Il zosangalatsa zakugonana, komanso kusefukira thupi lathu ndikumverera, kumabwera chifukwa chodziwa thupi lathu ndikukhutitsidwa ndi zosowa zathu.
Chisangalalo chomwe chikuwoneka chodziwikiratu ndipo chimakwaniritsidwa ndi aliyense, koma sichoncho; M'malo mwake, chisangalalo chomwe chimachokera pakugonana kapena kuchita zachiwerewere chimapangitsa anthu ena kukhala ndi mwayi weniweni: izi ndi zomwe zimachitika kutuloji.
Kodi alexithymia ndi chiyani?
Ndondomeko yachidule ya mbiriyakale kuti imvetsetse ndikusintha lingaliro lina. Teremuyo alireza linapangidwa ndi Peter Sifneos (1973) mu theka loyambirira la ma 70 kuwonetsa vuto lakumvetsetsa lomwe limakhudzana ndi zovuta zina pamoyo, kuzindikira ndikulankhula zakukhosi (kuchokera ku Greek alpha = kusapezeka, lexis = chilankhulo, muthoni = kutengeka, mwachitsanzo.
Nyumbayi idapangidwa kuyambira pakuwona kwa odwala omwe ali ndi "matenda" azamisala ndipo kwazaka zambiri amawonedwa ngati ofanana nawo chifukwa amalingaliridwa kuti amalumikizidwa makamaka ndi matenda amisala. Zina mwazinthu zamatenda a psychosomatic odwala, Sifneos anaphatikizira:
- zovuta zowonekera pofotokozera momwe akumvera komanso kuzizindikira;
- kuchepetsa zochitika zamaganizidwe zokhudzana ndi zongopeka;
- kuda nkhawa ndi konkriti ndi tsatanetsatane wazakunja ndi thupi lanu;
- kachitidwe koganiza kouma kozizira pazomwe zingakulepheretseni kupitilira pakulongosola (Taylor, 1977; 1984).
Alexithymia chifukwa chake amakhala ndi imodzi kusokonezeka kwa malingaliro zomwe zimakhudza munthu kulephera kapena kuvutika kuti azindikire ndikulankhula momwe akumvera komanso kuti agwirizane ndi ena.
Vutoli limakhudza kulumikizana komanso ubale ndi ena, ndikupanga chimodzi kudulidwa zomwe zimakhudza thupi, zotengeka komanso kukondana. Timalankhula zavuto lomwe munthu asanakhale wolakalaka amakhala wokhudzidwa komanso wamalingaliro. Mwa zina zosiyanasiyana za matendawa, ndikufuna kuganizira za kutsogolaku.
Anesthesia yam'maganizo komanso yothandiza yomwe imayambitsa zizindikilo zingapo zama psychosomatic, zomwe zimatsitsimutsa komanso zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale wogonana.
Anthu awa amawoneka opanda chidwi, osakondera komanso osachita chidwi ndi zogonana pomwe kwenikweni sangathe kuzindikira momwe akumvera pamthupi.
"Alexithymia ikuyimira kulumikizana pakati pa thupi ndi psyche komwe kumalepheretsa chidwi cha munthu ndikumupangitsa kuti munthuyo asakhale ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana".
Nkhani ya alexithymic, popeza samatha kumvetsetsa zokhumba zake ndikusangalala ndi momwe akumvera, sasangalala ndi kugonana chifukwa chake amakana kapena amawagwiritsa ntchito yosavuta.
Alexithymics anena kuti panthawi yogonana, m'malo moyang'ana kwambiri zomwe zidachitikirazo komanso zokumana nazo momwe zimakhalira, amakhala otayika ndikuganiza za chinthu china. Izi zimamulepheretsa munthuyo kuti afotokozere zomwe zachitikazo chifukwa chake zimalepheretsa kupeza chisangalalo kuchokera pachokhumba chogonana chomwecho. Ngati chilimbikitso chogonana sichimawonedwa kapena kuzindikirika ngati chosangalatsa, icho safunidwa.
Chilichonse chofuna kudzilamulira nokha chimazunzidwa kuyambira pamenepo chiyembekezo cha chisangalalo kulibe ndipo chilichonse chimatsalira pantchito. Izi, limodzi ndi zithunzi zosawoneka bwino, zimalepheretsa kugonana, potero zimalimbikitsa kukhazikitsidwa kwa zovuta zingapo zakugonana monga Kutulutsa msanga msanga e yachedwa, Kulephera kwa erectile, kukhumba chisokonezo, anorgasmia.
Kodi zonsezi zimawakhudza bwanji banjali?
Vutoli limakhala ndi zotsatirapo zamphamvu kwa banjali kotero kuti mutu wa alexithymic umafika kuchipatala osati mwa kusankha kwake, koma chifukwa amakokedwa ndi mnzake wokwiya chifukwa chosatheka kusinthana kwamalingaliro komanso kusowa kogawana. Kukana mwakachetechete komanso kosalimbikitsa komwe kumapangitsa chidwi cha mnzanu kusowa mphamvu, kukhumudwa e nkhan: kuchokera apa kumachokera kutali ndi gawo lachiwerewere la mwamuna / mkazi kapena wogonana komanso m'malo mwake a Care Giver, yemwe alexithmic imamudalira kwambiri, amapanga njira yake. M'nkhani zamtsogolo ndidzakambirana mbali zina za mikhalidwe yochititsa chidwi komanso yodabwitsa kwambiri.
