Wafilosofi Auguste Comte ankaganiza kuti kukhala ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi ena kunali kofunika "lamulo la chimwemwe". M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, sayansi inatsimikizira kuti iye anali wolondola. Popanda luso locheza ndi anthu, timadzinyenga tokha. Timapereka malingaliro athu, malingaliro athu, malingaliro athu ndi ufulu wathu.
Maubwenzi omwe timakhala nawo ndi ena ndi magwero a chikhutiro ndi chimwemwe, koma pamene sitingathe kufotokoza zomwe tikumva, kulankhulana maganizo athu kapena kuteteza ufulu wathu motsimikiza, zimakhala gwero la mikangano, zowawa ndi mikangano. Choncho, luso locheza ndi anthu ndilo maziko omwe tiyenera kumanga chimwemwe chathu.
Ngati tikufuna kukhala osangalala, tiyenera kukulitsa maunansi athu ndi luso locheza ndi anthu
Mu 2018, akatswiri azamisala ku Yunivesite ya Leipzig adafunsa anthu opitilira 1.500 funso lomwe limawoneka losavuta: njira yanu yokhalira osangalala ndi iti? Motero apeza kuti si njira zonse zimene zimatsogolera ku chimwemwe.
Kwenikweni, anthu amayesa kukhala osangalala potsatira njira ziwiri zosiyana: chitukuko cha munthu payekha kapena chikhalidwe cha anthu. Ena ankakhulupirira kuti akanakhala osangalala ngati atapeza ntchito yabwino kapena kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi. Ena anagogomezera zolinga zawo za kucheza, monga kukhala ndi nthaŵi yabwino kwambiri ndi mabwenzi ndi achibale, kukhala omvetsetsana ndi ena, kapena kukumana ndi anthu atsopano.
Patatha chaka chimodzi, ochita kafukufukuwo adawonanso kuti ali osangalala komanso okhutira. Iwo anapeza kuti amene amadziikira cholinga chimodzi n’kuchikwaniritsa amakhala osangalala komanso okhutira.
Aka si kafukufuku woyamba kuwulula kugwirizana komwe kulipo pakati pa luso lathu locheza ndi anthu komanso chisangalalo. M'zaka za m'ma 1990, akatswiri a zamaganizo ochokera ku National Taiwan University iwo anapeza kuti kudzidalira ndiko njira yabwino yopezera chimwemwe kusiyana ndi kudzizindikira. Ofufuza ku Islamic Azad University apeza kuti maphunziro amakhalidwe abwino "Zimakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino: zimawonjezera chisangalalo, kudzidalira komanso kupirira".
Kafukufuku wina wofunika kwambiri mpaka pano, womwe unayamba mu 1938 pambuyo pa anthu oposa 700 kwa zaka 75, anapeza kuti maunansi abwino ndiwo chinsinsi cha chimwemwe chosatha. Akatswiri ofufuza a pa yunivesite ya Harvard anatsimikizira zimenezi "Maubwenzi apamtima, kuposa ndalama kapena kutchuka, ndizomwe zimapangitsa anthu kukhala osangalala pamoyo wawo wonse."
Inde, zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti zolinga zaumwini n’zosafunika kwenikweni ndiponso kuti kuzikwaniritsa sikungatipangitse kukhala osangalala ndi okhutiritsidwa ndi tokha, koma m’pofunika kuzikhazika pa luso loyenerera la kucheza ndi anthu. M’zikhalidwe zonse, mayanjano a anthu ndi kukhoza kwathu kugwirizana n’zofunika kwambiri kuti tipeze moyo wabwino ndi wolinganizika umene umatsogolera ku chimwemwe chokhazikika ndi chokhalitsa.
Kufunika kwa luso lachiyanjano kuti tipeze chisangalalo
Maluso a chikhalidwe cha anthu amapezedwa mwa kuphunzira, makamaka potengera makhalidwe a makolo athu kapena anthu ena ofunika. Kudziletsa, kudziletsa, kumvetsera mwachidwi, ndi kutsimikizira m'maganizo ndi zitsanzo za luso lachiyanjano lomwe timapanga potengera akuluakulu omwe ali pafupi nafe.
Komabe, tonsefe sitiphunzira maphunziro ofanana mofanana. Ngati sitinakhale ndi zitsanzo zabwino za luso la chikhalidwe cha anthu, n'kovuta kwa ife kuphunzira momwe tingathetsere mikangano molimba mtima kapena kutha kutsimikizira ufulu wathu.
Pamene sitinakulitse mokwanira luso lathu lokhala ndi anthu, maubwenzi pakati pa anthu amakhala magwero a kusapeza bwino ndi kusakhutira. Zoonadi, sitingaiwale kuti maubwenzi amayambitsa zina mwa malingaliro athu amphamvu kwambiri.
Ngati sitikamba za mavutowo, amakula. Ngati sitikudziwa kutsitsa voteji, imakulitsa. Ngati sitingathe kulamulira maganizo athu, iwo adzatha ndipo tidzakwiya msanga.
M'malo mwake, luso locheza ndi anthu limathandiza kuti zinthu ziziyenda bwino. Amatilola kulimbitsa ubale wathu, koma popanda iwo kutilepheretsa. Iwo amatithandiza ife kudziika tokha mu nsapato za wina ndi mzake, komanso kufotokoza zosowa zathu. Amatilola kuthetsa mikangano ndikuteteza malo athu.
Maubale omwe timasunga amatifotokozera. Sikuti amangotilola kupeza malo athu padziko lapansi ndikusintha bwino zochitika zosiyanasiyana, komanso zimalimbitsa umunthu wathu. Pamlingo wochepa, tonsefe timadziwona tokha ndi maso athu.
Tikakhala ndi luso lotha kucheza ndi anthu, tikhoza kukhala ndi maubwenzi abwino omwe amatipatsa chithandizo, chidaliro ndi bata zomwe timafunikira kuti tikule monga anthu ndikukhala osangalala. Zomangira zimenezo zimatitetezanso ku zovuta komanso zimathandizira kuchedwetsa kufooka kwa malingaliro ndi thupi, kukhala zolosera bwino za moyo wautali komanso wachimwemwe kuposa gulu la anthu, IQ, kapena majini.
Koma kuti tigwiritse ntchito mphamvu zabwino zomwe zimachokera ku maubwenzi, choyamba tiyenera kukulitsa luso lathu locheza ndi anthu. Sikokwanira kulola anthu abwino m'miyoyo yathu, tiyenera kukhala okhoza kuwasunga ndi kuwapatsa chithandizo chomwecho, kumvetsetsa ndi chisangalalo chomwe timayembekezera kwa iwo. Chifukwa, monga momwe Wilhelm von Humboldt ananenera: "Kupatula apo, ndi maubwenzi ndi anthu omwe amapereka tanthauzo la moyo".
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Pakhomo Kodi mukufuna kukhala osangalala? Kulitsani luso lanu locheza ndi anthu idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
