Pokhala kwaokha amakhala ndi "I" yawo.
Ndani yemwe ali wamakhalidwe abwino adzatulukiranso mwamphamvu ndikusintha, yemwe m'malo mwake ndi mutu wokhala ndi mkhalidwe woipa komanso wowopsa pakadali pano akubweretsa kusasangalala kwakukulu komwe kumatsagana ndi kuzunzika komanso kusowa thandizo chifukwa chotaika kwa mphamvu zomwe zimachitika mwadongosolo pa ozunzidwa awo.
Ndi mphindi yokhazika mtima pansi kwa omenyera ufulu wawo pomwe anzawo "aakazi" atayidwa mokakamizidwa, maubwenzi aposachedwa komanso achiwerewere atsekedwa ndi mphamvu.
Mkwiyo wake ndiwowopsa ndipo umakula nthawi zonse ndipo umamveka pakati pamakoma anyumba yake womwe umamuwoneka ngati mipiringidzo ya khola.
Wolemba zamatsenga amagwiritsidwa ntchito kusunthira kuchokera kwa mnzake kupita kwina kukagawira zowawa, chinyengo, njira ndi zokondweretsa kudzera pakupatsa ndi kugonana komanso kutengeka mwamphamvu zomwe zimayambitsa zomwe zimatchedwa "kudalira kwam'mutu" mwa omwe akuzunzidwa omwe amapanga "harem" akewo yakhazikitsa zaka zambiri ndikudzipereka.
Mu kanthawi kochepa kwambiri amatha kuchita zinthu mwachangu komanso mwachangu kuti athe kudzipatsa yekha mphamvu ndi mphamvu zofunikira kuti athe kuzitulutsa kuchokera kuzomwe zimachokera, zomwe zimatha kukhala zoyambira komanso zachiwiri, Narcissist ali ndi nthawi yoyambira yomwe amasankha bwino ndipo amazungulira wosankhidwayo mozungulira (mwanjira yobisika) magwero ena ambiri omwe amatchedwa sekondale omwe ndi othandizana nawo satelayiti komwe amalandila komanso kuchokera kuzinthu zoyipa komanso zabwino mu kukumana kwakanthawi kopangidwa ndi chiwerewere kapena zokumana nazo komwe mungapeze mwayi uliwonse mokomera iwo.
Chifukwa chake, titachotsa ufulu wofunikirawu kuti mudzipezere nokha mphamvu zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti munthu akhale "wabodza ngati wamkulu", zikutanthauza kuti kudzichotsera modus operandi yomwe ndiyofunika kudyetsa kudzidalira, kudzidalira zomwe sizipezeka mwa anthu okonda zachiwerewere ndipo ndichifukwa chake ochita zamankhwala nthawi zonse amayang'ana anzawo (omwe akuvutika) omwe "amawagwiritsa ntchito" kuti adzipezere malingaliro ofunikira.
Ngakhale atengeke mtima wotani, osalimbikitsa kapena abwino kwa wankhanza ndizofanana, chifukwa timakumbukira kuti anthu satha kumva chikondi koma amatha kukhala ochita masewera aluso.
Amadziwa kutsanzira chikondi, amadziwa momwe angachitire chifukwa cha zaka ndi zaka zambiri zokumana nazo komanso zochitika zomwe amakhala ndikuwonongedwa kumbuyo kwa nyama yomwe sakuyembekezera.
Kuyambira ali aang'ono amakhala ndi njala yachilendo yamphamvu zomwe amafunikira, amakhala akufunafuna zatsopano ndipo nthawi iliyonse akazipeza, amazifinya, amazipweteketsa ndikuzidya posachedwa (nthawi yayitali yomwe sayansi imayesedwa kuyambira miyezi 18 mpaka 24 yokwanira pachibwenzi chilichonse) m'njira yadyera komanso bulimic, kumeza momwe zingathere ndikuponyera chilichonse ndikukana kwakukulu komanso kopanda ulemu munthawi yoyenera, mphindi yomwe ili pafupi ndikusintha kwakanthawi kothandizana naye zomwe zimachitika munthawi yokhayo pokhapokha ngati pali zatsopano zomwe zatsala pang'ono kusintha!
Wokonda kuchita zachinyengo 
Koma samalani, i osokoneza bongo Monga tafotokozera m'nkhani zina zam'mbuyomu, samasiyiratu anthu omwe adawazunza koma malinga ndi nthawi yomwe titha kunena kuti amatsatira njira yawo yodzipatula powayika omwe amawazunza mwachidule, mwapakatikati kapena motalika kwambiri. nthawi yake.
Kugwiritsidwanso ntchito kumachitika ndi zomwe zimatchedwa cu-cu wa narcissist zomwe zimawonekeranso m'moyo wa yemwe adachitidwapo nkhanza ngakhale patadutsa zaka zambiri. Izi zimachitika mwadongosolo ndipo zimatsimikiziridwa ndi onse omwe adakumana ndi zoterezi.
Wopwetekedwayo mwadzidzidzi m'moyo wake ndipo ngakhale zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, amalandila moni "wachinyengo" wopanda vuto pa whatsapp kapena zina zomwe zikuwonekera ndipo pamakhala msampha wa otchedwa "kubwerera kwa wamatsenga" komwe tiyenera kukhala osamala kwambiri kukhazikitsa njira zodzitetezera ndi kutsekereza manambala ndi zina.
Kodi nthawi iyi ya coronavirus imabweretsa chiyani kwa wamankhwala osokoneza bongo?
Amabweretsa nkhawa yayikulu, amachititsa kuti awone maloto ake oyipa pamaso omwe amatha kuthawa chifukwa chotsatira tsiku ndi tsiku machitidwe ake "achizolowezi" omwe amamulola kuti asaganize zakukalamba komwe amawopa, komanso, kutayika Kukongola kwake kumakupatsirani chiyembekezo chosatha, kukongola pangozi, kukongola komwe nthawi zambiri kumamangidwa potengera njira zopangira maopareshoni zomwe nthawi zambiri zimayimira chizindikiro chosiyanitsa cha opondereza.
Kuphatikiza apo, nthawiyo imamupangitsa kuti aganizire za mantha ena obisika kwa wanamisili, omwe ndi imfa, yomwe imamubweretsanso kuzowawa zoyambilira zomwe zimangoyenda mumdima womwewo.
Coronavirus mokakamiza akukakamiza wankhanza kuti adzifunse yekha ndikulingalira mozama, poyang'ana mantha ake akale kuti tsopano akukakamizidwa kuti ayang'ane m'maso, kuwopa kuti kukhala ndi malingaliro athanzi kwakhala kovuta kuthana naye koma kwa wamisala ndiye chiwonongeko chakuya komanso chowopsa chokhazikika pamaziko onse omwe kuyambira ali mwana adamanga mosamalitsa ndipo omwe ndi maziko amunthu wake wosokonezeka.
Kudzipatula kumamukakamiza kutsutsana ndi chifuniro chake kuti asagwiritse ntchito zovuta zomwe akumana nazo kwakanthawi kochepa ndi zomwe adakumana nazo komanso zina zomwe ndizofunikira kuthawa nkhawa zake, kukhumudwa ndikumangokhala wopanda pake komwe kulibe wa narcissist yemwe akumva kukhala osatha komanso osasangalala ngakhale amawoneka mwanzeru monga chithunzi chake pakapita nthawi.
Kudzidalira kwake kumakhala kopanda phindu ngati alephera kudyetsa chinyengo chake chachilengedwe, ngati sangabwezeretse mphamvu zomwe amapeza pakuwongolera omwe achitiridwa nkhanza, ngati alephera kuchita zomwe amazunza nthawi zonse zofunikira kuti akhale ndi mphamvu zamtengo wapatali!
Chifukwa ngati wamankhwala ataya chilichonse chomwe chimamutanthauzira chotere, amalandidwa mphamvu zake zonse zoyipa ndipo amakhala wokhumudwa kwambiri, poopa kuthekera kotsutsidwa ndikukumana ndi omwe amuzunza omwe munthawi yopatula monga izi, kutali ndi kuzunzidwa kwawo, zikuyembekezeredwa kuti kwa ena kumverera kwodzuka kuli kukhwimitsa njira yakudzipulumutsira, njira yovuta koma yofunikira kwambiri yomwe ingagwiritsidwe ntchito yomwe ingathandize kuti munthu akhale ndi mphamvu komanso mphamvu.
Ndiye pazifukwa izi kuwonekera kwa vampire wamanyazi kudzakhala kocheperako komanso kwakanthawi kochepa chifukwa sadzafuna kutaya mphamvu zawo zomaliza zomwe akuyembekeza kutha kwadzidzidzi, adzafunika kupitiriza abwere kudzabzala mphamvu zawo pazomwe adapeza.
Zabwino kwa inu ozunzidwa, tengani mwayi kuti mudzipulumutse!
Kwa omwe ali osalimba kwambiri komanso ofooka omwe ali pachiwopsezo chowopsa chobwerera m'mbuyo munthawi ino yodzipatula ku covid-19.
Pofufuza nthawi yovutayi yomwe idayambitsidwa ndi mliriwu kuchokera kwa omwe adazunzidwa ndi narcissists, tinene kuti omwe adakali mgulu la paubwenzi ndi vampire ndipo omwe amapezeka kuti akuyenda pakati pa mphepo yamkuntho yoyambitsidwa ndi wodwalayo, nthawi yovuta ili pafupi kwa iwo momwe amakankhidwira mwamphamvu kufunafuna owazunza ngati kudziletsa komwe kumachitika mwa iwo omwe nthawi zambiri amalakwitsa "chikondi" koma chomwe (monga tafotokozera kangapo m'nkhani zina zam'mbuyomu) ndi chizolowezi chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo chifukwa chosowa zowawa zoyambitsidwa ndi nkhanza zoyipa zomwe zimayendetsedwa mosamala ndi timaphunziro tating'onoting'ono tomwe timapotoza izi.
M'malo mwake, khalani olimba mtima komanso osasunthika pazolinga zanu zabwino, ozunzidwa ayenera kukhulupilira kamodzi m'miyoyo yawo kuthekera kwawo ndikugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wamphindowu ndikudzipereka pakusinkhasinkha ndi kudzisanthula mwa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe angapezeke mosavuta pa maukonde apansi pamtunduwu wa ma audio ndi makanema opangidwa ndi akatswiri mgululi ndipo zomwe zimawathandiza kwambiri kuti azilimbitsa kudzidalira kwawo komwe ndi njira yokhayo yothetsera poizoni wa kuluma kwa vampire.
Kukhala tcheru komanso kukhala wopanda nzeru ndikofunikira kuti tisamamatire ku chinyengo cha chikondi chonyenga, kupatula kumeneku ndi nthawi yabwino "yodzutsa" munthu aliyense wathanzi komanso mwayi wokhala wabwino kwa iwo omwe adakhala athanzi kotero kutali anali nazo zochepa kapena analibe kalikonse.
Kudzutsidwa modabwitsa kwa omwe adachitidwa nkhanza zamankhwala zomwe ziyenera kuwatulutsa mwa iwo chikhumbo chodzakumana ndi anthu atsopano, athanzi komanso osasokonezeka!
Pochepetsa kwathunthu maubwenzi onse ndi anthu owopsa omwe amakhala mwa kuyamwa mphamvu kuchokera kwa anthu achifundo komanso pofunafuna "chikondi chenicheni", gawo latsopano la kukhalapo kwa munthu lidzalowetsedwa, ndikupereka masomphenya owona komanso omveka paubwenzi womwe anali nawo ndimutu wamatenda ndi yemwe watsalira kumbuyo.
Kukhazikitsidwa kwaokha ndi mphindi yapadera kuti aliyense apindule nawo kuti asinthe miyoyo yawo.
Izi ndi nthawi zovuta kwambiri ndipo muyenera kukhala olimba kuti mudzimasule ku ubale uliwonse wa poizoni, ndiwopatsa chiyembekezo komanso wapadera kuposa mwayi wosowa wowachotsera vampire wamagetsi ndi zoyipa zake, kubwezeretsanso ndikuwunika momwe zinthu ziliri.
Zomwe zafotokozedwazo zatengedwa kuchokera pa zomwe ndakumana nazo pamoyo wanga waluso zomwe zandipatsa mwayi kwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri kuti ndizitha kuphunzira mozama umunthu wowopsawu pagulu.
Ndikunena kuti sindine wama psychologist kapena Therapist koma kulumikizana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe asokonezeka kwandipangitsa kuti ndizindikire zambiri pamutuwu poyerekeza zaka zambiri ndi akatswiri azama psychologist ndi odziwa zamankhwala omwe, ndimalemekeza ndikuwathokoza chifukwa chothandizana nawo kupanga kafukufukuyu kunanenedwa.
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