Il ubumnandi bezocansi, kanye nokugcwalisa imizimba yethu ngemizwa, kuvela ekwazisweni komzimba womuntu nasekwanelisekeni kwezidingo nezifiso zomuntu.
Ubumnandi obubonakala busobala futhi bungafinyelelwa yiwo wonke umuntu, kepha akunjalo; empeleni, ubumnandi obutholakala ocansini noma ekuziphatheni okuzenzakalelayo kwenza abanye abantu babe yi-utopia yangempela: lokhu kunjalo ngezihloko umabhebhana.
Yini i-alexithymia?
Uhlaka olufushane lomlando ukwenza lula ukuqonda nokuxubha eminye imibono. Isikhathi alexithimia yahlanganiswa nguPeter Sifneos (1973) engxenyeni yokuqala yama-70 ukukhombisa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuhlobene nobunzima obuthile bokuphila, ukukhomba nokuxhumana kwemizwa (kusuka esiGrekini I-alpha = ukungabikho, i-lexis = ulimi, i-thymos = imizwa, okungukuthi "ukungabi khona kwamagama ngemizwa").
Ukwakhiwa kwalungiswa kusuka ekubukeni kweziguli ezinezifo "zakudala" ze-psychosomatic futhi iminyaka eminingi bekuthathwa njengokufana kwazo ngoba bekucatshangwa ukuthi kuxhumene ngqo ne-psychosomatic pathologies. Phakathi kwezici zomtholampilo zeziguli zengqondo, amaSifneos afaka:
- ubunzima obuphawulwe ekuchazeni imizwa nokuyazi;
- ukunciphisa imisebenzi yengqondo ehlangene nefantasy;
- ukukhathazeka okuphawulwe ngezinto ezinokhonkolo nemininingwane yemvelo yangaphandle kanye neyomzimba wakho;
- isitayela sokucabanga simisiwe ku-stimuli futhi singakwazi ukuqhubeka nokucaciswa (Taylor, 1977; 1984).
Ngakho-ke i-Alexithymia iqukethe eyodwa ukwehla kwemizwa okubandakanya kumuntu ukungakwazi noma ubunzima bokukhomba nokuxhumana nemizwa yakhe nokuhlangana kabusha nokwabanye.
Lesi simo sithinta ukuxhumana nobudlelwano nabanye, sikhiqize okukodwa ukunqanyulwa okuthinta umzimba, imizwa nokusondelana. Sikhuluma ngobunzima okuthi ngaphambi kokuba ube nenkanuko yesimo othintekayo nokomzwelo. Phakathi kwezici ezahlukahlukene zalesi simo, ngihlose ukugxila kulokhu kokugcina.
I-anesthesia engokomzwelo futhi ethintekayo ebangela uchungechunge lonke lwezimpawu zengqondo, eziphindaphinda nezimo zobulili bomuntu.
Laba bantu babonakala bengenandaba, bebanda futhi bengenandaba nezocansi uma empeleni bengakwazi ukuzwa imizwa ezingeni lomzimba.
"I-Alexithymia imele ukunqanyulwa phakathi komzimba nengqondo okwenza isipiliyoni semizwa yakho kungasebenzi futhi kwenze umuntu angakwazi ukuphila ngemizwa yakhe nangokobulili".
Isihloko se-alexithymic, njengoba singakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ziyini izifiso zabo nokujabulela imizwa yabo, ayitholi injabulo ngokuya ocansini ngakho-ke uyayenqaba noma ayiphindisele emsebenzini olula wokuhlangana.
I-Alexithymics ibike ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini, esikhundleni sokugxila kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo okubandakanya, bayahlukaniswa futhi bacabange ngokunye. Lokhu kuvimbela umuntu ekuchazeni isici esivelele sesipiliyoni futhi ngenxa yalokho kwenza kube nzima ukuthola injabulo ekuvuseleleni ngokocansi uqobo. Uma isisusa socansi singabonwa noma sibonwe njengomthombo wenjabulo, kuso ayifunwa.
Yonke imizwelo ebhekiswe kuwe futhi enye iyacindezelwa kusukela lapho ithemba lobumnandi alikho futhi konke kuhlala kugxile emsebenzini. Lokhu, kanye nesithombe esingajwayelekile esithinta inkanuko, kuvimbela impendulo yezocansi, ngaleyo ndlela kuvune ukusungulwa kochungechunge lwezinkinga zokuya ocansini ezifana ukujula ngaphambi kwesikhathi e ilibele, i-erectile ukungasebenzi, isifiso sokuphazamiseka, anorgasmia.
Ngabe konke lokhu kubathinta kanjani laba abashadile?
Lesi sifo sinemiphumela enamandla kulabo abashadayo kangangokuba isihloko se-alexithymic sifika ekubonisaneni ngokwelashwa hhayi ngokuzikhethela, kepha ngoba sihudulwa ngumlingani othukutheliswe ukungakwazi kokushintshana okungokomzwelo nokungabikho kokwabelana. Ukwenqaba okucashile nokungacasuli okwenziwe okuvuselela imizwa yomlingani ka ukungabi namandla, ukudumazeka e i-rabi: kulokhu kutholakala ukuqhubekela phambili okuqhubekayo kusuka endimeni yezocansi yomyeni / yomfazi noma yokuhlala ndawonye futhi endaweni yayo leyo yoMnikezeli Wokunakekela, i-alexithmic ethembele kuye ngamandla, yenza indlela yayo. Kuma-athikili azayo ngizobhekana nezinye izici zalesi simo esimangazayo nesimangazayo.
