"Palibe chilumba, chokwanira chokha", analemba John Donne. Timafuna ena ndi ena
amafuna ife. Maganizo a ena amatikhudza monga momwe amachitira
malingaliro athu amakhudza ena. Kulumikizana kwakuya kumeneku ndi
zomwe zimatilimbikitsa, komanso zimatipangitsa kukhala osatetezeka.
Inde tingathe
ali pachiwopsezo chodalira kwambiri kuthandizidwa ndi
zina, zomwe zimatilepheretsa kukhala ndi mwayi wopanga zida za
kudziyang'anira pawokha. Ndi zachilendo kuti timafunikira wina nthawi ndi nthawi
zomwe zimatitonthoza, kutitonthoza kapena kutilimbikitsa; koma ngati izi zikhala zachizolowezi ndipo ife sitikhala
wokhoza kusamalira malingaliro athu patokha, tidzakhala ndi vuto, bwanji
tidzadalira malamulo owoneka bwino.
Kodi malamulo am'maganizo akunja ndi chiyani?
Anthu otizungulira
nthawi zambiri amatenga gawo lofunikira potithandiza kusamalira malingaliro athu. Kudzikonda
tili ndi ntchito yofunikira, mwachitsanzo, titha kukhala ndi nkhawa kapena kukwiya
kumva kuti sitikupita patsogolo ndipo nthawi yomalizira ikuyandikira.
M'dziko lino, nthawi zina,
zoyesayesa zathu zothana ndi malingaliro zitha kulephera ndikutha
kuti apange zokhumudwitsa zambiri. Ndiye ndipamene bwenzi lathu libwera, amadzipanga yekha
Ndikudziwa kuti talowa munjira yowononga ndipo zimatithandiza kutulukamo.
Chimodzi chidachitika
malamulo am'maganizo, omwe amakhala ndi njira yomwe
munthu m'modzi amakopa momwe mnzake akumvera mumtima mwake, mozindikira komanso ndi
cholinga chenicheni m'malingaliro. Munthu amene amakopa mnzake amatchedwa "woyang'anira".
Sizimvera chisoni kapena kufalikira kwamalingaliro, kuwongolera kwamalingaliro
zakunja zimapitilira apo
Malangizo okhudza mtima
zakunja siziyenera kusokonezedwa ndi kumvera ena chisoni kapena matenda opatsirana osavuta,
ndi njira ina yomwe iwo alili:
1. Kuzindikira. Mosiyana ndi matenda opatsirana, omwe amapezeka
basi, nthawi zambiri osazindikira, kusintha
zakuthupi zakunja zimatanthawuza kudzipereka. Wowongolera akufuna kuti
kukopa malingaliro a mnzake, amadziwa kuti akufuna kusintha
momwe akumvera mumachitidwe ake, onse kuti alimbikitse yemwe ali
Zachisoni, onse kukhazika mtima pansi omwe akukwiya.
2. Kuchita. Titha kukhala achifundo ndi munthu, kulumikizana ndi awo
momwe timamvera ndikumvetsetsa, koma sizitanthauza kuti timatero
china choti chikhudze mtima wawo. M'malamulo akunja kwamalingaliro, al
m'malo mwake, wowongolera amatenga nawo mbali potengera winayo. angathe iye
amasiyana malangizidwe kapena matanthauzidwe ena amvuto ku
kukumbatira komwe kumapereka chidaliro komanso chitetezo.
3. Kusintha kwamalingaliro abwino kapena osalimbikitsa. Malamulo akunja kwakanthawi samangokhala
kukonza malingaliro a anthu, kuwalimbikitsa akakhala pansi kapena kuwakhazika pansi pamene
akwiya. Kuchita izi kumathandizanso kuchepetsa kusangalala kapena
ngakhale zimabweretsa kukhumudwa. Mwachitsanzo, wowongolera akhoza kukulitsa
nkhawa yathu yotithandiza kukwaniritsa tsiku lomalizira kapena kuchepetsa
chidwi chathu pantchito yowopsa kwambiri.
Zolakwitsa 5 za owongolera amisala
Tonsefe, pamlingo winawake
nthawi, timakhala ngati owongolera momwe ena akumvera. Komabe, mu
nthawi zina tikhoza kumaliza kuwononga chifukwa cha zabwino kwambiri
zolinga.
1. Kusazindikira kuti kutengeka ndikofunikira. Chimodzi mwazolakwitsa zazikulu zomwe timapanga tikakhala
timayesetsa kusamalira malingaliro a ena sakudziwa kuti, mwina, kutengeka
ndikofunikira panthawiyo. Mwachitsanzo, mwina pang'ono eustress
ndizomwe timafunikira kuti timalize ntchito panthawi, ndiye
ngati wina ayesa kumasuka, sizitithandiza kwambiri. Wowongolera akuyenera
Nthawi zonse lingalirani za mtengo ndi phindu lokhalabe ndi chidwi
amene akufuna kusintha polemekeza zabwino zomwe kutengeka kumatha kubweretsa
ikufuna kukhazikitsa.
2. Sankhani njira yolakwika. Kukopa malingaliro amunthu wina,
Tiyenera kuganizira njira, yomwe ingakhale ya
mulimbikitseni kuti ayende kokayenda kuti apumule kapena alankhule kuti amumasule
kuponderezedwa. Koma ngati njirayi italephera, itha kuyambitsa zina
zoipa kuposa zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, kwawonetsedwa kuti amalankhula za zoopsa
ikangotuluka imatha kuphatikiza.
3. Kuponderezedwa. Imodzi mwa njira zowongolera zakukhosi
Chovulaza kwambiri nthawi zambiri chimakhala kuponderezana, komwe kumachepetsa
amachepetsa mavuto kapena nkhawa za munthu. Mawu ngati "Osadandaula, palibe kanthu"
atha kukhala ndi zotsutsana chifukwa munthuyo samva kutsimikizika
mwamalingaliro, m'malo mwake, amva kuti ayenera kubisa momwe akumvera
chifukwa samalandiridwa pagulu.
4. Musamadziyerekezere ndi ena. Nthawi zina timalimbikitsidwa ndi zolinga zabwino, koma ayi
tikhoza kuchotsa kudzikonda kwathu kuthandiza ena. Timakhulupirira
kuti njira zomwe zimatigwirira ntchito ziyenera kukhala ndi zotsatira zake kwa ena,
ndipo sichoncho. Chowonadi chakuti tikufuna kupita kuphwando pamene tikumva choncho
payekha kapena pachisoni sizitanthauza kuti ndizofanana kwa ena, nthawi zambiri,
ili ndi zotsatira zotsutsana. Chifukwa chake, ngati timayesetsa kuwongolera momwe ena akumvera
malinga ndi momwe timaonera, titha kukhala iatrogenic.
5. Perekani posachedwa. Malangizo amakono ndi njira yovuta yomwe
nthawi zambiri zimatenga nthawi. Sitingathe kusintha chisoni kukhala chimwemwe
chithunzithunzi, kutaya msanga mutangoyesa koyamba ndi
kulakwitsa wamba tikamayesera kuthandizana.
Sinthani momwe mukumvera kapena lolani ena kutero
kusintha iwo?
Aliyense, pamlingo winawake
nthawi, timafunikira thandizo kuti tithetse nkhawa zathu. Liti
tikudutsa mphindi yovuta kwambiri, ngati kutha kwa imodzi
ubale, kutha kwa ntchito kapena kumwalira kwa wokondedwa nthawi zina
tikufuna wina woti atithandizire ndi kutitonthoza. Ndi zachilendo.
Koma ngati titafika
kudalira ena mokha kuti aziyang'anira zigawo zathu
zabwino, tidzakhala ndi vuto, chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti sitingathe
kuzindikira, kumvetsetsa ndi / kapena kuwongolera momwe tikumvera.
Siyani kasamalidwe
za m'manja mwathu m'manja mwa ena zimakulitsa zizolowezi
zokonda, kuti tithe kumva osokonekera komanso osokonezeka popanda izi
munthu. Zili ngati kuti tinali mwana wamng'ono wosakhoza kuyang'anira
machitidwe athu, zomwe zingatipangitse kupanga zisankho zoyipa kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake, ngakhale malamulo am'maganizo akunja ndichinthu chachilendo,
Tiyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti timangogwiritsa ntchito pazochitika zina.
Kutha kwa owongolera amisala
Malangizo okhudza mtima
extrinsic imathanso kukhudza anthu omwe amakakamizidwa kuchita monga
owongolera malingaliro kwa ena. Anthu awa ayenera kunyamula zowawa
kutengeka kwa ena - kuphatikiza pa zawo - ndipo izi zitha kubweretsa zenizeni
matenda akumvera chisoni.
Kuyenera kudalira
momwe mnzake angamuthandizire kuzisamalira moyenera
zotopetsa kwambiri, makamaka popeza anthuwa pamapeto pake
amatha kukhala ndi maudindo omwe sakugwirizana nawo. Izi sizitero
zikutanthauza kuti sitiyenera kukhala okhudzidwa kuti tithandizire
ena, koma tiyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti sizikhala zachilendo.
Zowonadi, chakudya
Kuledzera sikungakhale koyenera kwa aliyense, chifukwa chake ngati tikufunadi kutero
thandizo, tiyenera athe kutsagana popanda kuwukira kapena kuwathandiza
osalanda.
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