Bangaphi kuni, nje ukuba ilizwe libhengezwe njengendawo ebomvu ngokupheleleyo, beka amaqhinga kwilokhari kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwaye, emva kweenyanga ezimbini, banazo ngokupheleleyo zisuse ubukho bazo? Kuqhelekile, enyanisweni, ukuba kufuneka uchithe imali imihla yonke ekhaya, mhlawumbi kwi solitudine, lo mqondiso ke ngesiqhelo (kwabanye, kunjalo) ibiyiyo ukugxothwa ngokupheleleyo kule nkqubo intsha. Kwaye ngoku, nokuba ingabonakala kuwe ngqiqweni, kukhona ezinye "Akanankathalo" ethe yagcinwa uthembeke ngokungagungqiyo kulo mkhuba. Ewe, ngokuvalelwa bodwa, eyeyabo sele injalo intswelo yokwenene. Kodwa ngaba uyazi ukuba, mhlawumbi,, azikho zonke eziphosakeleyo? Masifumanise ukuba kutheni!
Ukucinga okuncinci kuyadingeka: kufuneka kugxininiswe, enyanisweni, ukuba wonke umntu unayo indlela yobuqu yokufumana uxolo kwesi "sihogo" e akufuneki kugwetywe yale. Sisoloko sishumayela ixabiso lenkululeko, ingakanani le nto ilungelo elingenakuphikiswa yethu sonke, ke wonke umntu makabe ukhululekile ukuziva ulungile njengoko ebona kufanelekile kwaye, ngaphezulu kwako konke, uyaphumelela, nokuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nokuthambisa okanye hayi, nokuba uyathanda ukuxolela iipizza ngaphandle kokumisa, okanye nokuba ngowona mzamo wakhe mkhulu wokutya kukutya ukutya okubandayo ukufudumeza kwimicrowave. Ukuququmbela, Phila, uphile!
1. Ukuzithemba
Ubufazi kunye nomtsalane, le yindlela abanye abantu abafuna ukuziva ngayo ngaphandle kokunyanzelwa ukuba bodwa. Ubuwena iphakathi kwe- izithako ezingundoqo Ukujongana nomzuzwana wobunzima entloko. Inkqubo ye- itrco, kule nto, idlala indima ebalulekileyo, kodwa ayinyanzelekanga ukuba isetyenziswe kuphela phambi kwabanye. Yikholwe okanye hayi, unokufuna ukubonakala umhle nkqu nesiqu sakho, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuba umntu onwabele kwaye anike ubungqina ngobuhle bethu. Masikhumbule, enyanisweni, ukuba asililangazeleli uxabiso, ngamanye amaxesha, sidinga nje ukuva omnye nomnye ngokukhululeka phambi kwesipili.
2. Ingqondo yesiqhelo
Awusazi ukuba loluphi usuku, yeyiphi inyanga kunye nexesha esikulo, awusalikhumbuli igama lakho? Ewe, yonke into iqhelekile. Imeko esijamelana nayo ibandakanya into ethile umthamo wokwahlulwa kunye iziphumo isiphumo sayo isenokuba nayo ifuthe elibalulekileyo kwi-psyche yethu. Lo bhubhane une Iyicaphukise kakhulu indlela esiqhele ukwenza ngayo kwaye akukho lula ukwenza entsha ngaphandle kwento. Masizame, ke, uku ukugcina okungenani ezo zinto zisetyenziswayo kunye namasiko apho sinokuzinikela khona ngaphakathi kweendonga zendlu. Ukuzenzela yenye yazo. Yayinye uwuthanda okanye, kancinci, inye isiko, masingayishiyi kwishelufa enothuli. Phinda zonke ezo zinto izijekulo zomzimba bayenzile yinxalenye yobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla iya kusinceda ungalahli ulwazi lwenyani kwaye, ngaphezulu kwako konke, a sikhumbuze ukuba singoobani.
3. Ukuzonwabisa
Ngapha koko, ukugxila kwisenzo ngokwaso, ke ngoko kuwo onke amanyathelo abandakanyekayo kwinkqubo yobuhle, enza eyethu ubuchopho si ukuphazamisa okomzuzwana kwiingcinga ezixhalabisayo kwaye ufumane kwakhona Uxolo.
4. Ukuzikhathalela
Masizame tshintsha umbono apho sijonga khona izinto: ixesha elithathiweyo ngexesha lokwenziwa li ixesha esilinikezela kuthi, ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyinkcitho. Ngokukodwa ngoku, xa imeko yethu iguquka mihla le, yeyethu ilungelo le-sacrosanct sithethelele, isinike ezo ingqalelo esihlala sizibandeza kwaye esihlala siqinisekisa kuphela kwabanye.
5. Ukuba nethemba
Faka into yokuthambisa yi isithethe sobuhle… kwisimo esihle. Izinto zokuthambisa, phofu, ziphuma ngokwahlukeneyo iziphumo eziluncedo Ayisiyiyo kuphela inqanaba lobuhle, kodwa nayo kwinqanaba lengqondo. Ukhetho lokuthambisa izimonyo rhoqo kusasa emva kwesidlo sakusasa esimnandi sisinika intlawulo eyimfuneko ukujamelana ngcono nomhla wethu, nokuba kusembindini wesifo. Ngaphandle koko sibuyisele ukukhanya ilahlekile phakathi kwexhala kunye neendaba ezibandezelayo, le ndlela yokuziphatha inokuba yeyethu umthombo okhawulezileyo wethemba. Ukuthi kunjalo Iziphumo zeLipstick, isifundo esenziwe ngo-2017 eHarvard, abantu abafaka izithambiso banesimo esingcono ngentlonipho kubomi nakwihlabathi elibangqongileyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto, idatha isesandleni, ngamaxesha obunzima Imilebe ebomvu yomlomo iphakathi kwezinto ezithengwa kakhului? Ngamafutshane, i-make-up endala indala iba yi Ngokudibeneyo ukufumana kwakhona ukuzithemba kwaye, ngenxa yoko, kwikamva elinokubakho.
