Ngokwesiqhelo kukholelwa ukuba imvakalelo yokuziva ulilize yayiqhelekile kwabo baneengxaki zengqondo ezinje ukudangala. Kodwa inyani kukuba yimeko yengqondo esinokuthi sonke siphathwe yiyo kwaye inokuba sisifo esinganyangekiyo ukuba asiyinikeli ngqalelo kuyo.
Iqela leengcali zeengqondo ezivela kwi College College yaseLondon igqibe kwelokuba iphande ingathi akukho nto kwaye ifumanise ukuba isasazeke ngakumbi kunokuba ibonwa ngokwasentlalweni. Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokoyika ukubekwa amabala okanye ukungabikho komkhwa wokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zethu, inyani kukuba abantu abaninzi bayayithwala le nto yokuziva bengento kwaye bodwa.
Ke ngoko, nabani na unokuziva enesithukuthezi, ngaphandle kwembali yempilo yengqondo. Ngamava antsonkothileyo okulungiswa kwezinto kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi kwaye kunokuba yingozi. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba ungayiqonda njani ukuze ujongane nayo ngexesha.
"Ingqayi engenasiphelo"
Ezi ngcali zeengqondo zithethe nabantu abangaphezulu kwama-400 abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-18 nama-80 ubudala abaziva belambatha ngexesha elithile ebomini babo, abanye ngamanye amaxesha kwaye abanye ngalo lonke ixesha. Aba bantu bazalise iphepha lemibuzo eliphanda ezo mvakalelo zokuba lilize. Luphando olwenziwa nguvulindlela ke olunika umntu wokuqala ukuba azive engelutho.
Abanye abathathi-nxaxheba bachaze le mvakalelo yokuba lilize njenge "Uhlobo lwengqayi engenasiphelo engenakuze igcwaliswe" o "Uvakalelo lokunye ukwahlukana noluntu" che "Ifunxa bonke ubomi bakho namandla".
Ngapha koko, olunye lweempawu ezahlukileyo zemvakalelo yokuziva ulilolo kunye nokuba lilolo kanye yile mvakalelo yokuba lilize kwangaphakathi. Ukuziva ungento yanto, ubukhulu becala, kuvelaanhedonia. Ngamanye amagama, abantu abaziva belambatha banamava "weemvakalelo zokuthomalalisa iintlungu" ezibathintela ekuziva bephelelwe lithemba, kodwa nakonwaba. Xa bejonga ngaphakathi, iba ngathi abafumani nto.
Ezi mvakalelo zengqondo zihlala zihamba neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo zomzimba. Umzekelo, abantu bachaze iintlungu, iqhina, imvakalelo yokuziva ungento emzimbeni kwaye bahlala bebonisa: "Ndiziva ngathi ndingenanto esifubeni sam". Olu luvo lubonisa ukuba imvakalelo yokuziva ungenanto inefuthe lomzimba.
"Ndiziva ndingabonakali"
Ukungabinanto kuhlala kwenzeka ngokunxulumene nolwalamano lomntu nabanye. Kuqala, abathathi-nxaxheba baziva bengenanto banokunikela ngayo kwabanye. Baziva bengenako ukuba nefuthe elihle kubomi babo kunye nokwenza igalelo elibalulekileyo kubudlelwane babo kunye nobomi boluntu. Ngesi sizathu, bazichaze njenge "ukukhathazeka" o "Umthwalo kwabanye".
Okwesibini, banamava okusilela ukwazisa, oko kubonisa ukuba imvakalelo yokuziva ungenanto ayisiyiyo into ekhula ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, kodwa inokuxhokonxwa ziimeko, ngakumbi xa sihamba kwimeko ezikhubaza ngokweemvakalelo.
Umntu omnye uthe: "Ndiziva ndingabonakali kwabo basondele kum". Abo baziva bengento yanto bathi abazange baviwe okanye baqwalaselwe ngabanye, kubandakanya nabantu ababaluleke kakhulu kubo. Baziva ngathi banye "Umntu olahlekileyo", nangona ujikelezwe ngabantu.
Into enomdla kukuba, oku kunqunyulwa kwabanye bekudityaniswa nemvakalelo yokuchaswa kunye nokuchitheka. Abantu abaninzi baxele ukuba ngamaxhobaisiphumo sedolophu okanye uzive sisixhobo somnye umntu, ngakumbi abo babeyinxalenye yabo isangqa sentembeko. Baziva bodwa, benqanyuliwe, bebodwa kwaye bekho kude ngokweemvakalelo kwabo babangqongileyo.
"Yonke into endiyenzayo ililize"
Enye yamazwe ehamba kunye nemvakalelo yokuziva ungonwabanga kukuziva ukuba yonke into ayinantsingiselo nenjongo ebomini. Uninzi lwabathathi-nxaxheba luvumile ukuba abanalo Msgstr "Akukho nto inexabiso onokuzibophelela kuyo". ukungabinakho ukuthatha inxaxheba kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi obalulekileyo kwaye "Awufuni nto". Oku kuthetha ukuba babengenasikhokelo ebomini.
Omnye wabantu ekwenziwe udliwanondlebe naye ucacisile: “Uziva ngathi yonke into oyenzayo ayinamsebenzi kwaye uyaqhubeka nokuhamba. Uzama nje ukugcwalisa ixesha de kube sekufeni. Ngamanye amaxesha uyonwaba okanye kwenzeka into entle enokukuphazamisa okwethutyana, kodwa ekugqibeleni kubakho ubuze bangaphakathi obungapheliyo. Ingathi ucacile kwaye nantoni na encomekayo enjengothando okanye uvuyo idlula kuwe ingakhange izincamathisele, kwaye ke ngokungathi khange zibekho apho ”.
Omnye umntu wathi: "Ndaziva ngathi andiyonxalenye yehlabathi, khange ndive nto kwaye akukho nto ndiyenzileyo ibinempembelelo kwiziganeko okanye kwabanye abantu, bendikhona" kodwa "bendingaphili".
Abantu abaziva belambatha abafumani ntsingiselo kwinto abayenzayo okanye ebomini ngokwabo. Abaninzi bakuva phila kwi-autopilot isoloko ifakwa. Benza izinto eziyimfuneko ukuze basinde okanye bahloniphe iindibano zentlalo, ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya kodwa ngendlela yoomatshini. Kufana nokuba umhlaba ubashiyile ngasemva, abakwazi ukufunxa amandla kunye namandla.
Ezi mvakalelo zinokuba yingozi. Ewe, ezi ngcali zengqondo zichonge unxibelelwano phakathi kweemvakalelo eziphindaphindayo zokuba lilize kunye nemibono yokuzibulala okanye indlela yokuziphatha. Abantu abathi bahleli beziva bengenanto babecinga ngokuzibulala okanye bazama nokuzibulala.
Umgibe osinika imvo yokuba lilize
Imvakalelo yokuziva ungenanto ixhomekeke ekungabikho kwemvakalelo kunye nenjongo ebomini. Yimvakalelo ekhoyo, ulwazelelo olusisiseko olwakha indlela apho i-ego inxulumene nelizwe elingenabuntu nelingaziphathanga. Olo luvo yindlela "yokuba semhlabeni".
Ngenxa yoko, i-ego ithathwa njengenciphile, engenanto kwaye engenaxabiso, eqhutywa kuphela yi-inertia. Oku kudala umgibe onokubulala njengoko, xa kungekho ntshukumisa, iimvakalelo zokuba lilize zisithathela amava ophando kunye nokuzinikela. Endaweni yoko, isiqu esingenanto siyasitshixela kuhlobo oluthile lwebhabhu elingaphakathi okanye intolongo esisibambezelayo kwaye isithintele ekunxibelelaneni nabanye okanye ukonwabela umhlaba nobomi.
Into enomdla kukuba, isiqingatha sabathathi-nxaxheba sasingazange sibe nengxaki yengqondo, ebonisa ukuba imvakalelo yokuziva ungenanto ayingafaniyo nabo banengxaki yokudakumba okanye ukungabikho komda kubuntu, kodwa unokufumana nabani na. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka silumkele imiqondiso yayo.
Umthombo:
UHerron, uSJ & Sani, F. (2021) Ukuqonda imbonakalo yento engekhoyo: isifundo ngamava aphilayo. Ijenali yezeMpilo yeNgqondo; 10.1080.
Umnyango Ukuziva ulilize okuxelwe emntwini wokuqala ngabo bahlala kuye yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
