Chisungo pakati paamai nevana ndechimwe chezvakasimba zvikuru zviripo. Nekudaro, nekufamba kwenguva, hukama uhwu hunopfuura nematanho akasiyana, saka kana husina kunyatsogadziridzwa uye kutungamirirwa, ine dhigirii yakanaka yekuchinjika inobvumira mabasa kuti avandudzwe, inogona kuburitsa imwe huwandu hwekupokana hunozopedzisira hwaunza kuremerwa kwemanzwiro.
Chinoita kuti tienzane chinotiparadzanisawo
Muna 2016, vaongorori kubva kuYunivhesiti yeCalifornia uye Stanford University vakawana kuti ukama hwaamai nomwanasikana hwaiva nounhu hwakasiyana hwakanga husingaratidziki muzvimwe zvisungo zvemhuri.
Chaizvo, vakaona kuti grey nyaya vhoriyamu yakanga yakafanana muvanaamai nevanasikana mune dzimwe nzvimbo dzine chekuita nemanzwiro, pamwe neiyo morphology ye "pfungwa dzepfungwa". Mukuita, i Mafambiro edu epfungwa akafanana neaamai vedu.
Asi kufanana ikoko hakusi vimbiso yekuyananisa uye kunyorova muhukama. Kana kuti kwete nguva dzose. Muchokwadi, kufanana uku kungave chikonzero nei hukama pakati paamai nevanasikana huri humwe hwakaoma, hwakaoma uye husina kusimba kubata. Hazvisi zvengozi kuti vanhu vakuru vakawanda vanokwanisa kugadzirisa kusawirirana nevamwe zvakasimba, asi vasina maturusi epfungwa ekugadzirisa kusawirirana naamai vavo.
Ukama huri pakati paamai nemwanasikana hunowanzovakirwa pakusanzwisisana; ndiko kuti, inosanganisa zvinopokana zvinodiwa uye manzwiro sezvo ichiratidzwa nehukuru hwepfungwa umo kubatana uye kubatanidzwa kunoratidzwa pamwe chete nekudiwa kwechinhambwe uye kuzvitonga. Somugumisiro, kusawirirana kunoguma kwava kwose kwose.
Projected content, basa revanasikana
Imwe yekiyi yekukonana muhukama pakati paamai nemwanasikana inonyatso muhufana hwepfungwa. Dzimwe nguva tinokandira mimvuri yedu kune vamwe. Kuburikidza neizvi mashandiro ekudzivirira tinopa kune mumwe munhu manzwiro, zvishuwo, mafungiro kana zvitendero zvatisingazive kuti ndezvedu, nokuti kuzvigamuchira kunoshandura chimiro chatinacho pachedu.
Kana tikaona izvi zviri mukati zvichifananidzirwa mumaitiro aamai vedu, semuenzaniso, isu tinozvibata. Kuita ikoko hakuna musoro, asi kunobva mukati-kati mekusaziva kwedu. Nekuda kweizvozvo, tinogona kunzwa kusagadzikana kana kutsamwa uye kumuzvidza nekuda kwemaitiro, pfungwa kana manzwiro ayo chaiwo ndeeduwo, asi isu hatidi kuzvigamuchira.
Muchiitiko ichi, vanaamai vedu vanogona kuita segirazi, vachitipa ratidziro yatisingadi kuzviziva. Izvi zvinoburitsa kuita kwakanyanya kwekuramba, kusiri kune mumwe munhu, asi kune zvepfungwa zvemukati zvatisingade.
Dzokorora ukama hwomucheche, mugove wavanaamai womutoro
Kuoma kwehukama hweamai-mwanasikana kunopfuura nzira dze fungidziro. Nguva zhinji nhaurirano, kupokana nekusawirirana kunomuka nekuti vanaamai vanoramba vachitevedzera nzira yeukama yavaimboita vana vavo vachiri vadiki.
Iyo yehukama modhi dzimwe nguva inoenda kuburikidza nekunyomba kana kuisirwa. Somugumisiro, vana vanopanduka, sezvavaiita vachiri kuyaruka. Chokwadi chekuti vanhu vakuru vane hupenyu hunobudirira vanokwanisa kuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka pakati pevanhu vanopedzisira vanzwa kuti vanaamai vavo vanovashatirisa imhaka yekuti vakadzokera kumashure kune imwe nhanho yekushanduka-shanduka.
Maitiro ekurera amai anogona kuita seanokonzeresa manzwiro anotiendesa kumatanho ekutanga mukukura kwedu, pazera apo isu tingave tisina kunge takashinga uye tine chivimbo sezvatiri ikozvino nekuti isu takanga tisina hunyanzvi hwekutaurirana uye kugadzirisa kusawirirana. Iko kudzoreredza chaiko kunotungamirira kuhurukuro dzakadzokororwa, muchiuno, pamisoro yakasiyana, asi kudzokorora maitiro akafanana nemhinduro dzakafanana kubva kare.
Kunetsana kusingagadziriswe, mutoro kune ese ari maviri
Muzviitiko zvakawanda nharo nekusawirirana muukama pakati paamai nevanasikana hazvibvi pazvino asi kubva kare, kubva. kunetsana kwakapfuura. Kana mamwe matambudziko asati agadziriswa munhoroondo yekumanikidza, vanokweva uye kukonzeresa nguva nenguva, nguva imwe neimwe mamiriro ezvinhu anodzokororwa.
Somuenzaniso, mumamiriro ezvinhu apo mwanasikana akamanikidzwa kuva mubereki kana kuti akawana kuregeredzwa kwemirangariro muuduku, “zvirevo” zvinotangwa. Neimwe nzira munhu anotanga kudzorera izvo asina kugamuchira semwanasikana kuburikidza nekuzvidzwa.
Saizvozvowo, kana amai vakafanira kusiya zviroto zvavo kuti vatarisane nekurera mwana, zvinenge zvakaenzana kuti achada kutarisirwa uye kutarisirwa mune ramangwana. Amai ivavo vanogona kuramba vachibudisa kushungurudzika kwavo pavana vavo vakura. Anogona kunge aine tarisiro huru ye“chibayiro” chake uye kana vana vake vakasasangana nazvo, anganzwa aodzwa mwoyo ndokuramba achimupikisa.
Gadzira hukama hutsva hwaamai-mwanasikana
Hukama huri pakati paamai nemwanasikana haufanirwe kumira, asi hunofanirwa kuvandudzwa kuti huenderane nematanho akasiyana ehupenyu uye nekushanduka kwezvinodiwa zveumwe neumwe. Zvakakosha kufungisisa nezvechisungo ichocho uye kunzwisisa kuti chinotapura sei upenyu hwedu.
Kutarisana nechokwadi chehukama kunogona kuva kwakaoma, asi kwete zvishoma. Chisungo chingasava chese icho amai kana mwanasikana anga achitarisira kana kuti kurota, saka kugadzirisa zvinotarisirwa kunokosha.
Pashure pezvose, kurwisana kunowanzoitika kana mumwe kana mumwe wacho akasaita zvinotarisirwa kwaari. Muchiitiko ichi, zvakanakisisa kuswedera kuukama sezvatingaita chero humwe hutano hwevakuru, izvo zvinoreva kunyanya kubvuma "miganhu" yemumwe munhu kana maitiro ake. Ndezvekugamuchira imwe sezvavari, tisingatarisiri kuti ive yakakwana kana kukwana muenzaniso wedu. Izvi zvinotiponesa kubva pakutora zvinhu pachedu uye zvinogona kuvandudza zvakanyanya hukama.
Ehezve, zvakakoshawo kuti munhu wese abate ne "zvavo zvepfungwa zvisina maturo." Christiane Northrup akataura izvozvo "Nhaka yaamai yakanaka kuporeswa semukadzi." Asi akanyorerawo vanasikana vake kuti zvinokosha "zvisunungure kubva panhaka inorema yechikadzi yekupindwa muropa yakapihwa kubva kuna amai kuenda kumwanasikana".
Tose tinofanira kugamuchira zvatakagamuchira kubva kuvabereki vedu: zvakanaka nezvakaipa, zvinotapira nezvinovava. Panguva imwe cheteyo, vabereki vanofanira kubvuma musiyano uri pakati peizvo vana vavo vari nezvavanoda kuti vave. Kurambwa, kurwa, kana kuda kuti zvinhu zvisiyane kunoita kuti tipere simba asi kugamuchirwa kuchitiporesa.
Idanho rinosunungura rinotivhura kuupenyu uye, kure nekuipa chisungo, chinosimbisa. Iye zvino kubva muchimiro chekukura, chinoshanduka uye chekuyananisa apo munhu wese ane nzvimbo yekutsanangura patsva mabasa avo nezvaanotarisira, achinzwa kurerukirwa muukama uhwu hunoshamisa pakati pevabereki nevana.
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Kupinda Amai-mwanasikana ukama, kudanana uye kutsamwa nguva dzose yakatanga kubudiswa muna Kona yePsychology.
