Ngokwezibalo zophando lwabasebenzisi be-intanethi, i-candaulism iya isiba nkulu kwaye ixhaphake kuzo zombini izibini ezitshatileyo ngaphezu kwezo amafanasini. Esi senzo sokwabelana ngesondo siqulathe ukubukela iqabane lakho linobudlelwane nomnye umntu. Ngokwenza njalo, izibonakalisa ngokupheleleyo ze kunye nokusondelelana nomntu ongeloqabane lakho eliqhelekileyo. Kodwa yintoni kanye kanye ebangela le nto? Ngoobani i-candaulists?
Konwabele ukubukela iqabane lakho lisabelana ngesondo… nomnye umntu
Il icandaulism Kukuziphatha ngokwesondo okubandakanya oku yiva uyolo kanti uyabona iqabane lakho - okanye iqabane lakho - ukulala nomntu wesithathu. Ngapha koko, i-candaulism inxulumene kakhulu nokuvusa oko lo mbono ibonelela. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, i-candaulism inokumodareyitha kwaye ibe sisiqhamo somnqweno esivelayo xa umntu ebeka umbono wakhe kwiqabane lakhe.
Rhoqo, kunjalo oyena mntu uqhelene nale ndlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo, njengoko enomdla wokubona isithandwa sakhe sinconywa ngabanye okanye xa sinobudlelwane nenye indoda.
I-Candaulism inemvelaphi yembali ebuyela kuyoVIII kwinkulungwane BC. Konke kuqala nge Candaules, Inkosi yaseLidiya, eyafumana umfazi wayo emhle kakhulu yabelana ngomtsalane wayo namanye amadoda ebamema ukuba babukele. Emva koko wacela unogada wakhe, uGyges, ukuba Ukumkanikazi ugcinwe ngasese emagumbini akhe, nangelona xesha lakhe linesihloko. Umfazi, nangona kunjalo, wakuqaphela oku kwaye, ehlazisiwe ngumyalelo owanikwa ngumyeni wakhe, wacela uGyges ukuba ambulale ukuze athathe indawo yakhe kwitrone kaLidiya.
Eli bali lichaza eyona nkcazo yalo mkhuba: elinye lamaqabane esi sibini uyakonwabela ukwenza umntu angamaziyo athande omnye. Emva koko yavela kwinzondelelo yokubona umfazi okanye indoda kabani ukuba nobudlelwane bomzimba nomntu wesithathu.
Ewe zikho iindlela ezahlukeneyo ukwenza i-candaulism:
- Umfazi ulala nesithandwa sakhe phambi komlingane;
- le ndoda isenokungabikho Ngexesha lemicimbi yokutshata kwaye uzive ukhululekile xa Umfazi wakhe umxelela ngothando lwakhe okanye umbonise iifoto kunye neevidiyo;
- Kwiindlela ezigwenxa ze-candaulism, umfazi kunye nesithandwa sakhe banokuba nayo isikhundla esiphambili ngokubhekisele emntwini. Ibizwa ngokuba yi-triolagnia okanye ukuthengiswa kwamanqwanqwa, enye ukuziqhelanisa nesadomasochistic equlathehlazisa umntu onamagama abuhlungu okanye izenzo. Lo mkhuba wenziwa ngemvume yomntu olawulayo, ngenjongo yokufumana ukoneliseka kwakhe.
Ngamanye amaxesha, Indoda inokuthatha inxaxheba kwiintlobano zesini ezenziwa ngumfazi wayo komnye. Oku kunqabile kakhulu, njengoko kufana ne kujinga okanye ukuzimisela ukulala nabantu abaninzi, njenge ubudlelwane beendlela ezintathu.
I-Candaulist: yintoni umahluko kwi-voyeurist, umboniso okanye udada?
Il voyeurism yinto eyenziwa ngumntu, i voyeur, gcina abantu ngaphandle kolwazi lwabo. Kukuchasana okuchaseneyo necandaulism, kuba imalunga nokuba nemincili ukubona iqabane lakho lisabelana ngesondo, ngemvume yakho.
L 'umboniso sisenzo se bonisa amalungu akho obuni esidlangalaleni e ayibandakanyi iqabane nangayiphi na indlela. Ngapha koko, lo mkhuba awuvumelekanga njengomngcipheko womboniso unyaka omnye entolongweni e isohlwayo see-15.000 zeerandi. Kwi-candaulism akukho ndawo ikhankanyiweyo yoluntu kwaye, ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, intelekelelo isekwe ekuboneni iqabane lakho kunye ayibonisi nje.
Lo kujinga o kujinga ngumkhwa obandakanya omabini amaqabane esi sibini, njengoko bobabini begqiba kwelokuba benze uthando nabanye abantu ababini sele bemanyene kwezothando. Kule ndlela, uchulumanco lokubona iqabane lakho lalala nenye indoda linokuba yinto. KwiCandaulism, uyolo alunanto yakwenza nesondoukusukelangombono kuphela yomnye umntu oncomekayo kwaye ulixabise iqabane lakhe anokwanela ukwandisa umnqweno wesondo.
Yintoni ekhokelela kulo mkhwa wesini?
Ukuba le ndlela yesondo ayenzi yenzakalisa isibini, ukuba yi-candaulist ayisiyiyo ayisiyi-pathological okanye ebonisa ingxaki phakathi kwamaqabane amabini.
Kwinyani, iyafihla isidingo sokomeleza ukuzingca komntu, ngezizathu ezibini:
- Okanye umntu unayo ukungazithembi kunye nenyaniso yokubonisa iqabane lakhe emehlweni abanye, lokubabona benomona kwaye befuna iqabane lakhe kumnika amandla emvakalelo eziza kumnceda ukuba avuselele eyakhe umnqweno wesondo nokumkholisa.
- O akakwazi ukwanelisa iqabane lakhe kwaye ukumvumela ukuba enze uthando komnye umntu yindlela yokuba azive onwabile kwaye onwabele, phambi kwamehlo akhe. Kuya kuba njalo uhlobo lokwaneliseka ngokwesondo.
Ngayiphi na imeko, khetha ukwenza i-candaulism sisigqibo ekufuneka siqhelekile kwesi sibini, ngakumbi ukuyigcina.
Ngaba i-candaulism ingabutshabalalisa ubudlelwane bomtshato?
Nasiphi na isenzo sesondo esingaphandle "kwesiqhelo" (esiqukaukwabelana ngesondo kuphela neqabane lakho okanye intombi, okanye oko kubizwa ngokuba isondo kuphela) ingabonisa umngcipheko wokubeka emngciphekweni ubomi bakho njengesibini.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ube nayo ingxoxo elungileyo phakathi kwamaqabane ukwazi ukuthetha ngokungafihlisiyo ngeminqweno, uloyiko kunye nokunye ukuphazamiseka komnye phambi kokwenza isigqibo ukwenza into ethile yesondo.
Ukuba indoda okanye umfazi uyayazi kwaye uyayamkela iphambuko ngokwesondo elifunwa liqabane lakhe, i-candaulism inokuba njalo indlela yokuphonononga iindlela ezintsha zesondo ezijolise ekwandiseni umnqweno wesini kunye nolonwabo kwesi sibini. Umngcipheko ophambili kukuba elinye iqabane linokuthi ekugqibeleni lifune kuphela ukwabelana ngesondo ngokwenza i-candaulism. Njengendlela yokulutha.
Ukulinganisela kwesi sibini kungcono nokuba I-candaulism ayisosiphelo ngokwaso. Ubomi besini sabantu ababini kufuneka ubenakho ukubakho ngaphandle kwalo mkhuba.
Ukuba, umzekelo, umfazi une-orgasm kuphela nenye indoda athandana nayo, nokuba iqabane "elisemthethweni" ekuqaleni lonwabile kwaye linemincili lokuzibona lonwabile, oku kunokuthi ethubeni ifuthe kwaye ekugqibeleni ubudlelwane besibini bunokubandezeleka.
Ngapha koko, xa i-candaulism ingayeki nje ekuboneni ulala nomnye umntu, iya kwinqanaba lokulala nomnye umntu, kukho umngcipheko wokuba kuvele uhlobo oluthile lomona.
Okokugqibela, omabini amalungu esi sibini kufuneka abe nomnqweno wokwenene wokuzibophelela, ngaphandle koxinzelelo okanye ukukhohlisa kubo bobabini. Iqabane kufuneka likulungele ukwenza olu hlobo lwesini.
