Abantwana abayidingi eminye imizekelo yokulandelwa, kodwa bayeke babe ngabo. Abafuni zithixo ukuze baxeliswe, kodwa isithuba sokuphuhlisa ubuntu babo. Akuyomfuneko ukuba banxulumane nabantu abadumileyo okanye abadumileyo, kodwa badibanise ukuzithemba kwabo. Abayidingi imfundo ebanyanzela ukuba bajonge iipateni abanokuzixelisa, kodwa oko kubanika izixhobo zokuba ngabantu abakhethekileyo, abakhululekileyo nabazimiseleyo.
Ivenkile enkulu yezithixo kunye nexabiso
"Ungathanda ukuba ngubani?"
Umbuzo wabuzwa ngutitshala eklasini yam xa ndandineminyaka eli-9 ubudala.
Okokuqala, yandothusa. Emva koko, xa abanye abantwana endandifunda nabo baqalisa ukukhankanya amagama abantu bembali okanye abadumileyo, ingqondo yam yaqalisa ukusebenza nzima ikhangela imodeli endandifuna ukuyixelisa.
Khange ndiyifumane.
Yayingelokratshi okanye ukungazi. Babekhona abantu endibathandayo. Kunjalo. Kodwa zazininzi, zininzi kakhulu kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, kwakungekho ngqiqweni ukufana nazo zonke ngenxa yokuba ngelo xesha ndandisele ndiyazi ukuba umntu owahlukileyo. Sonke sinjalo.
Nawuphi na umntwana ophendula ngokuthi “ndifuna ukuba ndim” kulo mbuzo uya kubamangalisa ootitshala kuba imfundo yethu yenzelwe ukubhiyozela abalinganiswa abaquka imilinganiselo eyamkelekileyo eluntwini. Kulindeleke ukuba abantwana bababone njengemizekelo. Mabajongane nezithixo zabo kwaye bazame ukulingana. Mabamise umgangatho wabo apho bawubeke khona abo bantu.
Ngaxa lithile, xa izithixo ezindala ziphelelwa lixesha kwaye zingasabonakalisi imilinganiselo uluntu olufuna ukuyinyusa, kufunwa imodeli emitsha. Ngelishwa, uninzi lweentshukumo zenkcubeko ezintsha ezikhuthaza iyantlukwano kunye nokunyaniseka azenzi nto ngaphandle kokuphindaphinda loo pateni yakudala, ukutshintsha nje okanye ukwandisa imodeli ekufuneka ilandelwe.
Ngenxa yoko, "inkululeko" yabantwana inqunyelwe ekukhetheni kwivenkile enkulu egcwele izithixo ezikhuphisanayo ukutsala abalandeli abaninzi. Kodwa inkululeko yokwenyani ayiquki ekukhetheni phakathi kwezinto ezinokwenzeka ezibekwe kwangaphambili ngabanye, ibandakanya ukuba ngabayili bekamva lethu, ekufumaniseni ukuba sifuna ukuba ngubani ngokwenene. Inkululeko ayikhethi, iyadala. Inkululeko ayixelisi mntu, kukuba yile nto ufuna ukuba yiyo.
Inkululeko ayithethi nto, ngaphandle kokuba ithetha inkululeko yokuba nguwe
Kangangeenkulungwane sikholelwa ukuba ubukho bezithixo kunye nemizekelo yabantu abancinci kunye nabantwana bulungile kuba bubanika "ukuqhelaniswa" kwaye kunceda ukuphuhlisa kubo imilinganiselo elindelwe luluntu. Ngoko ke, kunzima ukucinga ngolunye uhlobo lwemfundo. Enyanisweni, kukho abo bakholelwa ukuba imfundo engenaye imizekelo ibonisa ukuwela kweyona milinganiselo ipheleleyo yokuziphatha.
Noko ke, olunye uhlobo lwemfundo lunokubakho. Sele sinayo, kodwa kufuneka sijonge ngasemva ukuze siyifumane: kufuneka sibuyele kumaxesha angaphambi kukaSocrates. Loo mfundo, igxile ekuphuhliseni amandla okubuza imibuzo nokucinga ngokuzimela, yabangela ukuba izithandi zobulumko ezibalaseleyo namhlanje zilityalwe kwaye zingaqondwa ngokubanzi, ezinjengoAnaximander, uHeraclitus, uAnaximedes, uParmenides, uAnaxagora, uProtagora nabanye abaninzi.
Loo mfundo yayingenzelwanga ukuzalisa ingqondo, kodwa yayifuna ukuyivula. Injongo yayingekokunika abafundi abantu abayimizekelo, kodwa yayikukubakhokela ukuze babe ngabantu abafuna ukuba ngabo. Ngokucacileyo, olu hlobo lwemfundo "luyingozi" kuba luvelisa abantu abazimeleyo, abakwaziyo ukucinga kunye nokugqiba ngokwabo, kunokuba bakhethe nje kuluhlu lwezithixo ezibhiyozelwa ngokulula kwinkcubeko ekhoyo.
Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, abantwana bethu abafuni ezinye izithixo ezibabiyele kwiipatheni zokucinga nezenzo ezimiselwe kwangaphambili, ezisoloko zichasa omnye komnye, nto leyo ekhokelela kucalucalulo lwentlalo. Akuyomfuneko ukuba bafundiswe ukukhangela izithixo ngaphandle, kodwa bakhuthazwa ukuba bakhangele ngaphakathi ukuze bafumanise ukuba bafuna ukuba ngubani. Imigangatho akufuneki ibekwe phezulu kakhulu ukuba bangabinako ukufikelela kuyo okanye ezantsi kakhulu ukuba bangakwazi ukuthwala amandla abo.
Ngamafutshane, abantwana abayidingi imodeli abanokuthi bazazise ngayo ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokunciphisa ubutyebi babo bokuzalwa bufikelele kwiqaqobana leelebhile, kodwa kunoko inkululeko yokuphonononga nokuzibonakalisa njengabantu abakhethekileyo nabangenakuphinda baphindeke. Injongo yemfundo ayikokwenza abantwana "bafanele" ngayo nayiphi na indlela enokwenzeka kwiipateni ezisele zisekwe, kodwa ukudala izithuba zokuzibonakalisa eziqinisekisayo ezikhuthaza ukunyaniseka, inkululeko yokucinga kunye nokwamkela isiqu sakho.
Esi sesona sipho sikhulu ngokwenene esinokusinika abantwana bethu kuba, njengoko uRalph Waldo Emerson wabhalayo, "Impumelelo enkulu ebomini kukuba nguwe, kwihlabathi elihlala lizama ukukuguqula ube ngomnye umntu."
Umnyango Abantwana abafuni imizekelo engakumbi, kodwa inkululeko ethe chatha ukuze babe ngabo yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
