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Kodwa ngaba uyazi ukuba abasetyhini nabo babukela iphonografi?
Uhlalutyo olwenziwe kunye neziphumo ezivela kwizifundo ezenziwa kwizithuba ezikhethekileyo kule minyaka ingamashumi amabini idlulileyo, kuvula ukuqonda okutsha kukhetho, utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha kunye nokukhululwa ngokwesondo okwenzeka kwindalo yabasetyhini.
Alisekho ilizwe elingaphantsi kwamanzi "ukusetyenziswa" kwamadoda. Kuyamangalisa ukuba, kude kube yiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo icandelo elathi, nangona likhulu kakhulu ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga uqoqosho, (oluvela kuqikelelo lwamva nje ukusukela ngo-2019 olukhokelela ekubeni ludlule ngokulula kwi-100 yezigidigidi zeedola e-United States kuphela) phezu nokugwetywa ngokuchanekileyo ngabafazi.
Izigebenga ezinkulu kwaye yindawo leyo I-Pornhub Esona siza sigqamileyo kweli candelo, ethi emva kokubandakanya zonke iziza kwicandelo esele zigqibile iminyaka yayo yokuqala eli-14 yobomi, isixelele uhlalutyo oluchanekileyo nolucokisekileyo lwenzululwazi yenkcubeko ethe yenzeka phakathi kwabantu bebonke. iplanethi ngokusasaza idatha kunye nenqanaba ngokuchanekileyo ngakumbi kunalo naluphi na uphando kwezentlalo kwimixholo yesini sobudoda nesetyhini.
Ezi datha zibhekisa kwincasa evelayo xa sifuna ukunyusa amaqondo obushushu ngamaxesha athile kwaye umbono olungileyo uzaliseka ngokukhangela ividiyo ye-porn ethi ibonakale iyanelisa iminqweno kabani.
Kuvela into esiyithandayo, lingakanani ixesha esilinikezela kuyo, kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke iyantlukwano ekhoyo phakathi kokuthanda owesilisa nowasetyhini.
Idatha ityhila ukuba ipesenti yabasetyhini ababukela iividiyo ezingamanyala zikhule ngokugqithileyo kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo kwaye ukuza kuthi ga ngoku bafikelela kwaye badlula kwi-35% yabasebenzisi behlabathi be-porn kunye noqikelelo bathi eli nani limiselwe iminyaka ezayo. ukukhula ngokucacileyo.
Kukwakho nenye inyani ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo; Ngapha koko, kwavela ukuba oku kukhululeka kwabasetyhini kwi-porn kuye kwabanencopho eyomeleleyo ngokuchanekileyo ngexesha lokutshixwa kwaye ukubekwa bucala kumakhaya abo kubangelwa yimeko engxamisekileyo yecoronavirus.
Ngokuqinisekileyo eli xesha lincedile ekuvuleni izithintelo zokugqibela kwabasetyhini abathintele ukufikelela kwihlabathi le-porn ngokwandisa utyelelo kwiindawo ezingamanyala kodwa ngaphandle kokumangaliswa; Olu nyuso luye lwahamba kunye ukuxhasa ukuthengisa iithoyi zesini, ezazingazange zibe nalo nyaka weziqhamo nethamsanqa malunga nengeniso efana ne2020.
Isenokunganiki umbono olungileyo malunga nokuziphendukela kwesini okwenzeka kwinqanaba labasetyhini kodwa siyakukhumbuza oko I-Pornhub Namhlanje kubalwa iindwendwe ezizizigidi ezingama-75 yonke imihla, iyenza ukuba ibe yenye yezona ndawo zicofwe ngokugqwesileyo emhlabeni, inikezela ngeendidi ezahlukeneyo ezinokwanelisa ngokupheleleyo nakuphi na ukungcamla kunye nemibono yamadoda nabasetyhini.
Kodwa bakhangela ntoni abantu basetyhini?
Ngokomnye wophando lwamva nje olwenziwe liMagazini eyaziwayo yase-US, kwavela ukuba abantu basetyhini banezinto abazithandayo, ukuthanda ukwazi kunye neminqweno abayakuyichazwa ngamadoda (ngokokubona kwabo njengabathandi abadala) ngakumbi.
Njengoko kutyhilwe ngabahlalutyi kunye nenqanaba le-Pornhub elavelayo, abasetyhini bahlala bekhangela iividiyo zesini phakathi kwabasetyhini, phakathi kwabasetyhini abaninzi kunye nendoda, kwaye ngokumangaliswa phakathi kwamadoda amabini nokuba umntu owenza uphando uyathandana.
Ukongeza, ukukhangela kunye nokucela izinto zevidiyo ezibonisa ubukrelekrele be-masseurs abanezakhono abathi, ngoku (ngokufihlakeleyo) iikhamera ezifihliweyo ezibekwe ngokukodwa kwigumbi lokuthambisa elilungiselelwe kunye nokuziphendukela kwemvelo okungalindelekanga (sihlala siphinda into engalindelekanga) yeemeko zesondo phakathi abaqhubi kunye nabasetyhini abangaqondakaliyo, abazivumela ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kubuchule "bokuvuselela" begcisa lobuchwephesha, bonwabela impumelelo enkulu ngokwandisa ngokucacileyo ukukhangela olu hlobo lweevidiyo zesondo ngabaphulaphuli ababhinqileyo ngokwamazwi namabali UMaureen O'Connor ixelwe ENew York Mag.
Ihlabathi lezemidlalo kunye nentlalontle ekhuthaza ngakumbi kwintelekelelo yabasetyhini, ebonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ukufunyanwa kwesazisi sabo sangoku ngokwesini kuye kwagqithisa njani ukoyisa zonke iindlela ezindala zokungavumi nokwala okwadlulayo. Obunye ubungqina obungathandabuzekiyo bokuba isini sinzima ngakumbi kunale nto sele ifundwe ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ngoososayensi abazinzileyo kunye nophando.
Siyaqonda ukuba i-libido ayihlali kwaye ayikhawulelwanga kwiminqweno yokwenza okanye ukubukela ukwabelana ngesondo, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo nenesiseko sokutshiswa kweminqweno yethu yesini kwaye ihlala kwiminqweno yethu nakumnqweno wokuyiguqula kwakamsinya okanye kamva ibe yinto ekhethekileyo kunye namava aqhelekileyo ngokwesondo.
Apha lo mfazi uziphinda azibonakalise egxile kwilungelo lakhe lokuthetha ngaphandle koloyiko lokugwetywa nokuba liqabane, kuba ukuthanda kwakhe ngokwesondo njengamandla ahlala eyipropathi yendoda.
Kwaye kuya kuthini ukuba isibini sifuna ukubukela iphonografi kunye?
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuba amadoda ahlala ethanda iphonografi kwaye, njengoko sele kubhaliwe, idatha ihlala iqinisekisa kwaye, njengoko kungqinisisiwe, abafazi bayayifuna. Ke kutheni ungakwenzi kunye kunye nokuguqula amava abe sisondelelene ngakumbi nangakumbi, ufumanise iminqweno yomnye kwaye uyeke ukuhamba ngaphandle komona, ingcinezelo kunye nomona ongafanelekanga?
Ngokusekwe kuphando oluchazwe apha ngasentla, uluhlu lwezizathu ezibalulekileyo zokubukela iphonografi njengesibini zinokuqulunqwa.
Sifuna ukugxininisa ukuba asifuni ukunika inkuthazo ukwenza into engamkelekanga komnye wabalingane besibini okanye bobabini, ukuba kukho omnye umfazi okanye enye indoda ebandakanyekayo oku kukhokelela ekuvuseni umona kunye nokuzisa uloyiko olukhokelela kwiingxabano ukuba inqanaba elifanelekileyo lokuthembana, ukukhula kunye nolwazi olunzulu lweqabane lakho alukasekwa kwesi sibini kwaye oku kungakhokelela kukungaqondani, ukuqhekeka kungabikho kubuya kubudlelwane bababini okanye, ngokulula, ukukrokrela yeengcinga ezingavunyelwanga kwiqabane lakhe kwaye awele kumathandabuzo malunga nokukwazi kwakhe ukwanelisa ngokwesondo okanye akunjalo, iimfuno zomlingane wakhe ngokwenza imeko (kodwa engaqinisekanga kwaphela) yokuguqa nokuzithemba, indoda okanye umfazi, uya kuziva engonelanga okanye nokuba ungcolile kwaye uya kuziva engcatshiwe.
Ukuba sicinga ngayo ezi ziphumo zingqina ukuba elowo kuthi uneengcinga zendalo neziqhelekileyo ngaphakathi kuthi kwaye bacinezelwe ngenxa yokusombulula imeko yengqondo, isimilo kunye nokusilela okanye iimeko. Ukhetha ukufihla ubuntu bakho kunye nengcinga yasimahla kwiqabane lakho naphakade, uyenza ngokuzazi nangokungazi ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, ngenxa yokoyika ukugwetywa liqabane lakho kunye nethuba lokudala iimeko ezichazwe apha ngasentla.
Apha, kuthathwe ngendlela eyiyo, iingcali zichaza ukuba ekudaleni ukusondelelana kunokwenzeka ukuseka ubunzima obunzulu kwesi sibini, ukwandisa umnqweno wabo bobabini kunye nokunciphisa umngcipheko wokuwela kwinkqubo ngokuqinisekileyo enakho ukubanakho ixesha elide ukwenza umonakalo ongenakulungiswa kulwalamano lwesibini.
Ngokuzimisela kokubini kokubukela iphonografi, kuqaliswa indlela yokuthembela kwelinye iqabane, uloyiko kunye neetaboos zikhutshiwe eziya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo zibe luncedo ekudibaniseni ubudlelwane besibini nangakumbi.
Kodwa kukho ezinye izinto onokuthi uziqwalasele malunga nokuba kutheni ungabukela iphonografi njengesibini:
Ukuvavanya ubuchule bakho.
Ukuthatha isigqibo sokwenza ubomi bakho njengabantu abatshatileyo ekuzalweni kwe-monotony kunye nesiqhelo yeyona mpazamo inkulu kwabo bakholelwayo kwaye bacinga ukuba uthando kwisibini siyinto yonke! Ngokuqinisekileyo sisiseko esisiseko kodwa ubomi njengesibini senziwe ngeendlela ezininzi kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ama-50 awanelanga.
Eyokucinga kunye nokufunda.
Ngoba kutheni? Asizizo zonke izifundiswa ezinamava, ngamanye amaxesha asiqinisekanga ukuba uqhuba kakuhle okanye kakubi, ukuba uyathanda okanye akunjalo! Ukuba silungile ekuziqondeni okanye kufuneka sibuze iqabane ngaphandle koloyiko kodwa ngovuyo ukuba bafuna ukwenza kwaye banike konke okusemandleni abo ukwenza ukoneliseka kokubini.
Ukuba isini siyavuma kwaye sisempilweni kuni nobabini, ukubukela iphonografi kubini kunokuba ngumzuzu onamandla nolwanelisayo ngokwesondo, kunye unokuzicwilisa kumdlalo apho nibe ngabadlali bezinto ezingamanyala. Umdlalo unokutywina ukusondelelana okutsha kwesi sibini esiba yimfihlo eqholiweyo kubo bobabini abaseleyo phakathi kwakhe, yena kunye nesini sabo. Umoya wesibini ngokuqinisekileyo uphuma uhlaziyiwe kwaye womelezwa.
Ngomnqweno wokudala imvakalelo eyahlukileyo kunye neqabane lakho.
Ukucinga ngokunyanzela umfazi wakho ukuba abukele iphonografi ngokuchasene naye kungekudala kuya kuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ukuba ukubukela iphonografi yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ukuze ube nakho ukuba neentlobano zesini neqabane lakho, ngokuqinisekileyo le yingxaki ekufuneka ijongiwe ngokuthetha neqabane kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko kuyacetyiswa ukuba ubonane nengcali.
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, unokwenza ithuba elifanelekileyo lokwenza umdlalo emva koko usendleleni elungileyo! Ngamnye wethu ufuna rhoqo ngoku nangoko umnqweno wokungavunyelwanga, kwaye ukuphuma kwindlela yesiqhelo esihlala sihamba kuyo kunokuba sisiqinisekiso sokomeleza ukuvumelana kwesi sibini.
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