Ukuba sithelekisa indlu yangoku kunye nomnye kwiminyaka engamashumi amahlanu edlulileyo, siya kufumanisa ukuba siqokelela zonke iintlobo zezinto, ezininzi zazo ezingenamsebenzi ngokupheleleyo. Kwisiqingatha nje senkulungwane, uluntu lwethu luziphose kwiingalo zokusetyenziswa okungalawulekiyo. Ngenxa yoko, sithenga izinto esingazidingiyo nezidla ngokulityalwa kumazantsi edrowa okanye sithathe indawo yokuhlala endlwini.
I izizathu ezikhokelela ekubeni sithenge izinto ezininzi kunokuba sizidinga kukho ezininzi, ukusuka kwi-adrenaline rush eyandulela umzuzu wokuthenga kodwa iphelile emva kweeyure ezimbalwa okanye kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, kwinkolelo yobuxoki yokuba ezi zinto zingumthombo wokhuseleko kunye nolonwabo. Nangona kunjalo, okusisiseko kuzo zonke ezi zizathu kukuchongwa kunye nezinto. Njengoko uWilliam James wathi, "Isiqu somntu sisimbuku sezinto zonke anokuzichaza njengezakhe".
Siyazixakekisa kakhulu ngezinto esinazo
Ngowe-1937, u-Abraham Bredius, omnye wababhali-mbali bezobugcisa behlabathi, nowachitha ixesha elininzi lobomi bakhe kwisitudiyo saseVermeer, wacinga ukuba wafumana umzobo kaVermeer "UKristu nabafundi base-Emawusi", ngubani ochaze ukuba njani "Inkcazo yobugcisa obuphezulu". Ixabiso laloo mzobo lalingenakubalwa. Kwiminyaka embalwa kamva kwafunyaniswa ukuba ngenene yayingumsebenzi womqambi uHan van Meegeren kwaye umzobo odumileyo wehla kakhulu ngexabiso, waba ngumdla nje wokufun' ukwazi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umzobo wawunomdla kakhulu, ucacile kwaye uhlakaniphile, bekufanele ukuba uligcinile ixabiso lawo. Ngokucacileyo oku akunjalo kuba izinto ezininzi azinaxabiso elikhulu kuzo, kodwa ziqhayisa ngexabiso esizinika lona ngokwasentlalweni. Ixabiso lezinto ubukhulu becala limiselwa ziinkolelo zethu ngazo, into eziyimelayo kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, oko sicinga ukuba zikutshoyo ngathi. Ukuba neVermeer luphawu lobume bentlalo, inkcubeko, kunye noxabiso lobugcisa. Ukuba nevan Meegeren, hayi kakhulu.
Ngaphandle kokuqaphela, izinto ziba yinxalenye yesazisi sethu, ngokuzimeleyo nangokudibeneyo. Ngabo sinxibelelana nobuntu bethu, iinkolelo kunye nezinto esizithandayo, sixela ukuba singoobani kwaye singowaphi. Oku kuthetha ukuba xa sinezinto, inkqubo yokuchonga yenzeka apho sidibanisa ipropati okanye uphawu olufanayo. Ngokomzekelo, abasebenzisi be-Apple banokuchonga nge-aura yezinto ezintsha, i-genius kunye ne-elitism ethile ejikeleze iimveliso zabo.
Kwaye asiyonkqubo yengqondo kuphela. Kwi-2010, ii-neuroscientists ezivela kwi- Yunivesithi yaseYale bahlola iingqondo zeqela labantu njengoko befaka izinto kwisikhongozeli esibhalwe “esam” okanye kwisesibini esibhalwe igama lomnye umntu. Bafumene umsebenzi kwi-medial prefrontal cortex ekuphenduleni ukubona izinto zabo. Kwaloo mmandla mnye wenziwa wasebenza xa abathathi-nxaxheba bachaza ubuntu babo kuba babunxulunyaniswa neengcinga zabo. Oku kuthetha ukuba izinto zethu sizibona njengezandiso zeziqu zethu. Nangona kunjalo, izinto azisivumeli kuphela ukuba sibonise ubuni bethu, kodwa sikwancedisa ukwakha.
Asizithengi izinto esiceba ukuzithenga
Xa sithenga into ethile, kukho utshintsho kwintsingiselo kuba asithengi nje into kodwa intlalontle eyakhiwe kuyo. Xa sithenga uphawu olutofotofo, umzekelo, sifumana ububodwa kunye newonga. Kodwa asisoloko sithenga izinto esizifanisa nazo, ngamanye amaxesha ezo zinto ziyimbonakaliso yokuba sifuna ukuba ngubani.
Inyaniso kukuba, emva koko, asizithengi izinto. Sithenga ukuba ezo zinto zisenza sizive njani. Ukuthengwa nganye kuhlanganiswe nemvakalelo. Kwanokukhethwa kwetafile akuxhomekeke kuphela kumbala wayo, izinto eziphathekayo okanye ukusebenza kwayo, kodwa kuzo zonke ezo zihlandlo zovuyo esizicingayo malunga nayo. Asithengi nobulungu bejim, kodwa umzimba esiphupha ngawo. Yonke into ethengwayo iqulethe inkohliso, nokuba incinci kangakanani na.
Xa loo mveliso iyeka ukusivuselela, sikhangela enye eyenza isithembiso solonwabo kwakhona. Yiyo loo nto sigqibela ngokulahla izinto esisakwazi ukuzisebenzisa kwaye sithenge izinto esingazidingiyo. Inyaniso yeyokuba, asithengi nje izinto, sithenga amava, iinkohliso kunye namagama ukuze sibonise abanye.
Sithenga izinto esingazidingiyo kuba sicinga ukuba siyazifuna. Ngenxa yokuba sinxulumene nabo. Kungenxa yokuba sikholelwa kwizithembiso ezikuzo. Kuba zisenza sizive sinamandla ngakumbi yaye sibulawula ubomi bethu. Nokuba ekugqibeleni yonke into iyinkohliso nje.
Umthombo:
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Umnyango Esona sizathu sokuthenga izinto esingazidingiyo yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
