Palibe amene angakayikire kuti ubale womwe ulipo mayi ndi mwana wawo wamwamuna nthawi zonse amakhala apadera kwambiri. Izi ndizachilengedwe, titero kunena kwake. Chifukwa chake, zimatha kukhala zovuta kwa abambo pezani malo awo mu ichi zamphongo, makamaka miyezi yoyambirira ya moyo wa mwanayo. Komabe, ana akamakula, kuyenda komanso kumvetsetsa kumakulanso il Papa zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri ndipo amatenga gawo lofunikira.
Kapena osachepera, nthawi zambiri. Chifukwa pali ana omwe, ngakhale ali ndi zaka 3, 4 kapena 5, amapempha amayi chilichonse ndipo amakana kulandira thandizo la atate awo. Mungathe bwanji kuchitapo kanthu pamaso pa khalidweli komanso momwe zingathere sintha?
M'malo mwake, chowonadi chimodzi ndichakuti: ngati ana athu amatitcha amayi athu nthawi zonse kuthandizidwa, kaya kufunafuna chidole chotayika kapena chilimbikitso mutagwa, ndiye osati kokha chipiriro chathu idzafika kumapeto komanso ya abambo, chifukwa amamva wokanidwa komanso wopitilira muyeso. Kuphatikiza apo, zonsezi zitha kukhala ndi kusokoneza ubalewo.
Umboni: "Amayi, ndimakukondani kwambiri kuposa abambo"
Mayi adatiuza luso lanu ndendende pamutuwu.
“Ndakhala ndikulingalira kwambiri za posachedwa mwana wanga wamkazi wazaka zinayi adanong'oneza kuti: "Amayi, ndimakukondani kwambiri kuposa abambo". Anandifikitsa ku mosamala. Ndinkafuna kuteteza mwamuna wanga nthawi yomweyo ndikumuuza kuti sayenera kunena zotere, chifukwa nawonso abambo amamukonda. Koma sindinatero, chifukwa zomwe akumva ndi zenizeni kwa iye ndipo sindinathe kumuletsa motere. M'malo mwake, zidandipangitsa kulingalira chifukwa chomwe wanenera. "
“M'nyumba mwathu, ana onse aŵiri amakonda kuitana amayi poyamba. Chifukwa amayi alipo. Ngakhale mamuna wanga amakhala yekha ndi ana m'mawa ndikuwatengera kusukulu ndi kindergarten masana kulibe nthawi yawo yopuma. M'malo mwake, timasewera, kuwerenga nkhani, kuchita masamu ndi kutsatsa zochitika zina. Abambo amangobwera kudzadya chakudya chamadzulo ndipo asanagone. "
Mphamvu ya chizolowezi
"Chifukwa chake, nthawi iliyonse yopuma amafunikira dzanja la munthu wamkulu kuti amuthandize, dzanja lodalirika ndi la mayi e chifukwa cha chizolowezi choyera amatchedwa ngakhale abambo ali pafupi. Palibe nkhanza kuseli kwa zonsezi, koma chizolowezi "chokha". Izi mwina ndi zomwe mwana wanga ananena. "
“Nthawi zambiri amafuna kuti ndimusamalire komanso kundikonda. Ndine njira yake yolumikizirana za nkhawa ndi misozi, komanso nthawi yabwino komanso nkhani zoseketsa. Chifukwa abambo akabwera kunyumba, misozi imaphwa, timasewera ndipo timakamba nkhani.
Komanso, mwana wanga wamkazi akuwona tsopano ngati msungwana. Zikuwonekeratu kuti iye ndi ine timafanana kwambiri kuposa iye ndi abambo. Zowonadi ndi mawu akuti "Amayi tiyenera kukhalabe ogwirizana", nthawi zambiri kusankha kwake koyamba mukafuna thandizo kapena mukufuna kunena nkhani yofunikira. "
Kodi chingachitike ndi chiyani kuti bambo akhale ndi chidwi chachikulu?
Ngati abambo akumva kuti akusiyidwa kapena ngakhale amayi akuwona kuti akuyenera kuchita zonse iwowo, zimathandiza poyambirira. lankhulani za izo poyera, moona mtima komanso popanda kunyoza. Kodi onse awona kuti zifukwa zamakhalidwe a mwanayo? Mwanayo mwina akudutsamo gawo lachitukuko?
Zofunika sikuti kumangoyimba mlandu mnzanuyo. Komanso kulakwitsa kwa abambo, chifukwa kulibe ndipo amagwira ntchito, kapena vuto la amayi, chifukwa amakhala ndi udindo pachilichonse. Zifukwa mwina zili kwinakwake.
Thandizani makolo ndi mwana a pangani miyambo. Liti Papa, yemwe wakhala kunja tsiku lonse, amabwera kunyumba madzulo, ayenera kupeza nthawi ya ana. Izi zikutanthauza: kuzimitsa foni yam'manja, kukhala pansi ndikumvetsera nkhani za ana za tsiku lawo. Ana amafunikira Attenzione ndikumverera kwakulandila zosachepera 100 peresenti.
Kusintha "njira zakale zapakhomo"
Zonsezi zikutanthauza kuti makolo onse awiri ayenera kusintha zomwe amayembekezeredwa kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, sizowona kuti abambo "amangotenga" ana awo kupita nawo kusukulu kapena kusewera mpira ndi ana awo, pomwe amayi ali ndi ntchito zina, makamaka zokhudzana ndi ana. ana aakazi. Tiyenera kuthana ndi malingaliro am'mbuyomu ndikumvetsetsa kuti palibe magawo odziwika bwino.
Nthawi yocheza ndi ana, ngakhale itakhala ola limodzi m'mawa ndi ola limodzi madzulo, iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito popanda malire kapena malire. Komanso, muyenera kukhulupirira wokondedwa wanu komanso kuti amadziwa momwe angayendetsere ubale wabwino ndi ana ake, mwina mwanjira ina kuposa inu, koma nthawi zonse zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zabwino. Chifukwa chake mwana wamkazi akaitanira amayi kachiwiri, ikafika nthawi yogona, mwachitsanzo, amayi amayenera kubwerera kwawo nthawi ndi nthawi ngati abambo akufuna.
Chifukwa, monga taphunzirira kale, ana ndi zolengedwa chizolowezi. Ngati abambo nthawi zonse agonetsa mwana wawo wamkazi kwa kanthawi, ndi nkhani ndi kukumbatirana kanthawi kochepa, amasiririka komanso kuyamikiridwa ndi msungwanayo. Mwina osati nthawi yomweyo, koma patatha masiku angapo. Ndiye abambo ati anene nkhani zogona popanda kutsutsana kwina e azitha kusewera momasuka ndi ana, nanunso amayi mutha kukhala nawo mantha oyenera.
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