“Kukhululuka kumasula moyo, kumachotsa mantha. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndi chida champhamvu ", Nelson Mandela adatero. Sanalakwe. Ubwino wokhululuka ndi waukulu kwambiri. Sayansi yawonetsa kuti kukhululuka ndi kwabwino paumoyo, ngakhale sizovuta kuthana ndi mkwiyo, makamaka ngati chilondacho ndi chaposachedwa kapena chakuya kwambiri ndikukhudza mbali zathu zovuta kwambiri.
Mtengo wosungira chakukhosi
Kusunga chakukhosi kwanthawi yayitali, kupsinjika mkwiyo, ndi mikangano yosathetsedwa zimatha kukhudza thanzi lathu, osati kwamaganizidwe komanso thupi. Kupwetekedwa, kukhumudwitsidwa komanso kufunitsitsa kubwezera kumatanthawuza chimvuto chachikulu chamalingaliro chomwe chimatikhudza osati m'malingaliro komanso mwakuthupi.
Kukwiya kosalekeza, mwachitsanzo, kumayambitsa nkhondo kapena kuwuluka, komwe kumapangitsa kusintha kwa kuchuluka kwa mahomoni ndi dongosolo lamanjenje zomwe zimatha kusintha kugunda kwa mtima wathu, kuthamanga kwa magazi komanso kuyankha mthupi. Kusintha uku, kosungidwa pakapita nthawi, chinthu chodziwika bwino tikamakwiyira wina, kumawonjezera chiopsezo chotenga matenda osiyanasiyana. Kukhululukirana, komano, kumasula.
Kafukufuku wopangidwa ku Yunivesite ya Alabama adayang'ana zaubwino wokhululuka. Akuluakulu XNUMX anafotokoza nthawi yomwe anamva kuwawa kwambiri kapena kupusitsidwa - ena anali okhululuka pomwe ena sanatero. Kenako adayesedwa kuchokera kuzizindikiro zakuthupi mpaka mankhwala omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito komanso zomwe zidawakumbutsa. Zinapezeka kuti anthu omwe adakhululukira adawonetsa kuchepa kwa kuyankha ndikukhala ndi thanzi labwino.
Ofufuzawa amakhulupirira kuti maubwino okhululuka amachokera, kwakukulukulu, chifukwa chakuti amachepetsa kukhumudwa ndi kupsinjika, m'njira yomwe imakhala yoteteza thanzi. M'malo mwake, anthu omwe amasunga ziphuphu amakhalanso ndi vuto lakukhumudwa komanso kupsinjika kwakutsogolo. Komanso, omwe amakhululuka mosavuta amakhala osangalala ndi moyo wawo ndipo samakhala ndi nkhawa, nkhawa, kupsinjika mtima, mkwiyo ndi chidani. Kukhululukiranso kwapezeka kuti kumasula zowawa zomwe zimadza chifukwa chotseka bala.
Kafukufuku wopangidwa ku Kalasi ya Luther ku United States anapeza kuti kukhululuka kungateteze kuwonongeka kwa nkhawa. Akatswiri azamaganizowa apeza kuti anthu omwe amakhululuka mosavuta amatha kuthana ndi zovuta pamoyo wawo ndipo izi zimabweretsa mavuto ochepa, motero zomwe zimakhudza thanzi ndizochepa.
Pakafukufuku wina, ma psychologist omwewo adatsata gulu la anthu kwamasabata asanu kuti awunike zosintha pamiyezo yawo yokhululuka m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Adapeza kuti akamakhululuka zolakwa za tsiku ndi tsiku, kupsinjika kwawo kudachepa. Komanso, kuchepetsa kupanikizika kunayambitsa mavuto ochepa m'maganizo ndikuchepetsa nkhawa.
Kodi kukhululuka kumatanthauza chiyani?
Kukhululukira wina sikutanthauza kuiwala zomwe adachita kapena kupereka chilungamo, koma kulola kuti kufunitsitsa kubwezera kuthe, kuphatikiza kufunitsitsa kusiya kukwiya kwa munthu amene watipweteka.
Chifukwa chake, kukhululuka kumabwera chifukwa cha cholakwa chomwe chimaganiziridwa ngati chofunidwa ndi wozunzidwayo, yemwe poyamba amachitanso ndi mtima wobwezera. Koma imatsatiridwa ndi kuwunikiridwa, komwe kumatha kukhalanso mawonekedwe amanjenjemera ozindikira, kudzera momwe malingaliro oyamba amathera kuti achite dala pobwezera.
Kukhululuka ndi njira yogwirira ntchito pomwe timapanga chisankho chofuna kusiya kukhumudwa, ngakhale munthu amene watilakwira akuyenera kapena ayi. Kukhululuka simachitidwe akungoyang'ana kunja, koma ndi chisankho chodzimasula. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, tikamasula mkwiyo, mkwiyo, ndi nkhanza, titha kuyamba kumva chisoni komanso kumvera chisoni munthu amene watilakwira.
Chifukwa chake, kutsegula kukhululuka sikungosankha mwanzeru, kungatithandizenso kuteteza ndikusunga moyo wathu wabwino. Thupi lathu limapindula tikakhala ndi malingaliro abwino komanso kupumula komwe kumakhululuka.
Kuti mupindule ndi mwayi wokhululuka komanso kuti izi sizofunikira, munthu aliyense ayenera kulemekeza kayendedwe kake kakuchiritsa m'maganizo. Njira ya Enright yothandizira kukhululuka, mwachitsanzo, idakhazikitsidwa ndi magawo 20 omwe amatilola kupitilira anayi mwa iwo: kupeza malingaliro olakwika omwe tili nawo pakukhumudwitsidwa, kusankha kukhululuka, kuyesetsa kuti timvetse kuti ndife ndani. ndikupeza kumumvera chisoni komanso kumumvera chisoni munthuyo.
Mtunduwu sikuti umangotithandiza kukhululuka komanso umatilola kuti tiwone munthu yemwe timusungira chakukhosi kapena kufunitsitsa kubwezera ngati munthu wina wovulala, m'malo mongowanyengerera ndi kuwafotokozera zokhazokha zomwe amachita. Kino kiketukwasha tuleke kulonga bukomo bwa kwiipangula pa mwikadilo wetu.
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