Akukho namnye kuthi onokuthandabuza ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi umama nonyana wakhe soloko ikhetheke kakhulu. Oku kungokwemvelo, oko kukuthi, inyani. Ngenxa yoko, kunokuba nzima kubazali fumana indawo yabo kule binomial, ingakumbi kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bosana. Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba abantwana bekhula, ukuhamba kunye nokuqonda kuyanda, nako il Upopu iya isiba ngokubaluleka nangakumbi kwaye idlala indima ebalulekileyo.
Okanye ubuncinci, ixesha elininzi. Kungenxa yokuba kukho abantwana abathi, nakwiminyaka emi-3, 4 okanye emi-5 ubudala, Bacela umama ngayo yonke into kwaye bayala ukufumana uncedo lukayise. Ungakwenza njani ukusabela ebusweni bendlela yokuziphatha kunye nendlela enokwenzeka ngayo tshintsha?
Ngapha koko, inyani inye iqinisekile: ukuba abantwana bethu bahlala besibiza ngoomama ncedakalaNokuba yeyokukhangela into yokudlala elahlekileyo okanye intuthuzelo emva kokuwa, hayi kuphela umonde wethu iya kufikelela kumda kodwa nootata, kuba baziva inqatshelwe kwaye ingaphezulu. Ukongeza, konke oku kunokuba ne- ifuthe elibi kulwalamano.
Ubungqina: "Mama, ndikuthanda ngaphezu kotata"
Umama usixelele amava akho ngokuchanekileyo kule ngxaki.
“Kuye kwafuneka ndicinge kakhulu malunga noku kutshanje intombi yam eneminyaka emine ubudala Wandihlebezela: "Mama, ndikuthanda kakhulu ngaphezu kotata". Waye wandifumana ngqo kwi ngaphandle kokugada. Ndifuna ukukhusela umyeni wam kwangoko ndimxelele ukuba ngekhe athethe into enjalo, kuba naye utata uyamthanda. Kodwa khange ndenze njalo, kuba le ndlela avakalelwa ngayo iyinyani kuye kwaye andinakumnqanda ngoluhlobo. Ngapha koko, indenze ndacinga ukuba kutheni esitsho. "
“Ekhaya, bobabini abantwana badla ngokubiza umama kuqala. Kuba umama ukhona. Nangona umyeni wam eyedwa nabantwana kusasa kwaye ubasa esikolweni nakwinkulisa emva kwemini akukho namnye ngexesha lakhe lokuzimela. Endaweni yokuba sidlale imidlalo, sifunde amabali, sibandakanye iipuzzle kunye nentengiso eminye imisebenzi. Utata ubuya kuphela esidlweni sangokuhlwa kwaye ngaphambi nje kokuba ndilale. "
Amandla omkhwa
"Ke, nangaliphi na ixesha ngexesha lakhe lokuzimela ufuna umntu omdala ukuba amncede, isandla esithembekileyo sesomama e kumkhwa omsulwa uyabizwa naxa utata ekufutshane. Akukho bubi ngasemva kwayo yonke le nto, kodwa "kuphela" umkhwa. Inokuba yile nto isetelwe yintombi yam. "
"Imfuno yakhe yokuqwalaselwa kunye nothando ihlala ihlangabezana nam. Ndingu indawo yakhe yesiqhelo yonxibelelwano ukukhathazeka kunye neinyembezi, kodwa kunye namaxesha amnandi kunye namabali ahlekisayo. Kuba xa utata efika ekhaya, iinyembezi ziyoma, siyadlala kwaye sibalisa amabali.
Intombi yam iyabona ngoku njenge ntombazana. Kucacile kuye ukuba mna naye sifana kakhulu kunaye notata. Kuyinyani kwisaci "Thina basetyhini kufuneka sihlale simanyene", bahlala bekhona ukhetho lwakhe lokuqala xa ufuna uncedo okanye ufuna ukubalisa ibali elibalulekileyo. "
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukubandakanya utata ngakumbi?
Ukuba utata uziva eshiywe ngaphandle okanye nokuba umama uziva kufuneka enze yonke into ngokwakhe, kuyanceda kwasekuqaleni. thetha ngayo ngokuphandle, ngokunyaniseka nangaphandle kokungcikivwa. Bazibona phi bobabini izizathu zokuziphatha komntwana? Umntwana mhlawumbi uhamba isigaba sophuhliso?
Ibalulekile ayikokutyhola omnye umntu. Kwaye ayilotata, kuba akekho kwaye uyasebenza, kwaye ayilotyala likanina, kuba iba noxanduva lwayo yonke into. Izizathu mhlawumbi zilele ndawo phakathi.
Nceda abazali bobabini nosana a phuhlisa amasiko. Nini Upopu, obekhe waphuma imini yonke, ufika ekhaya ngorhatya, usafanele ukufumana i ixesha labantwana. Oku kuthetha: ukucima iselfowuni, ukuhlala phantsi umamele amabali abantwana malunga nosuku lwabo. Abantwana bafuna Attenzione kunye nemvakalelo yokufumana engekho ngaphantsi kweepesenti ezili-100.
Ukutshintsha "izicwangciso zakudala zasekhaya"
Konke oku kuthetha ukuba bobabini abazali kufuneka batshintshe into ebilindeleka kubo. Umzekelo, ayiyonyani into yokuba ootata banokuthi "kuphela" bathathe abantwana babo baye esikolweni okanye badlale ibhola kunye noonyana babo, ngelixa oomama beneminye imisebenzi, ngakumbi ngokubhekisele ebantwaneni. iintombi. Kufuneka sizibhukuqe ezi zikimu zengqondo zidityaniswe nexesha langaphambili kwaye siqonde ukuba akukho zindima zichazwe kakuhle.
Ixesha elichithwe nabantwana, nokuba yiyure enye kusasa kunye neyure enye ngokuhlwa, kufuneka lisetyenziswe ngaphandle kwemida okanye umda. Ngapha koko, kufuneka uthembe iqabane lakho kunye neyokuba eyazi indlela yokulawula ubudlelwane kunye nabantwana bakhe kakuhle, mhlawumbi ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunale uyenzayo, kodwa uhlala eneziphumo ezilungileyo. Ke xa intombi ibiza umama kwakhona, xa ilixesha lokulala, umzekelo, umama kufuneka abuye umva ngamaxesha ngamaxesha ukuba utata uyafuna.
Kuba, njengoko sele sifundile, abantwana zizidalwa ezinomkhwa. Ukuba utata uhlala eyolalisa intombi yakhe okwethutyana, kunye nebali kunye nokuwiswa okufutshane, uya kunconywa kwaye axatyiswe yile ntombazana incinci. Mhlawumbi hayi kwangoko, kodwa emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa. Ke xa utata eza kuxela amabali okulala ngaphandle kwenkcaso e Uya kudlala ngokukhululekileyo nabantwana, nina mama ninokuba nayo nayo uloyiko olufanelekileyo.
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