Akwai abokantaka tsoro, wanda ke taimaka mana muyi aiki mafi kyau, kuma ɗaya abokan gaba, wanda ke shanye mu kuma yana sa mu yanke shawara mara kyau.
Mayar da ita daga makiyi zuwa aboki ba wasan yara bane kuma labarin kan layi bazai zama sihirin da kuke nema ba, amma ina so in raba muku wasu tunani masu amfani.
Kun shirya? Titin.
1. Layin tsoro
Motsa jiki ya kunshi ja layi kuma sanya Zero a gefe ɗaya kuma 100 a ɗaya gefen.
Mai girma. Karkashin taken 100 rubuta mafi girman tsoronku. Idan hakan ta faru da gaske zai zama mummunan bala'i. Misali: asarar duk danginmu da kuma aikina a lokaci guda. Wannan zai zama babbar masifa gare ni.
Yanzu tunani game da abin da ke damun ku kuma sanya shi a cikin wannan sikelin adadi.
Wato, game da tsoronku 100, yaya kuke matsayin abin da yake azabtar da ku? Misali wannan kwastoman baya biyanka? Ko kuma cewa kun yi faɗa da matarka kuma kuna buƙatar neman hanyar da za ku dawo da dangantakar? Ko kuma cewa ba ku fahimci yadda ake amfani da software na e -vovoising ba kuma sabis na abokin ciniki yana sa ku jira kwanaki don ba ku amsar da kuke nema?
A ƙa'ida, wannan aikin yana taimaka mana don ba da nauyin da ya dace ga abin da ke damun mu. Ba game da kulawa don rage raunin ku ko motsin zuciyar ku ba, amma game da duban sa a cikin wani hoto mai cikakken bayani. Wato, yana aiki don sake sake shi, sanya shi a wurin da ya dace, don samun natsuwa mafi girma don haka don samun damar narkar da hannayenmu don magance wannan matsalar.
2. Lissafa tasirin matsalar
Wani motsa jiki mai ban sha'awa shine na lissafa tasirin halin da ake ciki wannan yana damunka.
Ina ba da shawarar wasan na 5, ko ka tambayi kanka: har yaushe wannan abin zai dame ni? Tsawon kwanaki 5? Tsawon wata 5? Ko na tsawon shekaru 5? Ko mafi kyau duk da haka, wane tasiri wannan abu zai yi a kaina da rayuwata cikin kwanaki 5? Kuma a cikin watanni 5? Kuma a cikin shekaru 5?
Dalilin wannan darasin shine - anan ma - don fassara abubuwan da ke faruwa da ku a yau akan layin gaba. Ka tuna cewa muna yawan wuce gona da iri kan tasirin wasu damuwa, kuma sanya su a kan lokaci zai taimaka mana mu zama masu manufa ta musamman game da yadda za mu damu da halin da ake ciki kuma mu fahimci idan matsalar gaskiya ce ko a'a.
3-80
Hanya ta uku ita ce ta magance halin da kuka saba bi ta yadda kuke sanya hankalinku 100, kuna yada 80 a kan lalata da tunani game da matsalar, kuma 20 kan hanyoyin da za a iya magance su.
Rarraba mafi kyau shine akasin haka: 20% don fuskantar matsalar, wanda bai kamata a hana shi ba amma ya fuskanta kuma ya karba, amma80% dole a maimakon haka a tsara shi zuwa juya shafi, zuwa warware matsalar, don neman ƙwarewar da a bayyane ba lallai bane mu dace da ita, don fahimtar abin da ke faruwa da mu sabili da haka ƙara iliminmu. Ergo: karatu, karanta, yin tunani, tattauna, gwaji.
'Yan uwa, kulawa ya fi damuwa.
Bari muyi kokarin raba damuwar zuwa kananan matakai, bari mu maida hankali mataki daya lokaci zuwa lokaci kan matsala ta gaba da za'a warware kuma - da wadannan darussan guda 3 da na misalta - a bashi nauyin daya dace da shi.
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Idan kuna son fara hanyar kulawa ta kanku, tuntuɓi cibiyar ilimin halayyar ɗan adam ta Luca Mazzucchelli, don tuntuɓar kai tsaye ko ta hanyar Skype: https://www.psicologo-milano.it/contatta-psicologo/
L'articolo Yin aiki tare da tsoro: me yasa kulawa yafi amfani da damuwa da alama shine farkon a kan Masanin halayyar dan Adam.
