Kumbundira uye kutsvoda chikafu chemweya, kunyanya mumakore ekutanga ehupenyu. Kumbundikira kunonyaradza nekuseka, kumbundirwa zvinonyaradza nekutsvoda zvinozadza moyo hazvifanirwe kushaikwa muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva hwevana.
Kutsvoda hakusi kungoratidzira kwepasirese kwerudo, asi kunosimudzira hukama hwepfungwa. Zvisinei, vana sezvavanokura, zvinowanzoitika kuti vaende kure vamene, kunyanya apo chimbi-chimbi, kushushikana kana kuti usimbe hwemuitiro hunotora pfungwa dzevabereki. Saka zviri nyore kukanganwa kutsvoda kwegoodnight kana kungotsvoda nekuchimbidza.
Mashiripiti ekutsvoda mukukura kwemwana
Kutsvoda kunogona kuita sekunge kuri nyore kukanganwa kukosha kwayo kukuru uye mabhenefiti aunounza. Kutaura zvazviri, kutsvoda kune simba guru re "kuporesa". Vachiendesa kuchengeteka norudo, vanogona kunyaradza marwadzo okuwa uye kuchema kwevana. Vanoponesa upenyu kana zvinhu zvikashata uye kuvhiringidzika kana kusuruvara zvinooneka.
Kubatsira kwekutsvoda kwakabatana nekuchinja kwavanoita muuropi. Kutsvoda kwakaratidzwa kuburitsa cocktail yemakemikari, senge oxytocin, dopamine uye serotonin, iyo inomutsa nzvimbo dzekunakidzwa. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vanodzikisa cortisol mazinga uye kuderedza marwadzo uye kushushikana mupfungwa.
Chidakadaka chomuviri, chinoratidzirwa kupfurikidza nokumbundira nokutsvoda, kunobetserawo kukudzikama kwemirangariro yavaduku. Chidzidzo chakaitwa pa Brown University yakaratidza kuti vana vaigamuchira rudo rwakawanda kubva kuvabereki vavo muchimiro chokumbundira nokutsvoda vangangokura kuva vanhu vakuru vakagadzikana mupfungwa. Vakaratidzawo kufunganya kushoma, simba rakawanda, kunzwa kuva nechivimbo, uye vaiva netsitsi kune vamwe.
Simba rekumbundira uye kutsvoda harina kuganhurirwa kunharaunda yemanzwiro. Ongororo yakaitwa nevana nherera muRomania muma90 yakaratidza kuti vaya vainyanya kudiwa nevabereki vavo vokurera vakanga vakanganisa kukura kwomuviri nokukura mupfungwa. Naizvozvo, kuratidza rudo kwomuviri kunosimudzirawo kukura kwouduku.
Pasina panikiro, kutsvoda kwevabereki kunova nzvimbo yokudzikama, kunopa dziviriro inokosha uye chivimbo icho vana vanoda kuti vanare. Kupfurikidza nokutsvoda, vabereki vanoratidzira tsigiro yavo nokunzwisisa, vachisimbisa chisungo chemirangariro navana vavo, kuvayeuchidza kuti vachava parutivi rwavo apo vanochida zvikurusa.
Tsika yehusiku inobatsira: sei usingafaniri kupedza zuva usina kutsvoda vana vako?
Sevabereki, zvakakosha zvakanyanya kutsaurira nguva yekubatana mupfungwa kuvana vedu umo kutsvoda, kumbundirwa uye kugumbatira zvisingashaikwe, kunyanya tisati taenda kunorara. Kutsvoda, kunopiwa zvizere, inzira inoshamisa yekuratidza vana kuti tinovada zvakadini. Nokuda kweichi chikonzero havatongofaniri kushayikwa, kwete kunyange apo ivo vanokura uye kunzwa ikoko kwokuva vasingachadiwi kudikanwa sezvakamboita.
Kune vana, kurara nekurangarira kutsvoda, kubata kumeso uye "Ndinokuda" kubva kuna amai nababa kunobatsira zvakanyanya. Haisi chete inguva inofadza inovabatsira kuzorora, asi zviratidzo zverudo izvi zvinozoita kuti vanzwe vachidiwa, vachikosha, uye vachikosheswa.
Kutsvoda kweGoodnight, kutaura zvazviri, kune chirevo chakadzama chekufananidzira. Ndivo tsindidzo yehukama pakati pababa nemwanakomana. Ivowo chirevo chekutumwa nekuti vanosimbisa kuti kunyangwe takave nezuva rudzii, kutsvoda uku kunosimbisa kuzvipira kurudo rwedu nekutsigirana.
Goodnight kiss inoyeuchidza mwana wako kuti akakosha kwauri uye kuti rudo rwako haruna magumo. Vanotakurawo vimbiso yokuti mangwana richava zuva idzva rine matangiro matsva uye vimbiso yetariro yeramangwana.
Uyezve, iyo goodnight kiss haingobatsiri kuvana chete, asi simba rayo rinowedzera kuvabereki zvakare. Iyo nguva yekubatana uye rudo, yakararama muzita rekudzikama, kubatanidzwa uye kuziva, inovabatsira kuti vadzose mabhatiri avo uye vazvisunungure kubva mukushushikana kwezuva, vachitendeudzira maziso avo kune izvo zvinonyanya kukosha.
Iyo nguva yepedyo yerudo nekubatana ichadzokororwa gare gare muhupenyu. Vana vanozogara vakazvitakura mundangariro dzavo uye zvinokwanisika kuti vanozozvidzokorora zvakare nevana vavo, vachivhara denderedzwa rerudo. Muchidimbu, hapana nzira iri nani yevana nevabereki pane kukwazisa zuva nekutsvoda, kuenda kunorara nemoyo uzere nerudo mushure mekupedza nguva idzodzo dzemashiripiti pamucheto wemubhedha.
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Kupinda Pedzisa zuva nerudo, simba rekutsvoda kwakanaka kune vana yakatanga kubudiswa muna Kona yePsychology.
