Bahlobo bam abathandekayo, namhlanje sithetha ngencwadi eyandichukumisa kakhulu kuba inako ukuqubisana nomba wokusombulula iingxaki ngendlela yantlandlolo: “Ukucinga njengegqwirha”.
Isihloko sithi "Ukucinga njengomlingo", ebhalwe nguMatteo Rampin olungileyo. Enyanisweni, ngaphambi kokucinga malunga nendlela yokuzisombulula, umbhali usimema ukuba siqonde indlela yokudala, iingxaki. Ngoba? Kuba le, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqonda indlela yokusombulula.
Ukwakha ingxaki yeyona nto isivumelayo ukuba siqonde eyona ndlela isondeleyo kuyo.
Kodwa masihambe ngolandelelwano kwaye makhe sibone izinto ezintathu ezishiyekileyo kum ngokufunda la maphepha angama-200 kunye naphukileyo.
1. Yoyisa iinkolelo zakho ezisikelwe umda
Umboniso wokuqala owandichukumisayo kukuba unxulumene nomahluko phakathi kwento eyiyo engenakwenzeka kwaye into engenakwenzeka ukucinga ukuyenza. Okungenakwenzeka, ngokutsho kombhali wencwadi ethi "Ukucinga njengomlingo", yinxalenye yenyani yethu.
Oko kukuthi, asinako ukwenza yonke into esiyifunayo kodwa, ukuba kuyinyani ukuba akukho sicombululo sento engenakwenzeka, kukwayinyaniso ukuba into engenakwenzeka ukuba sicinge ukuyenza ifanele ingqalelo engakumbi kwicala lethu. Lo mahluko usikhokelela phi? Inyaniso yokuba iingxaki, kunye nokusonjululwa kwazo, kuxhomekeke kwindlela esijongana ngayo neengxaki.
Oko kukuthi, amaxesha amaninzi sicinga into engenakwenzeka ngenxa yenyaniso elula esingenakucinga ukuba yenziwe njani. Isiphumo kukuba, ekubeni ndikholelwa ukuba soze ndikwazi ukuyiqonda loo nto, ngoko ke andizami nokuzama.
Ngokufutshane, oku ngamanye amazwi ngowona mxholo ubuthathaka kwaye usisiseko ukukhawulela iinkolelo esihlala sihamba nayo, kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, kangangokuba xa sijongene nengxaki sigqibele siphosa itawuli kuba sicinga ukuba asikwazi ukuyisombulula.
Ngenxa yesi sizathu, sonke kufuneka sigxile kwezethu kuqala iimbono zangaphambili xa kuthelekiswa nenyani. Oko kukuthi, kufuneka sigxininise kwizinto zengcinga esijonga ngazo - ngokungathi ziilensi - kwenzeka ntoni kuthi.
Ukuya kuthi ga kwindlela esikwazi ngayo ukusebenza kwezi lensi, ngoko singakwazi ukwenza izinto ebesicinga ukuba azinakucingelwa ngaphambili.
Ingqikelelo ibaluleke kakhulu, masiyijonge ngakumbi kwinqaku elilandelayo.
2. Thatha ingqalelo kwiindlela zokusombulula iingxaki kwiimeko ezingaqhelekanga
Abanye bathi akunakwenzeka ukuba umfanekiso oqingqiweyo wenkululeko unyamalale; ukanti uDavid Copperfield waphumelela. Ngoba? Kuba into elula ukuba abathakathi bacinga ngokwahlukileyo kubantu abaqhelekileyo, ngoko ke banokufumana iziphumo ezahlukeneyo. Apha, "Ukucinga njengomlingo" kwenziwa isiqingatha sezinto eziphazamisayo kunye nesinye isiqingatha se-anecdotes esinokubonakala singahloneli ngokubhekiselele kwinto edla ukuthethwa malunga nomxholo. ukulungisa ingxaki.
Sekunjalo, iyamangalisa indlela esinokuyifunda ngayo ngotshintsho ngokuboleka ulwazi kwihlabathi, umzekelo, umlingo, amabali abacuphi, iqhinga lomkhosi, kunye nezinye iimeko ezininzi ezingaqhelekanga. Ngokomzekelo, kwihlabathi lobuqhetseba sibona ukuba isigebenga, ukuze sikopele, kufuneka sifunde ukucombulula iipuzzle ezintsonkothileyo, ekubonakala ngathi zinokusonjululwa. Ukwenza oku kufuneka afunde a cinga ngokwahlukileyo kumntu oqhelekileyo.
Ipokethi ekufuneka isombulule ingxaki yokukwazi ukuba isipaji somntu ngaphandle kokuqaphela, kufuneka yoyise imiqobo eyahlukeneyo, kufuneka isombulule iingxaki ezahlukeneyo: sondela kwixhoba kwaye ungene kwindawo yakhe ebalulekileyo, kweyona ndawo yakhe imxinwa, ngaphandle kokufunyanwa. .
Kulo mba, uyazi ukuba akufuneki aye kwipokotho yebhatyi yexhoba aze akhuphe isipaji salo ngokufihlakeleyo; kunokuba kufuneka acinezele isipaji aze enze ixhoba likhuphe ibhatyi kwisipaji, lihambe ngeli lixa umcholi umile ephethe isipaji ngesandla. Ngale ndlela imvakalelo ebambekayo eveliswa ngaphakathi emzimbeni wexhoba ayiyi kuba yingozi, ye-alam ekhalayo. Ngenxa yoko le nto entsha ayizukufikelela kulwazi lwakhe.
Konke oku kuthetha ntoni? Ukuba ngaphakathi kwincwadi uya kufumana imizekelo emininzi enjengale, ebonisa iindlela ephikisayo ukucinga malunga nokusombulula iingxaki kunye notshintsho, oluhlala lusetyenziswa kwihlabathi lenkohliso. Ezi ndlela ezizezinye zokucinga zinokusinceda ukuba singatsho kakhulu ukuba sibe izipaji zethu, kodwa sisombulule iingxaki zethu zobuqu kunye nobomi bomsebenzi.
3. Sebenzisa ingcamango edidayo "yokucinga njengegqwirha"
Inqaku lokugqibela endifuna ukukuxelela lona kwaye ndibe nesabelo kweli nqaku luphawu lwendlela yokuxhaphaza amandla ukucinga okuxakayo.
Masihlale nomzekeliso wolwaphulo-mthetho endiwukhankanyileyo kwinqaku elingaphambili size sicinge ukuba sifuna ukusifihlela amatye anqabileyo, izinto ezixabisekileyo endlwini yethu, ukuze amasela angazifumani.
Apha, indlela eqhelekileyo yokucinga inokusikhokelela ekubeni sisilele kweli linge. Ngokomzekelo, sinokugqiba ekubeni sifihle amatye anqabileyo phantsi kweebhodi zepavé, ngaphakathi kweencwadi zomgunyathi okanye kwidrowa efihlwe kakuhle phezu kwebhodi esecaleni; kodwa inyani yeyokuba amasela ngokucwangcisiweyo - kwaye nangenzuzo - khangela zonke ezi ndawo zokuzifihla zakudala.
Kodwa ukuba sithatha isigqibo sokungena kuluhlu lweengcinga eziphambanisayo, ke amanye amathuba anamandla avuleleka kuthi. Enye, i-paradoxical ngokupheleleyo, kukuveza ubucwebe bethu ukuze bajongwe: unokuzixuba nobucwebe babantwana, unokuzixhoma kwimihlobiso ye-chandeliers egumbini, okanye - nangakumbi ngokumangalisayo - uyonakalisa indlu ukuze, xa isela lifika, ngokuzenzekelayo ucinga: "Hayi, abanye oogxa bam sele bedlulile apha, masihambe". Ngeli xesha, ewe, amatye anqabileyo anokubekwa naphi na kuba isela liya kumka kwangoko.
Nangona le mizekelo inomdla ngakumbi kunokuba iluncedo ngokwenyani, kule ncwadi uya kufumana indlela yokuyisebenzisa kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Ukuba ukhe wayifunda undazise kwizimvo ezingezantsi ukuba uyifumene njani.
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L'articolo Ukucinga njengeWizard: ukuSombulula iiNgxaki Counter-intuitively-Iincwadi zeNgqondo kubonakala ngathi yeyokuqala Isayikholojisti yaseMilan.
