Ukubeka izinto ezibalulekileyo kwindawo yokuqala kukhanyisa ingqondo kwaye kwenza ubomi bube lula. Ngoko sinokunikela ingqalelo kwizinto ezibalulekileyo. Siyayazi yonke le nto. Nangona kunjalo, xa sijongene nosuku olutsha, izinto ezingalindelekanga kunye neemeko zongxamiseko zisibetha ngawo onke amandla azo, zisenza sizilibale izinto eziza kuqala kuthi. Ngoko sigqiba ukuntywiliselwa kwi-tangle yeengxaki ezincinci ezingabalulekanga eziye zibe yimingxuma emnyama echitha ixesha lethu kunye namandla ethu.
Kufuneka sifunde ukubeka phambili. Siyayazi loo nto. Kodwa uzibeka njani ezona zinto zibalulekileyo xa yonke into ibonakala ingxamisekile? Indlela yokubeka phambili xa ihlabathi lisityhalela kwelinye icala? Indlela yokuhlala ekhondweni ukuba zonke iziganeko ezingalindelekanga zizibonakalisa njengomcimbi wobomi okanye ukufa?
Indlela yokubeka izinto eziphambili xa yonke into ingxamisekile?
Kubantu abazifunayo kakhulu kunye nakwabo bakufumanisa kunzima ukunikezela, "ukhetho olumiselweyo" luhlala luthatha ulawulo kuyo yonke into. Beka phambili yonke into. Ngokucacileyo, lukhetho olubi kuba ekugqibeleni ukudinwa kuya kunkqonkqoza emnyango wethu kungekudala okanye kamva.
Nangona kunjalo, kwihlabathi elikhawulezayo apho yonke into ibonakala ingxamisekile - kodwa zimbalwa izinto ngokwenene - ukufunda ukunqanda isiphithiphithi kunye nokwabela umsebenzi ngamnye ngokubaluleka okuwufaneleyo sisakhono esibalulekileyo ukuba asifuni ekugqibeleni songanyelwe, sigxininisekile kwaye sidanile.
• Cinga ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba sikwazi ukwenza yonke into
Sihlala kwi uluntu ukudinwa, ngokusisiseko ngenxa yokuba ngamnye wethu uza kunye nathi "inkampu yomsebenzi onyanzelweyo", ukuchaza ngenye indlela isithandi sobulumko u-Byung-Chul Han. Sizixhaphaza ngokukholelwa ukuba siyaziqonda, kodwa eneneni sinokuzizisa kuphela kumda, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzilayisha kakhulu ngemisebenzi kunokusenza sizive njengamaqhawe abalaseleyo. Umbono wokumelana nayo yonke into uvakala ulungile. Kodwa ayizinzeki kwixesha elide. Ke ngoko, inyathelo lokuqala lokubeka izinto ezibalulekileyo kwindawo yokuqala kukuyeka ukuzifunela izinto ezininzi kwaye siqonde ukuba asinakwenza yonke into, kwaye akuyomfuneko. Kuthetha ukuvuma ukuba singabantu nokuba imisebenzi emininzi esiyenzayo imihla ngemihla mhlawumbi ayinagalelo kwimpilo-ntle yethu.
• Phuhlisa umbono wehlabathi
Kangangexesha elide, ukungaqiniseki kuye kwakhula kubomi bethu. Kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ibe liqabane lethu lokuhamba ixesha elide elizayo. Ngenxa yokungaqiniseki, okubalulekileyo namhlanje kusenokungabi namsebenzi ngomso. Ngoko ke, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba sihlala singenambono obanzi kunye nexesha elide.
Ukuba sijonga into nje enye, imfanyekiswe ziimeko zangoku, sinokuyigqala njengebaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba ifanele. Ukuphepha lo mgibe, irelativity yeyona nto iphambili. Jonga ngeenxa zonke kuthi. Zama ukujonga izinto ngeliso elibanzi. Asimele sigxile nje koko kwenzekayo ngoku, kodwa sijonge ngaphaya. Uya kubaluleka kangakanani loo msebenzi ngeyure, ngomso okanye kwiveki ezayo? Okanye kwakhona: kubaluleke kangakanani kwiprojekthi yethu yobomi?
• Yahlula into engxamisekileyo kwizinto eziphambili
Ukubanjiswa kwisantya esididayo sobomi bemihla ngemihla, kulula ukugqiba ukubhidanisa oko kungxamisekileyo noko kubalulekile kwaye ubeke izinto eziphambili ezingalunganga. Ngoko ke, hlala ukhumbula izinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene ebomini nezifuna ukubekelwa bucala.
Igama elithi ungxamiseko lisuka kwisiLatini ukhawuleza o ngokungxamisekileyo, ngoko ibhekisela kwinto evuselela okanye ebangela ukungxama. Nangona kunjalo, nantoni na ebalulekileyo kuthi-okanye nantoni na esiyixelelwayo ingxamisekile- ayibalulekanga kangako kwaye, ewe, akufuneki siyibeke phambili. Ukwenza uludwe lwezinto ezibaluleke ngokwenene nokuzibeka kwindawo yokuqala kuya kusivumela ukuba sizithelekise nezo zingxamisekileyo size sigqibe ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngowuphi umgangatho wokubaluleka esinokuwunikela kubomi bethu.
• Qwalasela ezinye izinto ezinokwenzeka ngaphandle kuka "ewe" kunye no "hayi"
Enye yeengxaki eziphambili xa kuziwa ekubekweni phambili kukuba kunzima kakhulu ukuthi hayi. Kakade ke, kunzima ukuthi hayi kubantu esibathandayo okanye kubaphathi bethu, kodwa asimele silibale ukuba phakathi kuka-“ewe” no-“hayi” kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokwenzeka.
“Ewe” yeyona mpendulo ifanelekileyo xa into ngokucacileyo ingxamisekile, ibalulekile kwaye ibalulekile. "Hayi" yimpendulo kuyo yonke loo misebenzi ingahambelaniyo nathi, ayibalulekanga okanye esingafuni nje ukuyekelela kuyo ngenxa yokuba ayingeni kwizinto eziphambili zethu.
Kodwa kukho ezinye iindlela esinokuziqwalasela:
1. Ukubekel’ amangomso izinto. Yimisebenzi ebesinokuyenza, kodwa hayi ngoko nangoko. Ngoko kwanele ukuchazela umntu ukuba singathanda ukuyilawula, kodwa okwangoku asikwazi. Kunoko, sinokumxelela xa siya kufumaneka.
2. Ukusebenzisana. Yimisebenzi esingazimiselanga ukuyenza ngokupheleleyo, kodwa esinokuba negalelo kuyo. Kwezi meko kwanele ukucacisa ukuba siyakuvuyela ukunceda, logama nje omnye umntu esebenzisana naye.
3. Enye isisombululo. Yiloo misebenzi esingenakuyithatha nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa sinokufaka isandla ngandlela-thile kwisisombululo sabo, umzekelo ngokucebisa ingcali okanye isoftware enokwenza inxalenye yomsebenzi.
Okokugqibela, simele sikhumbule ukuba abantu abasingqongileyo basenokungawazi ngokupheleleyo umgudu esiwenzayo. Ngapha koko, kulula ukuqubha uphume emanzini. Ngoko ke, kusenokwenzeka ukuba nathi kufuneka “sibafundise” ingakumbi ukuba besisoloko sifumaneka kubo yaye bekusoloko kunzima ukuba sithi hayi.
Umnyango Indlela yokubeka phambili xa yonke into ibonakala iphambili? yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
