"Xa ufika esiphelweni, uyakuqonda ukuba ubuxakekile ungenzi nto", USeneca walumkisa kwiinkulungwane ezininzi ezidlulileyo. Ifilosofi yamaStoyike yayicacile ukuba ixesha yeyona nto ixabisekileyo esinayo, kodwa siyayimosha ngaphandle kokucinga kakhulu ngayo.
Ngaphandle kobunzima bokufa obuhlala bujinga phezu kweentloko zethu, siphila ngokungathi asinakufa. Sikhetha ukungacingi ngesiphelo ukukhupha olona loyiko lwethu lubalaseleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba sifuna ukusebenzisa kakuhle ixesha kunye nento enentsingiselo ebomini bethu, kufuneka sigcine engqondweni ibinzana lesiLatin elidumileyo elisikhumbuza ngokusweleka kwethu: memento mori.
Iingcebiso malunga nokusebenzisa ixesha, ngokweSeneca
1. Kwenze ngoku, sukuvumela ubomi buqhubeke
"Ukuhlehlisa izinto yeyona nkunkuma inkulu kubomi bethu: kusisusa yonke imihla nje ukuba ifike kwaye isiphike ngoku, isithembisa ngekamva", kubhale uSeneca. Wongeza wathi: "Njengokuba sichitha ixesha lethu sithandabuza kwaye silibazisa, ubomi buyakhawuleza."
Sonke siye salibaziseka ngelinye ixesha. Kodwa xa isiba yinto eqhelekileyo, xa siqhubeka sizibeka phantsi izicwangciso ezibalulekileyo ezinokutshintsha ubomi bethu bube ngcono, sinengxaki kuba ubomi abulindi.
Ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto kusenokubangelwa bubuvila, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi kubangelwa kukoyika ukungaqiniseki. Kungenxa yoko le nto uSeneca esikhumbuza oko "Ithamsanqa linomkhwa wokuziphatha ngendlela elifuna ngayo"Ukulinda akuhlali kunyusa amathuba okuphumelela, kodwa kusebenza kuphela ekufumaneni imiqobo emininzi endleleni.
Isisombululo kukususa isivakalisi kwisigama sethu: "Ndizakuyenza ngomso" ukuya emsebenzini ngokukhawuleza. Kufuneka sithathe inyathelo lokuqala. Yaphula i-inertia. Njengoko uSeneca ecebisile: "Bambelela kwimisebenzi yanamhlanje kwaye awuyi kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwimisebenzi yangomso."
2. Xabisa ixesha lakho ngaphezu kwezinto onazo
Ukuba sibona umntu etshisa imali, singacinga ukuba uyaphambana. Nangona kunjalo, yonke imihla sichitha imizuzu kunye neeyure, kodwa asicingi ukuba siyaphambana, nokuba ixesha lelona asethi lethu lixabisekileyo.
Ngokungafaniyo nemali, enokuchithwa iphinde ifumaneke, ixesha sisixhobo esixabisekileyo esingenakuze siphinde sibuye naso. USeneca wathi: “Abantu bayonga ukhuseleko lwepropathi yabo; kodwa xa kufikwa ekuchitheni ixesha, ngabo abachitha eyona nto ekukuphela kwayo ekufanele ukubawa kuyo ”.
Phinda ulichaze ixabiso lexesha lokuqonda ubungakanani bayo linyathelo lokuqala lokuyisebenzisa ngobukrelekrele, ukuyilawula ngcono kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuyinikezela kwezo zinto zixabiseke ngokwenene okanye zibalulekileyo ebomini bethu. Isicwangciso esinye sokuqala ukuvavanya ixesha xa kuthelekiswa nempahla kukuzibuza: lingakanani ixesha lobomi bam ekufuneka ndilichithele emsebenzini andithandi ukuthenga le okanye leya?
3. Nciphisa amaxhala angeyomfuneko
“Umntu oxhalabileyo akanakho ukwenza nawuphi na umsebenzi ngempumelelo… Kumntu oxhalabileyo, okona kuphila yeyona nto ingabalulekanga. Nangona kunjalo, akukho nto ibaluleke kwaye inzima ukuyifunda kunokuphila ", Utshilo uSeneca.
Amagama akhe athatha ukubaluleka ngokukodwa namhlanje, ngexesha apho siphantsi kokuhamba okungapheliyo kwesikhuthazo sangaphandle esifuna ingqalelo yethu. Kuhleli kulindelwe ukuzibophelela kwezentlalo, izikrini, iindaba, imiyalezo, ukusebenza ... i-ajenda yethu igcwele kwaye asinawo umzuzu wokugcina.
Oku kudala imvakalelo yokuba sihlala sixakekile sisenza izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa xa ekupheleni kosuku senza izibalo, sifumanisa ukuba akukho nto ingako siyenzileyo isonwabisa okanye isisondeze kwiinjongo zethu.
Ukuxokozela kwemihla ngemihla kunokusibambisa iminyaka, ngelixa ubomi businda. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba siphinde sicingisise ngobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, sizame ukuphelisa zonke iziphazamiso kunye nemisebenzi engazisi nto ukuba isinike indawo kwi-ajenda yethu kwezi zinto zinegalelo kwimpilo yethu okanye zisenze sizive sigcwele kwaye uyaphila.
4. Yiba nentliziyo engapheliyo
Ukuba ufuna ukusebenzisa elona xesha lakho, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuthi "hayi". USeneca walumkisa: Ubutshabalalisile ubomi bakho kuba ungayazi into oyiphosileyo, uyimosha ngeentlungu ezingenangqondo, uyolo lobuyatha, iminqweno yokubawa nokuphazamiseka ekuhlaleni. Uyakuqonda ukuba ubusifa ngaphambi kwexesha! ”.
Ukulisebenzisa kakuhle ixesha kufuneka sifunde ukuzibekela imida. Eminye yale mida ijolise kwabanye, kubo bonke abo bantu bakholelwa ukuba banelungelo lokusebenzisa ixesha lethu, basihlawulisa uxanduva olungelolwethu. Ke, oku kuthetha ukuthi "hayi" kuninzi lwezinto esizenzayo kwabanye abanokuthi bazenzele zona, kunye nazo zonke izibophelelo ezingenantsingiselo, izimemo kunye nezibophelelo.
Kodwa kufuneka sifunde nokuthi "hayi" kuthi. Misela imida ukuze ungachithi ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo. Kubandakanya ukuthi "hayi" kwezi meko zemozulu zisenzakalisayo kwaye zisuse amaxesha okonwaba ngelixa sizivumela ukuba sityiwe sisazela, umsindo okanye ingqumbo. Ukuba asilumkanga, kokubini intlalontle kunye neemeko zovakalelo ziya kuthi ekugqibeleni zande zisebenzise ixesha lethu elininzi.
5. Musa ukwenza ulonwabo lube nemiqathango ekufezekiseni iinjongo zakho
“Akunakuphepheka ukuba ubomi abukho bufutshane kakhulu, kodwa kwaye abonwabanga kakhulu kwabo bafumana ngomzamo omkhulu oko kufuneka bakugcine ngomzamo omkhulu ngakumbi. Bazabalazela ukufezekisa oko bakufunayo; Banexhala ngokwabo oko bakwenzileyo; kwaye okwangoku baphoswa lixesha elingasokuze libuye. Iinkxalabo ezintsha zithatha indawo yabantu abadala, ulindelo luphakamisa ulindelo kunye namabhongo ngakumbi amabhongo ", Utshilo uSeneca.
Kwinkcubeko evuza umzamo oqhubekayo kunye neenjongo ezingakumbi, lo myalezo we-stoic ungabonakala ngathi uyaphikisana. Kodwa ukuqhubekeka ukulandela iinjongo ezintsha, ungoneliseki ziziphumo ezifunyenweyo, kukhokelela kuphela kwimeko yoxinzelelo olusisigxina kunye nokungonwabi.
Enye yeengcebiso zikaSeneca zokusebenzisa lonke ixesha lakho ayikukuba namabhongo. Njengoko silandela iinjongo ezintsha, ixesha liyamka. Injongo enye ihlala ikhokelela kwenye kwaye isikhokelela ekucingeni ukuba ukonwaba kukufezekisa nganye nganye, kwisiphumo hayi kwindlela. Isisombululo kukulungisa ulindelo lwethu kwaye sizibuze ukuba singabuphila njani ubomi obunentsingiselo apha kwaye ngoku njengoko sisebenzela ukufezekisa iinjongo ezithile.
Ngayiphi na imeko, uSeneca wayilumkisa loo nto “Akufuneki sicinge ukuba umntu uphile ixesha elide kuba enenwele ezimhlophe nemibimbi: khange aphile xesha lide, ubekhona ixesha elide… inxenye yobomi esiyiphilayo incinci. Kuba bonke obona bomi ayibubo ubomi, kodwa lixesha nje ". Isitshixo ekusebenziseni kakuhle ixesha kukujika imizuzu engenanto ibe yimizuzu enentsingiselo.
Umnyango Izifundo ezi-5 zeSeneca zokusebenzisa lonke ixesha lakho yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
