Mu nthawi ya "Body positive", anthu ochulukirachulukira - azimayi ndi abambo - amapezeka kuti ali ndi mauthenga osagwirizana ndi mawonekedwe a thupi omwe amapanga mfundo yeniyeni ya Gordian. Magazini omwewo omwe amatiuza kuti tizikonda matupi athu momwe alili, pitilizani kutumiza zithunzi za ma abs abwino, matako abwino, mikono yabwino, kumwetulira kwabwino, khungu labwino ...
Chotsatira chake n'chakuti sizachilendo kuti anthu ambiri ayambe kukonda matupi awo tsiku lina, kenako n'kupeza kuti mawa lake akulimbana ndi makwinya atsopanowo, chogwirira chachikondi chopandukacho, kapena kufooka kumene kumayamba kuonekera m'malo ena.
Mwachiwonekere, kukonda thupi sikudzikakamiza ndipo sikungakhale zotsatira za mafashoni. M'malo mwake, mawu owoneka ngati opatsa mphamvu omwe amabwera chifukwa cha kukhazikika kwa thupi amakhala ndi zotsatira zotsutsana ndipo pamapeto pake amabweretsa kukhumudwa ndi kusakhutira.
Kukonda thupi kumabwera kudzera mukuvomerezedwa ndi ntchito yamkati yamkati yomwe imafunikira kudzidalira kolimba. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe tidzatha kukhala otetezedwa ku mauthenga otsutsana ndi mafashoni omwe amalamulira momwe matupi ayenera kukhalira kapena momwe tiyenera kugwirizana nawo.
Kodi chifaniziro cha thupi ndi chiyani?
Maonekedwe a thupi amaphatikizapo malingaliro athu, zikhulupiriro, malingaliro, malingaliro ndi zochita za maonekedwe athu. Kwenikweni, ndi ubale umene timakhazikitsa ndi thupi lathu ndi mmene timauonera, kuuyamikira ndi mmene timauonera.
Tsoka ilo, ubale umenewo sukhala wabwino nthawi zonse, wokhutiritsa, kapena wathanzi. Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti tilibe ubale wabwino ndi thupi lathu ndi mikangano. Ngati nthawi zonse "tikumenyana" ndi matupi athu mu chiyanjano cha udani ndi chikondi, pali mbali zina za ife tokha zomwe timakana. Mwacitsandzo, tinakwanisa kunyerezera kuti tikhadakhala atali pang’ono, akucepa peno amphambvu, pyonsene mbipidakhala pyakukhonda nentsa. Muzochitika izi palibe kukana kwathunthu kwa thupi koma zomwe timaziona ngati "chilema".
Chizindikiro china chodziwika bwino cha ubale woyipa ndi thupi, womwe nthawi zambiri umakhala wokhazikika pakudzimva wokanidwa, ndiko kuzunzidwa. Timadzizunza tokha tikamadzinyoza tokha za maonekedwe athu, komanso tikamadya kwambiri, timachita masewera olimbitsa thupi mpaka kutopa kapena kudya kwambiri.
Kuti tikhalebe ndi ubwenzi wabwino ndi thupi lathu, m’pofunika kuvomereza kuti pali zinthu zina zimene tingathe kusintha ndipo zina zimene sitingathe. Titha kukhala athanzi, koma sitingalepheretse kukalamba, mwachitsanzo. Kukhala ndi chifaniziro chokwanira cha thupi kudzatithandiza kuti tizigwirizana bwino ndi thupi lathu komanso kusintha komwe kumadutsa m'moyo wathu wonse, zomwe pamapeto pake zidzamasulira kudzidalira kwathu komanso moyo wathu. Kuti muchite izi, mawu abwino sali okwanira, muyenera kugwira ntchito pazigawo za thupi.
Zigawo za chifanizo cha thupi zomwe zimayimira ubale ndi thupi
1. Kuzindikira: timawonana bwanji?
Chifaniziro cha thupi chimenechi chikutanthauza mmene timadzionera tokha. Malingaliro omwe tili nawo pa thupi lathu, kwenikweni, sikuti nthawi zonse amakhala odalirika komanso oyimira cholinga. Mwachitsanzo, anthu amene ali ndi vuto la anorexia amatha kumva kunenepa pamene ali owonda kwambiri. Anthu ena angamve "oyipa" chifukwa cha mawonekedwe a mphuno kapena mole yomwe anthu ambiri samayiwona.
Sikuti nthawi zonse timayang'ana pagalasi ndi maso abwino. Nthawi zina timatha kuwona matupi athu kudzera mu chophimba cha kusatetezeka kwathu kapena zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka. Kuti malingaliro athu agwirizane ndi zenizeni, ndikosavuta kuyesererachidwi chonse popanda kuweruza. Kuyang’ana pagalasi ngati kuti ndife alendo kotheratu kudzatithandiza kutenga mtunda wofunikira wamaganizo kupeŵa kukhala osuliza osatopa oterowo.
Tiyeneranso kuwonetsetsa kuti sitidziweruza kapena kudzilemba dzina panthawi yomwe tikupezanso. Kukhalapo kwa mawanga kapena makwinya, mwachitsanzo, sikutanthauza kuti ndife onyansa, monga momwe zogwirira ntchito zachikondi sizimasonyeza kuti ndife onenepa. "Zoyipa" kapena "zonenepa" ndi zilembo zomwe timagwiritsa ntchito potsatira chiweruzo. Choncho, cholinga ndi kufufuza thupi lathu popanda kuliweruza. Osati zoipa kapena zabwino. Kotero ife tikhoza kuchotsa lens yopotoka yomwe tinali kuyang'anamo.
2. Mwachidziwitso: timadziona bwanji tokha?
Chifanizo cha thupi ichi chimaphatikizapo malingaliro ndi zikhulupiriro zomwe tili nazo pa matupi athu. Ndizo zonse zomwe timadziuza tokha za maonekedwe athu ndi zikhulupiriro zomwe zimagwirizanitsa ubale wathu ndi thupi lathu. Zikhulupiriro zambiri za thupi loyenera zimachokera kumagulu, choncho nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosagwira ntchito ndipo zimalepheretsa ubale wabwino ndi thupi lathu.
Kuganiza kuti tiyenera kukhala achichepere ndi chikhulupiriro chopanda nzeru chomwe chimatipangitsa kukana kukalamba kwachilengedwe. Kukhulupirira kuti kokha mwa kukhala woonda kapena minofu mukhoza kukhala osangalala ndi chikhulupiriro china chopanda nzeru popeza pali njira zambiri zodzimvera nokha. Ngati sitichotsa zikhulupiriro ndi malingaliro opanda pake ameneŵa, mwina sitingasangalale ndi matupi athu.
Pachifukwachi, kuti tikhale ndi chifaniziro cholondola cha thupi, tiyenera kukhala tcheru ndi kukambirana kwathu kwamkati ponena za thupi lathu. M’malo moyesetsa kupewa kukalamba, tiyenera kuganizira kwambiri za ukalamba wabwino. M'malo moyesera kukhala Arnold Schwarzenegger, tiyenera kuyang'ana pa kupeza minofu munjira yathanzi. Ndi za kusintha phata lomwe maganizo athu amazungulira, kuchoka ku mbali yokongola kupita ku thanzi ndi thanzi.
3. Zokhudza: timamva bwanji?
Chigawo cha chifaniziro cha thupichi chimanena za momwe timamvera pa thupi lathu, zomwe zimawonetsa kukhutitsidwa kapena kusakhutira ndi maonekedwe athu. Zimaphatikizapo zinthu zonse zomwe timakonda kapena zomwe sitikonda zokhudza matupi athu komanso momwe zimatikhudzira.
Mwachiwonekere, malingaliro omwe timakhala nawo pa thupi lathu amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi anthu, ndi zithunzi zomwe timawona pawailesi yakanema, m'magazini kapena malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Choncho ngati tikufuna kuti tizioneka bwino, tiyenera kukayikira zimene timagwiritsa ntchito pa TV komanso mmene zingatikhudzire. Kuti tikhale ndi malingaliro abwino okhudza thupi lathu, ndikofunika kusankha zofalitsa zomwe zimasonyezadi kusiyana kwa thupi, kuchoka kwa omwe amalimbikitsa chipembedzo cha kukongola kopanda nzeru.
N’zoona kuti maganizo ndi zikhulupiriro zimene tili nazo zokhudza thupi lathu, komanso mmene timazionera, zidzakhudzanso mmene timamvera mumtima mwathu. N’zosatheka kukondana wina ndi mnzake ngati pansi pamtima tipitiriza kusinkhasinkha za kusadzidalira, zikhulupiriro zopanda nzeru kapena kukhala ndi maonekedwe olakwika a thupi. M’pofunika kukumbukira kuti kudzida sikofunikira kuti munthu asinthe ndipo tingamve kuti sitikukhutira ndi mbali ina ya thupi lathu koma n’kuvomereza. Kukonda thupi sikuchokera ku ungwiro koma kuvomereza kukhala wapadera.
4. Khalidwe: kodi timakhala bwanji?
Chifaniziro cha thupi ichi chimaphatikizapo zochita zonse zokhudzana ndi thupi lathu. Ngati munthu ali ndi thupi labwino, amatha kusamalira thupi lake ndi maonekedwe ake, koma popanda kuchita mopitirira muyeso kapena kuwaganizira. M’malo mwake, awo amene ali ndi thupi loipa angaloŵe m’mikhalidwe yodziwononga imene imayambitsa matenda monga bulimia kapena anorexia kapena vigorexia pofuna kusintha maonekedwe awo.
Kuti tikhale ndi ubwenzi wabwino ndi matupi athu, m’pofunikanso kuti tisiye kudziyerekezera ndi anzathu, kaya ndi anzathu kapena anzathu, kapenanso ndi anthu amene amatengera nthawi kapena anthu otchuka m’mafashoni. Matupi onse ndi apadera. Ungwiro ndi kukongola sizili kanthu koma malingaliro omwe amasintha malinga ndi zikhalidwe ndi nthawi.
M’malo mwake, tingayambe kuganiza za thupi lathu ngati kachisi. Thupi limatithandiza kusangalala ndi kugwirizana ndi chilengedwe. Ziyenera kukhala gwero lokhutiritsa, osati zongodzibweretsera tokha. Tiyenera kuganizira za thupi muzochita zambiri, salutogenic ndi hedonic. Chisamalireni, chifufuzeni ndikuchilandira. Khalani ozindikira pa malire athu. Onani zomwe tingathe. Ndipo khalani oyamikira pa zonse zomwe limatilola kuchita ndi kukumana nazo.
Malire:
Burychka, D. et. Al. (2021) Kufikira Kumvetsetsa Bwino Kwambiri pa Chithunzi cha Thupi: Kuphatikiza Chithunzi Chabwino cha Thupi, Mawonekedwe ndi Kudzimvera Chifundo. Psychol Belg; 61 (1): 248-261.
Cohen, R. et. Al. (2020) Mlandu wa kukhudzika kwa thupi pazachikhalidwe cha anthu: Malingaliro pa kupita patsogolo kwaposachedwa komanso mayendedwe amtsogolo. J Health Psychol; 26 (13): 2365-2373.
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