Zimbalwa izinto ebomini ezibaluleke kangangokuba siphulukane nobuthongo ngenxa yazo. Nangona kunjalo, sithe phithi kukuphithizela kobomi bemihla ngemihla, siguqula into engabalulekanga ibe yinkxalabo enkulu. Sibhidanisa izinto ezingxamisekileyo nezibalulekileyo. Sicatshukiswa zizinto ezingenamsebenzi esiza kuzilibala kwinyanga ezayo. Sikhawuleza ukuba nomsindo. Siyacatshukiswa kokona ukothuka kuncinci kwaye sicinezeleke ngokona xinzelelo luncinci.
Ubukhulu becala, oku kuphinda kusebenze ngokweemvakalelo kubaxiweyo kungenxa yokuba sithatha izinto nzulu kakhulu. Asikwazi ukugcina i umgama ngokwengqondo Kuyimfuneko ukukucacisa okwenzekayo kuthi. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, esinye sezona zifundo zibalulekileyo eziya kusizisela uxolo lwengqondo olungakumbi ebomini kukuzithabatha lula izinto, ngaphandle kokujonga phezulu.
Phila kancinci
Sonke sinotyekelo lwendalo lokufuna ukulawula okwenzekayo kwindawo yethu yesenzo. Ngolawulo sizama ukwanelisa imfuno yethu yokhuseleko. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ixesha elidlulileyo lingenakuguqulwa kwaye nekamva linzima, esi simo sengqondo sokulawula sivelisa kuphela ixhala kunye nexhala, nto leyo eyongeza kubunzima obusele bunzima ebomini.
Eneneni, kweli hlabathi limfiliba ngakumbi, lingcoliswe ziintlekele nobunzima, lisoloko lihlala lihlala lihlala lihlala lixhalabele iindaba eziphazamisayo, ukungabi nathemba okuyityhefu nomsindo ongalawulekiyo, ngokungxamisekileyo kufuneka sifunde ukuqukuqela size siyiyeke i-ballast ukuze silungelelanise ihlabathi lethu langaphakathi.
U-Italo Calvino wayene-antidote: ukuphila kancinci. Uye wacebisa: "Buthathe kancinci ubomi, ukuba ukukhanya ayisiyonto yangaphandle, kodwa ukukhwela phezu kwezinto eziphuma phezulu, ungabi namatye entliziyweni yakho".
Ukukhanya kuqulethwe "ekususeni ubunzima" ukusuka kumelo lwenyani. Ukufunda ukunika yonke into kwindawo yayo efanelekileyo ebomini bethu kodwa, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ibandakanya ukungaziqokeleli ukuphazamiseka, amaxhala kunye noxanduva lwabanye.
Ukuthatha izinto lula akuthethi ukuba ujonge phezulu, kodwa endaweni yoko yeka ukuthatha yonke into nzulu kakhulu. Yeka ukwenza izaqhwithi kwikomityi yeti. Ulibale iidrama. Cinga ukuba asiyiyo yonke into yobuqu. Vumela umsindo, unxunguphalo, okanye ukudakumba kuqukuqelele de bazinciphe.
Ukuphila kancinci kukwathetha ukwenza uxolo nawe. Yeka ukuba ngabagwebi bethu abangqwabalala kwaye siqalise ukuziphatha ngobubele ngakumbi. Kubandakanya ukuzixolela. Zikhulule kwii-ballasts zeemvakalelo esizinyanzela ngamanye amaxesha ukuba sizithwale. Ukukhanya kukukhululeka kunye nokuzikhathalela kwihlabathi elisinyanzela ukuba sihlale sikwingcinezelo kwaye sifumaneke kwabanye.
Ukuphila kancinci kuthetha ukwazi indlela yokwandisa ixesha. Ukuphazamisa ukuhamba kobomi okusishiya siphefumla. Phinda ubuyise ixesha elithatha inqanaba elingaphakathi, uliguqule libe kukutya komphefumlo kunye nentliziyo. Sinike ingqwalasela ethe chatha kuthi, kodwa ngaphandle kokuba sizithathele ingqalelo kakhulu, sithathe indawo yokudlala kunye nenomdla kuthi.
Ukuphila kancinci kukwathetha ukuba siphinde sibe ne "ego" yethu ukuze sibhabhele phezulu, kunye nelo butho lisempilweni lisivumela ukuba sidlule ebunzimeni singonakalanga. Kukukwazi ukuqaphela izinto ezifihlakeleyo nezibalulekileyo naxa kukho iintlungu ukuze uzibeke kwindawo ebalulekileyo. Ifumana kwakhona incasa yokumangala kunye noncumo, kwizinto ezilula kunye nakwi-banal.
Umthambo wokufunda ukuthatha izinto ngokulula kwaye uyeke i-ballast
Umthambo olula kakhulu ukuqala ukususa ubunzima obusithintelayo kukucinga okanye ukuzoba isikhwama esimnyama. Loo bhegi imele zonke izinto esiziphetheyo, onke amaxhala, uxanduva, uloyiko, ukungakhuseleki, ukuphoxeka...
Kufuneka sizibuze: zeziphi ezona zinto zisithwaxa kakhulu ebomini? Kutheni sizithwala emagxeni ethu? Yintoni esinokuyikhupha kuloo bhegi ukuze siphucule ubomi bethu, sonwabe ngakumbi, okanye sizive saneliseke ngakumbi?
Okulandelayo, sinokubhala uluhlu ngokwahlula okukokwethu koko sinokukubuyisela, njenge balindele kwabanye, iimfuno ezigqithisileyo zelizwe langaphandle kunye noxinzelelo lwentlalo.
Ngaloo ndlela siya kukwazi ukuzikhulula umthwalo weemvakalelo nto leyo, kude nokuba luncedo, iyasithintela kwaye isenze singabikho kulungelelwano. Sisenokungabi ziintsiba, kodwa siphila lula. Kwaye ukususa obo bunzima bugqithisileyo kunokuba sempilweni kuphela kumzimba nengqondo.
Umnyango Ubugcisa bokuphila ngokulula ngaphandle kokujonga phezulu yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
