M'nyimbo zokongola kwambiri ndi zochitika za milungu filimu, chikondi chenicheni chimawoneka ngati a adiza, ndi kulota usana. Chilichonse ndichabwino:kumvetsa Pakati pa awiriwa sizingakhale bwino, ubale wawo nthawi zonse umakhala wosakhazikika komanso wamtendere ndipo owazungulira amakhala akugwirabe ntchito mkhalidwe wosangalala ndipo nthawi yomweyo zachikondi. Mu moyo weniweniwo, izi zimagwirizana ndi chilichonse mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ndi zizolowezi. Mwachidule, banja lililonse limadziwana, posakhalitsa, zenizeni. Izi sizitanthauza kuti chikondi chenicheni kulibe, m'malo mwake. Zimangotanthauza kuti chikondi chenicheni sichimangoyenda mokwanira ndipo, mwina, ndi chomwe chimapangitsa chosamveka. Ngakhale ubale uliwonse ndi wosiyana ndi ena, ndizotheka kuzindikira mndandanda wa "zizindikiro"Izi zimapangitsa kuti timvetsetse ngati nkhani yomwe tikukhalayi ndi ya"kwanthawizonse".
1. Chikondi chopanda kusiyanitsa
Mukamudziwa munthu amene mumakopeka naye, mumatha kudzionetsera gawo labwino kwambiri la iyemwini. Makhalidwe, mawonekedwe ofanana, ntchito zomwe agawidwa: Kuti mugonjetse zomwe tingakhale mnzanu wamtsogolo timayesetsa kuchita gwirizanitsani umunthu wathu chabwino, motero ndikupanga yoyamba kukonza koyamba. Komabe, chikondi chenicheni chimapangidwanso kutsika pansi ndi zizolowezi zotsutsana ndipo ichi ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zomwe zimatipangitsa kuzindikira.
Kusakondera kukonda munthu kumatanthauza kondani ngakhale zolakwa zake ndi gawo la zochita zake za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe sitimagawana. Onse amamukonda monga iye alili osafuna kuzisintha: kusiyana kumapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wamoyo, wowona komanso wathunthu. Lingalirani winawake samasewera kuti atipindulitse chifukwa, posachedwa, maso athu adzatsegulira umunthu wake weniweni kukhumudwitsidwa mosalephera.
2. Pali zokambirana, koma m'njira yomangirira
Otsatira makanema achikondi amadziwa izi: zokambirana pakati pa ochita protagonists nthawi zambiri zimachitika awiriwa asanakhale pamodzi. Mukazindikira kulimba mtima kwa mnzake zovuta zonse zimawoneka ngati zikutha kupatsa moyo "mosangalala nthawi zonse" osakayikira. Tsoka ilo kapena mwamwayi, zenizeni ndizosiyana. Zovuta zomwe zimakumana tsiku ndi tsiku zimatha kukhala zovuta kwa okwatirana ndipo zimatha kuchitika mikangano yoopsa ndi mikangano, omwe samakondana kwambiri.
Zonsezi sizimangokhala zachilendo, koma, nthawi zambiri, ndikofunikira. Zokambirana zitha kuthandiza ubale a kukula, kukhwima ndi kulimbitsa mopitirira. Chofunika ndikuti ndi zomanga, yomwe ndi njira yoti awiriwo adziwane bwino kwambiri popanda kupweteketsa mnzake mopambanitsa m'malingaliro awo. Komanso, chizindikiro china cha chikondi chenicheni chimapezeka pomwe, ngakhale nkhan ndi kukhumudwa, Simungakhale okwiya ndi mnzanu kwa nthawi yayitali.
3. Nthawi zonse khalani othandizana
Nthawi yosangalala komanso yosasamala kwambiri titha kunena kuti "ndizosavuta" kukhala ndiubwenzi, chifukwa zimatipatsa chisangalalo komanso kupepuka kwamaganizidwe. Komabe, chikondi chenicheni chimawoneka ngati onse awiri ali ofunitsitsa kutero kukhala okonzeka kuthandizana munyengo zovuta kwambiri komanso yotopetsa m'maganizo. Kuchokera pamavuto azaumoyo kupita ku zovuta kuntchito: kaya kukhala pafupi ndi mnzanu nthawi yofananayo si katundu, koma, zowonadi, china chake chomwe mumachita mwakufuna kwanu, ndiye kuti mukudziwa kuti muli ndi chidwi chenicheni kwa iye.
Mosiyana ndi izi, ngati mukumana ndi zovuta komanso zanu imakuthandizani ndipo ili pafupi kwambiri ndi inu komanso kupitirira, dziwani kuti muli ndi munthu pambali panu mwachikondi kwenikweni, ofunitsitsa kumenya nkhondo zanu. Chinsinsi cha chikondi chenicheni ndi ichi: kupanga timu ndi khalani nawo limodzi mokhudzana ndi zovuta zilizonse zomwe moyo umakupatsani.
4. Chimwemwe chanu ndi chake
Kaduka ndikumverera komwe okonda sadziwa. Monga tanenera kale, mukamakhala ndi chikondi chenicheni, awiriwa amapanga gulu. Izi zikutanthauzanso kuti chisangalalo cha m'modzi ndichisangalalo cha winayo komanso mosemphanitsa. Cholinga chilichonse chofunikira chomwe mnzanu akuchita ndichachimwemwe osati cha iye yekha komanso cha inu ndipo izi zimachitikanso kwa inu. Panthawi yachikondi mwina simunazindikire izi zabwino zake zakhalanso zako ndipo umu ndi momwe ziyenera kukhalira: njira yachilengedwe komanso yopanda dyera. Ubalewu, komabe, suyenera konse wosasamala chifukwa ngati sichoncho mumakhala pachiwopsezo zidzatheratu kwa mnzake chifukwa cha chisangalalo chake.
5. Khalani okonzeka kulolera
Si nkhani yachikondi yoona ngati chilakolako chikusowa, monganso momwe zilili ngati chikusoweka kudzipereka. Ubale wozama komanso wathunthu umafuna chisamaliro ndi kudzipereka kuthana ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana, mikangano ndi kusamvana. Kuphatikiza apo, ngakhale nthawi zonse pamakhala mgwirizano wabwino pakati pa okondana awiri, pakhoza kukhala ena kusiyana kwakukulu pamakhalidwe komanso zizolowezi zosiyanasiyana zothana ndi e phunzirani kulemekeza. Pachifukwa ichi, chikondi chenicheni chitha kunenedwa ngati onse awiri ali ofunitsitsa kutero kukumana theka njira, Kupatula zina mwasungidwe awo kuti athandize banjali.
Mwachitsanzo, kodi mumadzimva kuti ndinu wokonzeka kuchedwetsa vuto lake kapena m'mawa wake ngakhale kumapeto kwa sabata? Kapena, zindikirani mnzanu nthawi zambiri amatseka diso limodzi chizolowezi chanu chokongola kapena zizolowezi zina zomwe simunkawoneka ngati poyamba? Kukhala wofunitsitsa kutero tengani pang'ono kuchoka pa zomwe mumakhulupirira kukumana wina ndi mnzake ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi ndipo, koposa zonse, ndi chizindikiro china cha chikondi chenicheni.
6. Pereka, osafunsa
Wokondedwa yemwe amangopempha ndi kufunafuna china kuchokera kwa mnzake, koma yemwe samapereka kwa mnzakeyo sali mchikondi kwenikweni. Kupempha pempho kwa winawake sichizindikiro cha kuwona mtima komanso kuwona mtima, koma za mwayi. Ndani amene ali m'chikondi amakhala wokonzeka nthawi zonse perekani ndipo osapemphanso kalikonse kubweza. Chikondi, kwenikweni, sichofunikira komanso chowongolera, koma ndichofunikira ufulu ndi kukula kwamunthu. Izi zimapangitsa munthu wachikondi kuyesetsa nthawi zonse kuchita zabwino za mnzake kwathunthu osachita chidwi. Khalidweli, ngati lagwirizana, ndiye chizindikiro chodziwikiratu cha chikondi chenicheni, chopangidwa nsembe zomwe simukuzindikira komanso kugawana kwathunthu.
Mawu 10 okongola kwambiri onena za chikondi chenicheni
Kukhala kumverera kovuta koma kosangalatsa, olemba ambiri alankhulapo za chikondi ndi mbali zake. Ambiri anali atangoganizira kwambiri mawu awo za chikondi chenicheni, akupanga ziganizo zomwe zimawafotokoza makamaka ndi mawonekedwe ofunikira kwambiri.
Chikondi chenicheni, chopanda malire komanso chamuyaya, chitha kudyedwa kwamuyaya.
Aldous Huxley
Chikondi chenicheni chimadziwika ndi manja ang'onoang'ono, mosamala, mosamala mosayembekezereka, mumtendere mumanena mawu oposa chikwi.
Stephen Littleword
Chikondi chenicheni ndi kulandira ena momwe alili osayesa kuwasintha.
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Izi ndi zomwe chikondi chenicheni chili: kulola munthu kukhala momwe alili. Anthu ambiri amakukondani chifukwa cha zomwe amadzinenera kuti ndinu.
Jim Morrison
Ngati mukuyembekezera mtundu wina wamalipiro, si chikondi: chikondi chenicheni ndiko kukonda popanda zikhalidwe komanso popanda ziyembekezo.
Amayi Teresa aku Calcutta
Chikondi chenicheni chimataya mtima kapena kumangokhalira kukondwa chifukwa cha gulovu yotayika kapena mpango womwe wapezeka, ndipo umafuna muyaya kuti uzipereke ndi chiyembekezo. Zimapangidwa ndi zonse zazikulu kwambiri komanso zazing'ono kwambiri.
Victor Hugo
Chikondi chenicheni sichikhala chakuthupi kapena chachikondi. Chikondi chenicheni ndikuvomereza zonse zomwe zakhala, zakhala, zidzakhala komanso sizidzakhala.
Khalil Gibran
Pali zokonda zomwe sizikakukhumudwitsani, chifukwa sanakulonjezeni chilichonse, koma adzakupatsani zonse.
Augustine Degas
Chikondi ndikumangirira chabe, osati kungokhala chabe; ndiko kupambana, osati kugonja ayi. Khalidwe lake logwira ntchito litha kufotokozedwa mwachidule mu lingaliro loti chikondi chimaposa zonse Kupatsa osati kulandira.
Erich kuchokera ku
Mukakonda, mumazindikira mwa inu nokha kulemera kotere, kukoma kotere, chikondi chotere, mwakuti simukhulupirira kuti mutha kukonda kwambiri.
Anton Chekhov
