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Ngenxa yoko, akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu abaninzi baqale ukuthanda imizimba yabo ngenye imini, baze bazibone sele betsala nzima kusuku olulandelayo ngaloo mibimbi mitsha, isiphatho sothando esinemvukelo, okanye ukuwohloka okuqala ukubonakala kwiindawo.
Ngokucacileyo, uthando ngomzimba aluzinyanzeli kwaye alunakuba ngumphumo wefashoni. Ngapha koko, amabinzana abonakala exhobisa avela kwi-positivity yomzimba kunokwenzeka ukuba abe nesiphumo esichaseneyo kwaye aphele evelisa ukudakumba kunye nokungoneliseki.
Ukuthanda umzimba kuza ngokwamkelwa kunye nomsebenzi onzulu wangaphakathi ofuna ukuzithemba okuqinileyo. Kungale ndlela kuphela apho siya kuthi sikwazi ukukhuseleka kwimiyalezo ephikisanayo kunye neefashoni eziyalela ukuba imizimba ibe njani okanye sinxibelelane njani nayo.
Yintoni umfanekiso womzimba?
Umfanekiso womzimba ubandakanya iimbono zethu, iinkolelo, iimvakalelo, iingcinga kunye nezenzo malunga nenkangeleko yethu yomzimba. Ngokwenyani, lulwalamano esilusekayo kunye nemizimba yethu kunye nendlela esiyibona ngayo, siyixabisa kunye nendlela esiziva ngayo ngayo.
Ngelishwa, olo lwalamano alusoloko lulungile, lwanelisa, okanye lusempilweni. Enye yeempawu ezibonisa ukuba asinabudlelwane obuhle nemizimba yethu kukungquzulana. Ukuba sihlala "silwa" nemizimba yethu kubudlelwane bentiyo yothando, mhlawumbi kukho iindawo zethu esizilahlayo. Ngokomzekelo, sisenokucinga ukuba ukuba besibade, sibhityile okanye somelele, yonke into ibiya kuba lula. Kwezi meko akukho kugatywa ngokupheleleyo komzimba kodwa oko sikugqala “njengeziphene”.
Olunye uphawu oluqhelekileyo lobudlelwane obubi kunye nomzimba, ngokuqhelekileyo olusekelwe kwimvakalelo eqhelekileyo yokulahlwa, kukuxhatshazwa. Siyazixhaphaza xa sizithuka malunga nenkangeleko yethu, kodwa naxa silandela ukutya okugqithisileyo, senze umthambo de sidinwe okanye sitye kakhulu.
Ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nemizimba yethu, kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuba kukho izinto esinokuzitshintsha kunye nezinye esingenako. Singakwazi ukuzigcina sisempilweni, kodwa asinakukuthintela ukwaluphala, umzekelo. Ukuba nomfanekiso womzimba owaneleyo kuya kusivumela ukuba sinxibelelane ngcono nomzimba wethu kunye notshintsho olwenzekayo kubo bonke ubomi, okuya kuthi ekugqibeleni kuguqulele ukuzithemba kwethu kunye nokuphila kakuhle. Ukufezekisa oku, amabinzana afanelekileyo ayanele, kufuneka usebenze kumacandelo omfanekiso womzimba.
Amalungu omfanekiso womzimba alamla ubudlelwane nomzimba
1. Ukuqonda: sibonana njani?
Eli candelo lomfanekiso womzimba libhekisa kwindlela esizibona ngayo. Umbono esinawo ngomzimba wethu, enyanisweni, akusoloko ummeli othembekileyo kunye nenjongo. Umzekelo, abantu abane-anorexia banokuziva betyebile xa bebhitye kakhulu. Abanye abantu banokuziva "bembi" ngenxa yokumila kwempumlo okanye i-mole engayiboniyo abantu abaninzi.
Asisoloko sijonga esipilini ngamehlo alungileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha sinokubona umzimba wethu ngesigqubuthelo sokungakhuseleki kwethu okanye ulindelo olungenangqiqo. Ukuze imbono yethu ihambelane nenyani, kulungele ukuziqhelanisaingqalelo epheleleyo ngaphandle kokugweba. Ukuzijonga esipilini ngokungathi singabazi ngokupheleleyo kuya kusinceda sithabathe umgama oyimfuneko ngokwasengqondweni ukuze sikuphephe ukuba ngabagxeki abanjalo.
Kukwafuneka siqinisekise ukuba asizigwebi okanye asizibhali ngexesha lenkqubo yokufunyanwa kwakhona. Ubukho bamabala okanye imibimbi, umzekelo, akuthethi ukuba sibi, kanye njengokuba izibambo zothando azisoloko zibonisa ukuba sityebile. "Ugly" okanye "amafutha" ziileyibhile esizisebenzisayo ngenxa yesigwebo. Ngoko ke, injongo kukuhlola umzimba wethu ngaphandle kokugweba. Hayi kakubi okanye kakuhle. Ngoko ke sinokuyisusa i-lens egqwethekileyo ebesijonge kuyo.
2. Ingqondo: sicinga njani ngathi?
Eli candelo lomfanekiso womzimba libandakanya iingcinga kunye neenkolelo esinazo ngemizimba yethu. Yiyo yonke into esizixelela yona malunga nenkangeleko yethu kunye neenkolelo ezidibanisa ubudlelwane bethu nomzimba wethu. Uninzi lweenkolelo malunga nomzimba ofanelekileyo zivela kuluntu, ngoko zihlala zingasebenzi kwaye zithintela ubudlelwane obunempilo nomzimba wethu.
Ukucinga ukuba sifanele sihlale siselula yinkolelo engenangqiqo esiqhubela ukuba siyala inkqubo yokuguga yendalo. Ukukholelwa ukuba kuphela ngokuba mncinci okanye u-muscular unokonwaba enye inkolelo engenangqondo njengoko kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuziva wanelisekile ngokwakho. Ukuba asizisusi ezi nkolelo neengcinga zingekho ngqiqweni, mhlawumbi asinakuze sizive kamnandi ngemizimba yethu.
Ngenxa yesi sizathu, ukuphuhlisa umfanekiso womzimba ochanekileyo, kufuneka sinikele ingqalelo kwingxoxo yethu yangaphakathi malunga nemizimba yethu. Kunokuba siphephe ukwaluphala, sifanele sinikele ingqalelo ekwaluphaleni okusempilweni. Esikhundleni sokuzama ukuba nguArnold Schwarzenegger, kufuneka sigxininise ekufumaneni ubunzima bemisipha ngendlela ephilileyo. Kumalunga nokutshintsha i-epicenter apho iingcinga zethu zijikeleza khona, ukusuka kubuhle obumsulwa ukuya kwimpilo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
3. Esebenzayo: siziva njani?
Eli candelo lomfanekiso womzimba libhekisa kwiimvakalelo esinazo ngokubhekiselele kumzimba wethu, ezibonisa ngokusisiseko inqanaba lokwaneliseka okanye ukungoneliseki ngenkangeleko yethu. Kubandakanya zonke izinto esizithandayo nezingazithandiyo ngemizimba yethu nendlela esenza sizive ngayo.
Ngokucacileyo, iimvakalelo esinazo ngemizimba yethu ziphenjelelwa ngamandla luluntu, yimifanekiso esiyibona kumabonwakude, kwiimagazini okanye kwinethiwekhi yoluntu. Ngoko ukuba sifuna ukuziva bhetele ngenkangeleko yethu, kusenokufuneka siwabuze amajelo eendaba esiwasebenzisayo nempembelelo yawo kuthi. Ukuba neemvakalelo ezintle ngakumbi ngomzimba wethu, kubalulekile ukukhetha imidiya ebonisa ngokwenene ukuhlukahluka komzimba, ukuhamba kude nalawo akhuthaza inkolo ye-aesthetics engafanelekanga.
Kakade ke, iingcinga neenkolelo esinazo ngemizimba yethu, kwanendlela esiyijonga ngayo, ziya kuba nefuthe kwiimvakalelo esinazo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba sithandane ukuba ngokunzulu siqhubeka sicinga ngokungaqiniseki, iinkolelo ezingenangqondo okanye ukuba nomfanekiso womzimba ogqwethekileyo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuzithiya akuyomfuneko ukuze sitshintshe yaye sinokuziva singanelisekanga ngamalungu omzimba wethu kodwa sikwamkele. Ukuthanda umzimba akuphumi kwimfezeko kodwa kulwamkelo lobubodwa.
4. Ukuziphatha: siziphatha njani?
Eli candelo lomfanekiso womzimba libandakanya zonke izenzo ezinxulumene nomzimba wethu. Ukuba umntu unomfanekiso womzimba ophilileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba anakekele umzimba wakhe kunye nenkangeleko, kodwa ngaphandle kokugqithisa okanye ukugqithisa phezu kwabo. Endaweni yoko, abo banembonakalo engathandekiyo yomzimba basenokubandakanyeka kukuziphatha okuzenzakalisayo okukhokelela kukuphazamiseka kokutya okufana ne<em>bulimia okanye i<em>anorexia okanye i<em>vigorexia ngelinge lokutshintsha inkangeleko yabo.
Ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nemizimba yethu, kukwabalulekile ukuba siyeke ukuzithelekisa nabanye, nokuba ngummelwane okanye umhlobo, okanye umntu ophembelela okwangoku okanye usaziwayo wefashoni. Yonke imizimba yahlukile. Ukugqibelela kunye nobuhle aziyonto ngaphandle kwemibono eguqukayo ngokwenkcubeko namaxesha.
Endaweni yoko, sinokuqalisa ukucinga ngomzimba wethu njengetempile. Umzimba usivumela ukuba sonwabe kwaye sinxibelelane nokusingqongileyo. Ifanele ibe ngumthombo wolwaneliseko, kungekhona ukuzenzela izinto ezintsonkothileyo. Sifanele sicinge ngomzimba ngokusebenza ngakumbi, i-salutogenic kunye ne-hedonic. Yinyamekele, uyiphonononge kwaye uyamkele. Yiba nengqiqo malunga nemida yethu. Phonononga amandla ethu. Kwaye ube nombulelo ngako konke esivumela ukuba sikwenze kunye namava.
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Umnyango Amacandelo ama-4 omfanekiso womzimba ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo nomzimba wakho yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
