Alfa wamwamuna ndiye bambo amene - kutchula zotsatsa zachikale - "Musayambe kufunsa". Lingaliro la alpha male (kapena "Alpha wamwamuna", kutengera momwe mumakonda kumasulira mawuwo kuchokera ku Chi Greek) zimachokera ku zamakhalidwe, ndiye kuti, kuchokera ku sayansi yomwe ikukhudzana ndi dziko lanyama. Mwa nyama, alpha wamwamuna ndiye mtundu wa mtundu winawake womwe umawonekera bwino m'gulu, kudziumiriza ena osati mokakamiza, koma pamakhalidwe (pankhani ya munthu titha kunena "Wokonda") zomwe zili zoyenera kwa iye.
Ngati munyama, alpha wamwamuna ndiye woyamba kukhala ndi ufulu sankhani chachikazi ndi kuberekana, mwamwayi pakati pathu anthu sizigwira ntchito chimodzimodzi! Komabe, ziyenera kuvomerezedwa kuti nkhaniyi, chifukwa cha ake chisangalalo chapadera ndipo pamene amadzidalira, samakhala ndi vuto logwetsa mkazi kumapazi ake. Palibe akazi ochepa, makamaka, omwe amasangalatsidwa ndi munthuyu Nthawi zonse amakhala wolunjika kwambiri, yemwe amadziwa zinthu zake, amatipatsa chisangalalo chachikulu, koma ndiye - samalani - osakhala aukali.
Alfa wamwamuna ali un mtsogoleri wobadwa, nthawi zonse amatenga maudindo olamulira pagulu lililonse la anthu chifukwa chidzakhala chisangalalo chake chomwe chitsogolere ena lipatseni mphamvu. Sachita chidwi ndi zosangalatsa, samanyengerera: amadziwa kuti, pamapeto pake, adzatha kupeza chithumwa chake ndendende zomwe akufuna.
Alfa wamwamuna siwonyenga: matanthauzidwe awiriwa ayenera kusiyanitsidwa bwino. Wolemba zamatsenga amadzikonda yekha ndipo sangathe kukonda munthu wina pomwe alpha man Amadzidalira, komanso wowona mtima momwe akumvera. Umunthu wake ndi wamwamuna wamkulu, koma osachita zowona komanso zopanda kukayikira. Ndizovuta kuti tisasangalatse ndi iwo… Tiyeni tiwone bwinobwino zomwe ali makhalidwe ake, momwe mungasiyanitsire ndi beta beta ndi momwe mungagonjetsere!
Kodi mawonekedwe a alpha male ndi otani?
Kodi kuzindikira alpha wamwamuna? Pali ena mikhalidwe yosiyanitsa zomwe zimatilola kuti tizizindikire ndi chidaliro china. Choyamba, monga akuyembekezeredwa, mwamunayo ali nawo kudzidalira kwakukulu: amadziwa yemwe iye ali, zomwe akufuna, ndipo samawopa kuweruzidwa kwa ena. Izi zimabweretsa azimayi makamaka okopa...
Kudzidalira kumamupangitsa osataya mtima mosavuta ndipo nthawi zonse amawonetsa kulimba mtima komanso kudekha mtima kwambiri pokumana ndi zosayembekezereka komanso zovuta zamoyo. Alfa wamwamuna weniweni ndi womenya nkhondo, yemwe sataya mtima akakumana ndi zopinga, wokonzeka kuchita ziwonetsero kulimba mtima, kulimba mtima komanso kutsimikiza mtima.
Kukwerakapena mzimu wa mtsogoleri ndi wachibadwa: alpha wamwamuna ndiye munthu wakale yemwe, pamikhalidwe iliyonse, ngakhale pakati pa alendo, pakanthawi kochepa amakhala likulu la chidwi, amene aliyense angafune kukhala okondedwa kapena abwenzi ake. Izi zimawapangitsa kukhala wotchuka kwambiri komanso wopambana, m'mbali zonse za moyo wawo.
Ngakhale patsogolo pantchito ndi amuna omwe satenga nthawi kuti akhazikitse ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zazikulu: mtima wofuna kutchuka umawonekera makamaka chifukwa chofika pamphamvu chimakhutitsa kukhala amuna olamulira mwachilengedwe. Komanso, amatsimikizira kukhala odziyimira pawokha, posafunikira wina aliyense, komanso izi pamalingaliro: ngati angasankhe kukhala ndi mkazi ndi chifukwa chakuti amamukonda, osati chifukwa chakuti amamufuna.
Ndi akazi zitha kukhala zosangalatsa, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nthabwala zotsogola, zomwe sizopusa. Komanso, nthawi zonse zimakhala zolimbikitsa ndipo amatha kupereka zambiri.
Chomaliza chomaliza chokhudza kukongoletsa: alpha weniweni wamwamuna samalirani kulimbitsa thupi, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zokongola kwambiri, monga zimachitikira munyama. Kukongola si kwachiwiri posiyanitsa wamwamuna wamkulu, ngakhale - mwachiwonekere - palibe miyezo yotanthauzira: alpha wamwamuna nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zambiri (kuyambira pakuwoneka mpaka kuvala) wokhoza kunyenga poyang'ana koyamba.
Alpha chilankhulo chamwamuna ndi thupi: momwe mungazindikirire kudzera pakulankhulana kopanda mawu
Komanso ichilankhulo chamthupi ingatithandizire kupeza alpha wamwamuna weniweni. Munthu wamtunduwu, choyambirira, samayang'anitsitsa: the kudzidalira zimamulola kuti asabwerere m'mbuyo pazokambirana kapena pakavuta.
Kawirikawiri yendani modekha, mayendedwe ake sawonetsa mwachangu, makamaka chifukwa sakusowa kutsimikizira chilichonse: amadziwa izi ena azimudikirira nthawi zonse. Ngakhale akamayankhula nthawi zambiri amakhala wodekha komanso womasuka. Kamvekedwe ka mawu nthawi zambiri zakuya, komanso zopumira.
Ngati muli pagulu, samalani: alpha wamwamuna amayamba kuzunguliridwa ndi ena ndipo azimayi nthawi zambiri amalumikizana naye, ngakhale atatero dzanja paphewa… Kulankhulana kopanda mawu sikuname! Onerani kanema wathu pa Zochenjera za 7 kuti mumvetsetse chilankhulo cha thupi anthu:
Bwanji ngati wamwamuna wa beta ali bwino?
Amuna samakonda kutanthauzidwa "Amuna a Beta": pa intaneti zosaka zawo zonse zimayang'ana "Momwe mungakhalire alpha wamwamuna", koma chowonadi ndichakuti alpha wamwamuna weniweni amabadwa, osapangidwa! Komabe, monga momwe akazi akhala kunyengedwa ndi amuna alpha, si ochepa omwe amayamba kumukonda - mwina atakhala pachibwenzi - wamwamuna wa beta.
Amuna a beta ndi omwe alpha wamwamuna aliyense angatanthauze "Munthu wapakhomo, mwamuna yemwe amayang'anitsitsa mkazi wake, yemwe amatsimikizira kuti ali naye mphamvu yachikazi kukhudzidwa ndi kukhala osadzikonda, koma wokhoza kumvetsera.
Zachidziwikire, wamwamuna wa beta amatuluka mosalephera ochepera wamwamuna wa alpha, koma - ndi chidwi chake komanso zolimba - amatha kufikira kuphwanya mtima wa mkazi yemwe, mwina, pakuwona koyamba, adachita chidwi kwambiri ndi alpha man.
Akazi ambiri, pambuyo pa zonse, kukonda manja achikondi, makhalidwe abwino, kupezeka nthawi zonse. Alfa ingawapangitse kudzimva kukhala osatetezeka chifukwa momwe mumawalemekezera, apitilizabe khalani likulu la chidwi kubweretsa nsanje zomwe zingachitike. Kuphatikiza apo, zikhala zovuta kuti zigwiritsidwe ntchito m'mawu odzaza ndi zachikondi kapena maubwenzi aatali: iye ndi amene sayenera kufunsa, amene sataya nthawi, akuloza nyamayo ndikupita!
Ngati muli ndi vuto, beta itha mverani madandaulo anu ngakhale kwa maola ambiri, kukuwonetsani kumvetsetsa, kukulimbikitsani, kukuuzani mawu oyenera, kukulolani kuti mumve kuyandikira kwake kenako konzani chakudya chamanja ndi manja ake kuti musangalatse. Iwalani zonsezi kuchokera kwa alpha man! Sangathe kukumverani ndikulira kwa mphindi zopitilira ziwiri molunjika. Komano, komabe, ngati angathe kutero china chothandiza kwambiri komanso chanzeru kuti muthetse vuto lanu, dziwani kuti lidzakuthandizani!
Mwachidule, timazindikira izi ndizofalitsa ndipo, pambuyo pa zonse, pali beta yaying'ono ndi alpha pang'ono mwa amuna onse (komanso azimayi!), Koma lingalirani za ena njira zamaganizidwe zitha kutithandiza kumvetsetsa zomwe tikufuna kuchokera ku ubale wathu e zomwe zili zabwino kwa ife.
Momwe mungapambanire?
Ngati mukufuna kugonjetsa wamwamuna wamphamvu (mukutsimikiza zomwe mukuchita, sichoncho?), zinthu zina ziyenera kuchitidwa "Masewera amisala" ndi iye. Kumbukirani kuti amakonda kupambana, chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti athe kumunyengerera iye osazindikira: ayenera kukhala ndi lingaliro loti adachita zonse payekha, umuna wake wolanda uli pachiwopsezo!
Kotero lolani izo amulole kutsogolera masewerawo, pachiyambi pomwe. Munjira iyi yophunzirira yang'anani pa zinthu ziwiri: kodi alidi alpha wamwamuna kapena ndi munthu chabe wamkulu komanso wankhanza? Chifukwa chachiwiri sibwino kupitiliza! Chachiwiri: mumamukondadi kapena zimakusangalatsani? Ndizowopsa zomwe ndizosavuta kutenga ndi mitu iyi ...
Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti ndi munthu woyenera kwa inu, zonse ndizokhudza pezani malire anu ngati banja, zomwe ndizovuta. Koma izi, pambuyo pa zonse, zimagwira kwa aliyense!
