okokuqala, udinga ukuthi ube nakho ingxoxo enhle phakathi kwabalingani ukwazi ukukhuluma ngokusobala ngezifiso, ukwesaba nokunye ukuphazamiseka komunye ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo ukwenza umkhuba othile wezocansi.
Uma owesilisa noma owesifazane ekwazi futhi amukela ukuphambuka kwezocansi okufunwa ngumlingani wakhe, i-candaulism ingaba njalo indlela yokuhlola imikhuba emisha yezocansi ehlose ukukhulisa isifiso sobulili nenjabulo kulaba abashadile. Ingozi enkulu ukuthi omunye umlingani angagcina ngokufuna kuphela ukuya ocansini ngokwenza i-candaulism. Njengendlela yokulutha.
Okokubhalansia kwezithandani kungcono nakakhulu lokho i-candaulism ayisona isiphetho kukodwa. Impilo yabantu bobulili obubili kufanele ikwazi ukuba khona ngaphandle kwalo mkhuba.
Uma, ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane ene-orgasm kuphela nenye indoda athandana nayo, noma ngabe owakwakhe "osemthethweni" ekuqaleni ejabule futhi ejabule ukumbona ezizwa ejabule, lokhu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu ithonye futhi ekugcineni ubudlelwano balezi zithandani bungonakala.
Eqinisweni, lapho i-candaulism ingagcini ngokubonakala nje ulala nomunye umuntu, ifinyelela ezingeni lokulala nomunye umuntu, kukhona nengozi yokuthi kungavela uhlobo oluthile lomona.
Ekugcineni, womabili amalungu alo mbhangqwana kufanele abe nesifiso sangempela sokuzibophezela, ngaphandle kwengcindezi noma isigqebhezana kunoma ngubani wabo. Umlingani kufanele azimisele ukwenza lolu hlobo lwezocansi.
