Zitseko za Slam, kwezani mawu anu, mulange ...Moyo wa makolo nthawi zina umakhala wovuta, makamaka pamene mwana amafika kwa woopsayo msinkhu wachinyamata. Ndi kholo liti lomwe silinapeze zovuta kuthana ndi izi gawo lovuta la moyo? Ambiri akuyembekeza kuti zonse ziyenda bwino ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala choncho, kwa ena ndi chiyambi chabe cha nthawi yovuta kwambiri komanso yapadera.
Kuzunza ndi limodzi mwammbali zoyipa zaunyamata. Palibe kholo lomwe lingasangalale kudziwa mwana wawo amazunza wina kapena kupezerera ena. Timalankhula za izi mu kanemayu.
Kulimbana ndi mphamvu, kukambirana kosalekeza, kufunsa mafunso, makolo ena amamva mwachangu odandaula komanso osowa chochita pamaso pa ana achinyamata: "Amandikankhira mpaka kumapeto", "Ndayesera zonse", "ndi chilango chopitilira" ndi ena mwa kudandaula pafupipafupi panthawi yovuta yaunyamata wa ana.
Kodi izi zingathetsedwe bwanji? Mungathe bwanji moyang'anizana ndi mnyamata panthawiyi ya moyo popanda kupita kunkhondo? Ngati zikuwoneka ngati zonse zatha tsopano, ndani kupempha thandizo?
Unyamata wovuta komanso zoputa
"Zanditopetsa, sindingathenso kuzitenganso." Makolo ambiri amayesa zonse, koma amafika pofika pa osatha kuyendetsa bwino makhalidwe onse a mwana wawo. Nthawi zambiri zovuta zimakhala mu osazindikiranso mwana wanu yemwe kamphindi kale anali mwana wosangalala komanso womwetulira, ndipo tsopano ndiwokhumudwa ndipo amakhala yekha payekha.
Zonsezi zimachitika makamaka chifukwa cha unyamata, ndipo tikufuna kutsindika izi ndi gawo la moyo (monga ena ambiri) lomwe ndi labwino komanso losakhalitsa.
Zimatheka bwanji kuti wachinyamata azimva kufunikira kukayikira ulamuliro wa makolo munthawi imeneyi ya moyo wake?
Makamaka chifukwa mnyamatayu panthawiyi ikumanga dzina lake latsopano otalikirana kwathunthu ndi makolo. Izi zikufotokozedwa chifukwa chake achinyamata amayika mwatsatanetsatane kukambirana malamulo kuti aphunzitsidwa kuyambira ali mwana ndipo amakayikira ngati akugwirabe ntchito.
Zili kwa makolo kuti azisamalira onaninso zoletsa zina zomwe zinali kuchitika muubwana ndi zomwe pazifukwa zomveka sizingakhale zowona.
Makolo amayesedwa
Zomwe mwana wanu adzayese kuchita ali wachinyamata ndizo dzitsutseni nokha ndikuyesa malire anu. Zikuwoneka kuti zimachita ndi chidwi, koma sizili choncho, ndi gawo lakukula kwake. Inu ngati kholo, simukuyenera kuchita nawo zokhumudwitsa chifukwa palibe chomwe mungachite koma kusewera masewera ake.
Wachinyamata yemwe amakakamiza makolo ake mpaka malire amachita izi kuti amvetsetse zomwe malire osayenera kuwoloka; Kuphatikiza apo, zokambirana zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa tsiku lililonse zimamupangitsa kuti akule ndikumupangitsa kuti amvetsetse momwe angatsimikizire malingaliro ake ngakhale atakhala kuti akukambirana ndi anzawo.
Momwe mungadzipangire nokha ulemu muunyamata wovuta
Kumvetsetsa kuti ndi chiyani njira yoyenera kutenga pazokambirana zaphindu ndi wachinyamata, ndizovuta kwambiri. Akaphwanya lamulo limodzi kapena angapo ndiye bwino kukwiya kapena kufunafuna yankho? Chilichonse chimawoneka cholakwika kwa inu, tikudziwa.
Khalani chete in mikhalidwe yonse ndichinthu choyamba kuchita. Pambuyo pake ndikofunikira fotokozerani mwana wanu za malire omwe apatsidwa kwa iwo, kukhala mogwirizana, woganizira ndipo ali ndi mgwirizano wawo pamtima. Zonsezi ndizofunikira kwa achinyamata, ndipo ngati makolo sachita izi, anthu azichita mwankhanza kwambiri.
Ndi zilango ziti zomwe zingatenge nthawi yovuta yaunyamata?
Ngakhale ayesayesa kukambirana mwamtendere, mwana wanu akupitilizabe kuchita zomwe amafuna komanso aphwanya malamulowo popanda kulangidwa mwakhazikitsa chiyani? Osataya mtima.
Chilango ndichofunika, koma liyenera kulingaliridwa bwino osalamulidwa ndi mkwiyo. Ndi ziti zomwe zimakhala zothandiza kwambiri?
Pali zingapo Chilango chothandiza chomwe chimapangitsa mwana kuganiza kuti:
- pemphani kuti apepese chifukwa cha zomwe adachita
- Chitani zochitika zapakhomo (kutsuka mbale, kukonza, ndi zina zambiri)
- kumanidwa zinthu zomwe sizothandiza pakukula kwake komanso kuzunzidwa (masewera apakanema, mafoni am'manja, ndi zina zambiri)
Kumbukirani: Onetsani bwino nthawi ya chilango ndikulemekeza zidzakuthandizani kutsimikizira ulamuliro wanu monga kholo.
Pezani thandizo ngati simungathenso kulipezanso
Ngakhale kuyesayesa konse ndi kufuna kwabwino, sindingathe kuyankhula ndi mwana wanu? Ngati vutoli lakula, thamangirani.
Lingaliro limodzi litha kukhala la pezani thandizo kuchokera kwa wachibale omwe timawona kuti wachinyamata ali ndiubwenzi wosakhazikika. Ndizotheka patsirani ndodoyo kwa amalume ake, agogo ndipo awauze kuti akambirane ndi mnyamatayo. Zikakhala zovuta, ndizotheka bweretsani sing'anga mwana wamng'ono kufunsa upangiri ngakhale mwana wanu atasowa.
Zambiri mwa makolo amakono samataya mtima mosavuta pokumana ndi zovuta. M'malo mwake, amadera nkhawa kwambiri zaumoyo wa achinyamata awo. Amakhudzidwa ndi maphunziro omwe amawapatsa ndipo amachita akupanikizika kwakukulu pa inu nokha, nthawi zonse kufunsa pazambiri. Akugwira ntchito molimbika kuposa kale ndi Gawo lovuta launyamata limakhala mayeso owonjezera kwa iwo.
