Ngaba wakha weva ukuba i engqondweni ibuchaphazela njani ubomi bethu nezinto ezenzekayo kuthi? Apha, kwesi sivakalisi silula kukhoundoqo del ukuqala Kwisiseko se umthetho wokutsala.
Ngokwalethiyori, enyanisweni, yeyethu pensieri Ngaba unamandla oku ukuphembelela kwenzeka ntoni kuthi, ukutsala oko sikunqwenelayo nokusinceda ukuba siphile ubomi esibufunayo. Njani? Ukuxhaphaza amandla endalo iphela kunye nenkqubo entsonkothileyo yokungcangcazela kunye nokuhamba rhoqo apho kulawulwa khona.
Njenge-naïve kwaye ilula njengoko inokubonakala ngathi kukuqala nje, kukuqwalaselwa okuneengcambu zayo ukuqiniseka kwezenzululwazi, kakhulu ukufumana isiqinisekiso ekuqwalaselweni kwe Albert Einstein, Esi sigwebo, ekuqaleni sibhekise kuso Umgaqo womzimba, engazi nto uzala ithiyori yomthetho womtsalane njengoko siwazi namhlanje: “Yonke into ingamandla kwaye yiyo yonke into ekhoyo. Jonga ubungakanani benyani oyifunayo kwaye akunakunceda kodwa ufumane loo nyani ”.
Ukusuka kwezi ngqwalaselo zokuqala kuvela ngokucacileyo njengokwethu isimo sengqondo yeyethu intando zibalulekile ekudalweni kwekamva lethu kunye nokuba ingakanani amandla ethu okugqibela, nangona sihlala sithanda ukulibala. Njengoko siza kubona kungekudala, i ukuthambekela kwengqondo linyathelo eliphambili ekusebenziseni umthetho wokutsala kunye nokuphumelela kwishishini le phila ubomi esibufunayo.
Ukuze oku kwenzeke, kuya kufuneka wenze unxibelelwano nawe, ngamagama alula: thanda kwaye uzithembe ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Apha ngezantsi sicebisa ezinye ukuzilolonga okuncinci kwe ukwandisa ukuzithemba komntu kwaye uzithande ngakumbi.
Uthini umthetho wokutsala kwaye usebenza njani
Njengoko bekulindelwe, iiphela yinkqubo eshukunyiswayo nelawulwa ngamandla ayo siyinxalenye yethu. Imithetho ehambisa eyokuqala eneneni ikwayileyo ikhokelela kubomi bethu, kwaye kuzo zombini iimeko, igama eliphambili yile: umtsalane.
Ngapha koko, amandla azibonakalisa ngokusebenzisa ukungcangcazela ezikhutshwe ngokuqinisekileyo amaza. Le yindlela izinto ezihamba ngayo, ngendlela yomtsalane, kwaye ke iyenzeka nakumadoda: ukuba silungisa iingqondo zethu kwi frequency efanelekileyo, sinako kuphela ukutsala umdla ngokuchanekileyo into esiyifunayo. Iya kuba ngamandla kanye, ngokusebenzisa ukungcangcazela esikukhuphayo, okuya kuzisa into yomnqweno wethu kuthi.
Guqulelwa kumagama alula, konke ekufuneka sikwenzile kukuba jonga ngokucacileyo ezingqondweni zethu oko sikufunayo, cinga ukuba usendleleni eya kuyo kwaye ulinde kunye ukuzithemba kunye nombulelo umsebenzi wendalo iphela.
Kulungile ukwazi ukuba ayisosiqendu nje ekufuneka sisetyenziselwe ukufumana umnqweno owunikiweyo, kodwa kungcono indlela entsha yokucingaUnesidima ngakumbi kwaye uyazi, oluthanda ngaphezu kwayo yonke Ingcinga efanelekileyo kunye nobugcisa be umbulelo.
Imfihlo, incwadi yemanifesto kumthetho wokutsala
"Imfihlelo" yincwadi yezimemo Umtsalane womthetho. Ibhalwe ngu Rhonda Byrne kwaye yapapashwa ngo-2006, yakhawuleza yaba ethengisa kakhulu eMelika, ukuthandwa ngabantu abaninzi abadumileyo, owayexhasa iingcinga zakhe kwaye wanceda ukusasaza umyalezo kwihlabathi liphela. Phakathi kwezi sikhumbula umzekelo Oprah Winfrey, ILady Gaga, uSteve Jobs, uDenzel Washington noJim Carrey.
Waduma kangangokuba wakhankanywa kwisiqendu se Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nesiXeko, ngeli xesha lelinye lawona manqaku alandelweyo kwaye axatyiswayo, ebesebenza njengebhodi yesandi eyongezelelweyo kwihlabathi liphela.
Abanye amanani e-auterovoli kulo mbandela kunjalo UEsther noJerry Hicks, Ababini abatshatileyo, ababhali beencwadi ezininzi ngalo mbandela, kubandakanya "Buza kwaye uya kukunika", ekwazisweni apho isayikholojisti yaseMelika UWayne Walter DyerIsishwankathelo kwisivakalisi esinye ingcinga ebalulekileyo emva kokuqwalaselwa kwabo: "Xa utshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo izinto, izinto ozijongayo ziyatshintsha".
nayo USonia Ricotti uthathelwa ingqalelo njengenyaniso enkulu kulo mbandela awuxelele ngokweembono ezininzi kwiincwadi zakhe ezaziwayo kwihlabathi liphela; wayehlala elundwendwe luka-Oprah Winfrey, wayechaza umbono wakhe kwi incwadi yoncedo lwakho "Uwenza njani uninzi lomthetho wokutsala"U Ukubonelela ngengcebiso esebenzayo ngendlela yokusebenzisa kakuhle kubomi bemihla ngemihla e tshintsha ubomi bakho ngamanyathelo ambalwa alula.
Uwusebenzisa njani umthetho wokutsalela kumanyathelo ama-3 kwaye ufumane into oyifunayo ebomini bakho
Ukufumana yonke into oyifunayo, akwanele ukucinga malunga nayo: kuya kufuneka usebenzise uthotho lwe izimilo ezilungileyo ezinokuthi zishwankathelwe kula manyathelo mathathu angezantsi.
1. Cinga ngento oyifunayo
Kuqala, cinga ngento enye onqwenela ukuba izaliseke kwaye uzame ukuyiguqulela kwenye ibinzana, ukuhlala ugcine engqondweni njengento emnandi imvelaphi iyakhuthaza.
Kufuneka iqulunqwe nge Indlela efanelekileyo, kufuneka babe thintela ukukhanyela namagama anje ngo "andifuni", "andikwazi".
Umzekelo, ukuba umnqweno wakho kukuba fumana umsebenzi, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uthi: "Andifuni kufumana umsebenzi andiwuthandi" okanye "Andisafuni kuphuma emsebenzini", kodwa ke: "Ndifuna ukufumana umsebenzi endiwuthandayo", "Ndiza kuwufumana ngokukhawuleza umsebenzi kunokuba ucinga", "Ndiza kuwenza umsebenzi wam wephupha lam".
Njengoko ubona, ezi zivakalisi zokugqibela bonisa ukucinga okuqinisekileyo Ikhupha ukungcangcazela okuhle kunye nokulungileyo kunye neemvakalelo. Kuphela la mandla mhle Yintoni enokukunceda utsale into oyifunayo.
Unokwenza enye uluhlu lweminqweno emide eyona nto uyikhathaleleyo, kwaye ke ujonge kwezona zibalulekileyo. Soloko uzama uku ziguqule zibe ziingcinga ezifanelekileyo kunye namabinzana esikukhokela yonke imihla, silinde ukuba zizaliseke ngokwenene.
2. Yenza isicelo kwindalo iphela
Ngexesha elifanayo wenza kwaye uziva eso sivakalisi ngaphakathi kwakho, ngokuqinisekileyo ukwenza isicelo kwindalo iphela.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ibalulekile Khetha amagama nemifanekiso yakho ngononophelo, kuba uya kuyenza kanye le nto uyicingayo noyibuzayo, ngamaxesha kunye neendlela azibona zilungele wena.
Iya kuvumela amaza akho kwaye iphendule kubo, isebenza njengesipili kwaye ndikubuyisele ngqo umfanekiso onawo engqondweni yakho: ukuba ucinga izinto ezingathandekiyo, unokutsala kuphela iimeko ezingalunganga ngokulinganayo, ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, iingcinga zakho ziya kuba ntle kwaye zizithembe, kungekudala okanye kamva ziya kuba yinyani.
La umbono sisenzo esisisiseko sesi sigaba: ukunika ifom yekhonkrithi kwingcinga engekenzeki, ukuyicingela kweyona nkcukacha zincinci ukuze yenze into eyinyani kwaye ibonakale inokunceda ukusondela nokusondela kwinjongo ngomoya olungileyo kunye nesimo sengqondo.
Zinikezele koku umthambo Nanini na xa ufuna, ngakumbi ukuba uzifumana kumzuzu wokuphelelwa lithemba okanye uzive uphoxekile: cinga kanye imeko ongayithanda, uyilayishe nazo zonke iinkcukacha ezinokubakho kwaye uyicebise ngakumbi nangakumbi, phantse ukuze ukwazi ukuyibona, gcina loo nto engqondweni umbono kwaye ubuyele kuyo nanini na xa uziva ufuna. Ngale ndlela unceda indalo iphela ukuba ikhokele ngakumbi nangakumbi kuwe unqwenela ntoni.
3. Lindela ngokuzithemba kwaye wenze ngokungathi sele kungokwakho
Nje ukuba ugqibile, kweli nqanaba konke okuseleyo kukulinda ngokuzithemba, uziphathe ngokungathi isipho osilindileyo besisele sisezandleni zakho. Kuthetha ntoni oku xa sisenza? Phila nje ngokuthetha ubuninzi, ubutyebi kunye felicità, kuba yonke into oyivelisayo iya kubuyela kuwe kumaza amakhulu nakwimo yeminqweno yakho.
Ke jolisa kwi izinto onazo kwaye uzibonakalise mnandi koku kunokuba ujonge kwinto oyiphosayo kwaye ikwenze ungonwabi: ingqondo yakho ingumazibuthe kwaye ngenxa yoko, inokuzisa yonke into oyicingayo kuwe.
Le ngcamango iguqulelwe ngokugqibeleleyo ngamazwi omlandeli owaziwayo womthetho womtsalane, Oprah Winfrey: "Yiba nombulelo ngento onayo; uya kugqiba ube nokuninzi. Ukuba ujolisa kwinto ongenayo, awusoze wonele. Ndihlala kwisithuba sombulelo- kwaye ndiye ndavuzwa ngezigidi ngezihlandlo. Ndiqale ukubulela ngezinto ezincinci, kwaye ndaye ndanombulelo ngakumbi, ezona zizathu zokuba zikhule. Kungenxa yokuba le nto ujolise kuyo uyanda kwaye xa ujolisa ekulungeni kobomi bakho, uyila ngaphezulu. Amathuba, ubudlelwane, kwanemali yayihamba ngendlela yam njengoko ndandifunda ukuba nombulelo, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bam. Okukhona uzincoma kwaye ubhiyozela ubomi bakho, kokukhona kukhona ebomini ukubhiyozela. Fumana ebomini le nto unesibindi sokuyicela ”.
Ke funda ifayile ye-ubugcisa bokubulela kwaye uziqhelanise nesenzo esilungileyo kangangoko unako, njengokubona nje, kuya kuba namandla okuzisa ubutyebi kunye nobutyebi ebomini bakho. Ukuyihlakulela ngokufanelekileyo, unokuzinikezela kule nto umthambo omncinci wemihla ngemihla: kusasa, ngokukhawuleza xa uvuka, okanye ngaphambi kokuba ulale, cinga okanye ubhale kwidayari ubuncinci izinto ezi-3 onombulelo ngazo, uya kukhawuleza uqaphele imeko emnandi yempilo-ntle eya kukwenza ubonakale usondele kwindawo oya kuyo.
Khumbula, nangona kunjalo, ukungalindeli iziphumo ezinqwenelekayo kwangoko, akusebenzi ngokungathi yinto ezenzekelayo, yoomatshini kunye nenkqubo yangoko; themba kunye nomonde kwaye ukholelwe kunye nawo wonke ukuba into oyifunayo iyakwenzeka Sukuyithathela indawo indalo iphela: iya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba iza kwenzeka njani kwaye nini, umsebenzi wakho kukuphela kokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo nokwazi ukuba kuyakwenzeka.
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