Ungaze uthande ngoku, ngobhubhane oqhubekayo othusa umhlaba wonke, emozioni indlela uxinzelelo, uloyiko, unxunguphalo ezazikho ngayo kuye ngamnye wethu. Uloyiko esilufumana ngokudibeneyo, kodwa nangaphezulu kwako konke.
Umngcipheko kukuba ezi mvakalelo zinobunzima ziphela zichaphazela amandla ethu okugweba kunye nokuziqhelanisa, oko kusikhokele ekubeni siphuhlise iingxaki zengqondo ezinje ngoxinzelelo loxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo. Iingxaki ezinokubonakalisa iimpawu zazo hayi ngoku, phakathi kwesiqhwithi, kodwa nasemva kwexesha elithile.
Ngesi sizathu kulungile ukuba siyikhathalele impilo yethu yengqondo ngoku, sifunda ukulawula ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo ngeli xesha lokuvalelwa kunye noloyiko oluqondakalayo bahlala ngaphakathi kuthi sonke.
Nangona sihlala sicinga ngoloyiko njengemvakalelo engalunganga, oku akunjalo: igama leengqondo. Akukho zimvakalelo zimbi okanye ezilungileyo. Okwenza umahluko yindlela esibalawula ngayo kwaye bahambelana nemeko esihlala kuyo.
Kuyaqondakala ngokufanelekileyo ukoyika ngexesha lobhubhane. Ewe isempilweni kwaye iyaqhelaniswa. Kodwa uloyiko kufuneka luphulaphulwe, njengoko umntu emamela umthunywa ukwenza izigqibo ezingcono.
Njani? Uya kwazi kungekudala.
Wamkelekile kwisibini Ikhonkco yobukho be-coronavirus yengqondo
Le khithi (njengangaphambili uyifumene qui), iqulethe Izixhobo ezisebenzayo ezi-3 simema ukuba wabelane nabantu obathandayo ngokubathumela eli nqaku nge-imeyile okanye ngeendaba zosasazo, okanye ngokuthetha ngayo kunye.
Ngapha koko, xa wena okanye amalungu osapho lwakho nifuna ingcebiso, thina neqela lam sinokukunceda kwiiseshoni ezikwi-Intanethi, isenzo esiye sasisenza iminyaka eliqela ngoku sineziphumo ezifanayo nezo zeeseshini eofisini.
Umsebenzi wethu njengoososayikholojisti kukubonelela ngezixhobo zengqondo ezoneleyo ukujongana nexesha lokuvalelwa kwaye uphume usempilweni ngokwengqondo. Ewe, mhlawumbi unamandla kunangaphambili, kutheni?
Nazi izixhobo ezi-3 zeseti yesibini yeCoronavirus yengqondo yokuphila, eyenzelwe wena ziiworkshop zeMazzuTeam® zengqondo nguGqirha David Lo Presti noGqirha Luca Mazzucchelli.
Unqulo wesi-4
Mamela uloyiko
Nangona sihlala sibona uloyiko njengento engathandekiyo kunanjengobutyebi, ngokwenene namhlanje eyona mpazamo inkulu kukuba le mvakalelo ichithwe.
Isimemo sethu kukuba luthathe uloyiko ngakumbi njengomthunywa omelwe ukumamela kunokuba luthathe igongqongqo onokuthi ubaleke kulo.
Ngumthunywa oxabisekileyo, osele eluncedo kuthi amatyeli amaninzi, esindisa ubomi bethu. Ngaba uyalikhumbula ixesha owawukhe wajonga ngalo luloyiko lokuba kungaphuma imoto kwimpambana-ndlela? Kwaye ngeli xesha xa ukhetha ukuphuma emlilweni ngenxa yokoyika ukutshiswa?
Ukuba sijonga emva emva koko, uloyiko kwinqanaba lokuzivelela livumele ookhokho bethu ukuba bangaqwengwa yingwe enamazinyo, ibenza ukuba bahambe ngononophelo kwaye ke babafihle phambi kwezilwanyana ezinokubakho.
Okwangoku, olo loyiko lunyebezayo lusilumkisa, lusimema ukuba singaphumi emqolombeni wethu, singasondeli kwabanye. Ngaphandle akukho hlosi linamazinyo a-saber, kodwa intsholongwane efihlakeleyo ngakumbi, engabonakaliyo emehlweni ethu kodwa ibulala kakhulu.
Ke ngoko ingcebiso yethu kukuba ungoyiki uloyiko, ungabaleki kulo (okanye kuya kufuneka ukhwaze kakhulu) kwaye ungayikhathaleli (okanye singenza ububhanxa), kodwa simamele njengoko umamele into exabisekileyo umthunywa.
Eyona ndlela yokuyixabisa imiyalezo yakhe yile thatha usiba nephepha ubhale phantsi uloyiko lwakho. Ngale ndlela uya kuba nakho ukubalawula ngcono, kuba ngokuguqula uloyiko lube ngamagama uya kubanyanzela ukuba bathethe ulwimi lwengqondo, Oko kukuthi, baya kudlula besuka kwi-hemisphere yasekunene yengqondo (yeemvakalelo) baye ekhohlo Ikhonkco (ingqiqo yemathematika). Kwaye oko kuya kukukhokelela ekwenzeni ukhetho olusengqiqweni ngakumbi ngaphandle kokuba woyiswe luloyiko.
Unqulo wesi-5
Uvavanyo lwenyani
Emva kokumamela uloyiko lwakho kwaye uthathe ubuchule bakho obunengqondo, lixesha lokuba ujonge imeko. Kwisayikholoji ibizwa ngokuba "luvavanyo lwenyani" kwaye imele inqanaba lokuqonda umhlaba wangaphandle ngumntu. Ayisosigqibo esenziwe kwangaphambili, ngakumbi ngoku ukuba inyani lethu litshintshe ngesiquphe kwaye kakhulu.
Ukujonga inyani ngenyameko kubandakanya ukungayithatheli phantsi imeko, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kungonakalisi. 
Nazi ezinye zeengcinga esifuna ukwabelana ngazo ukukunceda ukuba ujonge ubunyani bokwenyani
A) Sukujongela phantsi: kufuneka sivume ukuba kukho ubhubhane oqhubekayo, nentsholongwane enesifo esosulelayo kakhulu. Ke ngoko, ukuthatha amanyathelo othintelo (ukuhlala emqolombeni) akusebenzeli ukuba sibeke kule ngozi.
B) Musa ukwenza intlekele: ayingobhubhani wokuqala ohlasela umhlaba (ngaphambili besiphethe iSpanish nesibetho esimnyama, sibulala ngakumbi), kodwa sisibetho sokuqala esinokujamelana naso iyeza elihambele phambili, kunye nemithombo yeendaba eyakhe yabonwa ngaphambili kunye enkulu intsebenziswano yamazwe ngamazwe. Ngokuhlala emqolombeni sikhuselekile.
Ingcebiso yethu kukuqhubeka novavanyo lwakho lokwenyani ngokusebenzisa esi sikimu singentla: sukujongela phantsi kwaye ungonakalisi.
Ukwenza uvavanyo olucokisekileyo lwenyani kuthetha ukuba nezixhobo ezingakumbi zokuziqhelanisa nayo, ngaphandle kokonganyelwa 
iimvakalelo ezinje ngokoyika ukuba xa zingalawulwa kakuhle zinokubeka isithunzi esibi ngaphezulu kwale meko, zisilahlekise.
Unqulo wesi-6
Jonga into onokuyijonga
Nje ukuba kutshekishwe ubunyani obuchanekileyo, kuluncedo ukuchonga uluhlu lwezenzo. Kwimeko enzima kwaye engazange ibonwe kuthi sonke, kulula ukulahleka kweebhere kunye nokulahleka. Umngcipheko kukwenza izinto ezingenamsebenzi ngokupheleleyo kunye nokulwa iingozi ezingekhoyo, endaweni yoko ukuthoba unonophelo lwethu kwizinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene.
Imibuzo endikucebisa ukuba uzibuze yona yile: yintoni engaphaya kwamandla am kwaye yintoni engaphaya kwamandla am?
Njengakwinqaku elidlulileyo, sicebisa ukuba uthathe usiba kunye nephepha kwaye ubhale ukuze ufumane ulwazi ngakumbi.
Nazi ezinye zeembonakalo zethu:
Yintoni engaphaya kwamandla am?
Mna ngokobuqu andinakuthatha manyathelo kwinqanaba likazwelonke ukulwa nesi sifo.
Mna ngokobuqu andinakubunqanda ubhubhane nge-snap yeminwe yam. Ngokwam, andinakho ukujongana neziphumo zoqoqosho olukhulu ubhubhane oluya kuba nalo kwihlabathi.
Yintoni ephantsi kolawulo lwam?
Ngokwam, ndinokulwa ukusasazeka kwentsholongwane ebantwini endinxibelelana nabo ngokujonga zonke imigaqo yezempilo, ukuthenga kube kanye ngeveki kunye nokuhlala ekhaya kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ngokwam, xa sele ndisekhaya ndiyakwazi ukuphatha ixesha lam ngendlela emnandi nenemveliso, ndizikhathalela kwaye ndingakhathazeki.
Ngokwam ndingayikhathalela ingqibelelo yam yengqondo kunye novakalelo lwam. Kwaye ukuba andinakukwenza ngokwam, ndingacela uncedo.
Ingcebiso yethu kukuhambisa amandla akho kwizinto eziphantsi kolawulo lwakho kwaye uzishiye ezinye.
Esi sesibini ICoronavirus yengqondo yobukho bekiti (eyokuqala uyifumana qui). Njengale yangaphambili, iqulethe "ii-antiviruses zengqondo" ezi-3 esizenzileyo zokunceda wena kunye nabantu obathandayo ngalo mzuzu ubuthathaka.
Siyakukhuthaza ukuba wabelane ngeekiti zombini nabo bonke abafowunelwa ngokukhawuleza. Kuba usulelo luyanda ngeyure kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ungenelele ngokukhawuleza.
Siyakukhumbuza ukuba ngeMazzuTeam® yethu, eyenziwe ziingcali zengqondo, eziqeqeshelwe ukusebenza ngeeseshoni ezikwi-intanethi, siyafumaneka ukukunceda ngeSkype nakuMthunywa.
Ukuba ufuna ukuqala indlela yokhathalelo lobuqu, nxibelelana neziko lezengqondo leLuca Mazzucchelli, ukufumana ingcebiso ngeSkype: https://www.psicologo-milano.it/contatta-psicologo/
Siyabulisa UDavid Lo Presti & ULuca Mazzucchelli yeeNdibano zeengxoxo zeZengqondo zeMazzuTeam®.
UDavid Lo Presti, Isazi ngengqondo kunye nesincoko, umbhali wencwadi Isiprofeto esizalisekisayo. Amandla okulindela ukudala inyani (UFlaccovio Hlela, 2018). Kunye noLuca Mazzucchelli uphatha ikholamu "Iincwadi zeNgqondo" kwimagazini eyimbali yeContemporary Psychology.
http://www.psicologomontecatini.com.
ULuca Mazzucchelli, ugqirha wezengqondo nosomashishini,
UMlawuli we I-Psychology yangoku, Umbhali we Inqaku leNcwadi 1% Imikhwa emincinci yeziphumo ezihle (Joints 2019).
L'articolo ICoronavirus # 2 yengqondo yobukho bekiti kubonakala ngathi yeyokuqala Isayikholojisti yaseMilan.
