Ukuxoka kwabanye okokuqala kukuzixokisa.
Emva kobuxoki kukho umhlaba oza kuwuhlola: iminqweno, iingcinga, ucalucalulo, iinqobo ezisemgangathweni, iinkolelo, amatyathanga kunye namaphupha enkululeko yabo baxokayo.
Siyaxoka ngalo lonke ixesha, umzekelo xa sizazisa emntwini okwesihlandlo sokuqala, sihlala sizama ukubonisa okona kulungileyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha "sizibaxa" iimpawu ezintle esinazo.
Ke yintoni ukuxoka?
Kwisichazi-magama sifumana le nkcazo: "Ukutshintshwa komlomo okanye ukunyaniseka kwenyani, kulandelwa ngokwazi okupheleleyo".
Ngokwenyani siqhelene nokuxoka ukuba iza kuthi ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye siphantse singazi ngayo.
Iinkcukacha-manani zithi sixoka amaxesha alishumi ukuya kwikhulu ngosuku.
Kwasebusaneni siqala ukuxoka, umzekelo, sizenza ngathi siyakhala ukuze sifumane into. Kwesibini sifunda ukulinganisa kwaye ngexesha lokufikisa sixoka kubazali kube kanye kunxibelelwano lwe-5.
Silungile ngokuxoka kangangokuba ekugqibeleni siyazikhohlisa nathi.
Uhlalutyo lobuxoki ngokwamkelwa kweempawu ezingezizo ezomlomo zisivumela ukuba sinxibelelane kungekuphela nomnye umntu kodwa kwanelona candelo lethu linzulu.
Ukwazi le nxalenye yethu esihlala sizama ukuyifihla kubalulekile ukuphucula ulwazi lwethu ngeziqu zethu kwaye sikwazi ukucwangcisa iinjongo zethu ngendlela eyiyo ukuze siziphumeze ngaphandle "kokumpompa" iimpawu zethu.
Xa sigqithisa kubuntu bethu kunye namandla ethu sikholelwa ekubeni singcono kunoko sikuko, ngokuqinisekileyo siphela sifumanisa ukuba asenzi ngokuvisisana nolindelo lwethu kwaye ngenxa yoko sizifumana sifikelwa kukukhathazeka, lusizi kunye nokudana. Kukwenzeka okufanayo xa sithatha kancinci iimpawu zethu kwaye sikholelwa ekubeni asinakukwazi, ukuba "asiyiyo", asizibophelele ekuphuculeni ubomi bethu.
Ukunamathela kwinyani sisiqalo sokufumana umgangatho wobomi owanelisayo.
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