Ukubandezeleka ngenxa amore ayenzi ucalucalulo, kanye njengoko isenzeka kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya. Umntu ngamnye, ubuncinci kube kanye ebomini babo, ufumana le ntlungu ingachukumisiyo kuphela umphefumlo kodwa kwakhona umzimba, ezibonisa nge iimpawu kunye neziphumo ezahlukeneyo. Xa ibali elibalulekileyo eliye lahlala iminyaka liphela kwaye siyaqonda ukuba ngubani esikholelwa ukuba luthando lobomi bethu ngokwenyani belungekho, ukubandezeleka okunjalo kutyhilwa ezingqondweni zethu kangangokuba kunzima ukukuchaza ngamagama. Ingxaki kukuba iintlungu zothando zichaphazela nezethu umzimba, Kubangela uthotho lwe izifo zomzimba ekufuneka siyiphelisile.
Kule nqaku, ukongeza ekutyhilekeni ukuba zeziphi iimpawu zokubandezeleka kothando, siza kubonisa enye uthotho lweengcebiso zokuphilisa kwisifo somphefumlo indala kwaye yaziwa kakhulu kwindalo iphela. Yeka ukuziva ungalunganga, ukulibala umntu, ayisiyonto inyani, kodwa enkosi emandleni akho e kubahlobo bakho kuyabiza kakhulu ukusombulula ingxaki. Okokuqala, siyazi ukuba emva kokwahlukana, kukho umnqweno wemvelo kunye nemfuno yokwenza ukulila. Awusoze uyeke iinyembezi, kuba ukuyeka ukulila kunokuba noothixo Iziphumo ezilungileyo:
Iimpawu zokugula kothando
Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, ukugula kunye nokubandezeleka ngenxa yothando kuhlasela umphefumlo njengokwasemzimbeni. Ukuqinisekisa oku, ibiyiAmerican Heart Association ngubani oqaphele ukuba iintlungu zothando zibonakalisa iimpawu ezahlukeneyo, ezinye zazo zifana kakhulu nezo ze icubaacoaco, ethi ngamanye amaxesha ikhokelele kwizifo, ekuthiwa "isifo Yentliziyo eyaphukileyo".
Ngokubanzi, abo banengxaki yokugula kothando bakhoyo ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukungabikho komdla, mal di uvavanyo, isisu esiswini kwaye omnye uyaqhubeka imvakalelo yokungabi nto yanto, ngokufanayo noko uziva ngako ngexesha lokuzila. Konke oku kuthi "intlungu yentliziyo" ineziphumo ezibi kwimpilo yethu. Kungenxa yokuba, enyanisweni, ukuphazamiseka okubonakalayo kubangela ukuba kwa ezo ndawo zobuchopho zivuleke kwinqanaba le-neurological ezenziwa kwimeko ye Ukutshiswa lilanga okanye intlungu ngenxa ukuvuthela okanye kwi contusion. Ukuba ufumana enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi mpawu zibuhlungu musa ukoyika ukuyithetha: kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye, ngaphezulu kwako konke, kukho "unyango".
Ungaphilisa njani kwisigulo sothando
Ngethamsanqa, kukho amayeza okubandezeleka eluthandweni. Abanye bayanyanzelisaimeko yengqondo nengqondo yale ntlungu, ngelixa amanye amanqanaba ngokwasemzimbeni, kuba sibonile ukuba iimpawu zingabonakala njani kumacala omabini. Ukuba ufuna ukuphilisa ekuthandeni kwaye ubuyisele ubomi bakho ezandleni, sicebisa ukuba ulandele ezi Amanyathelo asi-5, Ukuzalwa ngokutsha kunye nokumomotheka kwakhona.
1. Zinike ixesha
Eyokuqala nyathelo iqulathe ukuqonda intlungu kunye ungangxami imeko. Uneenyanga okanye iminyaka yobudlelwane emva kwakho, thatha into oyifunayo ukuze ugqibe. Ngapha koko, njengazo zonke izinto, ukunyanga kakuhle kuthatha ixesha kwaye konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuzinika. Ukukhupha kunye nokuyeka ukuhamba kwintlungu akuyona nje into eqhelekileyo kodwa kufanelekile ukuyenza kwixesha lokuqala kanye emva kokuqhekeka kunye ukuphoxeka okukhulu. Into ebalulekileyo kukwazi ukuba ujongane njani nayo: zakuba zome iinyembezi zakho kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ibali liphelile ngenene, qala ukuphakama udlulele kwisigaba esilandelayo.
2. Zinyamekele
Ngokwe-Yunivesithi yaseMichigan Medical School, ukunyanga iintlungu zothando kuyanyanzeleka ukuba usebenze kwingqondo, uqiniseke ukuba iyadluliselwa serotonin, okanye "ihormone yovuyo elungileyo". Iqulethwe kukutya okuninzi, njenge amandongomane, iitsheri, iiwis, kodwa ngakumbi yena, itshokholethi. Isikwere setshokholethi, enyanisweni, sinceda ingqondo ukuba ikhululeke kwaye sisiqalo esihle sokujongana nokuswela ukutya okuqinisekileyo okukubambayo. Ke, kwiintsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa, ukukuhenda ukuba utye, zonwabise izitya ozithandayo e okona kutya ukuthandayo.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akufuneki kukukhokelele ekubeni ungazihoyi kwaphela. Vuka ebhedini e uzinikele kuwe. Indlela efanelekileyo yokukhulula uxinzelelo kukwenza ezinye umsebenzi womzimba: qeqesha yonke imihla kangangesiqingatha seyure kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyifumana isiqabu kuxinzelelo kunye novalo. Olunye uhlobo olugqwesileyo kuzo zonke ezo ndlela zokuziphatha ezinxulumana nokwenza umthambo ukuphumla kwengqondo, yithande yoga okanye ukucamngca.
3. Thetha nabahlobo bakho
Uyazi, abahlobo bahlala bekhuselekile kuthi, kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ngakumbi kule inzima njengale uhlangabezana nayo. Ngelixa uphethwe ziintlungu zothando, ayibalulekanga kuphela zityand 'igila kodwa kwakhona phazamiseka. Vumela kwaye uthethe ngokukhululekileyo nabantu obathembileyo kwaye emva koko wamkele izimemo zokushiya indlu. Chitha imvakwemini ezinikeleyo ukuya kuthenga nabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni okanye uzonwabise kwezinye Phola kwiziko lentlalontle okanye, ngokulula, khetha ngokuhlwa kwikhaya labo elinikezelwe ipitsa kunye neemovie! Ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo okanye nabantu kusapho lwakho kuya kukunceda bobabini ukuba uzityand 'igila kwibali lakho ogqityiweyo kwaye ukuya phambili ngobomi bakho.
4. Zibekele usukelo
Abahlobo kunye nosapho ngokuqinisekileyo baluncedo olukhulu, kodwa kulungile ukuba ufunde "ukuhamba ngemilenze yakho" emva kokuba ubudlelwane buphelile. Ngesi sizathu, lungisa ubuncinci Injongo. Inokuba kukufunda ulwimi lwasemzini kakuhle, undwendwela indawo ongazange waya kuyo ngaphambili, ukuqala ngalo mdlalo uhlala unomdla kuwe kodwa awuzange uziqhelise ... ngamafutshane, nantoni na ukuba nje ikugcina uzibandakanya ngengqondo. Ke, gxila kwinjongo enye ngokunjalo yenza into oyithandayo, iyakuthatha ingqalelo yakho kude neentlungu ezivakaliswa luthando lwakho ogqityiweyo. Ngale ndlela, unokwenza into entsha eya kuthi ikwenze ufumanise inxenye yakho engaziwa ngaphambili.
5. Vula kwihlabathi
Xa usokola, uhlala uzivalela "njengehedgehog". Siyazi ukuba kufuneka sivuleke kwaye sizityand 'igila komnye nomnye, kodwa ngokufuthi kulula ukuba sizive singalunganga, sizikhethe kwibhampulu ngeentlungu zethu zothando kuphela ukusigcina sinenkampani. Nje ukuba uphinde ubuye nemikhwa yakho kwaye uqonde ukuba ukubandezeleka kuyaphela ngokuthe ngcembe, iya kuba lixesha lokuba vula ehlabathini. Dibana nabantu abatsha, tshintsha iinxalenye zemihla ngemihla obukade unazo ngaphambi kokuba ubudlelwane buphele, kwaye ukuba unako, lungisa ityesi yakho kwaye ulahleke kwindawo ongazange ube kuyo: ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi ikamva linento eyodwa eligcinelwe wena kwesi sigaba sitsha sobomi bakho!
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