Ndi angati a inu, dziko litangolengezedwa kuti ndi lofiira, muli nalo ikani zodulira mu locker ya bafa ndipo, pakatha miyezi iwiri, kwathunthu anachotsa kukhalapo kwawo? Ndizofala, makamaka, kuti kuwononga ndalama masiku onse kunyumba, mwina mkati solitudine, izi manja so chizolowezi (kwa ena, kumene) zinali kuchotsedwa kwathunthu pamachitidwe atsopanowa. Ndipo, ngakhale zitakuwonekerani zopanda pake, pali ena "Wosasamala" zomwe zasungidwa wokhulupirika mokhazikika pamachitidwe awa. Zowonadi, pakupatukana, kwawo kwakhala chosowa chenicheni. Koma kodi mukudziwa kuti, mwina mwina, sikuti onsewo amalakwitsa? Tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chake!
Lingaliro laling'ono lofunikira: ziyenera kutsindika, makamaka, kuti aliyense ali nawo njira yamwini yopezera mtendere mu "gehena" iyi e sayenera kuweruzidwa za ichi. Nthawi zonse timalalikira kufunika kwa ufulu, izi ziyenera kukhala zochuluka motani ufulu wosatsutsika kwa tonsefe, choncho aliyense akhale omasuka kumva bwino momwe amawonera kuti ndi koyenera ndipo - koposa zonse - amapambana, kaya akufuna kupitilizabe kudzipaka kapena ayi, kaya amasangalala kukazinga pizza osayima, kapena ngati kuyesetsa kwake kuphika ndikuyika zakudya zachisanu kuti zizitenthedwe ndi ma microwave. Pomaliza, Khalani ndi moyo!
1. Kudzidalira
Wachikazi ndi wokongola, Umu ndi momwe anthu ena amafunira kumva ngakhale atadzipatula. Kudzidalira ili m'gulu la zosakaniza zazikulu kuyang'anizana ndi mphindi yamavuto patsogolo. Pulogalamu ya makongoletsedwe, ili ndi gawo lofunikira, koma silimagwiritsidwa ntchito pamaso pa ena. Khulupirirani kapena ayi, mungafune kuwoneka bwino kwambiri ngakhale kwa inu nokha, popanda kufunika koti wina asangalale ndikuchitira umboni za kukongola kwathu. Tiyeni tikumbukire kuti sitimafunitsitsa kuyamikiridwa, nthawi zina, timangofunika kuti timve wina ndi mnzake kukhala omasuka pamaso pagalasi.
2. Zolingalira zachizolowezi
Simukudziwa kuti ndi tsiku liti, ndi mwezi uti komanso nyengo yomwe tili, simukumbukirabe dzina lanu? Chabwino, zonse ndi zabwinobwino. Zomwe tikukumana nazo zimakhudza china chake mlingo wa kudzipatula ndi zotsatira Zotsatira zake mwina zimakhudza kwambiri psyche wathu. Mliriwu uli ndi zakhumudwitsa kwambiri machitidwe athu ndipo sikophweka kupanga yatsopano kuchokera pachabe. Tiyeni tiyese, ndiye, kuti kusunga osachepera ntchito ndi miyambo komwe titha kudzipereka ngakhale mkati mwa makoma a nyumbayo. Zodzoladzola ndi chimodzi mwa izo. Icho chinali chimodzi passione kapena, mopepuka, chimodzi mwambo, tiyeni tisazisiye pa shelefu yafumbi. Bwerezani zonsezo manja iwo anatero gawo la moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku zidzatithandiza osataya chidziwitso cha zenizeni ndipo koposa zonse, a tikumbutseni kuti ndife ndani.
3. Zosangalatsa
Kuphatikiza apo, kuyang'ana pazomwe zikuchitikazo, chifukwa chake pamakwerero onse omwe kukongola kumakhalapo, kumatipangitsa kukhala athu ubongo si sokoneza kwakanthawi ku nkhawa ndikupezanso mtima wamtendere.
4. Kudzisamalira
Tiyeni tiyese sintha malingaliro yomwe timayang'ana nayo zinthu: nthawi yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito popanga ndi nthawi yomwe timadzipereka kwa ife tokha, sichowononga. Makamaka tsopano, pamene malingaliro athu amasinthasintha tsiku lililonse, ndi athu sacrosanct kumanja kutikwapula, kutipatsa iwo chidwi zomwe timadzichotsera tokha zomwe timakonda kutsimikizira kwa ena okha.
5. Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo
Valani zodzoladzola ndi mwambo wokongola… .Ndi mu mkhalidwe wabwino. Zodzikongoletsera, zimatuluka m'njira zosiyanasiyana zotsatira zabwino osati pamlingo wokongoletsa wokha, komanso pamlingo wamaganizidwe. Chisankho chodzola zodzoladzola m'mawa uliwonse mukamadya chakudya cham'mawa chambiri chimatipatsa chindapusa chofunikira kulimbana bwino ndi tsiku lathu, ngakhale pakati pa mliri. Kuphatikiza apo tibwezereni kuwala otayika pakati pa nkhawa ndi nkhani zowawa, izi zitha kukhala zathu gwero lachangu la chiyembekezo. Kunena kuti ndi Zotsatira za Lipstick, kafukufuku wopangidwa mu 2017 ku Harvard, malinga ndi, anthu omwe amapaka zodzoladzola amakhala ndi malingaliro abwinoko kulemekeza moyo ndi dziko lowazungulira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake, deta ili m'manja, nthawi yamavuto milomo yofiira ndi imodzi mwazogulitsa kwambirindi? Mwachidule, zodzikongoletsera zakale zimakhala ngati ogwirizana kupeza kachiwiri kudzidalira ndipo, chifukwa chake, kuthekera kwakutsogolo.
