Palibe mwayi wachiwiri wopangira chidwi choyamba. Kaya ndi ntchito kuyankhulana, chikondi tsiku loyamba, kapena wamba kwathunthu msonkhano ndi mlendo, ife zambiri kuyesetsa kuti kumveka bwino.
Koma kuthetsa vutoli sikophweka nthawi zonse, makamaka kukambirana momasuka ndi munthu amene tangokumana naye kumene. Nthawi zambiri timachimwa mwachisawawa. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kuti akhale okoma ndi kukopa anthu, ayenera kulankhula mochepa komanso kumvetsera kwambiri. Sayansi imatsutsa.
Kulankhula zambiri kumatithandiza kupanga malingaliro abwino
Kafukufuku yemwe adachitika ku yunivesite ya Virginia adawonetsa kuti anthu amakonda kuganiza kuti amafunikira kuyankhula 45% ya nthawiyo kuti akhale wabwino kwa munthu yemwe wangokumana naye. Komabe, zoyesererazi zikusonyeza kuti ndi zolakwika.
Ofufuzawo anakwatiwa ndi anthu osadziwika ndipo anawapempha kuti alankhule 30, 40, 50, 60, kapena 70 peresenti ya nthawiyo. Motero anatha kuŵerengera ndendende nthaŵi imene mawuwo anagwiritsira ntchito.
Iwo anapeza kuti pamene otenga nawo mbali amakambitsirana kwambiri, m’pamenenso olankhula nawo atsopanowo amawakonda kwambiri.
Si phunziro lokhalo lomwe limatsimikizira izi. Pafupifupi zaka khumi m’mbuyomo, ofufuza ena anachitanso zofanana ndi zimenezi pamene anapempha munthu mmodzi kuti alankhule pamene winayo akumvetsera.
Atakambirana kwa mphindi 12, anapeza kuti omvera amakonda anthu amene amalankhula kwambiri. Komabe, amene analankhula kwambiri sanasonyeze chifundo mofananamo kwa anthu amene amangomvetsera.
Kusalankhula momasuka komanso chizolowezi cholankhula pang'ono
Lingaliro lolakwika lakuti kukhala chete kumatipangitsa kuwoneka okoma mtima ndi kupanga malingaliro abwino kumatchedwa reticence bias. Kukondera kumeneku mwina kumachokera ku chikhulupiriro chakuti kuti tikhale achifundo tiyenera kumvetsera kwambiri.
Mosakayikira, kumvetsera mwachidwi ndi mbali ya chifundo, koma kuti tigwirizane ndi ena m’maganizo tiyeneranso kumasuka. Akatswiri ofufuza amanena kuti chifukwa chimodzi chimene chimachititsa kuti anthu amene amalankhula amatisangalatsa kwambiri n’chakuti amatilola kuphunzira zambiri za iwo.
Kutsegulaku kumatithandiza kupeza zinthu zofanana kwambiri, choncho zimakhala zosavuta kuti tidziyike muzochita zawo. Anthu omasuka kwambiri komanso omasuka amatithandizanso kuti tisakhale osamala potipangitsa kukhala omasuka. Amapewanso kukhala chete kosautsa komwe kumachitika ndi anthu omwe amafunikira kutulutsa mawu pakamwa pawo.
Ndipotu ofufuzawo akufotokoza kuti tikakumana ndi munthu, makamaka ngati sitikhala naye nthawi yambiri, timangopanga mmodzi. chithunzi choyamba padziko lonse. Zimakhala zovuta kwa ife kuganiza kuti ndi zanzeru, zosangalatsa kapena zonyoza chifukwa kumverera komwe kumatipatsa kumadalira kwambiri zomwe timamva pokambirana, kotero tidzakhala ndi malingaliro abwino kapena oipa.
Pachifukwa ichi, ngati tikufuna kupanga chithunzi chabwino ndikulumikizana, tiyenera kuchotsa kukondera ndikuyesa kulankhula mochulukirapo kuposa nthawi zonse.
Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti tizingokhalira kukambirana. Kuchulutsa winayo mwa kumletsa kulankhula sikudzatithandiza kupanga chiyambukiro chabwino, ndithudi, koma ngati ndife anthu olankhula pang’ono, tiyenera kudera nkhaŵa za kulankhula mowonjezereka. Zimenezi zingapangitse kuti kukambiranako kukhale kosavuta komanso kumveketse bwino.
Malire:
Hischi, Q. et. Al. (2022) Nenani! Zikhulupiriro Zolakwika Pankhani Yochuluka Yolankhula Pakucheza. Makhalidwe Athu ndi Psychology Bulletin; 11:10.1177.
Sprecher, S. et. Al. (2013) Zotsatira za udindo wodziwonetsera pa zokonda, kuyandikana, ndi zina zomwe zimawoneka podziwana. Journal Za Ubale ndi Makhalidwe Abwino; 30 (4): 10.1177.
Pakhomo Kulankhula mochuluka kapena pang'ono: ndibwino kuti mupange chithunzi chabwino ndi chiyani? idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
