Kulankhulana kuli ngati mtsinje, nthawi zina umayenda ndipo nthawi zina umayima. Nthawi zina timakumana ndi anthu amene safuna kumvetsera maganizo, kuyesera kutisokoneza kapena kuphwanya ufulu wathu wofunikira. Zikatere, zimakhala zosavuta kukhumudwa kapena kuphulika ndi mkwiyo. Njira yosweka ya mbiriyo ndi njira yotsimikizirika yomwe ingatilole kuti tifotokoze bwino momwe timakhalira ndikufotokozera pempho lathu popanda kutaya chipiriro poyesa.
Kodi njira yosweka mbiri ndi yotani?
Njira yosweka yojambulidwa ndi njira yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito m'mapulogalamu a luso lachitukuko pofuna kulimbikitsa luso lolankhulana chifukwa ndi yosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito ndipo imatithandiza kupereka yankho lolimba komanso lomveka bwino. Zomwe zimatchedwanso scratched disc technique, zinapangidwa ndi Manuel J. Smith m'buku lake "Pamene Ine Ndikunena Ayi, Ndikumva Wolakwa".
Dzina la njirayo limachokera ku nthawi yomwe ma vinyl records amagwiritsidwa ntchito kumvetsera nyimbo. Cholembedwa chikakanda amatha kubwereza mawu omwewo mobwerezabwereza.
Njira yosweka ya mbiriyo imaphatikizapo kutsanzira kubwereza uku pamikhalidwe yomwe tikufunika kumveketsa bwino zomwe tikunena kapena sitikufuna kuti wotilankhulana naye apatuka pa nkhani yomwe tikufuna kuthana nayo.
Ubwino wa njira iyi yodzitsimikizira
1. Limbikitsani uthenga wathu. Ubwino waukulu waukadaulo wosweka wa mbiri ndikuti umalimbitsa uthenga wathu m'malingaliro a interlocutor wathu. Malingana ngati sitisonyeza mtima waukali, kubwereza maganizo athu kapena pempho lathu kudzathandiza munthuyo kumvetsa maganizo athu popanda kuopsezedwa.
2. Pewani phokoso polankhulana. Zokambirana zambiri zimayima chifukwa zimachoka pamutu waukulu, ndikusanduka mikangano yachitonzo. Ndi ukadaulo wokandwa wa disc izi sizichitika chifukwa timakhazikika pamalingaliro omwe tikufuna kutsimikizira.
3. Wonjezerani mwayi wanu wokwaniritsa cholinga chanu. Njira yosweka yojambulidwa imapita molunjika, uthenga wake ndi womveka komanso wachidule, kotero munthu winayo adzamvetsetsa kuti tili otsimikiza za zomwe tikufuna komanso kumene tikuyima. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, zimenezi zidzawonjezera mwayi woti amvere zimene tikufuna kapena kuti asinthe maganizo ake.
Ndi liti pamene mungagwiritse ntchito njira yosweka ya mbiriyo ndipo ndi nthawi iti yomwe ili yotsutsana?
Njira yothyoledwa ndiyothandiza kwambiri tikakhala m'mikhalidwe yovomerezeka, monga kuntchito, pamene tikuyenera kuthana ndi akuluakulu aboma kapena pocheza ndi anthu osawadziwa. Koma ingakhalenso yothandiza m’zochitika zapamtima kwambiri, ponse paŵiri paubwenzi wa okwatiranawo ndi anawo.
M'njira zambiri, titha kugwiritsa ntchito njira yodzitchinjiriza ngati:
• Pempho lathu ndi lomveka
• Tikufuna kufotokoza momveka bwino kuti ndife otsimikiza ndipo tilibe cholinga chosiya
• Tikufuna kulimbikitsa maganizo athu mwaubwenzi komanso mwaulemu, popanda cholinga chotsutsa
• Akuphwanya ufulu wathu
• Wotilankhula naye amayesa kutiukira kapena kusokoneza zokambirana
• Munthu amayesa kutinyenga kapena kulanda udindo
• Wotilankhula naye safuna kumvera, ndi woyiwala kapena wosakonzekera
Njira yosweka ya mbiriyo ikufuna kupewa mikangano ndi zokambirana, kumveketsa bwino zomwe tikuyembekezera komanso zomwe tikuyembekezera. Komabe, si mphamvu zonse ndipo pali nthawi zina zomwe zingakhale zotsutsana, monga ngati sitili olondola kapena pempho lathu ndi lopanda nzeru, chifukwa pamenepa zimangosonyeza kuuma ndi kuuma. Komanso sizikhala zothandiza ngati winayo sakufuna kugonja kapena kukamba nkhani, chifukwa zingatiike m'mavuto osatha.
Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito njira yachikale ya disc sitepe ndi sitepe?
Ngakhale maziko a njirayi ndi osavuta, kugwiritsa ntchito moyenera ndikuwonjezera mphamvu zake ndikofunikira kuganizira zina:
• Fotokozani mwachidule maganizo anu kapena pempho lanu m'mawu achidule omwe mungathe kubwereza nthawi yonse yokambirana
• Osasintha chiganizo mwanjira iliyonse, sungani mokhazikika kuti mutsimikizire uthengawo
• Yesetsani kukhala ndi kamvekedwe kofanana ndi kuchuluka kwa mawu, kumbukirani kuti kusintha pang'ono kungapangitse kuganiza kuti mukukhumudwa kapena kukayikira.
• Yesetsani kukhala odekha kuti zonena zanu ndi malingaliro anu asawoneke ngati ankhanza kapena owopseza. Kumbukirani kuti cholinga chanu si kuopseza mnzanuyo koma kumukhulupirira
• Tsimikizirani uthenga wa wolankhulayo pobwereza mawu ake. Mwanjira iyi adzamvedwa, koma osagonja ndikupempha zomwe mwapempha.
Mwachitsanzo, mungayambe ndi kunena “Sindigwira ntchito usikuuno” o "Chinthu ichi chawonongeka ndipo ndikufuna kubweza ndalama".
Pamene interlocutor wanu akufotokoza mkangano wake, muyenera kutsimikizira izo ndi kubwereza malo anu: “Ndikudziwa kuti muli pampanipani, koma sindingathe kugwira ntchito usikuuno” kapena "Ndikumva kuti simunandigulitse izi kwa ine, koma zawonongeka ndipo ndikufuna kubweza ndalama."
Ngati munthuyo ayesa kuyankha pempholo, ingobwereza mawu anu: "Izi sizikugwirizana ndi nkhaniyi, ndikufunadi ...". Musalole njira zosokoneza za winayo zikusokonezeni munjira ina.
M’malo mwake, m’pofunika kuti musawonjezere zinthu zosafunikira kapena kupereka zifukwa zodzikhululukira chifukwa zingasokoneze chisokonezo ndi munthu winayo. Mutha kufotokozera pambuyo pake, koma pokhapokha mutafotokoza malingaliro anu kapena pempho lanu ndipo mukutsimikiza kuti wolankhulana naye wamva ndikumvetsetsa.
Ngati pali nkhani yaying'ono yokhudzana ndi nkhani yayikulu, mutha kuvomereza koma kuyimirira ponena kuti: “Ndili wokonzeka kuthana ndi vutoli tikangothetsa nkhaniyi. Tiyeni titengepo pang'ono."
Pomaliza, kumbukirani kuti mukamabwerezanso lingaliro lanu, m'pamenenso lidzaphatikizana kwambiri m'maganizo a wolankhulana naye, kotero adzamvetsetsa kuti sangasinthe malingaliro anu ndi mikangano yopanda tanthauzo kapena kuti simungatengeke.
Pakhomo Njira yosweka mbiri kuti muwerenge idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
