Guqula ikhosi yobukho bakho ngamaKhonkco oSapho. Zintoni ii?
Imilaza yosapho yindlela yonyango ejolise ekuziseni nasekunyibilikiseni iibhloko kunye nezinto ezifihliweyo ezingqondweni. Iibhloko esizifumene ngokungazi kusapho lwethu kubandakanya nookhokho.
Ezi meko zihamba ngokupheleleyo ikhondo lobomi ngokuthintela ngendlela engagungqiyo kwaye ephindaphindwayo, intando yokonwaba ngokupheleleyo, ubudlelwane obuzalisekayo, okanye ukuhlala kubutyebi ngaphandle kwako konke ukuzibophelela kunye neenzame ezibekwe kwindawo yethu.
Ezi patheni zidluliselwa kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana kwaye zinokuba ngunobangela wezifo, izehlo ezingathandekiyo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nomzimba.
Zininzi izifundo ezenziweyo ngalo mbandela kulandela iithiyori zesayikholojisti yaseJamani UBert Hellinger.
UHellinger emva kweminyaka emininzi yokufunda, wafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba umntu lowo, ukuze achonge kwaye "anyibilike" ezi bhondi zinokuthi zabizwa ngokuba yi-karmic, ayisoze ithathelwe ingqalelo njengezinto ezizodwa: endaweni yoko ufakwe kwimeko ethile ubudlelwane., ekhokelela ekuchongeni ubudlelwane okanye "iingxaki ezingasonjululwanga" kumalungu osapho, nokuba ngaba awakhunjulwa ngokungazi okanye awaziwa.
Ezi zinto ke zibangelwa luhlobo "lwezingqondo" olugqithiselwa kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana, ze kuthi ngandlel 'ithile zichaphazele ukhetho lwethu, ubudlelwane, kwaye ubomi bethu bonke.
Sizifumana siphila njengakwifilimu esele sibonile, iintsuku zobomi bethu ezilandelelana, apho "izifundo zembali kunye nezibheno" zibonakala zenzeka, ezichaphazela zonke iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu, ezibonakala ngathi ziyinto Iimeko zokufotokopa bezikhe zaphila ngaphambili, okanye beziphila ngookhokho bethu.
Kunjengokungathi size emhlabeni sele sinomthwalo ocwangcisiweyo wokuthunyelwa.
Njengoko sele kuchaziwe oku kubonakala ngeendlela ezingafaniyo nakwizinto zobomi bethu, kumntu onobunzima bokonwabela ubomi obonwabisayo boqoqosho, ngaphandle kwemizamo ephindaphindiweyo eya kuthi kungekudala ikhokelele kudano kunye nokuphulukana nokuzithemba namandla, kuba abanye ekungeneni kwezempilo, uthando, iingxaki zengqondo, abanye ekuqhubekeni beya "ekufeni" kwaye bahlala bekhetha, ngendlela engaqondakaliyo, indlela engalunganga.
Kukho ezo zinto zitshintshayo ezikhokelela ekubeni umntu aphile "ngokufa" okuchaphazela ngamandla indlela yobomi, rhoqo ngendlela engalunganga kunye nokuthintela ukufezekiswa kweminqweno kabani.
Eminye iminyhadala yokukhetha amaqabane angafanelekanga okanye ukudibana ngokungapheliyo, naye nawuphi na umntu abaya kukhulisa ulwazi, iingxaki zobudlelwane ezifanayo esele zibonwe kubudlelwane bangaphambili.
Kwaye kakhulu, kakhulu ngakumbi.
Ukuba nawe ukhe waqubisana nabuphi na obu bunzima buchazwe apha ngasentla okanye abanye abachazwanga apha ebomini bakho, uya kuba nomdla wokwazi ukuba ezi azisosifo nje kwaye kuya kufuneka uye kwindibano ekumelwe kuyo amaqela eentsapho.
Ukusebenza kwale ndlela kufunyanwa ngamawakawaka abantu kwihlabathi liphela, abanamava, kwangoko emva kokuhlolwa kweqela labo losapho, imvakalelo ngokubanzi "inkululeko".
Njengemizekelo engezantsi:
- Iingxaki ekudala zikho malunga nomsebenzi okanye imali ziyasonjululwa
- Iinkqubo zokuziphilisa ngokwenyani zibangelwa
- Uqala ukuphila ubomi obanelisayo nobonelisayo
- Iziganeko eziphindaphindiweyo ezilungileyo zenzeka
Uninzi lwabameli kwihlabathi liphela bathi le ndlela ekugqibeleni ikhangeleka ngathi ifumana izisombululo zokophula ezo bhloko bezimi endleleni yeminqweno yabo, emva kokuzama ixesha elide.
Kodwa ujika phi?
Kukho amaziko e-Itali anikezela ngale ndlela ngohlobo lwendlela yenkqubo, yenye yezona zidumileyo Isikolo saseMusatalent onokuthi uqhakamshelane nawo ukuze uthathe inxaxheba kwiintlanganiso ezilungiselelwe kwizixeko zase-Itali nakwamanye amazwe.
Kwezi khosi awuzukukhokelwa kuphela ekufumaneni ithiyori exhasa amaqela e-Hellinger, kodwa iya kubonisa umzekelo ukuba kwenzeka njani na kwiqela losapho.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela: uya kufumanisa ukuba usebenza kanjani ngokuzimeleyo, kwiqela lakho losapho, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokubandakanya abanye abantu: injongo kukuba nezixhobo zokuchonga nokusombulula amaqhina abalulekileyo anokuthintela ukuhamba kakuhle Ubomi bakho buya kulonwabo, impilo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
NB AmaQela amaNtsapho, nokuba angaluphi na uhlobo, ayilulo unyango lwengqondo kwaye ayichukumisi imixholo esoteric okanye izihloko ezifanayo. Abakwazi ukuthatha indawo yongenelelo loochwephesha bengqondo, oochwephesha bengqondo, abagqirha bengqondo, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo, njl.
Ngendlela yamaKhaya oSapho enyanisweni sinokuthi sazi okungekho sikweni, ukungabandakanywa, ukushiyeka okufunyanwa ngookhokho bethu abanememori ebuhlungu eyayinokufikelela kuthi kwaye ichaphazele ubomi bethu.
Ngokuvumela isenzo somelo esibonakalayo, sinokuqonda ngokupheleleyo imvelaphi yenkqubo esijamelana nayo, siphinde sihlanganise ulwazi olungekhoyo kwinkqubo lungisa inkqubo.
Sebenzisa indlela ye AmaQela oSapho sisebenzela ukwakha umgca wokuzalwa kwethu kwaye siqaphele naziphi na iingxaki (ukufa, ukugula, imfazwe, ukubhengezwa), ukungabikho kokusesikweni, ukungabandakanywa, ukushiyeka kunye namava ngaphakathi kosapho, inkqubo yezentlalo kunye nenkcubeko: lonke olu lwazi ludluliselwe kookhokho inzala.
Akuqinisekanga ukuba yonke le nto ilula: amaxesha amaninzi inyani evelayo ekumeleni kweenkwenkwezi yinto engaziwayo ngokupheleleyo nengazange ibonwe ngaphambili kwabo balungiselela ukujongana neebhloko zabo ezingekho zingqondweni. Kwaye lo ngumqondiso wokuba sisendleleni elungileyo, njengoko I-constellation ayisibonisi kuphela into esele siyazi malunga nosapho lwethu (Esithi siyamkele ngokumangalisa izimo ezithile kunye nokuziphatha kuchazwe ngokuchanekileyo ngabameli); Igalelo lokwenyani leqela leenkwenkwezi lityhila kuthi into esingayaziyo malunga nosapho lwethu, yile nto kanye ke ifumanekileyo ebangela inkqubo yokuziphilisa.
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