Il ulonwabo ngokwesondo, kunye nokugcwala komzimba wethu ngeemvakalelo, kuvela kulwazi lomzimba wakho kunye nokwoneliseka kweemfuno zomntu kunye neminqweno yakhe.
Ukonwaba okubonakala kucacile kwaye kufikelela kumntu wonke, kodwa akunjalo; Ngapha koko, uyolo oluvela kwiintlobano zesini okanye kwi-auto-eroticism yenza ukuba abanye abantu babe sisiseko sokwenyani: le yimeko yezifundo yelinye.
Yintoni i-alexithymia?
Isishwankathelo esifutshane sembali sokuququzelela ukuqonda kunye nokuxubusha kwezinye iimbono. Igama elithile alexithymia yaqulunqwa nguPeter Sifneos (1973) kwisiqingatha sokuqala se-70s ukubonisa ukungahambi kakuhle kwengqondo okunxulumene nobunzima bokuphila, ukuchonga nokunxibelelana neemvakalelo (ezivela kwisiGrike i-alpha = ukungabikho, I-lexis = ulwimi, thymus = iimvakalelo, okt "ukungabikho kwamagama kwiimvakalelo").
Ulwakhiwo lwaphuhliswa ukuqala ekuqwalaselweni kwezigulana ezinezifo zengqondo "zeklasikhi" kwaye iminyaka emininzi yathathelwa ingqalelo phantse njengesiqhelo kubo kuba bekucingelwa ukuba inxibelelene ngqo nezifo zengqondo. Phakathi kweempawu zeklinikhi yezigulana zengqondo, iiSifneos zibandakanya:
- ubunzima obuphawulweyo ekuchazeni iimvakalelo kunye nokuzazi;
-ukuncitshiswa kwemisebenzi yengqondo enxulumene nefantasy;
- inkxalabo ephawuliweyo ngekhonkrithi kunye nemiba eneenkcukacha zommandla ongaphandle kunye nomzimba womntu;
- isitayile sokucinga sinqabile kwisikhuthazo kwaye singakwazi ukuqhubela phambili ekucaciseni (UTaylor, 1977; 1984).
IAlexithymia ke ngoko ibandakanya enye Uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo okubandakanya umntu ukungakwazi okanye ubunzima bokuchonga kunye nokunxibelelana neemvakalelo zabo kunye nokuzonwabisa kwakhona nakwabanye.
Le meko ichaphazela unxibelelwano kunye nobudlelwane nabanye, ukuvelisa enye unqamko echaphazela umzimba, iimvakalelo kunye nokusondelelana. Sithetha ngobunzima bokuba ngaphambi kokuba inkanuko ibe yinto echaphazelekayo kunye neemvakalelo. Phakathi kwemiba eyahlukeneyo yale meko, ndizimisele ukugxila kule yokugqibela yokugqibela.
I-anesthesia yeemvakalelo kunye nefuthe ebangela uthotho lweempawu zengqondo, eziphindaphindayo kunye neemeko zesini.
Aba bantu babonakala bengenamdla, bebanda kwaye bengenamdla kwisini xa enyanisweni bengakwazi ukufumana amava kwiimvakalelo zomzimba.
"I-Alexithymia ibonisa ukunqunyulwa phakathi komzimba kunye nengqondo engasebenziyo amava omntu kwaye yenza ukuba umntu angakwazi ukuhlala ngokuzazi aphile iimvakalelo kunye nobulili".
Isifundo se-alexithymic, njengoko engayiqondi iminqweno yakhe kwaye onwabele iimvakalelo zakhe, akonwabi xa usabelana ngesondo kwaye ke uyayala okanye uyibeke kwindawo elula yokutshata.
I-Alexithymics ixele ukuba ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, endaweni yokujonga amava kunye neemvakalelo ezibandakanya oko, bayahluka kwaye bacinge ngenye into. Oku kuthintela umntu ekucaciseni imeko yamava kwaye ngenxa yoko yenza ukuba kungabi lula ukufumana ulonwabo kwisikhuthazo sesondo uqobo. Ukuba inkanuko yesini ayibonwa okanye ayaziwa njengomthombo wolonwabo, yiyo ayifunwa.
Yonke into onomdla kuyo kwaye enye icinezelwe ukusukela ithemba lolonwabo alikho kwaye yonke into ihlala igxile emsebenzini. Oku, kunye nomfanekiso ongekhoyo wobukrelekrele, kuthintela impendulo yesondo, ngaloo ndlela kuthanda ukusekwa kothotho lweengxaki zesondo ezinje Ukuchama ngaphambi kwexesha e ilibazisekile, i-erectile dysfunction, ukuphazamiseka kweminqweno, anorgasmia.
Isichaphazela njani esi sibini konke oku?
Esi sifo sineempembelelo ezomeleleyo kwesi sibini kangangokuba isifundo se-alexithymic sifika kunyango lokubonisana not ngokuzikhethela, kodwa ngenxa yokuba utsalwa liqabane elicaphukisa kukungabikho kotshintshiselwano lweemvakalelo kunye nokungabikho kokwabelana. Ukwala okwenziwe ngokungakhathali kunye nokungashukunyiswanga kuye kwavuselela iimvakalelo zeqabane ukungabi namandla, ukudimazeka e irabha: koku kuvela kumgama oqhubela phambili ukusuka kwindima yesondo yomyeni / yomfazi okanye yokuhlala kunye kwaye endaweni yayo ekaMnikezeli woKhathalelo, oxhomekeke kuye ngamandla kwi-alexithmic, wenza indlela yayo. Kumanqaku alandelayo ndiza kujongana neminye imiba yale meko inomdla kakhulu.
